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How to See Your Spouse with New Eyes: Getting Rid of Self-Deception Feb 22, 2021

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We often assume the way we see our spouse is simply the way they are. But actually, most of us see our spouse through a distorted filter. My Dad recently had cataract surgery. When the cataracts were removed, he was surprised how much clearer and whiter his vision was—he had assumed for years that the way he saw them was simply the way they were. But in reality it was not the way they were—it was the way he saw them. The same is true for us. We see our spouse through a filter that distorts who they really are. Today on the podcast I’ll talk about this filter, how we develop this filter, what problems it creates and how to remove it.
What you’ll learn on the podcast

How we develop a distorted view of our spouse
Why it’s a problem that we don’t see our spouse as they are
What doesn’t work to remove the filter
How it DOES work to remove this filter
Why it matters to remove it.

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How to Improve Intimacy in Marriage, with Amanda Louder Feb 13, 2021

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One important aspect of marriage is sexual intimacy. I'm excited to share with you an interview with Certified Sex and Marriage Coach Amanda Louder.
In this interview, Amanda offers some fantastic insights into how men and women differ in their approach to intimacy; specifically why many women have lower sexual desire than their husbands. She offers some suggestions about how to increase desire and cultivate romance and intimacy in your marriage. We also cover aspects of sex and intimacy that are specific to expat life--things such as navigating sex during stressful time, and how to increase intimacy while you're separated physically. These aren't your everyday kind of suggestions--they are powerful, get at the source of things, types of solutions.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:

· Common reasons why married women may have lower desire

· How to shift from obligation for intimacy into desire for it

· Why it's important to be honest around intimacy with yourself and your partner

· How to cultivate romance in your marriage and keep the flame alive

· How to handle sex during stressful times

· How to cultivate intimacy while you're apart

Resources Mentioned in the Episode
Her website is: Amanda Louder Coaching
You can also connect with her on FB or Instagram @amandaloudercoaching
And her Podcast "Live From Love" where she talks about all things sex and marriage
Episode #106 Expanding Your Sexual Palette
Ester Perel, Author of Mating in Captivity
Apps Mentioned
Ultimate Intimacy App
Intimacy Us App
Spicer App
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Why You Can't MAKE Your Spouse Happy Feb 10, 2021

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Most of us were given the advice when we got married, “Do everything you can to make your spouse happy.” This sounds like such lovely and good advice. I agree that we should be loving and kind and sacrificing. But when we do these things with the expectation that it will make our spouse happy, very often we undermine our happiness and the happiness of our spouse. In other words when we do this we are people pleasing—doing something in order to manipulate someone’s response. There is a much healthier and much more fun way of cultivating happiness in your marriage. This whole month we’re focusing in on marriage and how to improve it!
What you’ll learn on the podcast

Why sometimes our spouse doesn’t feel happy even when we’re trying our best
Why trying to make our spouse happy can cause us to feel miserable
How trying to make our spouse happy can actually cause disconnection in our marriage
Why your spouse my not WANT us to try to make them happy
How to cultivate happiness in your marriage in a healthier way
How to create connection even when you don’t honor your spouse’s wishes
How to hold space for your spouse’s disappointment

How to Fail...And Why You Might Want To! Feb 03, 2021

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I don’t know many people who LIKE to fail. But like it or not, life includes lots of failure. That is—if you’re stretching yourself enough to actually be growing. The reason most of us fear failure is we don’t like feeling humiliated, disappointed and frustrated. But did you know that it is possible to have a different experience with failure. Did you know failure could be fun? This week on the podcast I’m going to teach you how to fail in a way that’s useful…and maybe even fun.
In this episode you’ll learn:

Why we don’t like to fail
How to shift the way you feel about failing
Why failure can actually be useful
Different types of failure and why some are better than others
How to convert your worst critic into your best cheerleader

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Brain Hacks to STAY Consistent With Your Goals Jan 28, 2021

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While many of us love to set goals, being consistent with them can be challenging. They are challenging because new behaviors take more effort and they can be uncomfortable. It’s easier to just do what we’ve always done…and our lower brains like ease. If we haven’t set up the right systems for ourselves, the lower brain often wins out and we procrastinate or give up on our goal. In order to be consistent we can use a couple of tools to help our lower brains work for us, not against us in accomplishing our goals.
On the podcast, you’ll learn:

Why it’s so hard to be consistent with our goals
Why our brain is the problem AND the solution
Two tools for being more consistent with our goals
Practical examples of how you can use these tools for accomplishing your goals.

