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    The Brian Cain Mental Performance Mastery Podcast

    The Official Long-Form Podcast of Brian Cain, MPM, #1 Best-Selling Author, Creator of The Mental Performance Mastery (MPM) Coaching Certification and The 30 Days to Mental Performance for Athletes Course.

    The Brian Cain Mental Performance Mastery Podcast is dedicated to helping you reach your maximum potential through mastering the 10 pillars (skills) of mental performance. 

    Brian Cain has worked with the top coaches and athletes in professional, collegiate and high school sports on building an elite mindset and the routines, habits and culture they need to win.

    His client list includes 6 UFC mixed martial arts World Champions, 10 NCAA National Champions, 4 MLB Cy Young Award winners, a Heisman Trophy winner, Olympic gold medalists, and top performing school, corporations and law enforcement teams from around the globe.

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    BC 126. Brian Cain On Rutten and Renallo - Cain Talks MMA Mindset WIth The UFC Hall of Famer Mar 22, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian flips the script as he features the episode of the Rutten & Ranallo Podcast he was a guest on. Brian shares great stories about his life growing up and the moment that changed Georges St. Pierre's life. Follow Brian on Twitter @BrianCainPeak Follow Rutten & Ranallo on Twitter @Rutten_Ranallo Subscribe to Brian's Monday Message here You will learn about... Brian's background growing up and what he planned to do with his life before becoming a Peak Performance Coach How Georges St. Pierre overcame the worst thing that ever happened to him while working with Brian The Big ABC's and how they lead to him finishing an IronMan The 2 Tips that any person can do to maximize each day PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Cain: He gets done about five minutes later and I hand him the brick. I go “Georges I want you to hold this brick out in front of you for like five seconds, can you do that?” He’s like “right here in front of this restaurant in front of all these people you want me to hold the brick?” I said “yeah hold it five seconds.” So he holds it up. I go “put your arm down, now hold it up for like 50 seconds.” He holds it up no problem. I go “how about five minutes?” He goes “I could do that but I don’t want to hold that up here I’m embarrassed.” I said “well how about you hold that thing for five weeks, what do you think would happen?” He goes “shit that’s impossible.” I go “Georges that’s exactly what you’re doing, Matt Serra beat you five weeks ago and you’ve been carrying this mental brick ever since. You can’t see it but you can feel it and it’s wearing you down.” Rutten: The person we have as our guest today is a guy who was a standout pitcher at the University of Vermont where he earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Physical Education and Exercise Science that later earned a Masters in Applied Sports Psychology and Kinesiology from California State Fullerton. He is a motivation speaker, a brain repairman or Mental Coach as you guys all call it (I just came up with a funnier name), he is a bestselling author whose specialization is working with different athletes from around the world and in any sport. Yes, even in Mixed Martial Arts. He works with our beloved Georges St. Pierre and he’s just an all around good guy who likes to help people overcome their problems. Boys and girls here we are, Brian Cain. Brian I know I probably didn’t mention many more thing you have achieve and do like your Iron Man but welcome to the show my friend. How are things over there in Richmond, Vermont if I’m not mistaken? Cain: Well you are mistaken my friend. I’m actually in Southlake, Texas. I moved out of Vermont when I got tired of the cold. I moved down here to Southlake which is about 15 minutes from the Dallas-Fort Worth airport so that I could travel to the left and right coasts of this great country and be able to get around and spread the message of Peak Performance and help athletes and people to achieve their best. A little bit hard getting out of the great state of Vermont - I miss that place - but as they say if you want to win you’ve got to focus on what is important now which is being where my feet are here in Southlake, Texas, ready to Dominate the Day and fire it up the B on this podcast with you my friend. Rutten: Boom. I love it. That’s the same thing with the weather, for me it was. I am from Holland and of course business opportunities, that is why I moved here - California. You can’t beat the weather. That’s the one thing here. Cain: I actually had a stint in Holland. I coached there for eight weeks in a place called Appledorn. Are you familiar with that? Rutten: Absolutely not. Cain: It’s about an hour outside of Amsterdam which I’m sure you’re familiar with. Rutten: Oh you mean Holland? Oh I thought Apple - yeah Appledorn of course I know. In Holland. I thought you meant California. But how did you like Holland? Cain: One of the greatest places on planet Earth. I absolutely loved it. The people were fantastic, the food was off the charts, and man I can’t wait to go back. It was unbelievable. Rutten: Nice. Alright. Listen let’s start at the beginning. I always want to know what kind of person you were when you were 12 years old in high school. did you want to be a fireman? Police officer? Astronaut? What were you like as a kid? Cain: Well those are two different questions. As a kid I was kind of a shithead. I wasn’t actually the most honest kid, I wasn’t the greatest kid. I got by probably athletically on talent. But what did I want to do? I wanted to be a Major League Baseball player. I think here in the States everybody who grows up whether their sport is football, basketball, or baseball, and now even in MMA that is what they want to do. They want to be a professional athlete. So growing up all my eggs were in that basket of being a baseball player. I got a scholarship (as you mentioned earlier) to go the University of Vermont. I actually got my number retired there recently, Bas, but only got my number retired because they cut the freaking program. There is no more baseball at the university. So me and all my teammates got our numbers retired. The best part about going to Vermont was experiencing the worst thing that happened to me and to my life at that point. My junior year I had a shoulder surgery. As a pitcher that basically means your career is over. At that time I read the writing on the wall, you’re not going to play pro sports, and I had to take that motivation and drive that I had for baseball and put it into something else. Luckily for me I’ve had tremendous mentors along the way from my high school football coach to my academic advisor, Declan Connolly, one of the top exercise physiologists in the world at the University of Vermont. He said “Brian I know you’ve got to put that somewhere, how about sports psychology, it’s something that you’re into.” So that put me on a path out to Cal State Fullerton where I studied under a guy by the name of Ken Ravizza and Ken Ravizza was a professor at Fullerton and he’s actually right now in the dugout with the Chicago Cubs working with that team. I got to be a grad assistant baseball coach at Cal State Fullerton. In that year of 2002-2003, that two year period, I learned the system and the process that I teach now in the mental game whether it’s with (as you mentioned earlier) GSP or with top college football programs or other sports to help people to play their best when it means the most and live in that present moment. So that was kind of my path. I never wanted to get into sports psychology. I wanted to be a baseball player and then a baseball coach. But when I got into it what I realized was what really to me going wasn’t necessarily teaching somebody how to throw a curveball or hit the ball the other way but how to be more consistent and how to handle adversity and how to have more confidence and have better routines so that when they step on the mound or they step in the cage all that training that they go through really comes to fruition and they get to go out there and perform at their best. Rutten: So it was something that you thought maybe if you look back on it did you think “hey that could have helped me personally as well when I was pitching?” Cain: Oh there is no question. It’s that age old question - and I’d like to ask you this at some point - what do you know now you wish you knew then? I go around - and the majority of the teams I work with are college baseball teams. It’s just the way it worked. I like working with everybody. My passion is helping people not necessarily baseball players in specific but that just happens to be where my target market is right now. That and probably MMA. With those baseball players I always say man if I could go back and speak to the 18, 17, 22 year old Brian Cain I would say control what you can control, let go of the things that you can’t, and don’t count the days make the days count. Focus on what you need to do today because today + today + today = your career. Rutten: That’s a big thing with you. You truly want to live in the now. That’s the real power. I hear it from so many different people. They all say you have to live right now in the moment. Like you said to 200 yards. Every time you just add 200 yards. Baby steps. Cain: It’s like if you’re driving down the road and you’re leaving Los Angeles in complete dark tonight at midnight and you’re driving to Dallas, Texas, and all of a sudden BAM all the lights go out in the country you can still drive to Dallas in the complete darkness because your headlights let you see the next 200 feet. And if you just focus on the next 200 feet eventually you’ll get to where you want to guy. I’ll use GSP. He’s been vocal and talked about this. When he beat Matt Hughes to win the UFC title he lost his focus a little bit and then went out and lost to Matt Serra in his next fight. What we learned is that the best fighter never wins. It’s the guy who fights the best. That separation is in preparation. If you ask Georges he will tell you that the best thing that ever happened to him in his career was getting knocked out by Matt Serra in the first round at UFC 67 because what that did is that put him on a path to become a master of preparation. That’s where (I think) champions are made. It’s what Muhammad Ali said “there are a lot of hours and a lot of training that goes in to allow me to dance under those lights when everyone sees.” Rutten: Yeah. Speaking of GSP when did you meet him? Were you already interested in Mixed Martial Arts? Was it a sport that you liked or did he come to you? He contacted you? You contacted him? You saw maybe something about him? Cain: Well it’s funny. I go all the way back to the first UFCs when Royce Gracie was tapping people out with his gi and there was no gloves and all that. I was probably 10-12 years old. We were at my buddy’s house and there were like 10 of us packed into the basement and he’s got the cable converter, the black box, that allows you to get pay-per-view channels for free because none of us could afford it in a small town. We’re watching the UFC and we’re like “who is this guy.” At a young age I was like wow that is awesome. As I got into high school and college I lost track a little bit of the UFC and what was going on. Then what really turned me back on to UFC was I was an athletic director and one of our high school football coaches came in and said “dude you’ve got to see this, did you see this fight between Matt Hughes and Frank Trigg II?” UFC 52 (I think it was) where he gets the knee in the groin and comes back and Hughes wins the fight. I watched that and said “man that can be so useful to so many teams because of the response to adversity.” We use an acronym that I’m sure you’ll love, Bas. It’s E + R (which stands for event plus response) = outcome. When I met Georges was fast-forward probably eight years later after seeing that fight for the first time between Hughes and Trigg. I’m teaching a sports psychology class at the University of Vermont. I showed that video. We were talking about response to adversity and one of the ladies in the class goes “I’m a strength coach and I train a UFC fighter.” I’m like we’re in Vermont, you’re lying, there are no UFC fighters in Vermont. It’s too small of a state. She goes “this guy Tom Murphy, he was an All-American wrestler in college and he is on the Ultimate Fighter 2 reality show.” So Tom Murphy and I end up connecting. Tom was a Masters in Psychology and very educated and very driven. Burlington, Vermont is only an hour and a half south of Montreal. So I started working with Tom. Right at about that time I got connected somehow (I think through MySpace) with David “The Crow” Loiseau. I started going to Montreal with Tom to watch him train. I hooked up with Loiseau and he came back after he lost to Rich Franklin and then Mike Swick and he came back and won a fight outside of the UFC after that so we had some good chemistry going. Right about then is when Georges lost to Matt Serra. I remember we were going up there to go to breakfast and Tom and Loiseau have been saying “man you’ve got to get with Georges” even before he lost. We went up there to breakfast one day and sat down and I was asking Georges amongst thousands of people coming to get his autograph, always trying to eat his eggs, and we were talking about his loss to Matt Serra. I’m like “hey man how has that affected you since, is that all you’ve been thinking about or are you over it, what’s going on.” He’s like “man it’s the worst thing that ever happened to me for my career I can’t believe that I let this guy who won a reality fight, won a reality TV show, get in the octagon with me, I let down all my fans, I can’t wait to get back there and kick his ass,” all this stuff. Rutten: Great impression by the way. Cain: Thank you. As he’s saying all this stuff I took out a black brick. I had taken a brick that you see in a house, painted it black, and I’m writing down on it with a silver Sharpie all the stuff that he is saying. He gets done about five minutes later and I hand him the brick. I go “Georges I want you to hold this brick out in front of you for like five seconds, can you do that?” He’s like “right here in front of this restaurant in front of all these people you want me to hold the brick?” I said “yeah hold it five seconds.” So he holds it up. I go “put your arm down, now hold it up for like 50 seconds.” He holds it up no problem. I go “how about five minutes?” He goes “I could do that but I don’t want to hold that up here I’m embarrassed.” I said “well how about you hold that thing for five weeks, what do you think would happen?” He goes “shit that’s impossible.” I go “Georges that’s exactly what you’re doing, Matt Serra beat you five weeks ago and you’ve been carrying this mental brick ever since. You can’t see it but you can feel it and it’s wearing you down.” What you have to do is you have to go from being frustrated to being fascinated. You have to make this not the worst thing to ever happen to you but the best thing that ever happened to you and you have to do that by being like a scientist who is on an airplane. When the airplane crashes they go looking for what? They go looking for the black box to find out why the plane crashed. As we sat there 90 minutes, two hours later, we’re still talking about why he lost that fight. It went all the way back through some of the things that he has never talked about, just a lot of the things like preparation and focus and some of the things that he had done in other fights. But his goal was to win a World Championship and he did. And he forgot to reset the bar. That day he said “my goal is not to be a UFC Champion but to be the greatest Mixed Martial Arts fighter of all time. Then moving forward from there he just went on a tear and was dominating. The thing that was awesome about Georges was he was such a great student. He surrounded himself with the right people and he was never defending a title. He was always going to win a title. Everybody talks about Georges being mentally weak - his opponents say that. I can tell you what, that is the furthest thing from the truth. That guy is a learner, that guy is committed to excellence, he is probably the most committed human being and athlete I have ever been around. As you know he is just one of the most genuine and polite/nice guys you’ll ever meet in your life. Rutten: He started being way more calculated after the Matt Serra fight. That is why a lot of people complained. They say “yeah but he doesn’t stop people anymore before he did that.” I say listen he fights the best guys on the planet. You’re seeing it the wrong way. Once you fight the top guys on the planet all the time, yeah, you try to knock people out. There is a lot of room for mistakes in Mixed Martial Arts. Any little thing can happen. Since there are so many different techniques in all area…

