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Dr. John Delony & Layne Norton On Why Many Men Are Feeling Lost Right Now & What We Can Do About It Apr 03, 2023

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Today's guests are Dr. John Delony and Layne Norton. Dr. John Delony is a renowned mental health and wellness expert and host of The Dr. John Delony Show. He holds two PhDs, one in counselor education and supervision and another in higher education administration. Before joining Ramsey Solutions, John spent two decades working as a senior leader at multiple universities, a professor and researcher, and crisis responder. Layne Norton, aka Biolayne, is an entrepreneur, physique coach, bodybuilder, and powerlifter. Alongside his success as a competitor, Layne has his Ph.D in nutrition science and is one of the most respected voices in the health and nutrition space. On the show today, the three of us have an open, organic and honest conversation about something that often gets overlooked, "Men's Mental Health." You will hear us share our own experiences with it as well as the tools, tactics, and wisdom that have helped us improve our mental health and inspire you or a loved one to do the same.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
02:04 Why are so many men struggling right now?
05:27 Identity as a man
07:35 Actions aligning with values
10:58 This is a cultural problem
13:30 External validation doesn’t lead to self validation
18:42 The pain/pleasure trap
21:51 Do hard things and play the long game
26:49 Motivation is overrated
30:16 Small steps build confidence
31:35 Why you must create a new identity if you want to make changes
34:49 You need friends that will “call you out”
41:12 You’re judged based on your actions
43:04 The way you respond is on YOU
44:47 You have to take action
47:26 The ONLY way to heal anxiety
50:47 In every season of your life, you will be unbalanced
53:31 Remember that you’re human!
55:28 The issue with “self-help”
59:25 Processing your emotions
1:03:18 John puts me on the spot!
1:06:45 Stop spending time with negative people
1:11:11 Dealing with the uncertainty of the world

Episode Resources:

Layne | Instagram, Website
John | Instagram, Website

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you’ve consumed.

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

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National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

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Shannon Ford On Overcoming Public Failure, Breaking Free From People Pleasing & Becoming Her Authentic Self Mar 30, 2023

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Today's guest is the highly successful and dynamic social media star, Shannon Ford! You may remember Shannon as one of the personalities on the hit TV show, 'Very Cavallari,' where she worked as the social media manager for fashion company Uncommon James. Despite appearing on the show for roughly one season, Shannon was able to leverage her time on camera into a thriving career and prove that a massive setback can lead to an even better comeback. In this episode, we discuss the power of public setbacks, the hustler's mentality Shannon developed from living in a trailer as a kid, how to break free from people pleasing, why people will know if you're being "fake", and how she stays consistent, motivated and focused while building her business and much more!

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:36 Getting fired on national television
03:58 Handling failure
08:18 Living in a trailer
10:58 Developing a “hustler's mentality”
12:30 The dark side of fame
15:30 Paying attention to what others think
17:15 People pleasing and boundaries
20:49 Recent big area of growth for Shannon
22:43 Staying focused/avoiding distractions
26:27 Has she always been secure with herself?
28:57 Being fake is exhausting
35:36 Does Shannon have trust issues?
40:47 What to do if your family doesn’t agree with your career decision
45:06 Navigating a long distance relationship

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Episode Resources:

Shannon | TikTok, Podcast, Instagram

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

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Andrea Rogers On Empowering Kids to Make Healthy Choices, Overcoming Parental Guilt & Mastering Life Transitions Mar 27, 2023

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Today’s guest is Andrea Rogers. Andrea is a Beachbody super trainer and the creator of Xtend barre, the largest global barre franchise business. In today’s episode, we discuss how to master the “pivot” during life transitions, why Andrea doesn’t struggle with “Mom guilt,” how she empowers her kids to make healthy choices, what to do if you don’t see quick results while chasing a goal, how she is learning to practice more patience, what the process was like for starting and growing xtend barre and more!

