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https://briankeanefitness.com/

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372: Emotional balance with food and fitness with Brian Keane Jun 22, 2023

Show notes

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses topics such as exercise, relationship with food and body image. Though the intent is to promote a conscious and healthy mindset around these topics, please use caution in listening if you have a history of an eating disorder or body image disorder.

Summer is here…and with it, thousands of messages about diets, weight loss and fitness.

There is so much pressure from society to look a certain way, and these messages can be so harmful to our mental and emotional health.

At the same time, movement and nourishment are vital parts of both physical and mental health, and many people have positive fitness goals for themselves: being able to participate in a sport they love, having more energy to play with their kids or staying active as they get older.

We need a more conscious approach to the conversation around fitness and nutrition – one where we learn to tune out the voices of our society and tune into ourselves instead: our why, what we really want and what we uniquely need to be healthy.

Brian Keane is a personal trainer who helps his clients approach fitness from a more holistic perspective, bringing mindset, motivation and emotional well-being into the fitness journey.

He realized that clients would come to him saying they wanted their bodies to look a certain way, but what they really wanted was to feel a certain way: secure, confident, peaceful.

Now as part of his training, he helps people identify their why, connect to their emotions, evaluate their relationship with food and exercise and look at the whole picture of well-being – sleep, stress, connection, etc.

In this episode, Brian breaks down his holistic approach to fitness, walking us through how to navigate diet claims, find inner strength while remaining self-compassionate, tap into the power of motivation and make small, lasting changes in any area of life.

Listen to discover:

What exactly a holistic approach to fitness is
How to tell the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger
Sorting through diet culture and the millions of claims about the "best" way to eat
Building mental toughness while staying self-compassionate
How to find motivation
Why trying to make too many changes over time is counterproductive

Our bodies are part of the self, and all parts of us are interconnected. Our emotional health impacts how we treat ourselves physically, and how we care for ourselves physically impacts our emotional well-being.

The key is to find a balanced approach to fitness that incorporates the whole self. Whether you're someone who can't wait to get to the gym, someone who wants to start exercising more or someone learning to treat your body more kindly, it's all about tuning out the noise, the pressure and the cookie cutter images of beauty and doing what works for YOU!

"I help [clients] rewire their relationship with food and rewire their relationship with fitness so that they can take that holistic approach so that it's serving their life and not taking from it." - Brian Keane

"Everything that happens to us happens to us for a reason. What's meant for you won't pass you as long as you listen." - Brian Keane

"In their mind, they think that if they look this specific way, it will remove this feeling that they have." - Brian Keane

"When you take a holistic approach to fitness, all those other areas of your life can improve." - Brian Keane

"It's always an internal job." - Michelle Chalfant

"So many of us, we use food to numb out our emotions." - Michelle Chalfant

"With food being 'good' and 'bad,' that's more a projection that we as humans are putting on the food." - Brian Keane

"Your body knows what it wants you to eat." - Michelle Chalfant

"It's all about balance." - Michelle Chalfant

"Motivation is just a state change." - Brian Keane

"Everything is difficult when you try to change it first. But...if you persevere and you're consistent with it and you make it a daily habit, eventually it becomes your new normal, and then it becomes easy." - Brian Keane

"Too many changes too soon is a recipe for failure." - Brian Keane

"The small things done consistently well lead to extraordinary results over time." - Brian Keane

"I don't like that word, 'diet,' but I do like having this goal of just being healthy." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

Brian Keane Website

"The Fitness Mindset" (Brian Keane book)

https://briankeanefitness.com/fitness-mindset/

"Rewire Your Mindset" (Brian Keane book)

https://briankeanefitness.com/rewire-your-mindset/

Crisis Text Line for Eating Disorders

https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/eating-disorders/#what-is-an-eating-disorder-1

The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

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The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

371: 5 Ways To Navigate a Relationship That Feels Stuck Jun 15, 2023

Show notes

There's someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn't working.

Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship.

You've hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck.

This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn't be trying to make it work if you didn't care for this person, but you can't make them change…and you're hurting in the meantime.

I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself?

In this episode, I'm giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person's response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation.

Listen to discover:

A higher perspective on why relationships come and go
Five steps to working through a relationship dead end or stalemate
The power of acceptance and letting go
How to control what you can and release what you can't
How to take care of yourself no matter what happens in the relationship

Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between.

