The Decoding Couples Podcast: Unfiltered Relationship Advice & Marriage Tips

EP 61: How to Deal with Being Misunderstood by a Partner Mar 25, 2024

In today’s episode of The Deocding Couple Podcast, Stacey and Rachel are discussing ways you can facilitate better understanding between you and your partner.

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EP 60: Gaslighting 101: Do's and Dont's Mar 18, 2024

In today’s episode of The Deocding Couple Podcast, Stacey and Rachel are revealing the true signs of gaslighting and what you can do if you realize it is happening to you.

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E59: HOW to Eliminate Pressure & Obligation in the Bedroom Mar 11, 2024

In today’s episode of The Deocding Couple Podcast, Stacy and Rachel are discussing ways to help eliminate unwanted feelings of pressure and obligation in the bedroom through mindset shifts and clear communication.

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E58: WHY Do I Feel Pressure & Obligation in the Bedroom?! Mar 04, 2024

In today’s episode of The Deocding Couple Podcast, Stacy and Rachel are discussing the reasons why you may feel obligation or pressure when it comes to physical intimacy.

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E57: 3 Hard Questions to Ask Your Partner Feb 26, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey are giving you 3 hard questions you should be asking your partner to help uncover important areas of your relationship.

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E56: Don't Trust Yourself? 4 Ways to Change It Today Feb 19, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey are discussing the importance of self-trust in your relationships, reasons you may be struggling to trust yourself, and steps you can take to change that.

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E55: 10 Characteristics of a Healthy Long-term Relationship Feb 12, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey are breaking down 10 characteristics of healthy long-term relationships!

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E54: How Your Self-Esteem Impacts Your Relationships Feb 05, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey are discussing the impact self-esteem can have on your relationships and ways to improve your self-view and increase your self-esteem.

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E53: Neurodiversity in Relationships w/ Crystal Britt LCSW Jan 29, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey along with expert guest, and licensed therapist, Crystal Britt are discussing how Neurodiversity can impact your relationship and advice on navigating common issues that may come up.

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E52: How to Recover from Infidelity Jan 22, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey reveal how to start rebuilding trust in your relationship after infidelity and the barriers that could prevent proper healing in your journey.

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E51: How to Know If You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship Jan 15, 2024

In today’s episode, Rachel & Stacey explore signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. If you are in an unsafe relationship, you deserve to get support and help.

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E50: Assertive Communication Jan 08, 2024

Assertive communication allows us to speak clearly and honestly with others while maintaining our boundaries but it can feel hard to do, especially for women.

In today’s episode, we will discuss why assertive communication is important for relationships and the steps you can take to start developing this important skill.

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E49: My Partner’s Mom Won’t Knock Before Entering… Boundaries with Family. Jan 01, 2024

Setting boundaries with family doesn’t have to feel like a daunting task and in today’s episode, we are discussing how to set them, how to hold them, and how to navigate them within your relationship. This will be your boundaries cheat sheet!

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E48: Anxious Attachment: What It Is & What to Do About It Dec 25, 2023

What does anxious attachment look like in your life and your relationships? We are going to uncover the big and small types of past traumas that could lead to having anxious attachments and what you can do to start forming more secure attachments.

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E47: Compromise Dec 18, 2023

Compromise is a necessary part of every relationship but how can we do that in a way that feels okay for us and our partner? Today’s episode discusses healthy ways to compromise, where many couples go wrong, and what to do when neither side is willing to budge.

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E46: "I'm Sorry BUT...." Apology Mistakes & Missteps In Your Relationship Dec 11, 2023

In today’s episode, we are uncovering what is and isn’t an apology, and giving a basic formula you can follow when you need to apologize.

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E45: How We Manage the Mental Load w/ Gianni (Rachel's Hubby) Dec 04, 2023

In today’s episode, we are discussing the intangible mental effort that occurs when running a household, relationship, and/or family, also known as “mental load” with Rachel’s husband Gianni!

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E44: "Have You Ever Tried..." Exploring Intimacy in Relationships Nov 27, 2023

In today’s episode, we are exploring how to explore different types of intimacy while in a relationship with our very special guest, Rachel's partner, Gianni! He is giving us the male perspective while we look at reasons exploring intimacy can feel more difficult once you’re in a relationship, how to go about exploring with a partner, and how certain expectations & misinformation impacts sexual exploration with partners.

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E43: Competition vs. Cooperation in Relationships Nov 20, 2023

This episode is going to explore how cooperation and competition show up in relationships when it comes to household responsibilities, conflict, and intimacy. Understanding competition vs cooperation can be a great way of gaining perspective on what's going on in your relationship and how to approach it in a different way.

