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Unfulfilled Longings and Unanswered Prayers with Morgan Olliges Oct 25, 2021

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Ep. 051 - We all have desires that go unfulfilled. We all have prayers that feel unanswered. We all have circumstances that we wish we could change. None of us can escape this reality of life. Kristen Clark and Morgan Olliges are no strangers to this conversation. They both open up the most raw areas of their lives with us today. Both of these women have wrestled with a deep longing for biological children. Neither have had that desire fulfilled yet.
How do they deal with that disappointment? How do they avoid bitterness toward God? How do they remain hopeful in the midst of that emptiness?
In today's episode, your heart will find strength and encouragement from these two stories. You will leave with a renewed hope in God and trust in His good character.
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Freedom from Porn & Sexual Struggles for Women with Joy Skarka Oct 18, 2021

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Sexual struggles are often portrayed as a "guy only" issue. This is a major disservice to women. God created both men and women as sexual beings. One is not more sexual than the other. Both struggle with sexual temptation and addiction. Both need the help and hope of the gospel. In today's conversation, Joy Skarka shares her story of date rape in college and how the pain from that experience led her into sexual struggles of her own.
Her story is one of healing, freedom and victory. If you desire hope for your own sexuality, this episode is for you.
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When Dreams Don’t Come True (Chapter One) Oct 12, 2021

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We hope you enjoy the first chapter of our brand new book, Not Part of the
Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story.
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Finding Joy in the Midst of Disappointment Oct 11, 2021

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Ep. 049 - The question we should be asking isn’t “Will I experience disappointment?” but rather “How can I still find joy in the midst of my disappointment when it strikes?”
Over the past few years, God has been teaching Kristen and Bethany a lot about finding joy in the midst of their own disappointments. As they’ve walked through hardships, like infertility, miscarriage, singleness, an unworn wedding dress, the death of their baby brother, the deaths of grandparents, the sudden passing of a good friend, a sports injury that put them on the basketball bench in high school for months at a time, the unexpected loss of a pet, chronic illness and a broken friendship, God has shown them that it’s possible to have joy despite their circumstances.

They've come to understand that true joy and real suffering can coexist. If you desire true joy in the midst of your own disappointments, this episode will offer you that hope.
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Not Part of the Plan (Pre-order FREEBIES!) Oct 07, 2021

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We have some gifts for you!! We’ve been working hard behind the scenes with our amazing publisher to bring you some fabulous gifts as our way of saying thank you for pre-ordering our new book, Not Part of the Plan.

You may not realize this, but pre-orders of any book tremendously help it get into more stores (in-person and online). Retailers will decide whether or not to carry a certain book based on how well it does during pre-orders.

So, if you’re considering grabbing a copy of our new book, you’d be doing us a huge favor by ordering it before October 12, 2021! We want this book to get into the hands of as many women as possible, and you can help us make that happen.

Our pre-order gifts include:

• Trust Verse Card Set

• Audiobook Version

• E-book of Girl Defined

• Ticket to our Launch Day Party

To get these bonuses, simply pre-order our book from ANY online retailer…then go to our website here (www.GirlDefined.com/Trust) and enter your info under the “Claim Bonuses” button.

Then, we’ll send you these digital goodies on October 12th. Thanks so much for helping us spread the word!!!
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Same Sex Attraction with Ellen Dykas Oct 04, 2021

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Same sex attraction is a topic we've been wanting to cover for a long time. Many of you have DM'd us asking us to bring biblical truth and gospel centered hope to this conversation. We know this can be a very sensitive topic... that's why we've waited this long to bring the right person onto the show. Ellen Dykas has spent years loving and ministering to women who are wrestling with this struggle.
If you desire hope and freedom with your own same sex attraction, this episode is for you. Ellen Dykas spends the last portion of this episode answering your direct questions. We pray this episode points you to Christ and shows you the hope that is found in Him.
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When Your Dreams of Getting Married Come Crashing Down Sep 27, 2021

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Ep. 047 - Imagine purchasing the wedding dress of your dreams only to have it collect dust in the back of your closet for a decade. That's the story Bethany is sharing on today's episode. She saw her dream wedding dress when she was in her early twenties. She thought marriage would become her reality in the next two to three years and so she decided to snag the dress. Little did she know that her journey of singleness would last much longer than she ever hoped or dreamed it would.
In today's episode, you will be challenged to consider what that "wedding dress" is for you. What dream has gone unfulfilled? What hope has been dashed? If you desire to find satisfaction in the midst of your unfulfilled longing, episode 047 is for you.
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Life After Our Adoption - How We’re Doing Now Sep 20, 2021

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Ep. 046 - It’s been five whole months since Zack and Kristen brought their two precious boys home from Ukraine. Life has been full, exciting, wonderful, and challenging for them - all at the same time. Many of you have been asking questions like, “How are they doing? What are their biggest joys and challenges? How are the boys adjusting?”
In this episode, Kristen opens up and shares her heart on how the adoption transition is going and what the past five months have looked like.

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Our Best Advice for Surviving a Breakup Sep 13, 2021

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Ep. 045 - Nobody goes into a relationship hoping for heartbreak. The dream is that the relationship will draw you closer to each other and eventually end with a happily ever after fairy tale ending. Sadly, the fairy tale ending doesn't seem to always work out. Many of us are faced with the reality that the relationship isn't at all what we'd hoped it would be. For one reason or another the relationship ends. Hearts are broken. Friendships are severed. Sadness follows.
If you're going through a breakup, or know someone who is, this episode is for you. In today's podcast, Kristen and Bethany open up about their own past breaups and share what helped them to survive those terrible moments. If you need hope and encouragement, you will find it here.
Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story
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Can I Be Satisfied if I Never Have Sex? Sep 06, 2021

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Ep. 044 - God intentionally created each one of us to be sexual beings. From the beginning of time He made us with sexual desires. Sexual longings. Sexual yearnings. He designed us this way on purpose and for a purpose. He’s not a killjoy in the sky wanting to squash our sexual feelings. He’s a loving Creator who wants to help us steer our affections and desires in the right direction—all for His glory. Out of love, He’s given us beautiful parameters for how to embrace our sexuality in the right ways. He created our sexual design to teach us spiritual truths about Himself.
He created us with an ache for intimacy to draw us into an authentic relationship with Himself. He created us to be relational because He is relational. He created us to be ultimately and completely satisfied in Him.
Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story
Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart
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