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    BC 125. Bas Rutten - UFC Hall of Fame & World Champion Mar 15, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian talks with former UFC World Champion and Hall of Famer Bas Rutten. Bas has great knowledge of the mind from a fighter's point of view and shares many applicable traits that translate from fighting to life. Follow Bas on Twitter @BasRuttenMMA Visit Bas' Website BasRutten.com Listen to the Rutten & Ranallo Podcast You will learn about... The #1 factor to be successful in a fight The importance of thinking you are not as good as you really are Tricking your brain into enjoying something you normally hate The #1 trait that all the best fighters have in common Bas' answer to "The Million Dollar Question" PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Rutten: So then I started tricking my brain. Constantly every time when I was really tired I’d go “oh yeah I love it!” I love it. I would tell myself the whole time “I love it” and, boom, suddenly I started catching on. Then I started enjoying getting tired. Now I needed to get tired. It got me a high getting really extremely tired. So I just forced myself. I always tell people I’m really good at telling myself what to do. Apparently I believe myself as well because it works, it works all the time. Cain: Hey how are you doing? Brian Cain your Peak Performance Coach here and this week we’re honored to have as our guest on the Peak Performance Podcast an MMA legend, UFC World Champion, and UFC Hall of Famer, Bas Rutten. Bas is a retired Dutch MMA fighter, a taekwondo black belt, Muay Thai kick boxer, and former professional wrestler. He was a UFC Heavyweight Champion and a three time King of Pancrase World Champion and finished his career with an unthinkable 22 fight unbeaten streak. Fight Metrics, the official statistics provider for the Ultimate Fighting Championship, ran numbers on Rutten’s career. Check this out; they statistically proved that he belongs not only in the UFC Hall of Fame but near or on top of the list of the greatest fighters of all time. In the 4 hours 27 minutes and 8 seconds he spent as a professional fighter Rutten scored 13 knockdowns without getting dropped himself. His significant strike accuracy was 70.6, the highest fight metric ever recorded. He attempted a record 53 submissions and successfully swept his opponents a record 46 times. He is currently a co-host of Inside MMA and is known for his charisma, good looks, great dance moves, and devastating liver kicks. He has capitalized on his celebrity status since retiring from fighting in 1999, working as an MMA commentator and appearing in numerous television shows, movies, and video games. A living legend. Please welcome to the Peak Performance fighting out of Tilburg, Netherlands, the former UFC Heavyweight Champion, former three time King of Pancrase, and UFC Hall of Famer, Bas “El Guapo” Rutten. Bas, thanks for joining us on the podcast man. Rutten: That was crazy! I love those statistics. You know that was the first time I actually found out things about myself when I heard those statistics. I went “man that’s actually pretty cool.” Very nice. Thank you very much Mr. Buffer. Cain: Fantastic. Well Bas thanks for joining us here. For all of our listeners that are mostly coaches and athletes they all watch the UFC, they all watch Mixed Martial Arts fighting, and they all want to know how much of that is a mindset, how much of that is a mental game? What do you think? Rutten: It’s all about the mind. Everything is created in the mind. I always tell the fighters we’re just talking about it everyone says “oh it’s a 50/50, 50% physical, 50% mental.” I say it’s not. I say everything happens in the mind. The decision for you to get out of bed in the morning to get your breakfast is made up in the mind. Once you can control that then it’s going to be perfect because then you can be calm. I talk about this many times. Calmness beats everything. When I see fighters getting beat up by the coaches and they’re hitting themselves in the faces I think it’s maybe for them to realize that they’re in the moment at this moment but it doesn’t work for me. You start over committing to punches. The mind is the master in everything in life. That is what I always say. Cain: When did you learn that? Si that something you had a coach ingrain in you or did you always kind of have that sort of ice in your veins cool mentality? Rutten: That is the weirdest thing. I was a super aggressive fighter in Holland when I was Thai boxing. Literally I would come out very technical, I would play my game, I would get hit once and I would destroy the guy. It worked really well in the first 12 fights because I knocked them out all in the first round except for one. So that worked really well. But once you start fighting really tough competition that’s going to be a problem. Then at one time - it was I also had a reason. I was partying, I didn’t train for three years, and apparently I accepted a fight because I was drunk and didn’t know I accepted it. Two and a half weeks before the fight this promoter calls me “hey where do I send the posters to?” I said “what do you mean, what posters?” He said “from the fight.” I said “which fight.” He says “your fight.” I said “am I fighting?” So then we went over that and I realized oh yeah I kind of said that so I’m going to have to do this fight. When is the fight? In two and a half weeks. I shouldn’t have done that fight. Anyway I lost. That pretty much changed everything. I didn’t want to fight in Holland anymore because the throwback I had from one loss was insane. Everybody said suddenly I was the worst fighter. They forgot about the first 12 fights. Then when Mixed Martial Arts came along I started fighting in Japan. I think it’s maybe something with the audience. It was totally calm. While I was fighting I would realize this is the craziest thing ever, I was so focused I heard everybody talking. There is this moment where I drop him with an eight count, he goes down, and your inner body wants to say run to the corner because there in Japan there were eight counts. If you run to your corner as soon as you hit the corner that is when they start counting eight. So eight counts. That means every fighter most of the time they run to their corner in order to give the guy on the floor the least amount of time to recoup. But for some reason I was thinking “no I’m going to throw it the other way” so I stepped over him, I gave him this look, I made eye contact, and then I walked really slowly back to my corner. I thought that will intimidate this guy way more than when I run to the corner. When I came out of the fight - which I stopped in 43 seconds - and later on saw the magazines two months later they sent me the magazines from the fight and I saw my facial expressions and I had no facial expressions. Every Thai boxing match that I had in the past I look like a complete animal. My face is screaming when I knock people out. Then there suddenly in Japan it was total calmness. There was no facial expression. That is why I always come up with that name the poker face. I truly believe that was when I really started putting things together. I was in complete control. It was really weird. Cain: Fighters that you’ve trained and fighters that you work with how do you get them to learn that? how do you get them to understand that you’ve got to be in control of yourself because you can control your performance and then learn how to control themselves? Rutten: It’s a hard thing. Again the poker face comes. There are a lot of times where if they hit back and they have to go really hard on the back they’re not allowed to make grimaces in their faces. It needs to stay calm. Everything needs to be calm. You need to tell your brain that you’re okay. Once you start squeezing your face muscles you’re telling your brain it’s not okay. But the more calm you are, the more relaxed you are, the faster your reflexes are working for you. The things is - and you especially know this with mental coaching as well of course - that a fighter can be really good in the gym. I can tell him all the tricks and everything works perfectly in the gym and sometimes you think “oh man this guy is going to go far.” But then the first fight comes along. The first fight is very understandable. Everybody has that. But once you go to the second and third fight and you cannot control those emotions then it’s going to be very hard for a fighter to fight out later on. What I’m saying is that you see these guys who you think they’re going to be world champions but they can’t perform under pressure. What I do then to the fighter - because most of the time they’re so proud that they’re going to fight they tell everybody they’re going to fight. “This is my first fight, I’m going to rip his head, I’m going to do this and that.” I always tell them don’t say that. All of these words you’re going to have to eat up at the moment you’re going to walk into the cage. Now all these people that you’re talking to they’re going to be in the audience there. Guess what? Now you can’t lose because you said you were going to hit his head up, you’re going to do this, you’re going to do that. I said all that pressure you are going to carry to the cage. Most of the time that is exactly what happens and then they lose. So then I tell them okay the next fight you won’t tell anybody that you’re going to fight and we’re going to take a fight out of state where nobody knows you. if you win when you come back you can say “hey I just won a fight.” IF you lose you don’t even have to tell anybody. Most of the time that trick works really well because then there is no pressure. People don’t fight for themselves. People fight for the audience. My biggest trick, what I always said is that I fight for me. It sounds very egomaniacal but it’s not because - they say “but you have to fight for your family because they need money.” No. Once I start being bothered by those kinds of problems I don’t perform at my best. But once I fight for myself and I don’t care what people say - because I learned that in all the Thai boxing, I stepped away from it - then that’s it. Then you’re much calmer and then you can compete at your very best. Cain: I think that is such a great point too that you make that you’ve got to go out there and you’ve got to fight for yourself because you are the only one who is in there. I hear fighters a lot of times will say that “my toughest opponent is me and my focus is on there, going out there, and executing what I need to execute in my game plan.” When you would fight did you have a game plan that you went out there to try to implement specifically for your opponent or was your game plan kind of the “I’m going to become the best Mixed Martial Artist I can be and go out there and just trust my training and let it happen?” Rutten: Trust my training, especially when I started learning the ground game. I had this thing - and I still do it. I always think that I’m not as good as I really am. I think it’s a very important thing because I think people in general always think they’re way better than they are. For me that was a way of always pushing the limits, always going harder and harder. I think it's very important to train your brain like that and make sure you know everything. Once I start doing the ground then everything started coming together and I got obsessed with the ground fighting. That is when I really started getting confident and that is where the real me was born. I always say it’s not about that, it’s about loving something. For instance in school what were the subjects you sucked at? They were always subjects that you had no interest for. All the ones that you excelled in were the ones that you thought were fun to do. It’s the same as fighting. If you’re only doing striking because you feel great at striking but you neglected the ground fighting - what I did in the beginning, I didn’t really like the ground fighting - but then I have all these ways to force myself. I start tricking my brain (so to say) and I say “wait a minute I’m going to see if I can force myself to like it.” For instance I did this with getting tired. I did not like getting tired. Since I had severe asthma as a kid that’s probably where it comes from. But in fighting that is not a good thing. you’re going to get really tired. So then I started tricking my brain. Constantly every time when I was really tired I’d go “oh yeah I love it!” I love it. I would tell myself the whole time “I love it” and, boom, suddenly I started catching on. Then I started enjoying getting tired. Now I needed to get tired. It got me a high getting really extremely tired. So I just forced myself. I always tell people I’m really good at telling myself what to do. Apparently I believe myself as well because it works, it works all the time. Cain: Are there ways that you actually train that self talk? Are there things that you do to help you with that or is that something that you just kind of figured out over the course of your career? Rutten: It’s been always there. I think it all comes from - with the asthma attacks for instance. I would lay in bed just sitting up. I needed to recoup from that. For like a minute I needed to catch my breath. That is how bad my asthma was. I couldn’t eat. It was very hard for me to drink. Most of the time you dip a sponge in water and you hope that you can get it in because you’re breathing 24/7. But I was always telling my mind “listen this is just for a week or for eight days, there are people out there that have it all year long.” I had eczema (horrible skin disease) everywhere on my face, my hands, I had to wear gloves, I got bullied a lot because of it because they thought I was a leper. That’s what they called me. I always thought people have it worse. There are people who have it worse. I think my brain training started there. I told myself “no, don’t go down.” Some people who say I had asthma when I was a kid and that’s why it doesn’t go very well for me in life, that’s BS. You’ve got to step away from it. The glass has always been half full with me and I’ve been always that guy. It’s just tricking the brain. Maybe it’s not even tricking. You just talk to yourself and if you just lay it out then it’s not really that bad. If you really go over a fight - this is what I tell my students. I say “what is the worst thing that can happen?” “I’m going to get knocked out.” “Well apparently you’re not going to feel that.” That is what people say. So what is the next thing? Tapping? Is that really so bad? If you let your arm be broken that is a really bad thing but for the rest that’s it. you can lose these two ways. You know what really is bad? When somebody completely dominates you. he knocks you down, he steps back, he tells you get back up because he just wants to beat you up. That would be really bad. But with great matchmaking that will never happen. most of the time that little talk will do something to them and that little talk I just had to myself before a fight. In the beginning when you’re nervous I would just say “what is the worst thing that could happen, there is a referee.” That is why I didn’t want to fight in the first UFC because the referee couldn’t step in. People go “oh I think it’s cool, I think it’s tough when you do that.” I think it’s stupid when you do that. we saw many occasions somebody gets knocked out and when he’s out he’s getting drilled in the face 6-7 more times. Well that could be permanent and I have a family that I love very much. I’m not one of those guys who says “I’ll die in the cage.” Not me dude. I would like to be with my family. If there is a way I can get out of it I’m going to be out of it. It’s going to be tough because I’m not going to let you finish me. But that I thought was very dangerous. Once they had a referee what is the worst thing that can happen? The referees are going to jump in and that’s about it. It’s your ego. Once you can step away from your ego - and again this is…