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E42: Signs of Unhealthy & Healthy Communication Nov 13, 2023

Healthy communication is a cornerstone of any good relationship and today we are looking at the characteristics of healthy and unhealthy communication.

This episode is going to look at what healthy and unhealthy communication styles look like in real-life situations to uncover grey areas, hard no’s, and where it’s okay. Hopefully, this will give you a baseline and clear up any misinformation that you may have heard.

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E41: How to Break Up the Right Way Nov 06, 2023

Feeling confident in the decision to end a relationship isn’t easy, so how do you know when it’s the right time and what’s the right way to break up with someone?

In today’s episode, we talk about questions you should be asking yourself to know if breaking up with your partner could be the right move and how to handle post-breakup roadblocks.

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E40: Breaking Down Resentment Oct 30, 2023

Resentment is a complicated topic AND it is so common in relationships. During this episode, we are going to cover what to do when you have resentment, what not to do, and when you should “let it go”.

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E39: Four Ways To Rebuild Trust Oct 23, 2023

Breaches in trust and a lack of repairing that trust are common causes of relationship conflicts and communication issues but that doesn’t mean trust can’t be rebuilt. In today’s episode, we are breaking down four ways to rebuild trust after infidelity, heated arguments, resentment, and even with yourself.

Breaking trust with your partner can make you feel like there is no way back but with these tips, you will find out it can be done.

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E38: "Am I Settling?" When to Raise the Bar or Accept the Relationship Oct 16, 2023

Settling vs accepting when it comes to your partner and relationships…do you know the difference? Have you sought relationship advice from a friend and their response was “Don’t settle!” which left you even more confused?

In this episode, we cover: knowing if you are settling when you shouldn’t, when to accept certain relationship dynamics and the key differences between them.

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E37: Boundaries: How & When to Set Them Oct 09, 2023

In today's episode, we are uncovering the reality of boundaries and what they actually mean. We discuss the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum and how to come to terms with our feelings around communicating them in our marriage or to family.

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E36: My Relationship with Alcohol is Complicated Oct 02, 2023

It’s no secret alcohol can be the cause of many relationship problems, not just with your partner but also with your social circles.

In this episode, we are talking about the boundaries we have (or don’t have) surrounding alcohol and ways to initiate healthy communication with your partner around their drinking habits. Plus we dive into “mom drinking culture” and it’s influence in today’s society.

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E35: Five Mistakes Your Making When It Gets Defensive.... Sep 25, 2023

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Defensiveness is a common relationship problem, especially with people you care about. In this episode, we are uncovering 5 mistakes you could be making when becoming defensive in your communication and what next steps you can take to work on building healthy communication in relationships moving forward.

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E34: "I'm Not Attracted to My Partner Anymore.." Sep 18, 2023

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In this episode, we are breaking down what to do when you’re no longer attracted to your partner, reasons why this can happen and steps to take in rebuilding intimacy for the long run.

We are giving insight into those burning questions: “Should I tell my partner?” and “Is this normal?”

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E4: The "Unsexy" Side of Sex Sep 12, 2023

In this episode, Rachel and Stacey break down the "unsexy" parts of sex...to make them feel sexy again! Rachel and Stacey start by discussing what younger versions of themselves used to find attractive and sexy and how it has changed through age and different phases of life. They then dive into topics such as when partner's have different libidos, crying during/after sex, what to do when you or your partner want to try new things in the bedroom but the other doesn't, body image and so much more. This episode, Rachel is taking on DC in the DMs, where the DC community wrote about their "unsexy" experiences with their partner's for our tips and feedback.

E3: When Therapists Go to Therapy Sep 12, 2023

This episode tackles all things couples therapy! This episode starts by discussing why couples therapy gets such a bad rap and what typically lands couples in therapy. Rachel and Stacey then share their first experiences in couples therapy…mostly what went wrong. They talk about when individual therapy is more appropriate than couples therapy, and different scenarios that could lead a couples therapist to ask partners to do individual therapy first.

This week’s DC in the DMs is a little different: Stacey & Rachel were flooded with couples therapy horror stories from their Instagram community, so they set the record straight on exactly what to expect and NOT expect in couples therapy.

E2: Disney Ruined My Relationships Sep 12, 2023

Rachel and Stacey dive into the magical world of rom-coms, Disney movies and how that has set them up for relationship failure. From relationship expectations to sex and intimacy, Rachel and Stacey discuss different ways the make-believe of movies and tv shows have impacted their romantic relationships and how they show up with their partners. They answer DC community questions on adjusting to “real life” relationships and how to make sense of what real love looks like outside Lifetime movies.Rachel is in the hot seat for this episode's DC in the DMs where she gives her take on what relationship expectations are realistic or “Disney”.

