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Mallory Ervin on Self Validation, Unrealistic Expectations, & What Living Fully Means Feb 10, 2022

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Today, we welcome Mallory Ervin to talk about self validation, from being an overachiever and putting too much value on your appearance to a lifestyle change, how not to relapse and revert back to your part self, and what living fully truly means.

Mallory is a Kentucky grown, Nashville living dreamer that had a roundabout way of arriving to today. From her time in Miss America to being a three time contestant on the reality show Amazing Race, it all began by sharing her love of fashion & beauty and quickly transformed into a platform for impact. She hosts the Living Fully podcast where brings the stories and lessons she and her guests have learned to help you awaken to your best life and truly begin LIVING FULLY.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:21 The pitfalls in our lives happen gradually
05:18 When being an achiever becomes your identity
11:45 People looking up to you and expecting you to do something
18:54 Stripping the attachments to your appearance
24:04 What you can do to avoid relapsing
31:29 Kids are different and they need different things
38:53 Adversity is a driver and builder of the greatest people
46:32 Take the time to gain your footing again
52:06 Your fears will make you vulnerable

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Mallory Ervin | Website, YouTube, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook
Living Fully: Dare to Step into Your Most Vibrant Life

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Nedra Tawwab on Engaging in Difficult Conversations & How to Set + Uphold + Respect Boundaries Feb 07, 2022

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Today, we welcome Nedra Tawwab to talk about self-awareness and setting boundaries, how one can set personal boundaries without offending the other person, upholding them for your mental health, having difficult conversations with people you haven’t been in constant contact with, and why you need to seek help from the right person.

Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 14 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:00 The lack of self-awareness when something isn’t right
04:59 We have to accept we can’t do everything
06:51 Many of us are trained to take care of others needs first
08:53 Everything is not about you
11:47 How to set boundaries without sounding offensive
14:01 It’s best not to overthink when having sincere conversations
18:39 Are you talking to the right person?
22:37 How to get help when you’re dealing with a family member’s addiction
29:18 Things you'd rather be doing than using social media
33:06 Why you need to exit a relationship properly
36:50 Preserving relationships while honoring your boundaries
39:43 We don’t have to make the same mistakes twice
42:29 Look at conflict as a learning experience
44:29 The truth about making compromises

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Nedra Tawwab | Website, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Books

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Johann Hari On Why Your Attention Has Been Stolen From You & How to Get it Back Feb 03, 2022

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Today, we welcome Johann Hari to talk about focus, from why we are rapidly losing focus and why many are having a hard time concentrating on one task to how technology is playing a major role in this dilemma, the correlation between sleep and diet, and why working too much affects our quality of work.

Johann Hari is a British writer who has authored two New York Times best-selling books. They have been translated into 38 languages, and been praised by a broad range of people, from Oprah to Noam Chomsky, from Elton John to Naomi Klein. His TED talks have been viewed more than 80 million times. The first is named ‘Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong’. The second is entitled ‘This Could Be Why You Are Depressed or Anxious’. His latest book, ‘Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention’, was released in January 2022.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:38 Why is focus so important?
05:18 The switching between tasks damages our focus
15:00 Changing to a healthy diet is difficult but necessary
21:26 Correlation between sleep and poor nutrition
28:19 The technology we use is designed to hack and invade our attention
39:44 Pre-commitments to effectively lessen your screen time
41:42 Consider mastering the flow state
45:19 How do you actually focus on one task at a time?
50:27 Working too much is exhausting us and our quality of work
54:36 The truth about addiction

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AnnaLynne McCord on Living with DID, Practicing Self-Awareness, & Unlearning Toxic Patterns Jan 31, 2022

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Today, we welcome AnnaLynne McCord to talk about her personal journey, from the misdiagnosis of being bipolar and being open about her Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) to her process of healing, acceptance, and self-awareness.