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    BC 124. Charlie "The Spaniard" Brenneman - Driven, The MMA Fighters Mindset Mar 08, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian talks with Mixed Martial Arts fighter Charlie "The Spaniard" Brenneman and his remarkable story going from working his dream job as a Spanish teacher, to winning UFC fights in the Octagon. Follow Charlie on Twitter @SpaniardMMA Follow Charlie on Instagram @MMASpaniard Check out his website Charlie-Brenneman.com You will learn about... Charlie's journey going from Spanish teacher to UFC fighter Charlie's 5 Elements of Excellence that have lead him to great success Charlie's AM and PM routines Charlie's daily video posted on Facebook and YouTube where he shares knowledge from the book he is reading that day How you can have Charlie come speak to your team or school PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Brenneman: That result is there. We want it, we want it, we want it. But just above that - slightly more important than that - is the process, is the pursuit of that goal not the attainment of that goal. Cain: This is Brian Cain with the Peak Performance Podcast. Today our guest, Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman, has not only fought the who’s-who in the Mixed Martial Arts world as a UFC veteran but he is also a former high school teacher. Charlie has a fascinating story that has come out with his book Driven: My Unlikely Journey from Classroom To Cage. Charlie, I’m just fired up to have you on. Thanks for making the time to be a part of the Peak Performance Podcast. Brenneman: It’s my pleasure to be here. I love talking to likeminded people and you’re one of them so I’m happy to be here. Cain: Well Charlie if you would for our listeners they probably have seen you in the cage. They’ve seen you with the who’s-who in the UFC from Johny Hendricks and Anthony “Rumble” Johnson. What they probably don’t know is your story up until that point in the UFC. Could you give kind of a quick snapshot of your career as a high school/college athlete, into teaching, and then what kind of got you into MMA? Brenneman: I’m from central Pennsylvania. I grew up in a small town. I’m a wrestler. Even today when I speak one of my lines is “I’m a wrestler who learned to fight.” That is basically what I did. The sport of wrestling taught me mental toughness, it taught me mindset, it taught me discipline, sacrifice. Those are the things that I carried up with me through high school. I would always come close to achieving my goals but I would fall short. I started to keep track and understand that the reason I was falling short was because I ultimately lacked the self confidence at the highest level. I ended up losing a state title two years in a row in high school. I took my athletic career into wrestling and for my first four years of my collegiate wrestling I red shirted a year. I completely underperformed. The last year it was like I had a mental breakthrough that really changed my last year, it changed the trajectory of my future. I ended up capping off my college career in a great way. I still felt short of my goal but I finished in a round of twelve at Division One Nationals. Then I thought it was all done. I thought all that discipline and sacrifice was over. I was ready to go home. I was ready to get fat and sit on the couch. After about a year of doing that I realized that I needed something. I needed to compete again. Around that time the sport of Mixed Martial Arts was starting to come to the forefront and started to kind of make a little bit of progress in the mainstream. Then literally one day I decided I’m going to leave my Spanish teaching position and I’m going to be a UFC fighter. Up until two years ago it’ll be my last fight but I spent the last decade training with, competing against, fighting, beating, losing to, the biggest baddest toughest fighters in the world. I came from a small town, became a teacher, then fighting, and now I’m on the other side of it where I’m kind of taking everything I learned, condensing it, and delivering it through speaking and mentoring. Cain: I know we just kind of got off of a good discussion before we got onto the podcast. What are some of the key principles that when you’re going in to speak to a school or you’re going in to work with a team what are some of the key principles - basically your framework, Charlie, that you share with them that made you successful that you know if they would adopt and they’ll heed to you teachings you know that they’ll be more successful. What are some of those key principles or key concepts within your framework? Brenneman: So what I did when I had my last fight and I thought “what am I going to do,” the first thing I did was I sat down and I literally wrote a book. I had had so many questions about I left my job, I got called crazy, I got called stupid, I got called all kinds of things because it was against the norm. So I sat down and I wrote a book about it. I’m a note taker and I’m a writer so I condensed all of the notes, the principles, the things that I’ve recorded over the years and I boiled them down into five what I call “elements of excellence.” Those things together create a fighter’s mindset. When you’re talking about a fighter’s mindset you think of the best fighters in the world. There is this resilience and perseverance and mental toughness and discipline - all these things. But the five things that I really focus on is the idea of a vision, knowing where you want to go, always having that North Star. The next thing is your core values whether it’s in your personal life, whether it’s in your athletic life, your professional life. I read a lot of books and so many of them focus on this idea of core values, knowing who you truly are and being that person in competition. The next one is defining success. To me that took me a lifetime of winning and losing. That took me a lifetime of competing to really truly appreciate the process versus the outcome. The fourth one is living with accountability. To me accountability - when I decided to leave my teaching position and I decided to literally drive into the unknown, this unknown world, it was all on me. It was on my shoulders. I had no paycheck. I had no leads. I had to create it. So that idea of accountability, (as Jocko Willink in Extreme Ownership says) assuming extreme ownership in everything you do and say. Then the last part - I don’t want to say the most powerful, but - is the idea of surrounding yourself with the best every day. Even today in my life connecting with you, connecting with other speakers and mentors and podcasters, I’m obsessed with surrounding myself with the best. Looking at the best in the world then literally trying to talk to them. The first two guys I communicated with in Mixed Martial Arts were Eddie Alvarez and Frankie Edgar. Eddie is the current UFC Champion. Frankie is one of the best in history. So I believe in the power of influence. Those five elements are kind of my keys to living with a fighter’s mindset. Cain: I love that. I think you hit the nail right on the head and as it ties back with what a lot of our listeners have gone through and are familiar with some of the work that I’ve done with the 12 Pillars of Peak Performance and in talking about vision and values (that’s Pillar #2) and kind of defining your success is that process. The process over the outcome. Then surrounding yourself with the best. As we say you become the average of the five people that you hang out with most. In one of the books that you mentioned from Jocko Willink about extreme ownership, one of the top reads (I think) from people in our Inner Circle and people that are going to be listening to this podcast. I’m assuming you’ve seen his video where he talks about good and making adversity your advantage. What are some of the other best books that you’ve read that have had the biggest impact on your mindset? Brenneman: I literally read every morning. It’s one of the things I started doing 42 days ago. I read every morning. I’ve been reading for years and years and one of the things I’ve been doing is making a daily video summarizing and applying what I have read that day to everyday life. There are 100 books I could say. Some of the coolest recent ones that I’ve read, The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday. It talks about using adversity to your advantage. Certainly The Obstacle Is The Way. Start With Why by Simon Sinek which just really gets back to kind of along the lines of your values. Figure out what’s your purpose. Why do I get up every morning at 4:30? Why do I still do treadmill sprint workouts when I have no fight? Really getting to the core of that. I’ll give you a third one. The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson talks about small consistent actions repeated over a long period of time resulting in giant results. Those are three of the top ones. Reading is a habit that I would encourage everyone to get into. Cain: Those are definitely four books that are in my library and four books that I think many of our listeners have gone through. It’s funny, The Slight Edge is a book that was given to SMU’s athletic director, Rick Hart, gave that book to all of their coaches. Then The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday, he’s got another book The Ego Is The Enemy that the TCU athletic director gave to all of their coaches. So you’re reading books, Charlie, that are right up there with our audience. The videos that you make, is that something that you put out on social media and something that our listeners could follow along as well so they could kind of learn through what they’re learning? Brenneman: Absolutely. I’m glad that you mentioned that. I do Facebook Live. I tested it out a little with Periscope, a little with Facebook Live, and I seem to get the most views on Facebook Live. From there I upload them to YouTube so you can subscribe to me on YouTube to get them on a daily basis or you can follow me on my personal page, Charlie Brenneman, or my business page, Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman. Every morning 5:30 I’m there with a smile on my face kind of reciting. I feel kind of weird because I’ve been an athlete, I’ve been a fighter, that’s what I do, but I get so amped up about reading and learning and just pushing it out. So yeah I put them out every day on my social media. Cain: I love it. So your social media. The best place for people to follow you. What is your Twitter handle? Brenneman: @SpaniardMMA. My website www.Charlie-Brenneman.com has all of my links in the upper right-hand corner. I’m SpaniardMMA across the board. Instagram I’m MMASpaniard because I can’t get SpaniardMMA so that is the only hiccup. Cain: Then your YouTube channel is SpaniardMMA? Brenneman: Yep. If you just search Charlie Brenneman or SpaniardMMA on YouTube it will come up. Cain: Awesome. I think that would be something that our listeners definitely will want to follow. I didn’t realize you did that so that is going to be something I go and get on for sure and check those out in the morning. You talk about getting up every morning and doing a video at 5:30. You sound like you’re a machine of routine. Tell us about your morning routine and kind of what you do on a daily basis. Brenneman: This is something for the listeners out there. I’m a fan of Gary Vaynerchuk who - you can call him an internet marketer, entrepreneur, he’s a lot of things. One of the things that I learned from him - actually I didn’t learn it from him. I felt comfortable because I heard him reaffirm it, this idea of trying a bunch of different things. The very first person who turned me on to this idea of a morning routine is Hal Elrod in The Miracle Morning. Since then I’ve tried maybe 10-20 different routines in the morning. For me basically it’s simple. My alarm is set for 4:30 every morning. I get up early every morning. On Sundays I sleep in till a whopping 6:00 or 6:30. There is really only two things: I drink 32 ounces of water basically right out of the gate and I read for at least 30 minutes a day. Those two things when it’s completely quiet, when the bids aren’t even chirping, it’s dark, I’m sitting here with water, a coffee, and my book. If I can get that in my day then that puts me up in the right direction. Cain: Hal Elrod, one of my favorite books The Miracle Morning where he talks about the acronym SAVERS. The first S is silence, the A if affirmation (so positive), the V is visualization, the E is exercise, the R is that you read, and the last S is that you scribe and you write and you actually do that without knowing and putting it to the SAVERS acronym that Hal talks about in The Miracle Morning. You’re actually doing that on a daily basis. Maybe instead of writing you’re speaking into your video and putting it out there for others which is probably a more easier digestible way for people to learn these days. But I love that morning routine. What about your PM routine? Do you have a shutdown routine at the end of the day to help you kind of log off and get more dialed in with your family? Brenneman: We just had a son three weeks ago and I have a daughter that is three years old. Where I’m at in this phase of my life I’m probably done fighting for several different reasons. I realize it’s like the work is there, the tasks are there, and I could literally work every hour of every day. This is a transition period for me and my wife. We’ve seen in the last decade when it went from teaching to fighting and fighting now into speaking and mentoring that these different transition phases - and they’re tough. For any goal driven person in a relationship who has a family it’s tough. It’s not easy. What we’ve done is develop - that’s partially the reason I get up at 4:30 in the morning, so I have the time to do the things I need to do. But I really - we’re recording now in the PM and this is an anomaly. I normally shut off by - I’m done with my workout by 5:30 and then it’s all family. Just because if I didn’t draw that hard line it would go on forever. Mixing that business and family time is just not a winner in our home. Cain: That one hit me pretty hard as I’m sitting here on a cruise and I’m looking at my wife who is sitting out on the balcony waiting for me to get done doing work so that I can take her to dinner. I think you hit the nail on the head. For the coaches that are listening to this you’ve got to have that hard shutdown routine. You’ve got to have that time in your day where you said “hey what’s done is done and what’s not done can be put off until tomorrow” because if you don’t draw that hard line you’re right, you could literally work 24 hours in a day when you’re uber motivated and a guy who is excited to go out there and make a difference which our listeners are. So I think I they can start to learn about that shutdown routine as well. That’s going to be important. Now when you shut down at 5:30 after that workout are you done with technology and you’re turning off the computer and the email and the cell phone and all that so you can engage? Or do you still have that digital distraction sometimes? Brenneman: Yeah I’m not going to sit here and say I’m perfect by any means. But no, my objective is to - I actually am up in my office right now (it’s on the third floor of my house) and I leave my computer up here because what I’ve found is that when I would bring my computer downstairs I would be tempted. If my wife went in to get something to eat or to fix something to eat I’d be tempted to hop on my computer and check my email real quick. So by leaving it up here in the attic it’s kind of the idea of if you don’t want to eat junk food don’t keep it in your cupboards. It’s that same idea. If I don’t want to be on my computer I should leave it upstairs. So I do that. My cell phone, I’ve flirted with some different strategies here and there but it’s in my pocket but I’ve done a good enough job - and I know this from my wife saying “you know what you’ve done a really great job in the last couple months of staying off your cell phone after hours.” The computer is the ha…