E1: Blurred Lines: When the Professional Gets Personal Sep 12, 2023

Rachel and Stacey share their experiences of how the lines blur between their professional roles as couples therapists and regular ol’ people when it comes to relationships and mental health struggles. Rachel discusses how being a professional “soul walker” in private practice impacts her marriage. Stacey shares her struggles with depression and anxiety as well as her experience sharing her medication journey with the Decoding Couples community on Instagram. This week Stacey is in the hot seat for DC in the DM’s where she's asked about relationship experiences that potentially “blur the lines” between kosher and break up worthy behavior.

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E33: Anxious & Avoidant Attachment in Relationships Sep 11, 2023

This episode unpacks the dynamic between the most common attachment style pairing in relationships: Anxious & Avoidant.

Spoiler alert: This is the exact dynamic of our partnership!

We are diving into how each attachment style responds when faced with conflict, attraction, and intimacy. Plus we answer the BIG question: Can this type of relationship work in the long run?

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E32: "I Can't Forget What You Said..." Sep 04, 2023

This episode is all about the things that are said to a partner(s) that indicate BIGGER issues going on individually or relationally. The things that we can’t seem to forget (or are burned in to our brains) usually mean there are...relationship issues, trust issues, attachment issues , unhealthy or abusive dynamics, resentment and so much more!

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E31: Postpartum Mental Health in Relationships Aug 28, 2023

This week we are joined by Lorena Aynalem, LCSW, to break down mental health in pregnancy and postpartum. We talk about the impact of becoming parents on the relationship and practical relationship advice so all parties can be supported during this time!

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E30: How to Grieve a Relationship Aug 21, 2023

Is it healthy to grieve a relationship while you’re still in it? Is there such a thing as “too much grief”? Do I need to grieve in order to fully heal from my past? We answer these relationship questions and give advice related to grieving your relationships!

E29: What We Wished We Talked About Before..... Aug 14, 2023

Communication, kids and boundaries oh my! Here are the top things that we wish we had talked about before marriage, moving in together, joining finances, kids and generally just getting serious with a partner!

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E28: My Partner Struggles with ADHD Aug 07, 2023

Does your partner have ADHD? Is your relationship impacted by ADHD? Do you struggle with how to support your partner? Lorena Aynalem, LCSW joins Rachel & Stacey from Decoding Couples to unpack the big and small ways neurodivergence, specifically ADHD, impacts everyone in the relationship and how to move forward and continue to thrive in the partnership.

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E27: Is It Love or Is It Trauma Bonding? Jul 31, 2023

Have you ever thought this about your relationship or marriage: “Our highs are so high, but the lows are so low”

Have you ever wondered why you can’t get out of an unhealthy or toxic relationship pattern?

Then you need to listen to today’s episode about trauma bonding!

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E26: How Emotionally Immature Parents Impact Adult Relationships Jul 24, 2023

Have you felt your parent was emotionally unavailable? Do you have trust issues with your parent(s)? Did the way your caregiver's raised you still impact you as an adult? If you grew up with emotionally immature parents, there's a good chance your adult relationships or marriage have been impacted! We break it down in this episode and give you relationship tips and advice for how to navigate through this!

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E25: Separation Saved Our Marriage Jul 17, 2023

If you have ever wondered: How do you know if you should stay married? How do you know if you should stay in a relationship? How do you know if you should stay with someone? This episode is for you. Rachel's husband Gianni joins the Decoding Couples Podcast for a marriage story unlike you've ever heard before. They unpack how the pandemic, chronic miscommunication, depression, alcohol and trauma derailed their family and almost brought them to divorce. They pull the curtain back on the most painful parts of their marriage and how it ultimately transformed their relationship.

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E24: How to Fight Fair: Relationship Conflict the Right Way Jul 10, 2023

Rachel & Stacey go over what arguing or fighting fairly in a relationship looks like and what it absolutely does NOT look like. They break down how unfair fighting makes conflict worse, negatively impacts relationship dynamics and ways to fight fairly next time you have conflict with a partner!

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E23: The Mental Load is Ruining My Relationship: Here's What to Do Jul 03, 2023

If you are struggling with an unbalanced mental load in your marriage or relationship...but don't know how to fix it...this episode is for YOU! This episode is full of relationship tips and tools so you can finally get the balanced mental load you and your relationship deserve.