AnnaLynne is an American actress, writer, director and producer. Known for playing the vixen, vamp and roles of a darker nature, McCord first gained prominence in 2007 as the scheming Eden Lord on the FX television series Nip/Tuck. She is the President of "Together1Heart" which empowers women and children victimized by human-trafficking and sexualized violence. In 2009, McCord was awarded a U.S. Congressional Honor by Connecticut Congresswoman Rosa De Lauro for her anti-trafficking work.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
03:06 Being defined by something you can’t remember
06:53 The brain protects its ability to survive
11:56 The DID journey
18:16 Misconceptions about DID
24:46 The need for a split when portraying a character
32:14 Not acknowledging your trauma will make you sick
39:57 Inner child work first and then work on those boundaries
47:45 Toxic patterns to unlearn and how to heal from them
53:59 Living in a body with a powerful mind
01:05:27 The story that you have to uphold is always exhausting
01:09:50 Don’t focus on someone else’s journey
01:14:41 Best practices for self-awareness
01:19:55 Love is the complete acceptance of what is

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AnnaLynne McCord | Website, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook
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Dr. Nate Zinsser on 3 Misconceptions About Confidence & How to Remain Optimistic When Challenged Jan 27, 2022

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Today, we welcome Dr. Nate Zinsser to talk about becoming confident in life, at work, and with different relationships. From having an open mind, an optimistic outlook, and having a balanced mindset to training yourself to develop self confidence, the work needed to stay confident, and the common misconceptions of confidence and the helpful ways to sustain it.

Dr. Zinsser is an expert in the psychology of human performance who consults with individuals and organizations seeking a competitive edge. He has been at the forefront of applied sport psychology for over thirty years. With a PhD in sport psychology from the University of Virginia, Dr Zinsser has taught at William Patterson College, East Stroudsburg University, and in the University of Virginia’s Continuing Education Division.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:13 Maintaining a very open and optimistic outlook
03:42 People taking control of their situation
07:27 The mentally tough people maintains a balance
10:52 Practice to make yourself your best friend
17:32 How do you encourage somebody to build self-confidence?
20:20 Steady progress will not be a linear progression
23:36 When we’re putting it on ourselves for the wrong reason
28:05 Be a little tougher on oneself after every victory
31:25 3 misconceptions about confidence
35:18 Helpful tips when you’re struggling to build confidence

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Dr. Nate Zinsser | Website, Twitter
The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide to Unshakable Performance

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Jason Tartick On Redefining Happiness, Rebuilding His Self Worth & Being a Supportive Partner Jan 24, 2022

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Today, we welcome Jason Tartick to talk about relationships, entrepreneurship, and celebrity life. From identifying how you can reach your goals, fake confidence, and expressing yourself freely to living with anxiety, figuring out the drive that motivates you, and how to make the best first impression.

Jason is an entrepreneur, investor, speaker and the host of Apple’s Top Charting Business Podcast “Trading Secrets”. After 10 years of working in Corporate Banking he took a detour into reality television to be a contestant on Season 14 of ABC’s, The Bachelorette. Jason is also a renowned professional business speaker. In April 2022, Jason will be launching his first book of his series centered around the roadmap to restarting your career.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:13 When you’re setting goals without understanding what it would take to get there
05:28 The things that you can continuously work on
09:38 Use the people you’re envious of as motivation
12:09 When your confidence is built on glass
15:14 Get comfortable with expressing yourself openly
19:12 Simplifying things to make it more digestible for the masses
22:49 Situational anxiety turns into a generalized anxiety
26:41 What you can do to control your anxiety
35:25 When you're in a relationship, you're in a partnership
40:21 Benchmarking yourself to others
43:52 How to make the best first impression
52:16 You need to figure what’s going to drive you
54:32 First, start with identifying what the issue is

Episode Resources:

Jason Tartick | Website, Instagram, Twitter, TikTok
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Alice Johnson On How Kim Kardashian Helped Trump Pardon Her & Why Criminal Justice Reform Is Needed Jan 20, 2022

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Today, we welcome Alice Johnson to talk about her remarkable story as a former federal prisoner. From using her writing skills to change the lives of women inmates to being denied clemency multiple times and using faith to surpass her dark days. Now a free woman, she continues to advocate for the freedom of other women who share similar stories.