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    BC123. Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. - What Separates High Achievers From Average Mar 01, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian speaks with one of the leading professionals in all of peak performance and sport psychology as well as #1 Best-Selling Author, Dr. Chris Friesen. He is the author of The High Achievement Handbook Series and gives you great insight into the mind and how to control it. Follow Dr. Friesen on Twitter @FriesenPerform Check out his website FriesenPerformance.com You will learn about... Dr. Friesen's unique, guided, brain training and meditation technique Dr. Friesen's advanced knowledge on sports psychology and how to maximize your mental potential "The Funeral Exercise" to help you establish core values The incredible story of boxer Danny Williams overcoming a dislocated shoulder mid-fight Dr. Friesen even explains why having some self-doubt is actually a good thing PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Friesen: Most of us mere mortals like you and I and most people would say “look at this pain, how am I going to win a boxing match with one arm?” It’s impossible. It’s basically impossible. And he just kept pushing forward and pushing forward. Like I said in the book Stallone couldn’t have written a better ending. Danny Williams basically wins. Cain: Hey this is Brian Cain with the Peak Performance Podcast. Today our guest is one of the leading professionals in all of Peak Performance and sports psychology and he is a number one bestselling author. Dr. Chris Friesen is a licensed psychologist in Ontario, Canada, practicing in the areas of clinical psychology, clinical neuropsychology, forensic correctional psychology, and high achievement sports psychology and performance psychology. Dr. Friesen has training and experience that crosses a broad spectrum of psychological difficulties including working with individuals who have anxiety or performance anxiety, depression, personality disorders, brain injuries often occurring from sports concussion, to severe traumatic brain injuries happening in military or in combat scenarios, and those involved with the criminal justice system - offenders of all types. Primarily though Dr. Friesen and the reason why I’m so intrigued and honored to have him as a guest on the show this week is that he focuses on helping athletes and other individuals who are performing at the highest levels continuously improve and achieve and smash their goals. As we said earlier he is the number one bestselling author of The High Achievement Handbook series and in this podcast we’re going to focus on book one of the series. It’s called ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen. Dr. Chris Friesen, thanks for being on the Peak Performance Podcast. Friesen: Brian thanks for having me. I’m super pumped to be here. Cain: Your background I think is tremendous in that is has a lot of the hardcore psychological science but you also have the application and are doing it in the real world. I think often what you find is you get people who are doing it that are unlicensed and don’t have a background in training or they have all the clinical background and psychological training but they just can’t seem to make the human connection with the high achiever because they haven’t been as I would refer to you as is a “blue collar psychologist.” You mentioned that term earlier when we were off the air and I thought that was fantastic. Could you talk a little bit about kind of your unique background and experience both from the training and the academic side but then also with how you go about applying it and what the - sometimes I think there is that gap between the science and the application. Could you talk a little bit about your experience in both and kind of closing that gap? Friesen: Definitely. Like you said I’m a licensed psychologist with various areas of expertise. I’ve always been really fascinated by high achievement and success since I was a teenager and I played hockey as a goalie actually. I went into my training and psychology in Canada. In the clinical psychology graduate programs there is no specific sports psychology training so all that training was sort of done after the fact. One of the issues I’ve always had was there is some really amazing research coming out from cognitive neuroscience, sports psychology, just general personality psychology, that often doesn’t get percolated down to the everyday person or even high achieving athletes or other high achievers. I’ve always been the type of guy that applies all the stuff I learned to myself. I’m a big self experimenter. I can tell you lots of things. I’ve tried various supplements. I’ve tried various meditation techniques. Almost everything I talk about - like in the book for example - I’ve done it on myself and I’ve used it with athletes and other high achievers. So I really felt that one of the things I noticed with a lot of self help books is either they are written by academics, PhD like myself (although I am not a researcher per se anymore), and it’s full of studies with very little application or like you said it’s written by someone like a Peak Performance sort of self help book with someone who has zero experience or credentials in that area. So I realized that maybe this is useful to a lot of people so I really wrote the book in a way that is ultra user friendly. It takes sort of complicated scientific ideas or research findings and puts them into very easy to learn and apply strategies. So that is sort of where I see myself is the type of psychologist that really tries to bring this information to people to help them really achieve the goals that are really important to them. Cain: I love how you mentioned taking everything you had used with an athlete or with someone who you’re working with and doing it on yourself - something that I also try. Any technique or any strategy that I’m going to share with the team or with an athlete why wouldn’t I use that myself if it’s something that I think is going to help them to achieve at a higher level? So I really think that that is a lot of the missing link. It’s like going to a fat doctor or to a poor financial planner. It just often doesn’t add up. You’ve got to be doing that stuff yourself. You sound kind of like Tim Ferriss, the author of The 4-Hour Workweek and The 4-Hour Body who is kind of that human science experiment. One of the things that you mentioned that I want to kind of dovetail off into was meditation techniques. It’s something that I talk often with athletes about and I think that athletes and coaches have the stigma that you have to shave your head, put on an orange robe, burn some incense, cross your legs, and hike to the top of the Himalayas if you’re going to do meditation. What is your experience with mediation and what is the best practice that you’ve found? Friesen: That is a great question. The way I describe meditation is it’s just a form of brain training. Especially with my neuroscience and neuropsychology background I often try and use connect the two. I look at the research in those areas. So for example the way I describe it to people - and this is how I describe it to myself when I use it on myself, this is the strategy I use. For example what you’re doing is you’re brain training. You’re training the ability to stay focused. You’re training your brain’s ability to not get caught up or hooked by negative thoughts. The way I say it is there’s three reps, basically you sit down and you focus on your breathing. You don’t control your breathing. The first step is just to focus on your breathing. The next rep is basically to be aware of or notice when your mind is no longer focused on your breathing which is inevitable. It happens to everyone. The goal is not to have a perfectly Zen mind where your thoughts never stray. It’s basically never going to happen. It’s an impossible goal. The idea is you notice when your thoughts wander away from your breathing. Acknowledge what your thoughts are doing. So you say for example “I’m having the thought that this is boring” or “I’m having the feeling of anxiety because I have to go buy milk” or something like that and you basically describe what’s happening, what your mind is doing. What that does is it trains you to defuse or not get hooked by your thoughts. We are not our thoughts - especially our negative thoughts. We want to be able to pick and choose which thoughts we allow to take hold of us. So you basically acknowledge what is going on because if you don’t acknowledge it, if you just try to squash it, research shows - and I tie this back to obsessive compulsive order and PTSD or post traumatic stress disorder. One of the hallmarks of those disorders is you have thoughts or flashbacks that are very disturbing that you don’t want to have and the natural reaction is to squash those thoughts or pretend you’re not having them and do everything in your power to avoid having them. But the problem is we know the way the brain works. As soon as you try to squash a thought it continually comes back. It will continually pop back into your mind. So you want to acknowledge it, allow the thoughts to be there, then the next rep is to turn your attention back to your breathing. Basically it is hardcore brain training. It is not a relaxation technique. I tell people relaxation may be a side effect but that’s not the point. We’re training our brains to be able to basically increase our ability to stay focused and also to not get hooked by negative thoughts. It does a whole bunch of other things, it improves executive functioning and that kind of things, but that’s really the way I describe it to people. It’s again not relaxation, it’s not religious, it’s basically a form of brain training that takes zero dollars and zero equipment. So that is my take on it. Cain: Would it be possible time wise for you to take us through a very short version of mediation so that our listeners would know exactly “hey this is an example of a meditation that I learned from Dr. Chris Friesen that I want to share with my team.” Maybe like a 2-3 minute exercise they might be able to take and use? Friesen: Yeah I can sort of give you a quick walk through. Cain: Perfect. Friesen: You want me to do it right now? Cain: That would be fantastic. If anyone is listening to this podcast while they are driving skip this section or pull yourself over so that you make sure you’re doing it safely. Friesen: The way I do it is I’m actually usually generally against using any tapes for mediation because it’s like a cheat in a way. It’s helping you focus. The idea is when you are basically in a quiet environment - just imagine when you lie down and go to sleep and you’re not tired and you realize how much your mind is racing and thinking of random thoughts. That’s actually where you want to be. You don’t want to fall asleep so you don’t want to lie down. You don’t want a tape telling you to do something, but of course the first time to learn the strategy you do, or you want to hear me talking now. So what you do is you sit down. You don’t slouch back, you don’t slouch forward. You sit in an erect position not so much that it’s painful but enough that it’s not going to make you fall asleep. Remember this is not a relaxation exercise - it’s a brain training exercise. The first thing you do now is you basically focus your attention on your breathing. Notice for example how the air is a bit cooler when it goes in through your nose and warmer when it comes out. You’re not controlling your breathing, you are simply focusing on your breathing. Inevitably your mind is going to wander. You’re going to have a thought about something. You’re going to judge yourself. You’re going to think of something in the future. You may worry about something. Even if you have a positive thought, in this exercise you want to what we call “diffuse” from those thoughts. What that really means is notice when your thoughts have wandered and describe what is happening. Say “I’m having the thought that X or Y” or “having the feeling that X or Y.” That is going to put some space between you and your thoughts and you want to train this because you do not want to be your thoughts, especially your negative thoughts. So once your thoughts wander describe what is happening really briefly. Allow them to be there. Don’t get upset. Having thoughts is what your brain does. It’s programmed to generate thoughts when there is nothing going on. You’re going to notice them, acknowledge them, and very gently return your attention back to your breathing. You’re just going to do this again and again. You’re not going to go very long before your thoughts wander and that is actually good. The trick is to notice when your thoughts wander, acknowledge them, and return your attention back. That is all you’re trying to do. That is the only goal. A lot of people come to me and say “look it was so bad, the meditation, my thoughts we all over the place.” I say “listen that’s actually good.” It’s like working out with a weight pack. The more your thoughts are wandering the better. You’re getting a better brain workout. That is basically it in a nutshell. It’s really a series of steps and just knowing what you’re doing. You may feel relaxed at the end. You may not. That’s not the goal. There are a lot of other ways you could relax. Take a hot bath. This is not training to relax. The side effect though from this type of training is that you are going to be more relaxed generally. Not because of a physiological response or training but because you’re no longer getting hooked by negative thoughts or feelings and you’re basically able to stay focused in the present moment which is the key to the zone when it comes to playing sports (for example). So this is the other thing I tell everyone. By doing this you are training your ability to stay in the present moment which is where you want to be to perform at your peak. When you are in the present moment that is when you are in the zone and it’s going to make it more likely you’re going to get in the zone and you can control now whether you go into the zone better than you did before. Cain: That is one of the most simple and clear definitions I think I’ve ever heard someone say about meditation is that step one is you’re focusing on your breathing - in through your nose, out through your nose. Step two, acknowledge when your mind drifts to anything other than your breath. Step three, bring it back to your breathing. It’s not a relaxation exercise. I’ve never heard it said this way. It’s not a relaxation exercise, it’s an exercise in developing a present moment focus and the result of that will be a feeling of relaxation which is much more close to that flow state or to the zone where you’re in the present moment and you’re where your feet are and that is when you perform your best. That was fantastic. Chris, if we can jump into your book here. One of the things with your subtitle is it says Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen. Let’s get right into it. What are some strategies that you use? I love how you talk about strategy because I think you often get two types of people who come from two types of the spectrum in the world of Peak Performance. You get those who talk about principle and just concept like “be positive,” well no shit. Okay well how do you do that? Focus on what you can control. No shit. The sun rises. Great. Well how do I actually get back to that when the bullets start flying? I think it’s important that people know themselves but I love that you’re going to share with us some strategies that people can use about how to better get to know themselves. What are some of the ways that - if you would, first, why is it important that people know themselves? Secondly, how is it that people listening to this podcast can better get to know themselves? What is something they can go and do? Friesen: Great question. Throughout my career I’ve seen a lot of people who have gone ver…