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:17 How to MASTER a life transition
04:33 Creating Xtend Barre
08:50 What to do if you aren’t seeing quick results
12:25 Balancing her schedule as a parent and entrepreneur
16:34 Empowering kids to make healthy choices
22:29 Making the most of her divorce
27:25 Does she feel pressure to look a certain way?
30:32 Trust your gut/intuition
33:35 Practicing patience
36:44 Partnering with Beachbody

Episode Resources:

Connect with Andrea | Website, Instagram

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

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Lindsey Metselaar On How Quitting Marijuana Cured Her Anxiety, Improved Her Memory & Granted Her Inner Peace Mar 23, 2023

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Today's guest is Lindsey Metselaar. Lindsey is a native New Yorker and host of the highly popular We Met At Acme podcast, which has amassed over 7 million downloads since its creation in 2017. Lindsey also has a food blog called Don't Expect Salads (@dontexpectsalads) with over 110,000 followers. In Today's episode, we dive deep into Lindsey's recovery journey. Up until 2018 when Lindsey got sober, Lindsey was heavily addicted to marijuana. What began as a way for her to cope and escape quickly morphed into a decade-long addiction that impacted her personal and professional life and became something she didn't think she could live without. Today, We discuss her addiction journey from start to finish and what finally led her to stop getting high. Lindsey and I also talk about the many blessings that sobriety has given her and how she has learned to manage her emotions, develop self-awareness and create a new identity. We also talk about what you must do to thrive in recovery, how to survive a breakup and much more!

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:41 Using marijuana to “escape the pain”
03:48 What was so appealing about getting high?
05:15 Needing marijuana to function
07:49 What kept her from becoming addicted to “hard drugs”?
08:58 How did her addiction impact other areas of her life?
10:37 Everyone is addicted to something
12:03 Transforming projection into self-awareness
13:26 Finding sobriety and recovery
16:51 Quitting marijuana gave her freedom
18:23 Transforming her identity
20:54 Regaining her creativity and memory
23:11 Managing emotions
25:16 Sobriety and relationships
29:51 Is weed a gateway drug?
31:13 How to bounce back after a breakup
32:43 Optimizing her mental health
36:43 What helps her stay sober?
39:51 Dating advice

Episode Resources:

Lindsey | Website, Podcast, Instagram

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

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Dr. William Li On The Top Foods You Should Eat To Fight Disease, Heal Your Body & Live Longer Mar 20, 2023

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Today's guest is Dr. William Li. Dr. Li is an internationally renowned physician, scientist and author of the New York Times bestseller "Eat to Beat Disease: The New Science of How Your Body Can Heal Itself." His groundbreaking work has led to the development of more than 30 new medical treatments and impacts care for more than 70 diseases including cancer, diabetes, blindness, heart disease, and obesity. His TED Talk, "Can We Eat to Starve Cancer?" has garnered more than 11 million views. His newest book, "Eat to Beat Your Diet: Burn Fat, Heal Your Metabolism, and Live Longer" will be released tomorrow. Today we discuss how to improve your diet quality, how to optimize your diet for longevity, why foods that contain polyphenols are so beneficial for your health, why it's so important to eat a high-fiber diet, why you may want to avoid the carnivore diet, why excess body fat is harmful for your health, how to improve your metabolism and much more!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:41 How to improve your diet quality (5 tips)
06:41 Foods you should eat for longevity
13:03 Healthy dietary patterns
15:44 The benefits of polyphenols
21:06 The importance of fiber
25:55 Meat dominant diets
29:07 Is fasting worth the hype?
34:09 Weight loss
40:53 Foods that can improve your metabolism
45:45 Eat slower
48:24 Does body size determine health outcomes?
52:03 Get your annual physical
53:57 When should food be used as medicine?