Alice Marie Johnson is an American criminal justice reform advocate and former federal prisoner. She was convicted in 1996 for her involvement in a Memphis cocaine trafficking organization and sentenced to life imprisonment. In June 2018, After serving 21 years in prison, she was released from the Federal Correctional Institution, Aliceville, in June 2018 after U.S. President Donald Trump exercised executive powers to grant clemency. And in August 2020, Trump granted Alice a full and unconditional pardon.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:19 Growing up in a very close-knit community
05:35 A time of extreme segregation
11:56 The gift of writing
16:16 Getting addicted to gambling
24:06 The estimated amount that triggered a life sentence
30:27 To live a life of service and in service
34:50 Creating an impact in this dark place
42:09 Being denied clemency multiple times
47:55 October became a huge blessing
54:00 When it’s time to leave prison
01:02:49 What is the First Step Act?
01:09:14 Forgiving someone is freeing

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Alice Johnson | Book
Alice Johnson | Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn
Taking Action for Good

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Dr. Julie Smith on Simple Tools to Manage Stress, Deal with Anxiety & Overcome Fear Jan 17, 2022

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Today, we welcome Dr. Julie Smith to talk about how the root of anxiety is different for everybody and why it affects how we respond to it, different ways to deal with our “dark” space, and why managing stress is work in progress.

Dr. Julie is a Clinical Psychologist chartered by the British Psychological Society (BPS) and registered with the Health Care Professions Council (HCPC). She is also an online educator, blogger, and owner of a private practice in Hampshire, England. She devoted her career to learning everything she can about adult mental health and the intricacies of the human mind.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
00:54 “Why has nobody told me this before?”
04:06 How to get better at getting out of your “dark” place
09:53 Accept that some days aren’t going to be good days
13:56 Juggling through a busy day
17:56 The misconception about stress
22:48 What you can do to manage stress
28:09 The root of anxiety is different for everybody
30:40 We all experience anxiety
33:12 The anxious feeling is normal but not always an accurate reflection of what’s best for you
37:09 How we conceptualize fear and anxiety makes a difference
38:58 Anything that says will eliminate anxiety probably won’t work
40:48 Top ways to face your fears
46:52 Why it’s okay to welcome all types of emotions

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Dr. Julie Smith’s Website | Instagram
Dr. Julie’s Latest Book

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Mike Posner on Addiction to Fame, Overcoming Mental Blocks, & Taming the Ego Jan 13, 2022

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Today’s guest is Mike Posner where we talk about his climb to the tallest mountain in the world, Mount Everest, how to not let fame get into his head, & how he practices self care.

Mike Posner is an American Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter, poet, and record producer. His debut album which was released in 2010 is called, 31 Minutes to Takeoff that includes the US Billboard Hot 100 top 10 single “Cooler than Me” as well as the top 20 single “Please Don’t Go”. In March 2017, he released his first book of poetry, Tear Drops & Balloons.

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
00:24 Mike on climbing Mount Everest
03:18 Lessons he shared to the Ohio kids
07:40 Overcoming mental blocks
12:26 Taming ego & using fame to fill it up
16:40 Spirituality
19:40 Mike’s self care routine
22:30 How to not get addicted to fame
26:46 What made the climb to Mount Everest worth it?
34:08 What’s next for Mike Posner?
35:32 Effects of going all-in on his health
42:45 Struggling with normalcy
48:40 Paying attention to the thoughts inside your head
50:35 Mike’s favorite song

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Mel Robbins on Turning Negative Self Talk Into Positive Habits & The Truth About Manifestation Jan 10, 2022

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Today, we welcome Mel Robbins to talk about how the mind always defaults back to past trauma when dealing with emotions, defining motivation to effectively change our habits, and the amount of self work needed to develop skills for self empowerment.

Mel is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and a New York Times Bestselling author. Her work includes The High 5 Habit, The 5 Second Rule, six #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
00:44 Motivation alone doesn't change a habit
06:51 Getting control over your negative self talk
09:23 What you say to yourself matters the most
13:44 Your mind presents a world that matches your negative dialogue
21:18 Every "WHY" answers to the thing that you want the most
26:32 Build the skill of self empowerment
28:38 Manifestation is not a one-step process
40:06 Patterns are familiar and they just repeat automatically
46:24 When your stored tension and trauma activates
50:23 Every single day, develop and practice your skills
56:47 Top tools you can use in moments of stress
01:01:54 Stop being too hard on yourself

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