It's ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you've learned what you're meant to learn and it's time to let go, or perhaps there's something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together.

Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it's time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can't and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship.

"Have you considered that the reason that you're with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?" - Michelle Chalfant

"Acceptance and liking are two very different things." - Michelle Chalfant

"When you're able to accept somebody for who they are, there's almost like a release that happens. There's a detachment that happens." - Michelle Chalfant

"People are not going to change until they're ready and willing to change." - Michelle Chalfant

"Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn't mean it has to end." - Michelle Chalfant

"We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side." - Michelle Chalfant

"Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don't build a story around what we're feeling…those emotions move through us." - Michelle Chalfant

"Boundaries are not confrontational." - Michelle Chalfant

"To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well." - Michelle Chalfant

"It's beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, 'What do I need?'" - Michelle Chalfant

"Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle." - Michelle Chalfant

MORE ADULT CHAIR

The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

370: End Your Ruminating Thoughts With Parts Work Jun 08, 2023

Show notes

"I'm such a horrible person."

"I can't believe I did that…I'm so stupid."

"I'm not good enough."

Do these types of thoughts sound familiar? If so, you're not alone.

As humans, we can be so mean to ourselves. We make a mistake and beat ourselves up for hours. We look in the mirror and are met with a barrage of negative self-talk. Sometimes these thoughts come at us relentlessly, like a flood.

But these thoughts are not the truth about who we are. They come from an inner part or voice inside of us that is actually trying to keep us safe.

And when we have the tools to work with these parts of self, we can stop these critical and ruminating thoughts in their tracks – and transform so many of the struggles that come with them, like depression, low self-worth and overwhelm.

In this episode, I'm sharing the story of a friend who came to me for help with critical thoughts that she couldn't shake. I walk you step-by-step through the parts work method I used with her and the process she went through that stopped those thoughts almost instantly.

Then, I explain why parts work is so powerful, how it works in our unconscious mind and exactly how you can use it to work with your own critical parts – or any other part of yourself for that matter!

Listen to discover:

How to stop ruminating and negative self-talk in its tracks
The process I used with a friend to help her quiet her critical, ruminating thoughts
My own experience using parts work to transform a ruminating thought I was having
How to use parts work to transform any part of yourself
A step-by-step parts work process you can use anytime, anywhere

The amazing thing about parts work is that you don't have to spend years working with a part or even be in a coaching or therapy session to do this work. My friend's transformation happened during a casual conversation we had after work. And as I share in this episode, I use parts work when I'm out for a walk or in the middle of the day. This is an empowering tool we ALL need in our toolbox!

At the heart of parts work is giving ourselves what we needed but didn't get when we were young. As a healthy adult, you now get to be that strong, caring adult for your younger self – and when you do, you will be amazed at the deep inner healing that takes place.

"I started doing parts work when I was 30 years old, and I changed my life." - Michelle Chalfant

"Not everybody's visual, so please don't think there's something wrong if you [don't visualize a part]." - Michelle Chalfant

"I always thank these parts because they are doing such a good job at keeping me safe." - Michelle Chalfant

"This is what I love about the unconscious mind…they pull things out of left field." - Michelle Chalfant

"When you are hearing these voices in your head, the ruminating thoughts, the beating up on self…start asking yourself this question: 'Who is saying that?'" - Michelle Chalfant

"I really think you are going to be amazed at the different parts of yourself that you will start to discover." - Michelle Chalfant

"This is how we really experience more of who we are, and this is the journey we are on in order to rediscover and live from our true self." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast

The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

MORE ADULT CHAIR

The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://www.maraglatzel.com/

STAY CONNECTED

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

369: Your needs are your superpower with Mara Glatzel Jun 01, 2023

Show notes

As humans, we all have needs. From the time we're babies, when we literally need someone to feed us and take care of us, to adults who need connection, safety and belonging, our wants and needs are part of our inner world and part of ourselves.

But somewhere along the way we start to feel ashamed of these needs, believing we're "too much" or "weak" or too "needy." But I believe being able to acknowledge and ask for what we need is actually a superpower!

My guest today, Mara Glatzel, is a coach who helps people stop self-abandoning and start taking ownership of their needs. She digs into the many different dynamics of what it means to be a human who has needs and how we can better take care of ourselves as we navigate this world.

