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Scott & Melissa join from Canada. They allowed us to dig into some of the ups and downs of their journey in recovery. The hard parts including D-day, miscarriage, and feeling disconnected from God. The highlights including rebuilt trust, overcoming sexual anorexia, and Love. We had some beautiful moments filled with emotion. Thank you for sharing this with us Scott & Melissa.
We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com.
If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist"). Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on SpotifyMy guest Amy is a business owner, designer, mother and wife. She is passionate about building and growth in her life, within herself, her business, and building up those around her. She lives and works in Utah's Heber Valley with her husband and three kids. She enjoys spending time outside (especially the desert), wake surfing and boating, traveling, playing pickleball and spending time with family.
Amy has a passion for creating spaces and values the vulnerability that comes with design. Her business Styled Life Design specializes in new build construction design. She believes that your environment can reflect you, and help you to achieve your dream life.
We met in line at a conference where i was speaking. Kept in contact online. Then years later wound up rooming together at ALT summit in Palm Springs California - the rest is history I suppose. Lots of events, dance parties, walk and talks, Marco polos, more conferences, karaoke, axe throwing, double dates — you name it. We do the fun and the serious, laugh and cry. We talk therapy, kids, business, spirituality and life.
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what's possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.
She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way.
Join her on her new podcast HERE
Follow her on social media at HERE
Mentor with her at HERE
After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life.
Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life.
Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists.
Wednesdays check out "This is Ashlynn" as Ashlynn Mitchell reveals the people and process that support her in living her life to the fullest!
Each of these podcasts support you in relationships, healing from trauma, owning your sexuality, finding authenticity, and enjoying life beyond the trials.
We still believe in what we teach. If you need help you can go to? Go to HERE
Click here to move beyond betrayal HERE
Caller Question: How do I overcome residual lack of self confidence and catastrophizing after childhood bullying? I still struggle with lack of confidence and fear of what life holds after childhood bullying. I have a hard time loving myself and believing that I deserve success because I still have residual beliefs that shape my self image and identity. I would love more insight on what I can do to forge a new life and move past this."
We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com.
If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist"). Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on SpotifyLucy Mitchell, daughter to Coby shares her story about creating spike to use as a character who puts thoughts in her head that aren't hers and actions that don't represent who she really is.
Spike has four methods of trying to keep us from being our true and #authentic selves.
TEMPT US: This is when thoughts of losing #patience, lashing out, making decisions that do not reflect who we really are, and become actions that cause damage to ourselves and our #relationships.
SHAME US: Thoughts like "I'm not good #enough", or "They will never forgive me", or "I'm so stupid because of what I did." As humans, we don't come wired to think these thoughts but by living life the Spike Narrative does come and these #destructive thoughts are not us.
MOUNTAINS OUT OF MOLEHILLS: When something goes wrong and all of a sudden it's doomsday and we've lost all hope or thoughts of catastrophe flow one after another.
MINIMIZE, RATIONALIZE AND JUSTIFY: This is when lashing out becomes ok. This is when thoughts of hurting #relationships are rationalized or justified. This is when thoughts of NOT being one's self are "ok".
The best way to know these is to spend a few moments each day thinking about how these thoughts showed up.
Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time? If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.
For more info and to connect with Coby go to growwithcoby.com
My guest today is my friend Amanda. She is a mom to four kids living in Northern Utah. She's been on a journey of healing and expanding and evolving for the last 3 years. She loves to be outside in any capacity, traveling, dancing and other ridiculousness, and is learning to lean into things that scare her or make her uncomfortable. Like being on this podcast. She is not an expert but has found so much healing in mindfulness and mediation and crystals.
Amanda was in one of my groups and then won a ticket to a dance party and I invited her to my house to get ready before. It was one of the scariest things she had ever done showing up by herself that night but she will never regret it! So so happy and grateful we became friends!
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what's possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.
She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way.
Join her on her new podcast HERE
Follow her on social media at HERE
Mentor with her at HERE
After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life.
Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life.
Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists.
Wednesdays check out "This is Ashlynn" as Ashlynn Mitchell reveals the people and process that support her in living her life to the fullest!
Each of these podcasts support you in relationships, healing from trauma, owning your sexuality, finding authenticity, and enjoying life beyond the trials.
We still believe in what we teach. If you need help you can go to? Go to HERE
Click here to move beyond betrayal HERE
Caller Question: "What Does Healthy Masculinity Have To Do With Recovery?" Brannon and Tyler talk with guest Jon about his recovery and the different periods of growth that he's experienced and what the obstacles have been. Brannon and Tyler both know Jon and have had the chance to watch him develop into the man that he is today.
Join us and 29 other men at our Rising Son Men's Conference this September from the 23rd - 25th at Bear Lake. This experience is designed for Christian men seek to build a deeper connection to God, Self, and Others while experiencing Higher Level Recovery principles through immersive activities. https://risingsonconference.com
If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist"). We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com.When anxiety and then overwhelming feelings hit in a very abrupt and sudden way, Coby faces the reality of his emotions in an effort to find out what is really behind the anger he feels. He used the following steps to work through this emotional upheaval.
1. Recognized his body saying something was off by manifesting #anxiety.
2. Identified the #overwhelming #emotions without #judging them.
3. Changed the #music to a #playlist that would help him #calm down.
4. Recognized his #projecting #anger on another driver on the road as his own #emotional #overload and realized there was more going on inwardly.
5. Listed the current situations (situational #triggers) that were going on in life and what #emotions each one evoked.
This process allowed Coby to #connect with himself and process in a way that gave him insights into what his body was saying. This allowed him to not take #emotions out on anyone but to be #calm when returning home to his girls.
Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time? If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.
For more info and to connect with Coby go to growwithcoby.com
My guest today is my former therapist, Amy Andrus. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013. She's taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women's Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and trauma.
Amy's life has been affected by sex addiction in a personal way. She knows the struggle, shame, and guilt the addict experiences. She has found it rewarding to facilitate individual change and work with the family system to ensure long-term growth and change. Amy's a single mom of six. Her youngest daughter has Down Syndrome, and raising her has taught her countless life lessons. Find her on Instagram at @askamyandrus Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what's possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way.
Join her on her new podcast HERE
Follow her on social media at HERE
Mentor with her at HERE
The Therapy Brothers focus on the need for healthy boundaries and define a little more clearly what that is by playing out some real world scenarios from their therapy practices. Tyler even digs into some of his own recovery work with his wife and boundaries he got hung up on.
If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist"). We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com or therapybros.com.Situations that lead to intense #emotions, which in turn create #behavior that is unwanted. That is a situational #trigger and they are real in everyday life. Here are a few takeaways from the episode.
There are 2 types of situational triggers:
Within those are 2 variations:
HOW DO WE IDENTIFY THEM?
WHAT DO WE DO ONCE WE IDENTIFY THEM?
HOW DO I USE THIS CONCEPT EACH DAY?
Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time? If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.
For more info and to connect with Coby go to growwithcoby.com
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