The Flexible Neurotic

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Midlife Sh*t…Spouses, Retainers & Rogaine Dec 07, 2023

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EP 99: Do you know how important female friendship is? Do you have someone to talk about midlife retainers and Rogaine? Ready to laugh and find comfort in the TMI of it all? Want to hear a candid conversation where two female friends and podcasters are more vulnerable than our husbands would appreciate? Then this episode is definitely for you!

Please note this was recorded prior to the Hamas Massacre in Israel. Being two Jewish women, we would have talked about Israel and the fight against Jewish anti semitism, fear and terror. And, of course the light Jews are creating in spite of all of this.

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in a new episode that I pulled from my first ever IG live that I hosted with non-other than Cathy Heller, a top ranking podcast host, business & spiritual coach, and bestselling author.

I decided to make this a mini-sode for everyone who missed it because it was just THAT good. I got so many messages talking about how relatable and fun this LIVE was for everyone. It is light hearted and will leave you laughing non-stop, with us. We talked about our husbands and their quirkiness, as if we don't have our own, what it's like to have daughters and what we aren't ready for yet. We also chat about why we need a good girlfriend or two in our lives.

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Your Midlife Personal Rebrand Nov 30, 2023

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EP 98: Midlife hotties, are you ready to find your voice and define (or re-define) your personal brand, goals, and interests? Looking for inspiration on how to break free from midlife social comparison and start that project you've been dreaming of? If you are ready to start your midlife reinvention and create your personal brand, then this episode is for you!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in an honest conversation called "Your Midlife Personal Rebrand". My guest Aliza Licht went from being the creator and voice of "DKNY PR Girl" on Twitter, a marketing and branding expert and now an author and podcaster. She's the host of the Leave Your Mark podcast and the author of LEAVE YOUR MARK: Land Your Dream Job. Kill It In Your Career. Rock Social Media. and ON BRAND: Shape Your Narrative. Share Your Vision. Shift Their Perception. We discuss the importance of your personal brand (even if you don't have a "job" or a business), finding your voice, standing up for your message and limiting the effects of social comparison.

Mentions:

Eve Rodsky: Find Your Unicorn Space
Being A Jewish Activist Wasn't On Brand For Me
Ross Martin: @rossmartin
Dorie Clark: @dorieclark

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Love Outweighs Hate - The Secret Sauce Nov 09, 2023

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EP 97: Since October 7th, when Hamas invaded Israel and murdered, raped and tortured 1,400 Israelis and took 200 hostages who have been in Gaza for over a month, we have been in shock, angry, tearful and dismayed (well, most of us). If you are Jewish or not, most of us are sitting at home wondering how this is really happening. The world feels like it is falling down. Some of us want to speak up, but fear for our lives. Others of us have been "standing up" in spite of fear.

If you want to hear a candid conversation between two women and moms (one Jew and one non Jew) about the intricacies of "standing up" for what we think is right…if you want to hear how love can outweigh fear and hate & how in fact in can be the secret sauce…if you want to hear "mom to mom" personal truths, actions and fears regarding huge issues related to being a human during this crazy time in the world, then this is the episode for you!

We are just "moms and humans". We are talking about what we see as facts (what is happening) and our feelings regarding those facts. We are not political, land, Israel or Palestine experts…and we don't claim to be…

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in an honest conversation called "Love Outweighs Hate - The Secret Sauce". My guest Caroline D'Amore is a multi hyphen talent, actress, DJ and entrepreneur. She's the founder and CEO of Pizza Girl, the organic no sugar tomato sauce that is taking the world by storm. It's now in 2,000 stores. Today she joins us as a mother and a "stander-upper" for the Jewish people and Israel. And guess what? She's not even Jewish. She's used her social media platform to raise awareness and support for Israel and the Jews by posting about her personal dismay and devastation over the Hamas massacre in Israel, on October 7th. In this episode, we are speaking as mothers and activists for the Jewish community in the fight against Hamas and the rise of anti-semitism around the world.

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The Kids are Leaving / Left The House… Now What? Nov 02, 2023

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EP 96: Are you realizing that your role as a mother is changing? Are you going from "manager mom" to "consultant mom"? Feel like you have extra time on your hands now that your kids are older and/or moving out of the "nest"? You aren't sure what to do with it (bored and wanting ideas for a midlife refresh)? Want to hear how other woman in the same situation are feeling in this situation? Ready to scratch the midlife "itchies" that are coming up from kids heading to college, getting jobs and/or moving out of the house? Ready for your midlife to kick into full gear? I am! Then this episode is definitely for you!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in a new episode that I pulled from day 1 of my free workshop "It's Time To Talk Midlife". I shared "day 3" with you already and I couldn't let you miss out on day 1 because it was just that good. I kept getting amazing feedback and a billion messages, so I decided to make each day a separate episode. The first day was all about becoming an empty nester, or even ½ empty nester like me. The kids are leaving/ left the house… My role as a mother is changing… now what?! I'm here to remind you that you are not alone in this. After this episode you will walk away with, "Oh shit, I never thought of that" moments, as well as 10 golden nuggets to leave you feeling positive and inspired as you conquer this time in your life.