We talk about the most common human needs, why we tend to judge and suppress our own needs and how it's when we suppress them that our needs come out sideways (as anger, resentment, unrealistic expectations or disconnecting from self).

Mara shares how to build a practice of connecting with self to check in with your needs on a regular basis, how to reclaim your sense of self if you've lost it and how to start validating and taking care of your needs…the true definition of self-care.

Listen to discover:

Why having needs isn't weakness
The two most common reasons people struggle with their needs
Some of the most common human needs
The difference between having needs and being "needy"
What real self-care looks like
When and how to check in with self to learn what you need
What "self-partnership" is and how you can take responsibility for your needs

The Child Chair (or inner child) is where we are connected to our true needs – physical, emotional and spiritual.

As healthy adults, we know how to advocate for our needs by using the power of choice and boundaries to protect ourselves, as well as asking for what we need while honoring others' boundaries.

I hope this episode helps you start owning your needs as a strength, so instead of shaming ourselves for having needs, we can become people who support ourselves and others in healthy ways.

"The reality is that our needs are a fact and not a flaw." - Mara Glatzel

"A need is whatever it is that you require in order to exist and survive." - Mara Glatzel

"I think we need training to tap into ourselves so we can identify what our needs are." - Michelle Chalfant

"So many of us are working so hard to belong to the world around us at the cost of belonging to ourselves." - Mara Glatzel

"Taking responsibility for your own needs is an essential part of self-leadership." - Mara Glatzel

"The self-care that we often see and that we're often sold is prescriptive in nature...I have a lot of clients who come to me burnt out on self-care." - Mara Glatzel

"When you take a moment and slow down and really tune in and ask yourself, 'What do I need?'...it changes things." - Michelle Chalfant

"It's a beautiful form of self-care to just check in with self." - Michelle Chalfant

"If we don't check in, then we might be living our lives on autopilot in so many ways." - Mara Glatzel

"I think anything other than a full-throated acceptance of your needs is self-abandonment." - Mara Glatzel

"To learn how to be our best advocate and ask for what we need is powerful." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

Mara Glatzel Website

"Needy" (Mara Glatzel Book)

https://www.maraglatzel.com/book/

Mara Glatzel Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/maraglatzel/

Free Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild

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The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://www.thepactinstitute.com/

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

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368: Relationship Essentials with Dr. Stan Tatkin May 25, 2023

Show notes

Watch any rom-com or fairy tale and they'd have you believe relationships are as simple as meeting someone and falling in love. But is love really all it takes to have a healthy relationship?

Though we often think of relationships as a matter of the heart, the truth is there's a whole world of chemistry happening in your body and brain that has more impact on your relationship than you realize, such as:

What partner you pick
How you bond and attach
What you perceive as threat in a relationship
How you respond to stress
The way your mind stores memories
How you view your partner
And ultimately whether your connection grows or dissolves over time

Dr. Stan Tatkin, who looks at relationships through a biological and psychological lens, is back on the podcast this week talking about the relationship essentials that lead to not just long-lasting relationships but happy relationships.

He breaks down what's really going on under the surface in different relationship situations (like conflict or betrayal), the critical role our threat response plays in building or damaging connection and how to consciously create more secure functioning based on principles like fairness, justice and mutuality.

Listen to discover:

The two things that cause relationships to dissolve
How our stress and threat response systems impact our relationships
Why our brains "automate" and how to stop taking your partner for granted
The difference between attachment and love
The importance of "quick repair" in a relationship
How to build more secure functioning in your partnership
The dangers of loneliness and isolation

We must have safety in order to have connection. Dr. Tatkin says the goal is to learn how to remove interpersonal stress and feelings of threat in relationships, which lead to not just relationship health but mental, emotional and physical health for everyone in and around the relationship.

The next time you meet a new love interest or the next time you and your beloved are having a conversation, don't just ask how you feel about the situation – also pay attention to how your nervous system is reacting and what your body is telling you. This awareness is key to picking the right partner, creating more emotional safety and building more life-giving, long-term partnerships.

