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Building Trust and Safety: A Vulnerable Journey into the Heart of Relationships Jul 14, 2023

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Wondering why you keep hitting the same barriers in your relationship? Perhaps, it's time to dig deeper and reconsider how you create safety and trust. We, Sammy and Spencer, are here to pioneer this unfiltered expedition into the core of relationships. We share our personal tales, mistakes, and victories of nurturing a fortified bond filled with trust. Our discussion unravels how we bridged the gap between us by unearthing our childhood experiences, shedding our defense mechanisms, and revealing our true selves to each other.

We shed light on how we navigated the tumultuous waves of our past relationships, and how they often left an indelible mark on our current ones. Unmasking our own insecurities, we reveal how markers from our past can stimulate codependency and a sense of disconnection. We delve into the gravity of vulnerability and sincerity in relationships, and how it forms the unshakeable foundation of a secure partnership. We also discuss our personal endeavors of breaking free from codependent patterns, learning to meet our own needs, and finding a steadfast source of safety in our faith.

In conclusion, we impart some pragmatic tips to help you foster an environment of safety and connection in your relationships. We explore how the blame game can build a chasm in relationships and how using "ownership language" can mend it. We also share how forming a genuine connection with a higher power, in our case God, can provide a sense of security and fulfillment that no human being can offer. Tune in as we unravel these hidden dynamics of relationships, safety, trust, and emotional wellbeing. Come along on this journey of getting real about relationships and discovering the essence of connection.

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--------- HIGHLIGHTS ---------

0:00:31 - Choking Hazards While Eating LOL (65 Seconds) 0:02:31 - Emotional Safety in Relationships (119 Seconds) 0:08:56 - Finding Safety and Connection With God (108 Seconds) 0:11:50 - Navigating Safety and Communication Challenges (87 Seconds) 0:27:08 - Navigating Social Media and Relationship Triggers (107 Seconds) 0:42:25 - Sharing Fears and Requesting Change (43 Seconds)

Keywords: Relationships, Safety, Trust, Vulnerability, Codependency, Childhood Influences, Emotional Wellbeing, Connection, Higher Power, Unconditional Love, Compassion, Ownership Language, Triggers, Defensiveness, Prioritizing Connection

Money, Status, Boob jobs, and Ego- Our Trip to Orange County May 02, 2023

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We used to live in OC and haven't for almost 5 years now.

Coming back into town for a quick vacation, it reminded us of past struggles and insecurities.

It is a culture dominated by people looking for status, importance, beauty, and ultimately looking for love in all the wrong places.

But we also believe christians can enter into shame and blame for a culture like this without knowing how to thrive and get needs met and be a light in the darkness.

This episode is a dialogue on our process around it.

Enjoy the crazy background noises and the occasional baby wimper.

And let us know what you enjoyed about it or what stuck out to you in the ratings!!

How to Feel Enough and Show Up When You Feel Like A Failure Apr 19, 2023

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"I'm not a good provider".

"I'll never feel loved"

"I'm a failure."

"I have no community"

It's difficult when life throws us into things that we are not good at or are new to like parenting, marriage, new jobs, new business...

And it's tempting to try and prove through action that we are enough and that we are lovable. How do we avoid that vicious cycle but also continue showing up in "the hard" of life without giving up?

In this episode we dive into how to practically work through those feelings and beliefs as well as how to show up with big capacity.

Enjoy!

Letting Go of External Control and Finding Peace Within Apr 11, 2023

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Have you ever felt wildly out of control in seasons?

Have you felt alone in community?

Have you felt purposeless in your job?

Has parenting or marriage just taken the wind out of your sails?

It happens to all of us...but what do we do when we feel like our external circumstances and relationships feel totally outside of our control?

In this episode, Spencer and Sammi share the invitation God has given to them recently for turning inward and resting in His goodness.

If you like the new style of podcast, please let us know in the reviews!

When it's time to surrender your mind, not your heart: When your beliefs fail you Apr 07, 2023

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In this episode, Spencer has a discussion with one of his mentors, Steve Backlund of Igniting Hope Ministries.

If you've felt hopeless about anything or you've struggled to have faith or connect with God, don't miss this episode.

One highlight: "Any area of your life that isn't glistening with hope is an area you're believing a lie, and that area is a stronghold of the enemy in your life."

To find any of Steve Backlund's resources, go to www.ignitinghope.com

Connection with God in Any Season and the Nature of God Feb 28, 2023

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We were recently asked on a podcast review what our connection with God looks like and how we navigate prayer and guidance from God.

In this episode we discuss our current season of connection with God despite running 2 businesses, having a 6 month old baby, and all the current challenges of marriage.

The truth is that every season looks different and our connection to God might change as well.

How do we truly thrive in every season without holding onto the external circumstances we need to "connect with God"?

Are some things spiritual but other things aren't?

Is God always for us?

Are we supposed to spend a certain amount of time in the word? in worship?

These are questions we answer in this week's podcast.

If you want to go on an intentional, intensive process to heal and step into connected relationships, CLICK HERE to apply for our Come Alive program for Men and Women.

Our Hard Week of No Sleep and Triggers Jan 31, 2023

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We all have really hard weeks, really hard seasons, and sometimes we all just get depleted.

This week, we wanted to let you into a low moment of ours while we felt depleted.

We have a beautiful 5 month old baby, named Wilder and he is such a gift but this past week has been rough.

Sammi was sleep deprived.

Spencer feels over-worked.

In this episode, we talk about the tips and tools that get us through these hard times.

Enjoy!

TRIGGER-WARNING-Post Partum Sex- Staying Connected in Sexual Struggle Jan 26, 2023

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TRIGGER WARNING!!!

We are talking about post-partum sex and our journey with sex recently.

If you don't want to hear nitty gritty details and a full sexual vocabulary, then don't listen.

Hope you enjoy!

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Forming Healthy Friendships- Confrontation and When to Heal Jan 17, 2023

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Friendships can be difficult.

We've been in seasons when it feels like nobody is close or connected and seasons when life feels so full incommunity.

Then there are times when we have to confront people with pain and feedback and focus internally on the pain we're spilling out onto others.

Either way, relationships can be messy and forming healthy, secure friendships can be very difficult.

In this episode, Sammi and I wanted to get vulnerable about our season of community, the difficulties we've faces, how we've addressed those difficulties, and how you can possibly become more powerful in your friendships.

If you've had any type of friendship pain, we made this episode specifically for you.

Hope you get something from the discussion and we hope you enjoysome laughs along the way!

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How to fully embrace parenting and connect in the midst of "out of control" Jan 03, 2023

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This week we are responding to instagram DMs.

The questions we are answering are, "How is Spencer able to attach to his baby so well? I have never seen a father attach to a newborn like that." and the 2nd question, "How does Sammi keep such a powerful perspective on mothering?"

Now, we are new parents...but we do believe our healing journey has set us up for success in so many areas, especially parenting.

If you're wondering how to be powerful in the midst of out of control scenarios, this episode is for you.

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