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Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski

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The Set Boundaries Workbook by Nedra Glover Tawaab

https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9780593421482

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E22: Stay or Go: Can You Outgrow A Marriage? Jun 26, 2023

This is all about navigating the relationship dynamic...do I stay or do I go? We cover what keeps people in relationships or marriage they may want to leave, and what are some of the factors that make people actually leave. Listen in for relationship advice and tips on what to do if you find yourself in this position!

Books recommended in this episode: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9780452275355 When Things Fall Apart by Puma Chodron https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9781611803433

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E21: Is Porn The Problem? How Pornography Impacts Relationship Dynamics & Intimacy Jun 19, 2023

Has pornography been a problem in your relationship? Rachel and Stacey break down the pros and cons of porn in relationships and how to navigate this topic with your partner in a way that increases trust and decreases shame.

Where to find ethical porn:

Dipsea (erotic audio/stories)

Sunroom

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E20: "I Want to Feel Heard"...WTF Does That Mean?! Jun 12, 2023

This week, Rachel and Stacey are breaking down common relationship phrases that are meant to be helpful to you and your partnership…but need a little explaining out of therapy jargon! Listen in to learn phrases and tools that will ACTUALLY translate into relationship advice!

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E19: How to Repair After a Fight Jun 05, 2023

E19: How to Repair After A Fight

So you and your partner had a big fight….now what?! This episode is all about repairing after fights. Listen in for communication tips that will help your relationship regain trust, connection and intimacy after big or small arguments.

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E18: "This is Why I Don't Say Anything!": What Stops Us From Communicating in Relationships May 29, 2023

If you are tired of getting shut down or shutting down during conversations with a partner(s)...this episode is for you! Stacey and Rachel identify the most common communication problems and what conflict resolution looks like when it happens! These are marriage tips and relationship advice you don’t want to miss! Download the free PDF we mention in this episode from the link below!

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E17: How to Handle Shame & Rejection in Intimacy May 22, 2023

Have you ever been rejected in the bedroom? Do you have shame around intimacy? Then this episode is for you! Stacey & Rachel break down how shame and rejection show up in relationships, how it impacts relationship dynamics and ways to work through shame and rejection in order to improve intimacy!

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E16: Ask Us Anything! Relationship Q & A May 15, 2023

You asked, we answered! This episode is dedicated to answering the questions you submitted on IG @decoding_couples ! We cover how to tell if a relationship is compatible or not, how to help a partner with coping skills, what’s the difference between a relationship going through a hard time and an unhealthy relationship, plus many more!

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E15: The Three Quickest Ways to Ruin Your Relationship May 08, 2023

If any of these relationship problems are present in your partnership: tit for tat / defensiveness, one foot out the door & contempt…you don’t want to miss this episode. Learn what these look like and why these relationship dynamics destroy partnerships.

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Disclaimer: This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health services or therapeutic services. The content does not apply to abusive or unsafe relationships. If you are in an abusive or unsafe relationship, please utilize the below resources:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.org

National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.org

National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) www.childhelp.org

National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) www.rainn.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

National Center for Victims of Crime 1-202-467-8700 www.victimsofcrime.org

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E14: Red Flags in Relationships May 01, 2023

If you are looking for relationship advice on how to spot and understand red flags, then this episode is for you! Understanding red flags is important for healthy relationships and to stop repeating dating mistakes you’ve made in the past. Listen in for dating tips and relationship advice around red flags!

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E13: "Stop Being Such a Nag!": How to Shift the Mental Load in Your Relationship w/ Laura Danger Apr 24, 2023

How do you have a healthy relationship when the roles & responsibilities feel so uneven? Laura Danger sheds jaw dropping light on how the patriarchy sets up men and women to fail in partnerships. This episode explores the root of relationship problems with the mental load and our ability to have conflict resolution with our partners. This week's DC in the DMs has Laura & Stacey in the hot seat, answering questions from the Decoding Couples community on if what they need is, "too much" or just basic partnership requirements.

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E12: The Ex Episode Apr 17, 2023

If you struggle with jealousy, trust issues and boundaries because of an ex…don’t miss this week's episode. Past relationships are always going to be a part of your current relationship dynamics...but how much is up to you! You don’t want to miss the DC in the DMS where Rachel takes on stories of ex’s and if she thinks something shady is going on, and how’d she handle your ex scenarios!

If you’re ready to learn a new way of communicating with your partner to stop having the same fight over and over again, get on-demand access to our free masterclass Stop Fighting, Start Talking at: ⁠www.decodingcouples.com/webinar-reigstration⁠

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E11: My Partner is Struggling...and I'm Not Okay: Mental Health + Relationships Apr 10, 2023

So many relationship problems include struggling with mental health...but we don't talk about it enough. This is especially true when anxiety and depression impacts one partner and not the other. Stacey & Rachel give relationship advice on what can be unhelpful in trying to support a struggling partner as well as what to do to provide support to all parties involved. Rachel answers DMs this episode giving her thoughts on how to handle different relational challenges with anxiety and depression is involved.

