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**The Break Up Break Down**

When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story….Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it’s even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing…especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We’ll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way.

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Latest Episodes:

S2 Ep1: When she was driving the getaway car.... - S2E1 Aug 02, 2022

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This week we're raising awareness for the Jacksonville Hubbard House: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost

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Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8

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Timestamps:

(00:00) - (01:01): Intro

(01:01) - (04:28): Discussing the season/submission

(04:28) - (05:17): How they met/the "love" story

(05:17) - (07:06): Red Flags

(07:06) - (12:43): When things took a turn for the worst

(12:43) - (15:30): Forming the plan

(15:30) - (19:12): Executing the plan

(19:12) - (23:18): How her ex fought back

(23:18) - (27:20): The unexpected aftermath

(27:20) - (33:55): Reflecting on the situation/advice/moving on

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When the Break Up went Unsolved... - Season 1 Finale Apr 19, 2022

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The darker side of dating professional athletes.... - Mini Ep. 20 Apr 14, 2022

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(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): What's it like to date multiple pro athletes and have it go TERRIBLY wrong? Abby's friend from this week's main episode hopped on a Zoom call to talk about an unfortunate break up that ended up with both of her exes on the same team (literally).FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/U9ANq5P9S58Ug2PHABREAK UP STORY FORM: https://forms.gle/b1xoCZMFLrJBcoVf6Timestamps(00:50) - Interview Begins(02:10) - How she met "Troy"(03:35) - Getting interrogated about her intentions(05:04) - His red flags(06:04) - "Was I just with him for his job?" (10:09) - "Did he put hot sauce in his condoms after?"(13:49) - "This is when I started thinking I had daddy issues."(14:24) - She meets her second pro-athlete ex (16:11) - Her ex and her other ex become teammates(17:56) - The most difficult part of the break up(s)/the aftermath(23:11) - Struggles with moving on(26:15) - The best part of a break up(27:53) - Closing announcements

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S1 Ep19: When they broke up the night before the wedding.... - Ep. 19 Apr 05, 2022

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(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS): This week's episode is about the destination wedding from hell. We're taking you through a break up from a couple that was together twelve years and called things off the night before the wedding....but the relationship didn't end there. Tune in to hear about both weddings, the double phone deception, and all the trauma in between!

SUBMIT A COUPLE/YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY: https://forms.gle/8jqNpMXKMyKJeDZc8

Timestamps

(01:00) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission

(03:50) - Interview begins/how the couple got together

(04:50) - Red flags that showed up in the beginning of the relationship

(05:27) - "That was the point he really started to spiral"

(07:09) - "We secretly got married"

(08:34) - Why she wanted to stay in this toxic relationship

(11:27) - Their destination wedding in Mexico

(15:30) -The aftermath of the destination wedding

(16:34) - The secret he'd been keeping from her for years

(18:37) - The other woman comes into the story....

(21:43) - When things started to unravel with him, her, and the other woman

(25:59) - The final straw

(27:15) - The aftermath of the divorce

(28:52) - Dating for the first time in her adult life

(30:34) - Talking to her therapist about being "Codependent" in a relationship

(32:50) - How she met her fiancee

(34:11) - The hard part about being in a healthy relationship after a toxic one

(36:48) - "When you know you know"

(40:09) - The one thing you should ask yourself before getting married

(41:51) - Advice she'd give to people listening

(42:53) - Closing Announcements

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CW: Abuse, Mental illness, Suicide, Substance Abuse

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S1 Ep18: When she felt like she had to marry him... - Ep. 18 Mar 29, 2022

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(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS) - Do you remember 'that couple' that got hitched right after high school? Everyone knows at lease one- maybe three or four if you're in the south. This episode looks into High School sweethearts with a divorce from hell. This episode covers purity culture, domestic violence, and evennnn a little witchcraft.

Submission form: https://forms.gle/hR4Q44tHb7LSH3CA6Timestamps(00:55)

Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(06:15)

Interview begins/how they met(08:12)

The first red flags start to show/purity culture(10:10)

The main reason she decided to marry him(10:44)

More red flags start to show(15:18)

The beginning of their married life(22:34)

When she started to think about breaking things off(24:52)

She decides to leave the marriage(26:00)

The day she left her husband(33:52)

The aftermath of the divorce(35:51)

Her new relationship(37:50)

Recovering from toxic purity culture(39:25)

Going from Christianity to witchcraft(41:02)

Advice for women experiencing domestic abuse(43:36)

Warning to women who are dating/in unhealthy relationships(45:31)

Closing announcements

Notable Resources: Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/National Mental Health Hotline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineSuggested Podcasts: "I'm a Survivor", "Mental Illness Happy Hour", "Mental Health Hope and Recovery",.