Episode Resources:

Dr. William Li | Website, YouTube, Twitter, Instagram,
Eat to Beat Your Diet: Burn Fat, Heal Your Metabolism, and Live Longer

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

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Mallory Ervin On Manifesting The Future What You Want, Surviving The Parenting Rollercoaster & Navigating Difficult Conversations As a Couple Mar 16, 2023

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Today's guest and making her second appearance on the podcast, is my friend, Mallory Ervin. Mallory is a Kentucky-grown Nashville living dreamer who had a roundabout way of arriving at where she is today. From her time in the Miss America pageant to being a three-time contestant on the Amazing Race, Mallory turned her passion for sharing her love of fashion, beauty, and life into a platform for impact. Today, she runs a global lifestyle brand that she founded in 2016, hosts the Living fully podcast and is a best-selling author of books "Living Fully Dare to Step Into Your Most Vibrant Life," and "All In: A Vision for Living Fully Every Day." She encourages and inspires her dedicated following to seek joy and live fully. Today we discuss being attached to achievement and how to remain optimistic when you fall short of your goals. Mallory and I also chat about common misconceptions about manifestation, how to manifest what you want in life, and what you can do if you're feeling overwhelmed. We also get into how to survive the rollercoaster ride of parenting, navigating difficult times as a couple, and much more.

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:46 Attachment to achievement
04:50 Remember where “falling short” brought you
07:30 Manifestation misconceptions
10;12 How to manifest a better future for yourself
14:10 Eliminate the noise in your life
17:00 Mallory’s battle with “wanting more”
19:40 Her husband is super supportive
23:14 Gentle communication is really powerful
27:48 Learning how to communicate with your partner
29:58 Measuring success as a parent
34:50 Does she think her perfectionist traits will impact her kids?
37:20 Learning to “go with the flow” as a parent
38:45 Your kids can “feel” your emotions
40:10 Choose your own happiness
42:22 Focusing on the “bigger picture” alleviates anxiety/overwhelm

Episode Resources:

Mallory Ervin | Website, YouTube, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook

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⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

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Solo Episode - Overcome Adversity & Use It To Your Advantage By Doing These 9 Things Mar 13, 2023

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Today I am flying solo! Many of you have requested that I do more solo episodes, so today I will be discussing all things ADVERSITY. Overcoming adversity is always one of the most highly requested topics for the podcast. In today's episode, I share with you nine things you must do when facing adversity so that you can use adversity to your advantage and become a better version of yourself after the challenging situation is behind you. These nine things will also become a valuable toolbox for the next time you face a hardship or obstacle in life. Remember, adversity is a muscle, and the more you work it healthily, the stronger it makes you!

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:26 How to develop self awareness
11:26 Your habits will make or break you
17:00 Acceptance is so important
20:34 Change your perspective
22:02 Accountability and responsibility
24:26 The conversation that changed my life
28:59 Accountability builds trust
32:29 3 types of people to avoid
36:23 Who should you spend time with?
40:44 Optimize your mental and physical health
45:22 The non-physical benefits of going to the gym
50:00 Pay attention to what you consume
52:47 Spend time learning
56:11 Spirituality
58:26 I was addicted to external validation
1:00:47 Healing from my past
1:04:30 Believing in the unseen
1:08:50 Being of service
1:10:26 One day at a time
1:14:35 Focus on how far you have come

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⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

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Autumn Smith On Healing Your Gut, How to Effectively Improve Your Diet & The Truth About Grass-Fed Meat Mar 09, 2023

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Today’s guest is Autumn Smith. Autumn is the co-founder of Paleovalley and Wild Pastures. She holds a Masters in Holistic Nutrition, she’s a Certified Eating Psychology Coach, and a Certified FDN Practitioner. Autumn’s passion for health began with her own struggles with IBS and anxiety: despite a career as a professional dancer and celebrity fitness trainer, her own health was in shambles. Desperate for a cure, Autumn and her husband Chas stumbled upon the paleo diet in 2011 and within a month of beginning it, her health was completely transformed. In today’s episode, Autumn shares her personal story and reveals how being bullied during her childhood and having unhealthy eating habits fueled her struggles with IBS, addiction, and anxiety, leading to her being kicked out of her house when she was eighteen. She shares the steps she took to completely transform her life, heal from her past and unlearn toxic patterns. Autumn shares how working for Tracy Anderson as a celebrity trainer and touring with Jennifer Lopez inspired her to start Paleovalley. We also discuss the highly debated topic of regenerative farming and which animal products you should try to buy grass-fed. We also chat about how to realistically make healthier food choices, parenting tips for kids to do the same, and much more!