If you haven't listened to "Day 3" yet, go back to episode 94 called "How To Say FCK to Fear In Midlife"!

Please note that this episode was recorded prior to the Hamas Massacre in Israel. Now we are sending love and light to the families of the mothers killed and to the moms who lost kids to horrific murders or kids who remain hostages in Israel. This is a different kind of empty nest. It's unimaginable and real.

Some Highlights:

Congratulations you raised a kid that can survive outside the home
Am I a "consultant mom" now? What does that even mean?
The college application process is so unpredictable
Reframing "empty nest"
Time to do all the things you've ever wanted to do. Nothing is off limits, even sex in the kitchen
Creating a space the kids want to come home to
Everyday is different, some days are we are in PJs until 3 PM
It's our midlife time to rewrite our stories

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Hormone Stew…Puberty & "Second Puberty"! Oct 12, 2023

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EP 95: OMG! Do just hearing the words hormones and puberty make you cringe? I know, me too! And my kids are 17 and 19. How about taking a midlife woman with her own raging hormones and mix it with her teens' hormones, that's called full hormone stew. Do you want to hear all the latest research nuggets on puberty mixed with real life stories from two puberty experts who also happen to be midlife moms too? Want to hear about the "new puberty" ? Why does puberty with our kids feel different from the puberty we remember? And, how has social media changed puberty and our parenting? Have you heard about the term "midlife "second puberty", perimenopause/menopause?

Do you ever feel like you said something to your teen that maybe you shouldn't have? Me too! These two teen and puberty experts tell us how to do a "parenting do over". We chat about empty nesting and keeping your connection with your kid while they are away at college. We don't have to be real stalkers. LOL! This episode is the perfect stew…cutting edge research nuggets on brain science & why it matters and real life stories and examples from the front lines of working with teens and parents.

This is a don't miss episode!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in an open and educational conversion called "Hormone Stew…Puberty & 'Second Puberty'!" My guests Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett are the co-authors of This Is So Awkward, Modern Puberty Explained and co-hosts of The Puberty Podcast. Cara is a pediatrician, Harvard graduate. She is also a New York Times bestselling author of The Care and Keeping of You series, Guy Stuff: The Body Book for Boys and Decoding Boys. My second guest, Vanessa is a Wellesley College graduate,the founder of Dynamo Girl, a company focused on building kids self-esteem through sports, puberty, education and parent workshops and the co host of The Puberty Podcast. We are getting into everything from supporting your teens through modern puberty to the science behind what is going on for them emotionally during this time of their lives

This is a chat that is expert and fun all at the same time, a deep dive & real conversation.

Some Highlights:

Old puberty vs. new puberty
Menopause is the "second puberty"
Sex hormones
Secrets to good communication with teenagers
Keeping kids safe by treating them their age

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How To Say FCK to Fear In Midlife Sep 28, 2023

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EP 94: Are you ready to say f*ck it to fear in midlife, once and for all? Ready to embrace being a beginner? Are you running the show or is your inner mean girl? Want to know real life midlife strategies to say f*ck to fear? Then this episode is for you!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in a new episode that I pulled from day 3 of my free workshop called "It's Time To Talk Midlife", which was live last week. This day was so good, I needed to share it as a podcast episode. It was all about f*ck fear, being scared and doing it anyway and how to really get into that mindset. I give you 5 special golden nuggets on how to overcome fear and embrace authenticity and action in midlife

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Bye-Bye Midlife Comfort Zone! Sep 21, 2023

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EP 93: Are you curious about how to start something new in midlife? Do you find yourself attempting to google the 17 steps to start that new midlife hobby or figure out what's next for you? Ready to accept that you have agency in your own life? Want to connect with other women who are ready to do the same? Need a little bit of help sorting through the mixed bag of solutions for midlife issues? What would it feel like to really say "bye-bye" to your comfort zone and embrace self-reinvention? Are you ready to say yes to yourself, your hobbies, and your passions? And, if you don't have any (my husband has 89 hobbies and I am like "ugh")...Then this episode is for you!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in a mini-sode called "Bye-Bye Midlife Comfort Zone!". I did my first ever Instagram live with Jessica Barac, from the IG Instagram account @whatthemenopause, that she has built into a place for women to feel seen, validated and celebrated in menopause and midlife. Jessica is a former athlete and registered nurse. We discussed everything from finding and re-inventing yourself in midlife to empty nesting, health, and of course my free workshop "Let's Talk Midlife".