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    BC122. Separation is in Preparation (George Washington's Birthday) Feb 22, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian goes solo to talk about how preparation is the greatest separator from those who are elite and those who are average. He tells the story of George Washington and how he chopped down a tree in just 10 minutes. You will learn about... George Washington and the fascinating story of how he had an hour to chop down a tree, yet finished in 10 minutes How separation in preparation is displayed in the NFL and UFC A tremendous story about TCU pitcher Brian Howard and how his preparation prepared him for one of the biggest moments of his career How Matt Cassel became the only Quarterback to start in the NFL without ever starting in College PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Cain: Matt Cassel in a Sports Illustrated article talks about wearing a helmet on the sidelines, hearing the play being called, calling the play out loud on the sideline as if he was in the huddle. Then guys giving him a hard time and making fun of him, but no one is making fun of him when he is the only guy ever in the history of the game who didn’t start a game in college and started in the NFL. Why? Because Matt Cassel knew the value of preparation. February 22nd - George Washington’s birthday, the first President of the United States of America. See George Washington knew something about preparation. George Washington once said that if he had an hour to cut down a tree he would spend 50 minutes sharpening the axe and 10 minutes chopping the tree. Sharpening the axe for me personally is my unwavering commitment to exercise first thing when I get out of bed in the morning. Moving around first thing when I wake up whether I feel like it or not helps me increase my energy, increase my focus, and be more productive that day. I know that preparation is simply about execution of the day. Great days lead to great weeks lead to great months lead to great years lead to a great career. George Washington talked about spending 50 minutes sharpening the axe and 10 minutes in execution. You see that separation is in preparation that Seattle Seahawks quarterback, one of the best guys in the NFL, Russell Wilson, always talks about. That separation is in preparation. Let’s look at football for a minute. You see the NFL is going to play the majority of their games on Sunday - let’s say they take Monday off. They’re going to prepare Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. Five days for execution on Sunday. Maybe George Washington was talking about the NFL. Maybe he was talking about five days of preparation and one day of execution. What George Washington probably didn’t know was the world of Mixed Martial Arts fighting. Having had the chance to work with six guys that have worn the UFC Gold around their waist I can tell you that a UFC fighter when he has an event is going to prepare anywhere 6-8 weeks in a camp - disciplined, detailed, quality decisions. He’s not making sacrifices. A great champion like yourself, you don’t make sacrifices you make decisions to be great. That UFC fighter is going to make great decisions 6 weeks, 8 weeks, for a 15 or 25 minute fight - 15 minute fight if it’s nontitle fight, 25 minute fight if it’s a main event or a title fight. What these UFC fighters know and what I want you to know about preparation is a term that we don’t often hear that much but it’s very simple - it’s called “reverse engineering.” What is reverse engineering? Reverse engineering is basically, as Stephen Covey would say in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, it’s begin with the end in mind. For one fighter I worked with we would take eight weeks from the time of his fight and we would work backwards to the state of camp. In that eight week window we would basically map out each of his 168 hours each week and when he was going to do wrestling, boxing, kickboxing, Muay Thai, sprint work, weight work, cardio, massage, chiropractor, interviews, other media, public appearances, sleep, eat, social time, see his family, and map all of that stuff out so that nothing was left to chance. Remember, separation is in preparation and what does it mean to prepare at a high level? It means you map out a game plan and then execute your game plan. All reverse engineering is simply beginning with the end in mind and then working backwards. Let me share a story with you here about an athlete in a baseball program that reverse engineered and won a game that was one of the most intense environments that I’ve ever been in. It was a game between TCU baseball and Sam Houston State. The game happened on May 31, 2014. It was the 2014 NCAA Fort Worth Regional where the number nine seed, TCU, was the visiting team and number 25, Sam Houston State, was the home team. In a game that was the second longest game in NCAA history the game went 22 innings with TCU winning 3-2. There was a pitcher at TCU by the name of Brian Howard. Brian Howard that year, 2014, was in his freshman season. On that night Brian Howard came out of the bullpen. He came in in the 16th inning and pitched the 16th until the 20th so every inning was a pressure situation - probably the most pressure packed situation you can imagine being in. Brian Howard pitched the 16th through the 20th inning. That entire year he had thrown five innings up till that point and that night he goes out and throws four, almost half of what he had thrown the entire season. When asked about how he was able to stay prepared and how he could handle that much pressure in that situation I remember head coach Jim Schlossnagle (I was actually in the dugout with the Frogs for that game) coming back in the dugout and it was almost like he had the look on his face of “we’re giving this guy the ball, he’s got nine innings all year.” In the 16th inning when he went out to the mound Howard just said “I got this coach” with all the confidence and huge body language and the demeanor of a guy who had thrown 90 innings not nine. But see, Brian Howard had really thrown more than nine innings because the TCU baseball pitching coach - a guy by the name of Kirk Saarloos who had thrown a no-hitter in the major leagues. He was an All-American and goes down as one of the greatest pitchers in college baseball history from Cal State Fullerton. Kirk Saarloos is a master of the mental game. One of the things that the TCU Hornfrog pitchers do is every day in the bullpen they do what they call “shadow bullpens.” They throw an inning with no ball working on five things - working on their body language, their breath and their routine, their release, if they get a red light, their tempo and their visualization of that pitch. So even though Brian Howard had physically only thrown nine innings, mentally he had thrown maybe 90 so when he got out there in the game he could take the ball from Coach Schlossnagle with total confidence and say “Coach I got this.” His line that day? Four innings pitched, one hit, two walks, six strikeouts. Brian Howard, you could say, was the unsung hero of that game. There were so many guys that played a huge role in that game but no one had a bigger role than Brian Howard that day. Separation is in preparation. Drew Brees, the great quarterback of the New Orleans Saints, talks a lot about mental reps. If he is playing in a game where maybe he is injured and he is not playing that game, they showed it on Fox Sports, a game against the Carolina Panthers during the 2015 season I think it was Week 3 or 4 where Drew Brees was on the sideline with a little headset in listening to the play call, clapping his hands on the sideline as the huddle was being broken on the field and immediately looking into the secondary to see what his keys would be as if we was actually in the game playing the game out in his mind. Matt Cassel, a quarterback who never started a game in college, he was a University of Southern California Trojan, he backed up two Heisman Trophy winners in Carson Palmer and Matt Leinart. Matt Cassel then went on to be a starter in the NFL. Matt Cassel in a Sports Illustrated article talks about wearing a helmet on the sidelines, hearing the play being called, calling the play out loud on the sideline as if he was in the huddle. Then guys giving him a hard time and making fun of him, but no one is making fun of him when he is the only guy ever in the history of the game who didn’t start a game in college and started in the NFL. Why? Because Matt Cassel knew the value of preparation. So your opportunity is going to come. When it does and the bell rings will you answer it? Will you be prepared? A mistake that I see a lot of people make is that they wait until their opportunity is on the calendar for them to prepare, for the young student athlete or the coach who is an assistant coach they wait to develop their leadership skills until their leadership is needed because they are a head coach or because they are a senior or a captain on the team. Leadership and mental toughness, those are things that you want to be developing all the time because they’re always needed. There is going to come a time when the bell rings and when that bell rings are you going to be ready? When that bell rings are you going to be prepared? Remember if you’ve got one hour to cut down a tree let’s take the advice of our first President of the United States and spend 50 minutes sharpening your axe, making yourself better, and then 10 minutes in execution. Dominate the Day.


    BC 121. Geno Pierce - Peak Performance Course Feb 15, 2017
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    Brian is joined by one of the TOP strength and conditioning coaches and founder of The Performance Course, Geno Pierce. The Performance Course's mission is to enhance athletic performance and build strength of character in individuals and teams while preparing them for success in life... Learn about... The core principles of The Performance Course and how Geno came up with them. Characteristics that it takes to be the best in any field. Geno gives insight into the traits he's seen among the best coaches. The #1 Seed of Success he would plant in all young athletes mind.