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
02:00 Autumn’s traumatic childhood
06:46 How did being bullied impact her?
08:18 Getting kicked out of her house
11:33 What caused Autumn’s gut issues?
13:06 Tips for getting kids to eat healthy
18:10 How did she become a celebrity trainer?
20:59 Drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes
22:53 Autumn’s breaking point
24:23 How did she heal?
26:56 How to eat less processed foods
30:41 One of the fastest ways to stop craving processed foods
32:05 How touring with J Lo inspired her to start Paleovalley
34:54 Regenerative agriculture
38:11 You can still eat conventional meat
40:15 What meats should you buy grass fed?
45:21 Improving your gut health
46:30 Paleovalley product that i have been loving
48:52 Is turmeric worth the hype?

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Episode Resources:

Connect with Autumn | Paleovalley, Wild Pastures,

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

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Organic Olivia On Reshaping Relationships, Controlling Dopamine & Why She Avoids Wellness Trends Mar 06, 2023

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Today’s guest is Olivia Amitrano (Organic Olivia). Olivia is an herbalist, an entrepreneur, a blogger, and most notably an educator. You may recognize her as the founder and formulator behind Organic Olivia the brand or perhaps you’ve heard her voice as the host of the chart-topping podcast, "What’s the Juice." Organic Olivia started as a blog and quickly morphed into a fierce community of like minds on a divine path of learning, growing, and healing. We believe our greatest tools are traditional wisdom, herbal medicine and a brave willingness to explore our own behavior and psychology. Olivia is on a mission to understand the human condition while sharing both the present chapter of her life as well as the lessons she’s learned getting here. Peeling back the layers isn’t always pretty, but life is juicy and it’s worth the squeeze.

In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into Olivia’s story. We discuss how her parents getting sick and a spiritual experience transformed her relationship with herself, her fiancé and her family. We also discuss how constructive criticism has been instrumental in her healing journey, why changing your identity is so powerful when it comes to change, why she turned her back on wellness trends, how she changed her relationship with dopamine, overcame multiple addictions, and much more.

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
02:10 Olivia’s parents are hospitalized (this changed her life)
05:45 The year of personal responsibility
08:20 Understanding her childhood trauma
09:29 Studying psychology in college
11:20 Letting go of anger
13:25 How taking psilocybin transformed her life
17:25 The power of intentional “alone time”
20:30 How to receive constructive criticism
23:50 Olivia’s relationship with dopamine and addiction
29:55 Quitting cannabis, caffeine and hyperpalatable foods
36:15 How does she regulate her nervous system?
40:30 Understanding addiction
44:05 Why identity shifts are so powerful
50:10 Turning her back on wellness trends

Episode Resources:

Connect with Olivia | Website, Instagram, Podcast

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

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Dr. Gabor Maté On Why So Many People Are Feeling Stressed Right Now & What We Can Do About It Mar 02, 2023

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Today we welcome Dr. Gabor Maté back to the podcast. Dr. Maté is a retired physician who spent 20 years in family practice and worked for over a decade in Vancouver’s Downtown East Side with patients challenged by drug addiction and mental illness. He is the bestselling author of five books published in thirty languages, including his latest book The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Gabor is an internationally renowned speaker highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, childhood development, and the relationship of stress and illness. Let’s face it a lot of people are struggling right now with their mental health so I wanted to bring Dr. Gabor Maté back on the show to talk about what we can do about all of this and more.

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:36 People are struggling
03:58 Major triggers for stress
07:20 What can be done?
09:19 How to stop stressing yourself out
14:07 Men’s mental health
17:07 You must focus on the present
19:50 How did Gabor heal the relationship with his past?
22:20 Conquering the victim mentality
28:00 Finding a trauma informed therapist
31:00 Dealing with triggers
35:09 Making friends with the voice in your head
37:28 Parenting
41:43 Should kids experience stress?
44:18 What to do if you’re afraid of being your “authentic self”

Thanks to today’s sponsor: Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:

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Episode Resources:

Connect with Gabor | Website, Instagram, Books

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

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