By the time this episode comes out the workshop will be over, but don't worry because my online experience (some would call a course, "The Midlife Remix Table" is launching today! 8 weeks (two hours a week with me, on zoom). This is an intimate experience that is going to happen every single week with me and it's for women just like you and me seeking midlife connection and real evidenced based strategies on figuring out what's next for us.

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Food, Weight & Me In Midlife Sep 14, 2023

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EP 92: Are you a midlifer struggling to lose and/or maintain weight? The latest version of the "muffin top" is making you crazy. You are told to eat more protein, intermittent fast, move and you feel like you are doing many of the things and still "ugh". You want a cupcake for dinner after a cluster fck of a day, me too! What if someone taught you how to actually listen to your body and its feelings? Do you listen to what your body is really asking for? Did you know that if you can define a really authentic "why" when it comes to weight loss and healthy midlife lifestyle, you could make some big changes? Looking for 6 easy midlife rules to transform what you think about food, your body, feel better and shed a few pounds, this episode is for you!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken in an informative conversation called "Food, Weight & Me In Midlife". I am joined by nutritional therapist, registered dietitian and "fellow midlifer", Kim Shapira. She has a masters in human metabolism and clinical nutrition and she has spent the last 25 years in the "food and weight trenches" with women like you and me. She knows what works and what doesn't. We get into the reasons why the word "diet" feels unsafe and how to maintain a healthy, supportive midlife lifestyle. We all read so much "diet" material, yet Kim brings us a very different approach We dive into her new book, This Is What You're Really Hungry For: Six Simple Rules to Transform Your Relationship with Food to Become Your Healthiest Self.

Some Highlights:

Diet vs. restrictive eating
Developing your "why"
Emotional body vs. Physical body
Values are something you take with you everywhere
Food is fuel!
Kim's 6 rules
Feeling "safe" and how it impacts food choices
How people pleasing might be affecting your health

Let's Talk Midlife! My half empty nest breakdown led to me creating my first 3 day free live workshop called Let's Talk Midlife. It's September 19, 20 and 21st-one hour each day, live with me on Zoom10am-11am PST / 1pm-2pm EST. Day 1: Kids are leaving, now what? Day 2: What's next for me? Day 3: F*ck fear. INTERESTED? CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION

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Half Empty Nest, Now What? Sep 07, 2023

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EP 91: Are you an "empty nester" or getting close? I am what I call a "half empty nester" with my oldest kid who just went to college ten days ago. Are you redefining your role as a mom in midlife? I sure am! Have 1 or more kids in college or out of the house? Are you a midlife mom looking for more meaning, purpose and connection? Perhaps feeling slightly irrelevant and/or invisible? Me too! Then this episode is for you! If you are experiencing the empty nest process yourself (or preparing to in the next little while) then I might have everything you need to tackle this new step in your life.

You'll learn:

About moving out of denial and into acceptance. Yes, you have a child that is old enough to graduate from high school and move out of the house
No, that doesn't mean you're irrelevant. Listen to find out why
Expect the tears to come in the unexpected moments, you can't plan for those emotions
Partial acceptance is a step in the right direction
Navigating the stage of self pity
How I feel like I am in a "Jell-o State" & the "Ugh Hotel"

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The Midlife Pelvic Playground: The Mind-Body Connection Aug 31, 2023

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EP 90: You know that doctor or place that you have dreamed of that has all the answers to the peri/menopause saga? Tired of using words like "down there" to describe your vagina? Ready to get straight to the point with your doctor about what's really going on? You want real answers. You aren't crazy. Do you have issues with your pelvic floor or experience painful sex? Sick of not feeling supported by your midlife healthcare team? Ready to discuss sexual wellness in midlife? Looking for a place that is educated in women's health? Then this episode is for you!

Join me, doctor Sarah Milken in a direct and informative conversation called "The Midlife Pelvic Playground: The Mind-Body Connection" I am joined by two guests with expertise in women's sexual health and wellness. Dr. Michael Krychman, a board certified OB/GYN and sexual health counselor and is taking the lead on mental health for HerMD. My second guest is Carine Carmy, Co-Founder and CEO of Origin, a pelvic floor therapy company. This special episode is sponsored by HerMD, a revolutionary women's healthcare brand that was created to support midlife women in this stage of life. So grab your golden sh*t shovels because we are digging deep into everything from midlife sex, the pelvic floor and to advocating for yourself at the doctor, you won't want to miss it!

Some Highlights:

Pelvic floor therapy
Menopause support system who actually listens
HerMd
Origin Pelvic Care
"Deal with it" and "drink a glass of wine" are red flag statements from your doctor
The Mind-Body Connection
The importance of sex in midlife
Self advocacy at the doctor
The midlife miracle of HerMD

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