    BC 120. 9 Tips for Mastering and Managing Your Time Feb 08, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian goes solo to give you 9 Tips for Mastering and Managing Your Time. He gives you tangible action steps to help you maximize your time on a day-to-day basis. You will learn about... A "Not-To-Do" List and examples Brian puts on his list How to clear to neutral The importance of scheduling out your weeks A 4 Step System for leaving a voicemail Tracking your E:E ratio PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Cain: I’ve got bigger goals and things that I want to do so I want to take my limited free time that I have and not put it into watching other people that I don’t have any personal connection with. I want to put it into educating myself so maybe I would be valuable enough to have a personal connection with those people who are playing so that I can serve them. Now this is not for everybody but neither is success. I want to share with you 9 Tips for Mastering and Managing Your Time. This is straight out of Pillar #3 Time Is Ticking - and I know that you’ve been following the journey of Coach Kenny and Matthew Simons through the 12 Pillars of Peak Performance. When we start talking about time why is time one of the 12 Pillars? It’s because it’s the only factor that is the same for everybody. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the NBA or you’re playing JV high school basketball, guess what? You’ve got 168 hours in a week, 86,400 seconds in a day, 1,440 minutes in a day, and how you use your time is ultimately going to determine where you end up. The 9 Tips for Mastering and Managing Your Time - I want to share with you some of those tips so that you can get some simple takeaways from this podcast that you can start implementing immediately. One of which is understanding what I call the “not to do list.” At a certain point in your life (the younger you are) you probably have a to do list where the to do list is these are the things that I need to do to give me the best chance for success. Well if you’re a coach or athletic director listening to this there obviously comes a certain point in your career where the not to do list probably becomes more important than the to do list, because the things that you do, are they the best use of your time? The one factor you can’t get back is you can’t get back time. It’s the only thing that is the same for everybody. You’ve got to have a not to do list. For example “I will not do yard work at my house, I will not make food,” those are two things that I could do but I don’t like to do, I’m not good at them, and I simply would rather hire someone else to help me with those or go buy premade meals and hire someone to do the yard. For the 90 minutes or so that it takes me to do the yard I’d rather take those 90 minutes and invest them into time with my wife, invest them into doing a podcast like this to impact people like yourself, or invest them into doing one-on-one coaching. I have found a way to take a skill set that I have (in coaching) and instead of doing something I don’t like to do (yard work) I would invest that time into a way where I can make the same amount of money that it’s going to cost me to pay someone to do my yard, I can make that doing something I love. Why would I not do that? Some people like doing their yard work so that may not be something that you put on your not to do list. Something you may out on your not to do list is laundry. Well they have these companies now that come and I got one on my front door the other day. They dropped off a bag on the front porch and if you want to put laundry in there you put it back outside. It’s like every Tuesday and Friday they pick up the bag, they leave you a new one, and they bring your laundry back to you in three days. So if that is something that is for you then it’s for you. You’ve got to understand the not to do list. Other things I have put on my not to do list are “do not check email before you exercise.” You know how it is in the morning. You wake up with this grand vision of you’re going to go, you’re going to get moving, you’re going to start to sweat, you’re going to get yourself going in the morning but as soon as you open that inbox (AKA Pandora’s box) now your life revolves around everyone else’s agenda. So that is something I am not going to do. Another thing on my not to do list is “don’t text and drive.” Do you realize that as many people were killed from texting and driving nowadays as there are from drunk driving? Why would you text and drive? If you think about it if you send one three sentence text message you’ve basically driven around the entire bases of a baseball field without looking at the road. People do it all the time and people get away with it but that doesn’t make it right and that doesn’t make it that it should be part of your routine. You’ve got to have that understanding of what’s on your not to do list. Other pieces that go into this Time Is Ticking and Tips for Managing Your Life is just simply having a SYSTEM. What is your SYSTEM? SYSTEM is an acronym for “save yourself stress, time, effort, and motivation.” A SYSTEM of what I like to call “clearing to neutral.” Before you go into a week - when I was a high school teacher and athletic director I’d already take Sunday. Sunday would be my clear to neutral day where I would actually do laundry. I’d set up my meals for the week and I would make sure the house was clean and organized and my desk at the office was organized and my home was organized and I had everything laid out for the week so I would just go in and I would rock and roll. At the time I didn’t have 168 hour week plan but if I did I would have been that much more effective. So having Sunday apart now where my clear to neutral is clean out all emails, all text messages, all voicemails, all social media, have all my clothes folded and put away, no clothes in my laundry, have my bags packed for the week, have my meals set up for the week, have my 168 done. Boom. That is my clear to neutral. My 168 is there are 168 hours in a week. So on Sunday I’ll sit down and map out where all my time is going to go during the week. That way I can sit and I can say “okay this is what is going to set me up to have a successful week but let me just go make sure I have a successful day.” If I have a successful day by implanting my 168 plan then that leads to a successful week which leads to a successful month which leads to a successful quarter which leads to a successful year. I can say with complete conviction that since I started to map out my 168 I’ve gotten more done in less time, I’ve had more free time, I’ve been able to work out more, and I’ve had more time with my wife because I know where my time is going. I know that if there is that time where I’ve got to catch an early - like tomorrow I’ve got to get on a 5:00 AM flight so I know that tonight I’ve got to try and get in the rack by 8:30-9:00 so that I can get enough sleep so when I get up at 3:30 to catch a 5:00 AM flight I’m going to be juiced. I’m going to be ready to go. I’m not going to be going to bed at midnight and waking up and then setting myself behind. Mapping out that 168, having the not to do list, having a SYSTEM is going to be important. Let me share another one with you. Voicemail. Nowadays most phone calls are going through on cell phones but I know for a lot of people in the educational sector that are listening to this (coaches) they have office phones and you get this voicemail: “Hey Brian, it’s Matt, give me a call back.” Now that would be like somebody sending you an email and going “hey Brian it’s Matt email me back.” That is just pointless. It’s a waste of time. It’s inefficient. Here is a four step system for leaving a voicemail. Step #1 is state who you are first name and last name. Step #2 is who are you calling. Step #3 is timestamp with contact information, phone number. Step #4 is move the conversation forward. That is the one that gets missed the most. Again Step #1, who you’re calling; Step #2, who you are; Step #3 timestamp and contact info; Step #4 move the conversation forward. So it looks like this. Let’s say I’m calling my friend Matt Morse. I’d say “hey Matt Morse, Brian Cain here. It is December 25th (Merry Christmas). It’s noon. I hope you’re doing fantastic. My phone number is 555-555-5555 and I’m calling to see if you wanted to go over and get a workout in tomorrow at 9:00-10:30 over at Lifetime Fitness in Southlake, Texas to see if you wanted to go get after it. Give me a text message back or give me an email back or leave me a voicemail and let me know if you want to do it. I’ll see you over there. 9:00, Lifetime at Southlake. Merry Christmas. Dominate your Day. See you.” So what did I do? I said who I’m calling, I said who I am, I left my phone number and the time I called, and I left him know what I wanted to move the conversation forward. For the athletes listening to this who are in the cell phone generation you can say “I see when the guy called, I see what is name is,” but there is going to come a time where you have an office phone because you are working in corporate America (or whatever it is) and you’re going to get that voicemail and it’s going to drive you nuts because you won’t be able to get back to the person because they didn’t leave you the right phone number or you don’t know which person it is - because you are going to know more than one Matt - and then they’re going to get after you and say “hey man you never called me back” when you couldn’t because they didn’t know how to leave a damn voicemail. Make sure you know the four steps of how to leave a voicemail. The last thing I want to share with you here is what we call NET time and your E2E ratio. NET time is if you’re listening to this podcast in your car you know exactly what NET time is - no extra time. We want to be savages of our time. We want to know where our time is going and maximize our time. When you’re driving in the car - enrolling in what we call Automobile University (which we’re going to talk more about on another podcast) - is listening to audiobooks, listening to podcasts, listening to Philosopher’s Notes or breaking down educational material. NET time is no extra time which ties right into your E2E ratio. The limited free time that you have does it go into education or does it go into entertainment. For most people it goes into entertainment and you were probably that person listening to Mike & Mike in the Morning or listening to something in your car, sports talk radio. Here is my question for you, why do you care about people talking about other people’s lives and other people talking about professional sports? Maybe you’re a professional sports agent. Maybe you’re a bookie. Maybe you’re somebody who has a son that is playing in professional sports. Start investing in yourself and stop wasting time listening to professional sports. I work in pro sports. I can’t stand watching it on TV unless I have a personal connection to somebody who is in there. I feel like I’m dying. The reason I say that is because I’ve got bigger goals and things that I want to d7o so I want to take my limited free time that I have and not put it into watching other people that I don’t have any personal connection with. I want to put it into educating myself so maybe I would be valuable enough to have a personal connection with those people who are playing so that I can serve them. Does that make sense? Your E2E ratio. Your entertainment towards you education. Now this is not for everybody but neither is success. It’s simple. Look at the free time you have. Does it go into watching TV or does it go into working on you. Does it go into watching other people live their lives or working to better improve your life? That is the E2E ratio and that directly ties in with NET time - no extra time. I hear it all the time. People go “I can’t workout I don’t have a gym membership.” Dude, you have a body and you have a floor. Pushups, burpees, squats, whatever it is. You don’t need much. Grab a garbage can and go until you puke - thank you Leif Babin, author of Extreme Ownership. Just make it happen. I’m being somewhat sarcastic there about making yourself go till you puke, but just get moving. And guess what the best part about NET time is? Grab a headset, grab an audiobook, grab this podcast and listen to this podcast as you go for a walk and then a jog and then a light run and then a run. Next thing you know you’re educating yourself with one of my favorite routines, what I call the “learn and burn.” I learn as I burn calories and as I get going and get moving in the morning. But guess what? Time is ticking and there is one thing you can’t get more of and that’s time. So let’s start maximizing your education ratio, minimizing your entertainment ratio. Don’t eliminate it completely because you do need some entertainment in life, but maximize your education and get on NET time and Dominate the Day.