Relationship goals should include having conversations about major topics like mental health. If you are unsure about how to address important topics like this and more, check out Before The Next Step Online Course here: www.decodingcouples.com/courses

Disclaimer: This episode contains serious mental health topics. This episode is not a replacement for therapy. If you are needing additional resources or support, please check the resources below.

Mental Health Resources:

Crisis Lines

24/7 crisis line (US & Canada only): 1-800-273-8255

24/7 crisis TEXT line (US & Canada only): text HOME to 741741

Life Line Australia: 13 11 14

Crisis Text Line UK: text 85258

Education:

National Alliance Mental Illness (NAMI) www.nami.org

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) www.samhsa.gov

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E10: Knocking Boots, Scamming & Quickies: The Evolution of Intimacy in Relationships w/ Mac Stanley Apr 03, 2023

In this episode, Rachel and Stacey are joined by therapist Mac Stanley Cazeau to talk about the changes to intimacy and sex throughout the span of a relationship. Mac shares the male perspective performance, body and sexual changes and how these impact intimacy and romantic relationships. They end by sharing proactive and in the moment tips to maintain a healthy intimate life for long term relationships and how to get out of a dry spell. Rachel and Mac are answering the DC in the DMs where they give their tips on how to get out of different intimacy barriers and dilemmas the DC community has shared.

Want to hear more from Mac? Check out Mac Stanley Cazeau on Instagram www.instagram.com/talk2mac as well as his podcast Menage A Mind www.instagram.com/menageamind

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E9: Am I Dating My Dad?! Part 2: How Childhood Attachment Impacts Relationships Mar 27, 2023

Stacey and Rachel dive into the idea of “daddy issues” and “mother wounds”. They discuss what creates those types of wounds and how they show up in adult relationships. They also touch on what can happen as a result of losing a parent at a young age or never having met a parent figure at all. Rachel and Stacey give multiple ideas and thoughts around “what to do now” if you realize you are dating or in a relationship with someone like one of your parents and how to grow together to break past patterns. Stacey is on the hotseat for DC in the DMs this week doing rapid fire on if certain behaviors are “nature” or “nurture”...you won’t want to miss the last one!

Want to join thousands of other couples improving their relationship through attachment, communication and intimacy? Learn more about the Relationship Roadmap Online Course here: www.decodingcouples.com/courses

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E8: Why We Cheat w/ Mac Stanley Mar 20, 2023

Buckle up! This episode dives deeper than the typical cheating/infidelity discussions you've heard before. While we agree cheating is an incredibly heartbreaking experience for the betrayed to go through and is a choice that has huge life changing implications...we wanted to have a deeper conversation about the motivation behind why people do it. In this episode, Rachel and Stacey are joined by therapist Mac Stanley Cazeau LMHC to explore why people cheat. Rachel, Stacey They discuss how to define what counts as cheating, emotional affairs and the idea of limerence. Mac and Stacey are on the hot seat for DC in the DMs where they rapid fire answer “cheating” or “not cheating” for different community experiences.

Want to hear more from Mac? Check out Mac Stanley Cazeau on Instagram www.instagram.com/talk2mac as well as his podcast Menage A Mind www.instagram.com/menageamind

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E7: I Never Said That! Defensiveness: Why It's There & What to Do About It Mar 13, 2023

Rachel and Stacey start off by admitting what gets them defensive. They also talk about how it shows up & impacts their relationships. They review how defensiveness gets created, the purpose defensiveness serves and tips on how to work through defensiveness and talk about it with your partner. DC in the DMs puts Rachel on the hotseat answering how she would respond to different situations where defensiveness is at play.

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E6: For Better or Worse Until...Kids Mar 06, 2023

This episode covers the impacts no one talks about when it comes to kids + relationships. Rachel and Stacey talk about how their marriages changed after kids, why relational satisfaction takes such a hit, and the positive changes that can come from parenthood.

DC in the DMS puts Rachel on the spot responding to community experiences about changes in relationships after kids. You do NOT want to miss her hot takes and direct advice in this segment.

Ready to take the guesswork out of your relationship’s future? Check out Before the Next Step, an online course that will leave you with a clear picture of where changes need to be made in your relationship, what areas feel solid, and where future conversations and work need to happen in order for your relationship to successfully take the next big step! www.decodingcouples.com/courses

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E49: My Partner’s Mom Won’t Knock Before Entering… Boundaries with Family. Jan 02, 2023

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