CW: Abuse, Self-harm, Eating disorders, Mental illness, Alcoholism

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When the break up inspired a book.... - Ep. 16 Mar 15, 2022

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(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) When your perfect boyfriend turns into your perfect fiancé, you expect him to turn into the perfect husband. Well, if you're reading this, you'll know somethings going to go wrong here. This woman's husband was involved in a deception that didn't just pull out the rug from under her, it pulled out the whole damn floor. Tune in to hear about a break up that kicked off a wild healing journey and inspired an entire book!SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY (YOURS, SOMEONE ELSES, OR ONE YOU WANT ME TO LOOK INTO): https://forms.gle/MMwGezrMHvL3D6XB6EAT PRAY FML (The Book): https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Pray-FML-Gabrielle-Stone/dp/1733963707Timestamps(01:10) - Abby explains how she found this break up(02:20) - Interview Begins/How the relationship started(06:52) - "Dating an actor isn't easy"/Problems start to show(10:28) - The problems that started once they got married(14:24) - Her ex's relationship with a 19 y/o girl(17:11) - The info that came out affair the book's success(20:22) - How she discovered he was cheating(22:44) - Why did he want to be in two relationships at once?(27:28) - The relationship she started 2 weeks after leaving her ex(30:03) - Lessons from her healing trip to Europe(33:03) - Tips for solo travel(38:53) - Tips for staying in hostels (40:55) - Advice for people going through rough heartbreaksFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)Follow Gabrielle Stone on IG (@gabriellestone) or TikTok (@gabrielle_stone)

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Dating in the Christian Church (w/ my Christian Pals) - Mini Ep. 15 Mar 10, 2022

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When he didn't practice what he preached.... - Ep. 15 Mar 08, 2022

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(Scroll for timestamps) - When the 'seemingly perfect Christian couple' breaks up out of nowhere...you gotta wonder what went wrong. I mean, one week you're picking out engagement rings and celebrating three years together...the next...you're breaking up. This episode unpacks how faith impacts relationships, religious manipulation...and do you need to be attracted to your significant other?!?! Timestamps(00:47) - Abby reads the submission(02:33) - Interview Begins(03:18) - How they met(04:59) - Why she decided to date him(05:36) - How he manipulated her with religion (07:07) - A common problem in Christian circles(09:12) - "Pray the problem away"(10:40) - Gender Role manipulation in the church(13:51) - Why she finally decided to break up with him(16:27) - The tough break up conversation(18:34) - "Love is not about feeling in love it's about being in love"(19:26) - Advice for people with persistent exes(21:37) - Advice for people in manipulative relationships(25:46) - Closing announcements/mini episode/trailerAbby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphyAbby's Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczraba

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When her friends didn't side with her.... - Ep. 14 Mar 01, 2022

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(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side.

Timestamps

(01:08) - Abby and CoWorker Justin read the submission

(02:58) - Interview Begins(03:53)

How being closeted affected their relationship(04:52)

How moving to Nashville/moving in together affected their relationship(05:37)

The demise of the relationship(07:10)

She breaks up with her GF(07:29)

"Why do I want to break up with my girlfriend?"(08:34)

The mistake that made their relationship blow up(10:11)

Her ex confronts her about her private journal entries(14:21)

Her ex confronts her and her wife at a Pride event(17:13)

The aftermath of the relationship(20:01)

Advice for people who aren't 100% sold on their relationships(22:37)

Closing announcements

SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit

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S1 Ep13: When things went wrong the second they got married.... - Ep. 13 Feb 22, 2022

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When you've been with someone for nearly a decade, you'd assume you'd know them pretty well. The last thing you expect to feel on your honeymoon is: "I've married a complete stranger." Tune in to find out why things went wrong immediately after signing their marriage certificate.-Timestamps-(01:04) - Abby and Lexi read the submission-(03:54) - Interview begins/how they met-(04:36) - When things started going wrong....-(05:57) - Why the relationship started getting rocky-(06:45) - When his behavior started looking suspicious-(09:53) - She finally confronts him-(10:59) - She finally tells her family what's going on-(12:07) - When she "ambushed" him-(14:02) - "Why did you do it?!"-(15:04) - How did friends/family react?-(16:33) - "I didn't want to get divorced...but we had to."-(19:10) - The aftermath of the relationship-(23:08) - "Why do you think he chose her over you?"-(25:25) - "Why do you think he proposed to you?"-(28:10) - "If you could ask him one thing and get the truth, what would you ask?"-(30:00) - Her advice to people in similar relationships-Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) or IG (@abbymariemurphy) and check out her Spotify Break Up Playlists here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit

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