    BC 119. Jamie Yaman - Strategies For Success From The Nation's Top Real Estate Agent Feb 01, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian talks with former UMass Lacrosse player Jamie Yaman as he shares fascinating stories from his career as well as how playing collegiate Lacrosse was the perfect preparation for a successful career in Real Estate. You will learn about... The parallels of College Lacrosse and Real Estate A great story Jamie tells about one of his first interactions with his coach that taught him a lesson on mental toughness Jamie's morning routine and why it sets him up for success each day A unique breathing and visualization exercise Jamie uses Jamie's answer to "The Million Dollar Question" PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Yaman: If you get the opportunity to play or to coach in that type of setting right now I’m not quite sure that there is anything greater especially for a young man and young women to be developing not only their athletic skills but most importantly their life skills. Cain: Hey how are you doing? Brian Cain your Peak Performance Coach here with the Peak Performance Podcast. Today’s guest, Jamie Yaman, was a standout lacrosse player at the University of Massachusetts Amherst and led the Minutemen to the NCAA playoffs in three of the four years that he was on the team. They made the quarterfinals twice and in 2006 competed in the NCAA National Championship game. During his tenure with UMass Jamie was awarded the 2004 UMass Lacrosse Hammer Award and the 2006 UMass Lacrosse Goose Garber Award, signifying the most unselfish player with the best attitude on the team who demonstrated the qualities of their late coach Dick Garber. Jamie graduated from UMass with a BA in Real Estate Management and Development, emerging as a motivational leader with unrivaled capabilities as a team player. In this podcast Jamie shares the mindset, the personal development strategies that he uses to become one of the most successful real estate agents in the nation leading Yaman Real Estate, Central New York’s premier real estate agency. To learn more please contact Jamie at JDYaman@Yaman.com. Please welcome to the podcast Jamie Yaman. Jamie, thank you for joining us. Yaman: Brian, it’s an absolute pleasure. Great introduction by the way. It might be hard to live up to that. Cain: No man you’re going to crush it. I’m fired up to have you on here. Would you first kind of give us a little bit of your transition from UMass, you’re crushing it on the lacrosse field and now you’re crushing it in the real estate agent world, in the real estate world. What are some of the parallels that you see from plying in collegiate athletics - as the people that are going to be listening to the podcast, Jamie, are going to be mostly coaches and athletes. What are some of the parallels that you learned in lacrosse that are also making you successful here in the real estate world? Yaman: Well, Brian, first of all I just want to thank you for having me on your podcast. It’s a real honor to be able to speak to your audience, be able to speak to you. I really admire what you’re doing in the world and making a big difference. So regarding the transition, I’ve always looked at athletics as a metaphor for life. Of course your athletes and your coaches can probably attest to the same thing. I remember one time when I was in my senior year we were looking down the Garber Field - we were playing at UMass - I think it was January 20th. I remember this day very vividly. I was looking down the line. We were doing our last sprint my senior year for the winter training and I was about ready to puke. The other guys were barely able to stay up on their two feet. I think the temperature was about 20 degrees. Part of my just started to get so damn excited about what it was that I was doing and that really caught me off guard. I went back to my locker room after that and just asked “what the hell was that all about?” I realized that when I was looking down that line this was not something that any normal person would really enjoy doing. No one would I want to be out there in 20 degrees running their ass off, sweating, getting ready to puke, and then all of a sudden have this incredible passion for what it was that you were doing out there with 40 guys coming through. So applying that principle to the business world there are going to be a lot of things in life in general that you are not going to want to do. Having the experience that I had playing at UMass going through all the athletic experiences that I had and really applying them to the real world gave me this sense of being able to push through anything that came to me that might have been uncomfortable. It just gave me a sense of an experience I could turn back to and know that if I can get through this I can get through anything. Cain: Jamie, that’s awesome. You can be as colorful and animated and real as you want on the podcast for sure. So you have this experience in college lacrosse. You played for a good friend of mine and friend of yours - Andy Shay - who is now the head lacrosse coach at Yale, one of the most successful in the country. Andy will be a guest on the podcast as well here. What are some of the things that you learned from your college assistant coach at the time that have kind of stuck with you? Yaman: Andy recruited me to go to Yale from our hometown which we both lived in. Obviously Andy is a lot older than I am. The first experience that I had with Andy at UMass it was raining and we were just starting Fall ball and I came in and I came in to the coach’s office - and Andy was there - and I said “hey coach if it keeps” - and I was excited. It was raining so I’m like “hey coach if it keeps raining maybe we can practice indoors.” And he looked at me and all of a sudden I could tell in his eyes this was not the guy that first recruited me. The guy who first recruited me was this super warm, super fun, loving guy, he really wanted to build rapport. And he looked at me like I was fucking crazy. He said “you know, Yaman, it’s pussies like you that have made this program what it hasn’t been yet.” I was like holy shit! He goes “we’re going to be fucking outdoors today and we’re going to be outdoors every other day.” That was what he said to me in that moment. I went back to the locker room with my tail between my legs. That was the moment that I realized what real warrior training was going to be like. At UMass it was a real blue collar program. As I mentioned there would be times where we were out in the field and he was shoveling off the lines (where there were six inches of snow on top of it) so that we could see what the boundaries were. The entire time he was looking down our schedule throughout the course of the year saying Syracuse, Johns Hopkins, Maryland, North Carolina, all these guys - Syracuse guys practicing in the dome, North Carolina practicing in their field house, Johns Hopkins practicing in their field house. We didn’t have a field house. We had Garber Field and we practiced on that all year round. So with Andy it was that moment that was really one of those defining moments in your life where I could have easily just said “this guy is fucking nuts and this is not the program I signed up for and I want to just go to college and have a good time and party and play lacrosse on the side and do school even more on the side.” But that was a real wakeup call and that is what Andy’s all about. Cain: Andy is real. I think that you probably from that moment forward probably grew a lot in terms of your mental toughness and your ability to handle adversity because that is a lot of what lacrosse is is adversity that you’ve got to overcome, you’ve got to get comfortable being uncomfortable, and I’m sure that’s translated well for you to the real estate world. Yaman: Oh completely. And how to go through that process with a bunch of guys as well. At any given time you are going to be wavering in your own commitment and you’re going to be wavering in your own determination. You’re going to be wavering in your sense of “can I do this or not.” There are going to be 40 guys next to you who are all in varying degrees of them wavering or not wavering as well. So going through that process and being able to rely on your brothers and that sense of camaraderie-- In fact I just got off the phone earlier today with a guy over in Germany that I really have developed a close relationship with, a good buddy of mine. We’ve done a bunch of weekend retreats together, men’s weekend retreats, and we’ve talked about that sense of camaraderie. I told him I haven’t felt that sense of camaraderie that we’re now creating with our own group of men as much as I have - the last time I felt it was well over a decade ago when I was playing at UMass. So that time, that four years, if you get the opportunity to play or to coach in that type of setting right now I’m not quite sure that there is anything greater especially for a young man and young women to be developing not only their athletic skills but most importantly their life skills. Cain: Jamie, talk a little bit about mindset whether it’s on the lacrosse field or in real estate - you run personal development seminars. I want to kind of transition this podcast now to your mindset and some of the things that you do in your life for personal development that the listeners to this podcast could start doing in their life to help them continue to grow. We’re always talking about you’re either growing or you’re dying and the key to being more successful than you are today is to continue to grow. You’re either going to go through the motions in life or you’re going to grow through the motions in life. What are some things that you do to grow and to help build your mindset? Yaman: There are a lot of things. I’ll talk about some of the foundation of what I do. I believe in discipline, what you’re setting yourself up to do every single day. For me when I wake up in the morning - and I like really tangible things. I can give you “do this” or “do that” but if I’m not doing it I could just be a talking head and that is not what I want to be for you and for your listeners. I’ll tell you what I do and I actually get the results from. In the morning I like to wake up real early (I’d say around 5:00-530). I have found over the past decade that meditation is a way for me to just kind of get centered into my body, kind of open up to the universe, open up to god, open up to love, whatever your belief is. So I typically sit for 30 minutes, have a hot glass of lemon water in the morning. I try to get my body as aligned as possible not only in the morning but throughout the entire course of the day. So I’m very careful what I eat, I’m very careful what I put in my body - very little alcohol and no caffeine. Not because I’m on this strict diet, it just doesn’t make me feel good. I tried to get into coffee, I tried to get into sports drinks that amp you up, but honestly my body speaks to me otherwise. My body says “this is bullshit” and typically ends up shutting down. So getting back to the morning routine. Having a hot glass of lemon water, and the first thing that I do is I just sit down. I’ve got a nice little meditation space for me in my house and I sit for 30 minutes. Right now I’m getting into Zen meditation. I got actually a UMass buddy out in California - Craig French - who is starting a company called Cricket Jaw and he has been getting into Zen meditation for a while. I’ve always done my own type of meditation but he is getting me into this type. Then after I sit for about 30 minutes and just kind of collect myself, center my breath, I start doing some Tai Chi. I’ve got a guy out of New York City who puts out some great DVDs. His name is Robert Peng. He releases some kind of at-home tai chi practices that has been something I have been doing ever since I went to India about 12 years ago. So Tai Chi has always been a part of my practice. After that I do some stretches. That whole process takes anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour. I walk my dog in the morning. Then I typically go and work out. In my office I come in and I spend most of my time in my real estate office. I have a standing desk. I do my trampoline. I’ve got a little - I forget what it’s called but it’s just a little home trampoline. I’m always trying to keep my state in a resourceful state. Brian, before the podcast you and I were talking about Tony Robbins. I’ve gone to a lot of Tony’s events. I’ve been a part of his leadership team and I’ve gotten really into that world so I’ve known the real importance of state management. I could be doing all my stuff in the morning but if I’m not maintaining that throughout the entire course of the day I become less resourceful, my work becomes less productive, my relationships suffer, my company suffers - everything just kind of collapses if my body collapses, if my mind collapses, if my emotions collapse. So it’s really finding ways to keep myself as expanded as possible. I mean that spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally expanded as I can possibly be. For me I’ve also been really focusing a lot on my breath. Everything is going to follow your breath - how successful you are in anything you do, your emotional state, psychological state, your spiritual state, your relationship state. If you have a shortness of breath, if you’re not breathing deep into your balls, Brian if you can imagine - and for women I don’t know. I can only speak to a man’s experience. But, women, you know a lot of men. You could probably help them do this. It helps them be a lot more present for you ladies which is I’m sure what you are ultimately looking for in your men. If you can imagine a big cylinder from your throat down to your balls and just imagine it goes all the way up to your throat, all the way down to the bottom of your balls. Now imagine that it’s starting to expand, it’s starting to widen, and it’s starting to lengthen. So it’s starting to widen out and lengthen up. While you’re imagining this begin to picture yourself breathing at the bottom end of this cylinder all the way down at the bottom of your balls. If you can focus on three spaces (your throat, your heart, and your balls) each breath you’re noticing that the cylinder is expanding and that these three areas are softening and expanding. Your throat softening, expanding. Your heart softening, expanding. Your balls softening and growing. I would say probably a couple dozen times throughout the course of the day if I feel that I’m starting to get up and out of my body, up and out of my mind, up and out of my emotions and I’m not grounded, this is a great way to exercise. I’ll just sit no matter where I am. I can even be in a meeting. I’ll just start imagining this cylinder within myself expanding. I’m just more present of where my body is in that space, more present where my body is in the room. That’s a great tool just to bring yourself back into that moment, ultimately bringing your power back into that moment. Cain: That is outstanding. I love that. That’s beautiful. Let’s continue down the path (if you would) talking about meditation. It’s something that the guests on our podcast mention. You’re doing a great job of actually giving us a strategy for meditation from your throat down through your heart to your balls. You talk about Zen meditation. What is the difference between Zen meditation and say where you’re just sitting and counting your breath? Some of the simple meditations we’ve shared through the podcast or in seminars would be like using the app Headspace is something that people can use to get started or using the app Calm. Do you use those apps? What’s the difference between that and Zen meditation? Yaman: I use an app by a buddy of mine called Grounded Mind. I think it’s www.GroundedMind.com. That is great. Those are more guided meditations. I’m working with a coach right now who we’re kind of holding ourselves accountable to 30 minutes of meditation every day. I was at on…

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    BC 118. Tim Corbin - Coaching The Mental Game Jan 25, 2017
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    In this episode, Brian goes back to an interview from 2006 with one of the best college coaches in the country, Head Coach of the Vanderbilt Commodores Baseball team, Tim Corbin. Tim has been the Head Coach at Vanderbilt since 2003 and won a National Championship in 2014 You will learn about... Corbin's biggest takeaway from the time his team spent with Brian The routines Corbin's hitters and pitchers go through The common terminology that has been established throughout the program and why that is important How to handle the emotions of a game and season Faking your feelings to generate positivity among your team.