Resources Mentioned on Podcast
Hallmark digital scheduled cards https://www.hallmarkecards.com/
Think ahead gift giving service https://joyful.gifts/
Free Mini-Coaching Session
The best way to find your blind spots is to get a coach to help you see why you’re stuck with your goal! So sign-up for a free 30-min. mini-coaching session.
Schedule
Join The 30-Day "Getting It Done Bootcamp"
Choose a goal you want to accomplish in 30 days! This is a boot-camp you can do at anytime. When you sign up, you'll receive weekly challenges for 30 days that help you apply the things we're discussing on the podcast this month about goals.
Sign up for "Getting It Done Bootcamp!"
Special Bonus for Foreign Service Members
If you’re in the Foreign Service, you can join us in the Toolbox FB group where I’m giving daily short videos with all sorts of fun tools and tips to help you with your challenge from Jan. 19-February 19th.
The Toolbox
Follow Me on Instagram And Share Your Progress
You can also follow me on Instagram to watch me applying what I'm teaching on the podcast about goals. My 30 day goal is to declutter 15 min./day between Jan. 19-February 19th 2021. I'll be sharing my progress and tips for sticking to goals along the way. I'd love hear about your progress as you accomplish your goals!!
@theexpatmomcoach

Three Common Mistakes That Sabotage Our Goals Jan 21, 2021

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When we plan out our goals we often assume it will be like driving to the grocery store, hitting all green lights, getting a front row parking spot, not waiting in line and zipping home. But it never is. There are always obstacles that come up. Today on the podcast I’m sharing 3 common mistakes we make that derail our goals so you can be more successful at avoiding these mistakes.

On this episode you’ll learn:

A healthy way to define if you’re being successful at your goal day to day
How to anticipate obstacles head of time and how to prepare for them
How to change your self-talk so you don’t sabotage yourself

The best way to find your blind spots is to get a coach to help you see why you’re stuck with your goal! So sign-up for a free 30-min. mini-coaching session.
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Apply What You're Learning on The Podcast
Download Guide: How to Overcome 3 Obstacles That Sabotage Our Goals
Join The 30-Day "Getting It Done Bootcamp"
Choose a goal you want to accomplish in 30 days! This is a boot-camp you can do at anytime. When you sign up, you'll receive weekly challenges for 30 days that help you apply the things we're discussing on the podcast this month about goals.
Sign up for "Getting It Done Bootcamp!"
Special Bonus for Foreign Service Members
If you’re in the Foreign Service, you can join us in the Toolbox FB group where I’m giving daily short videos with all sorts of fun tools and tips to help you with your challenge from Jan. 19-February 19th.
The Toolbox
Follow Me on Instagram And Share Your Progress
You can also follow me on Instagram to watch me applying what I'm teaching on the podcast about goals. My 30 day goal is to declutter 15 min./day between Jan. 19-February 19th 2021. I'll be sharing my progress and tips for sticking to goals along the way. I'd love hear about your progress as you accomplish your goals!!
@theexpatmomcoach

Writing a Recipe for Goal Success Jan 14, 2021

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Did you know 80% of New Year's resolutions fail? And most of them fail by mid-February. That is a sobering statistic. I've been part of that statistic until a few years ago, when I learned some simple tools that have helped me and my clients actually accomplish our goals instead of just make them. Accomplishing goals is actually like creating and following a recipe.
In this episode you'll learn:

How to move past overwhelm
How to stop procrastination
How to accomplish goals when it feels like you don't have time
What to do when you don't feel like it

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Why Even Bother To Set Goals Jan 08, 2021

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What kinds of feelings does setting goals bring up for you? This year goals setting brought up anxiety and lack of motivation. I’ve felt a bit sluggish nailing myself down with one goal. I was feeling overwhelmed with all the goals I WANT to do but knowing I only have the capacity to do some. Choosing can be tough! And, as I look back on some of the past years, it can feel discouraging to think about goals I’ve set and never accomplished. But, I pulled myself together and applied some of the strategies and tools I’m teaching in this podcast, and I chose a goal for the year that I’m really excited and motivated about.
What you’ll learn on the podcast

Why goals matter
How many goals are realistic
Which goal to choose
A step-by-step process for choosing a goal in less than 10 min

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How to Disagree Without Ruining Your Relationship Dec 16, 2020

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As the holidays approach lots of us are experiencing more interactions with family and friends. With a global pandemic, a highly politically polarized environment in addition to the normal strains of life, disagreements are more frequent. While we might not agree--our disagreements don' t have to ruin our relationships.
On this episode you'll learn:

Why disagreements often lead to division in relationships
How to dislike what someone says without disliking them
How to stop viewing the other person as "wrong"
How to share your opinion in a way that the other person is more likely to receive

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The Gift of Mom Guilt Dec 09, 2020

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Mom guilt is an epidemic among women. We feel guilty because we can't meet our own and others expectations all the time. But, guilt can actually become a gift if we know how to use it in a helpful way. In this episode, we dive into a three step process about how to do this.
On this episode you'll learn:

A new definition of guilt
The three steps for using guilt in a useful way
Why our brain loves to guilt us
How to get your own back when you make a decision

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