    BC 117. Eric Byrnes - A Major League Mindset Jan 18, 2017
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    Brian talks with former Major League Baseball player and Peak Performer Eric Byrnes, the day before they both compete in IronMan Arizona. Byrnes recently came out with a Documentary on his journey from a Major League field, to 8 IronMan competitions as well as The Western States 100. Watch Eric's Diamond To The Rough Documentary Follow Byrnes on Twitter @byrnes22 Follow Byrnes on Instagram ebyrnes22 You will learn about... What drove Byrne's to professional baseball and a career in sports broadcasting Byrnes' unique path to professional baseball Byrnes' thoughts on the Mental Game and exactly what it means to him The similarities of playing in a Major League Baseball game and competing in an IronMan Byrnes' thoughts on success and what it is to him PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Byrnes: It’s not about the reward. The reward is a process. Once you understand that the reward, the money, the belt buckles, the metals, everything comes easier. Cain: Welcome to another edition of the Brian Cain Peak Performance Podcast. Today our guest, Eric Byrnes, was one of the most electrifying players of his time in Major League Baseball. His all out all the time approach made him a fan favorite and a player whose hustle, drive, effort, and energy was emulated by high school and college players and programs all over the country. A 2013 inductee to the UCLA Hall of Fame, Byrnes always brings the juice. [Bring the juice!] Cain: Whether it’s playing in the outfield for the Diamondbacks, A’s, Orioles, Rockies, or Mariners, working as an analyst for Major League Baseball Network, or in his endurance race career having completed eight Iron Man triathlons - it will be his ninth in two days from now - and the Western States 100 Mile Mountain Race. Be on the lookout for a documentary about his journey into the world of extreme races called From the Diamond to the Rough which follows him through the Western States 100. You can learn more about Eric at www.Byrnes22.com and on Twitter at @Byrnes22. Please welcome to the Peak Performance Podcast Eric Byrnes. Eric, thanks for joining us man. Byrnes: I need some more Brian Cain in my life. Can I get that intro every morning when I wake up out of bed and just get ready to charge? Cain: We’ll create that as an alarm that you can play. Right now mine pops up and says “where is the beef jerky” as a tribute to Jocko Willard. But we can get that to pop up and play for you. Eric, if you would, give us kind of your journey from St. Francis High School in northern California to where you are today now. Byrnes: Well it’s pretty simple. Basically I grew up in Portola Valley which is a small town in northern California which is I’d say probably more known for a lot of the pioneers of the silicon valley either grew up there or at least settled there in the Portola Valley Woodside area. So baseball or even sports in general wasn’t very popular. But I had this dream and vision of (when I was a kid) doing two things. One of them was playing professional sports and the other one was talking about professional sports. I used to sit around with my buddies and we would just debate whatever - football, baseball, basketball, tennis, this and that, whatever it was we were so passionate about it and we just let it eat. We fed off of sports talk radio. That was something to us. KNBR 680, the sports leader, was it for us. To make a long story longer here I ended up going to St. Francis which was kind of a leap of faith for me because kids from my area there weren’t a lot that went to St. Francis which was known back then as the premier sports school really in the Bay Area. They had De La Salle across the bay. You had Serra which was where Barry Bonds went, Jim Fregosi, Lynn Swann, Tom Brady. And then Bellarmine was also a good one. But St. Francis arguably was the best of the best when it kind of came to all around sports. So I ended up going there and playing football my freshman year. At the time - think about this, you’re a freshman in high school. I don’t even think I had gone through puberty yet. I’m just trying to kind of make my way. I’m in a school with I think there was one other kid from my grade school that went there. All these other guys played Pop Warner, they were all friends and whatnot. It was really kind of a lonely place and I was just kind of trying to find my way. Athletically I have never seen anything like it in my life. Everybody were good athletes. So after football season it was time to make a decision whether or not I was going to play basketball. I realized that if I have any chance of being good here for the first time in my life I’m like I need to focus, narrow my focus a little bit. The decision I made (because basketball ran well into baseball season) was hey look I’m not going to play hoops - which my claim to fame (and still is today) probably my greatest athletic feat was scoring 56 points in an eighth grade basketball game. Not kidding you. I worked with Tom Tolbert at KNBR 680 who played in the NBA for like 7-8 years. I always would give Tolbert crap because he had never scored 56 in a game. But anyway I ended up going. I went to the tryouts. Think about this. I told this story at St. Francis the other night when I went back and showed the documentary Diamond to the Rough. There were 50 kids - 50 - going out for a baseball team for 15 spots. Think about that. Cain: This is a freshman. Byrnes: This is high school freshman baseball. There are 50 kids. You know what our tryouts were? Play catch for five minutes. When you get them playing catch we’re going to take half of you and we’re going to put you in the outfield. You are going to catch I think it was maybe 1-2 fly balls, then we are going to put you in the infield, maybe it was 4-5 grounders, and that was it. Backed up with a pitching machine that was spitting balls out in every which direction and you get five swings. Then after that it was like okay. I went in the outfield. I think I clanked one of the balls I was supposed to catch. I go in the infield, beat at a ball or two. I was just so nervous. Then I get to take a couple swings off the pitching machine, foul a c couple off, swing and miss, pop a ball up, pop another one up. “Alright Eric thanks for coming to and we’ll see you, the results will be posted tomorrow in the gym.” So I went to the gym the next day and I just knew I didn’t make it. There is no way. How could I have possibly made the team? I told my mom. I said “look I’m almost positive that I’m going to get cut from this team, I can’t take this, I want to go to Woodside High School, I’m transferring.” It was just too much for me. It was too overwhelming. The competition was too good and the opportunity was too scarce. A lot of life is having opportunity and if you don’t have the opportunity to prove yourself … So I went through the next day and posted on the outside gym wall was all the names of the guys that made it. So I’m looking kind of huddled around. I’m looking from a distance. It’s like “Ryan, Brendan, Bryan, Matt,” all the way down to the bottom. Fifteen names. “Chris” was the last name. No “Eric.” I said “it’s cool, I prepared myself for this, I’m going to Woodside High School no problem.” But guess what? I’m going to look at every one of these 15 guys and I’m going to mark them and I’m going to go out and prove that there is not one of these guys that was a better baseball player than I am. I went back to look at the names, scan the names, make sure exactly who the guys were. I get to the last name and it was “Chris Byrnes.” B-y-r-n-e-s. I’m like “Chris Byrnes? No way there is another Byrnes here, this doesn’t make any sense.” Did he screw up the first name? Did he screw up the last name? What is going on? So I went sprinting after the freshman baseball coach as he was walking away and I’m like “Coach Ferrera, Coach Ferrera!” He turns around and goes “what can I do for you, Chris?” I go “nothing I’ll see you at practice.” That was it. That was all I needed to know. I went from thinking I was getting cut from the freshman baseball team and having to transfer schools to obviously making the team. Cain: 0:08:01 felt standard. Byrnes: And my career kind of took off from there. Cain: Wow. How about that. So you go from making it as Chris Byrnes and seeing the freshman team then you end up getting drafted out of high school - so you obviously had a good career at St. Francis - and then made the decision to not sign pro with the L.A. Dodgers but go on to UCLA. A lot of players that are listening to this or parents or coaches that are listening to this there is always that debate of if you’re a high school kid do you sign and go and start your pro baseball career and get those extra three years of minor league baseball under your belt or do you go to college? Depending on who you talk to you are going to get a different answer - sometimes it’s a dollar figure amount, other times it’s a life experience amount, an education reason. Why did you choose to go to UCLA instead of signing pro baseball straight out of St. Francis High School? Byrnes: I think it’s pretty simple. First of all for people listening to this - and I imagine that a lot of the people that are actually listening are young guys that are trying to find a way. I can’t tell you how important the mental side of baseball is and what that did for me. I just think that my parents instilled in me at a very young age what the most important thing in the world was family first and then education. I knew I had a dream of wanting to play professional sports but I also knew that there was going to be a time and place for it. My belief in myself and my confidence in myself - this was sort of where the mental game kind of really comes in is that you’ve got to be willing to walk. You’ve got to have this ultimate belief in yourself that this is not going to be - when I was a 38th round draft pick out of high school, a 38th round draft pick? I should have been a first round draft pick. Then I got drafted again in the fourth round by the Houston Astros after my junior year where a lot of people would sign. I met with the scouting director of the Houston Astros at the time and he had come back to Cape Cod to watch me play for a week. After the week he was like “hey Eric I’d like to take you to breakfast” and we’re trying to negotiate a contract. The average of the round back then was like $150,000. So they had made an original offer of $90,000 which is nowhere even near the average of the round. Their excuse was that they had given too much of the money to Lance Berkman who they had drafted in the first round. Great choice and great guy to give a lot of money to, right? But apparently it affected their second, third, and fourth round draft picks. Ironically none of us ended up signing. Here was my thing. It wasn’t about the money. I knew that $90,000 - and then you pay taxes on a bonus which is like $45,000. Even if it was $150,000 and you told me I’m going to walk away with $75,000 I’ll go blow $75,000 in a weekend. That wasn’t going to change my life. I understood that. I knew that. What I wanted was an organization that believed in me, that said “hey Eric look we’re going to give you every opportunity to succeed.” That is what I needed. Sure enough I went to breakfast and it was the scouting director and one other guy. They sat there and they said “hey here is the deal, we gave all our money to Berkman, we’ve been watching you play for a week now, we think you’re a circus act in the outfield, you pull the baseball way too much, you can’t hit the ball the other way, you’re fast but you run funny and really awkward, so here is our $90,000 offer take it or leave it at this point but it goes off the table tomorrow.” I’m like wow. Cain: That is what they said? Byrnes: I said “so hold on let me get this straight, you guys are telling me that you are going to basically offer me way less than the average of the round and then on top of that--” I said “hold on guys this isn’t about the money so what do you want me to do?” I said “you want me to sign with an organization that already doesn’t believe in me for the minimal value of the round and I’m going to start with my back against the wall knowing your guys’ feelings about my game.” Where in the manual of being a scouting director when you’re trying to sign a player does it say “let’s go ridicule him and demean him and then monetarily show him we don’t have any support for him either” and think that that person would sign? “You guys can go fuck yourself.” I got up and walked out. That was it. That was the last time I ever spoke to the Houston Astros. Cain: So you go back to UCLA for your senior year and then go on and get drafted and make your way up to the big leagues. Talk a little bit about that mental game or that belief that you had in yourself. Let me slow down here I’m all jacked up. What is the mental game to you, Eric? What is the mental game of baseball? Byrnes: Confidence. Belief in yourself. It kind of goes back to the story that I just told. I don’t respond the way I did without the confidence and without the belief in myself. Even going back to my freshman year I don’t go back freshman year of high school and having that “I’ll walk, I’ll transfer schools, I need an opportunity, I need to play, I am going to be a professional baseball player.” I didn’t tell a lot of people. I told my mom. That was it. I kept it really low. I wasn’t parading around with a megaphone to all my friends. But when I was 13 years old my dad used to throw me in batting practice all the time. He knew nothing about baseball. Absolutely zero. He was a fourth degree black belt in kenpo karate. He’d take me out and we’d go to the town center of Portola Valley and just throw BP days and days and days. Just all day. Eventually when I was 13 I was like there is only so much BP he can throw me. My parents are like “hey we got you a” - they thought they were all clever but they were like “we got you a birthday present, his name is Mike.” I’m like “what do you mean his name is Mike?” “We got you a new friend for your birthday, Mike.” I’m like “what?” Iron Mike. Cain: Oh yeah. Byrnes: So down below where we lived, our house the way it was situated was kind of up on a hill, and then down below in part of the property you couldn’t really see was a batting cage with an Iron Mike machine. When I was 13 years old I cranked that thing up to 90 miles per hour, throwing as fast as it could throw. At first I had a tough time - foul balls off, foul balls off, foul balls off - and eventually *poof* I was ranking it, right? Bam, bam, bam, bam, bam! Well guess what? When I got to face - I was a sophomore in high school. I had just got called up to varsity. I didn’t start with varsity when I was a sophomore. I got called up to varsity to face Dan Serafini. Dan Serafini was a first round pick out of Serra. He threw 92 miles per hour from the left side. A nasty little sink. There were 50 scouts in the stands, maybe more. I went there to face him. Everyone else 0:15:53 sample for right? Cain: Yeah. Byrnes: And I’m like no problem *whap whap whap* three bullets off of Dan Serafini. Barely anyone else was touching him. It’s repetition. It is a skill that was developed through hard work. Even during football season - I played football through high school but even during football season before school in the morning I’d still bang 50 balls before I went to school. I got home at night, the sun is going down, dark, whatever, I’d put on a few lights we’d put up in the cage, boom, just 50 more. Didn’t overdo it. I just loved to hit. Well guess what? Guess what that created? Confidence. So when I got there against Dan Serafini as a sophomore in high school still not sure if I - I’m barely going through puberty at this point and I’m hitting bullets off of 92 mile per hour fastballs when no one else is touching him. Now you’ve got 50 sco…

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