"[One reason relationships fail is] the manner in which all of us will interact when one or both of us is under stress. And this has to do with threat...where our brain changes and we start to, on some level, believe that the other person is not an ally." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"Everything is about relationships and how we navigate our way in those relationships." - Michelle Chalfant

"Learning about ourselves is intertwined with learning about another person." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"The only remedy to automation...is presence and attention. We have to build things in that ensure we're in love or in respect." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"When we are in an argument with our beloved, it's so important to give them something while we are in process." - Michelle Chalfant

"Quick repair actually saves us downstream...the smart thing to do is to fix things now so that we don't end up spending all of our time in the junkyard, not living life but sorting out everything we did wrong." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"The main problem with most issues around affairs, cheating is the lying...the biggest damage is the reveal of information that, if I had known, would have changed everything for me." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"Everybody has a different way of determining what is happy for them." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"It goes back to open, honest, raw communication, no matter what kind of relationship you're in." - Michelle Chalfant

"This whole thing about, 'I can't quit you,' isn't a rational drive, but it is powerful as hell." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"The secret to longevity, happiness, mental health, physical health is the presence of at least one secure functioning relationship in your life." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

"I think we need to start taking some risks of just inviting people over for dinner or out to coffee or go to lunch...start taking that risk and be brave and start connecting more. We need in-person connection." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

Dr. Stan Tatkin Website

"In Each Other's Care" (Dr. Stan Tatkin Book)

https://www.amazon.com/Each-Others-Care-Relationship-Conflicts-ebook/dp/B0B19FWBXL

Episode #328: Understanding And Improving Your Relationship With Dr. Stan Tatkin

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/328/

Find an Adult Chair® Coach

https://theadultchair.com/coach

Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634

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The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://mindyourmindsetbook.com/

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

367: Change Your Mindset & Change Your Life with Michael Hyatt May 18, 2023

Show notes

There's something in your life you want to change. Where do you start?

My friend, business coach and wildly successful entrepreneur, Michael Hyatt, says there's one thing we can change that transforms everything else: our minds.

Our thoughts drive our actions, and our actions drive our results, which is why if we want different outcomes in life – whether in our relationships, our business, our finances or our happiness – we have to start by looking within.

In this episode, Michael explains the inner narrator we all have, a part of us that seeks to make meaning of our lives by interpreting and telling stories about the things that happen to us. The problem? These stories are often untrue or rooted in fear, which creates limiting beliefs that hold us back.

Michael shares his three steps for working with the inner narrator and how to choose a more empowering mindset that leads to a life of agency, choice and power. We talk about how to get out of victim, why adversity can open up new possibilities in our lives and how to avoid getting sidetracked by triggers, fear and grief while still being radically honest about our emotions and reality.

Listen to discover:

● Why mindset affects everything about our lives

● How to reframe our stories and choose more empowering thoughts

● Michael's three steps to challenging our inner narrator

● How adversity can open up new possibilities in our lives

● Understanding intuition vs. fear

● What triggers are and how not to get sidetracked by them

● The power of taking breaks

● Choosing imagination over worry

● Why failure can be our greatest teacher

One of the pillars of being a healthy adult is busting stories and living in fact and truth, which is the key to an empowered mindset. And as Michael shares, even when we have a challenging set of facts, we can still choose the most empowering story for ourselves, reframing adversity and believing in possibilities – and ultimately, in ourselves.

"Success begins with your thinking…Getting your thinking right is about 90% of anything. If you have the right thinking, you'll eventually take the right actions that lead to better results." - Michael Hyatt

"If you don't like your reality, you have to look at your thinking." - Michelle Chalfant

"As long as I was the victim, I was powerless. Once I could stop being defensive and accept the fact that I had agency in the midst of this situation...all the power came back, and it gave me a whole range of options." - Michael Hyatt

"Our brains are meaning-seeking machines. We can't live without meaning." - Michael Hyatt

"Everything that's happened to you is in the past. You can't change any of it. All you can change is how you interpret it." - Michael Hyatt

"The greatest advances in my life have been on the heels of some adversity. I had to have a breakdown to have a breakthrough." - Michael Hyatt

"I realized that nothing can trigger me. Only I can trigger me." - Michael Hyatt

"Triggers are a gift, because when we're triggered, it's a way for us to uncover an unconscious limiting belief that we have about ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant

"Stress is antithetical to good creative thinking." - Michael Hyatt

"To take a break can be life changing." - Michelle Chalfant

"Worry is basically a distortion of imagination." - Michael Hyatt

"Experience is our greatest teacher." - Michelle Chalfant

"There's no failure. There's only feedback." - Michael Hyatt

LINKS & RESOURCES

Michael Hyatt Website

https://fullfocus.co/

"Mind Your Mindset" (Michael Hyatt Book)

Full Focus Planner

https://fullfocus.co/planner/

Michael Hyatt Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/michaelhyatt/

Michael Hyatt LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhyatt

Find an Adult Chair® Coach

https://theadultchair.com/coaches/

Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634

MORE ADULT CHAIR

The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://www.spirithealonline.com/

STAY CONNECTED

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

366: Empaths, Energy and Near Death Experiences with Sarah Weiss May 11, 2023

Show notes

It's easy to think everyone processes the world the same way we do. After all, we're all born with a mind that is here to help us make sense of our human experience. But what if there is actually a huge range of ways we each make sense of reality – and superpowers to be found in our ways of processing the world?

Empaths are people whose nervous systems are wired with the ability to mirror others around them; in other words, they can actually feel the experiences of others in their own bodies. This is a beautiful gift to offer the world – and it can also present its challenges for empaths who might find themselves exhausted or disconnected from self because of the environment around them.

In this episode, the ever-wise Sarah Weiss breaks down what an empath is, signs you might be an empath and steps you can take to find grounding and peace as an empath. We also explore why our culture needs to do a better job nurturing these types of abilities in people and the clues that reality is bigger than just the physical world we can see – from fascinating stories about near-death experiences to the path of a soul's spiritual growth.

Listen to discover:

What an empath is
The difference between an empath and a highly sensitive person
Why being an empath is a superpower
Signs a child might an empath
Why we should be cultivating these types of abilities in people
How to find more peace if you're an empath
The story of Sarah's near-death experience
What near-death experiences, dark nights of the soul and plant medicines can teach us

As we learn more about consciousness and the complexity of the mind, it's an invitation into the sacred. Mind-expanding experiences, whether a near-death experience or the way your empathetic brain is naturally wired, give us the opportunity to ask bigger questions about God, soul, the universe and our purpose. The fact that we have the consciousness to ask these questions is a gift – a gift that points to a reality bigger than ourselves.

Let this episode expand your mind and take you on an adventure of asking big questions to understand yourself and the world better!

"You're usually born an empath, and then from the very beginning, you don't understand that you are processing the world in a completely different way than most other people are." - Sarah Weiss

"An empath is someone whose nervous system and brain have a certain physiological configuration...that makes us able to mirror how someone else feels physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually." - Sarah Weiss

"I really believe that empaths are a preview of the future human...it's actually an advanced spiritual quality." - Sarah Weiss

"You do have to learn how to ground yourself and find the definition of your being so you actually have a clear understanding of who you are." - Sarah Weiss

"I just don't see how people can really develop their boundaries without learning about energy." - Sarah Weiss

"There is a wounded child inside most empaths." - Sarah Weiss

"It's not a matter of...'I didn't protect myself enough. I was too overly empathetic.'...Is it just that we just need that alone time to recharge?" - Michelle Chalfant

"I really think that we are severely lacking in the understanding around birth and death and...how important it is to understand, to frame this lifetime, to put it in context." - Sarah Weiss

"There's documented research on [near-death experiences] that's out there." - Michelle Chalfant

"As we develop as human beings, we go through natural initiations...If we were living in a culture that honored and recognized these, then we would derive tremendous meaning from them." - Sarah Weiss

"[The dark night of the soul] is there for a reason, and there are lessons to learn and always something to gain. It's hard though, when you're in the middle of it." - Michelle Chalfant

"I have seen profound healing [through plant medicine]. I've witnessed it... But what's so important is that you do it with a skilled practitioner…The integration is where the greatest healing happens." - Michelle Chalfant

"I think being an empath takes you into the sacred. I think the deep meaning of life gets felt by an empath." - Sarah Weiss

LINKS & RESOURCES

Sarah Weiss Website

Episode #21: Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/21-grounding-and-the-energy-of-the-earth-with-sarah-weiss/

Episode #135: The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/135-the-enlightened-empath-with-sarah-weiss/

MORE ADULT CHAIR

The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

STAY CONNECTED

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

365: How to stay connected to your true self May 04, 2023

Show notes

I believe that we are born as beautiful, pure beings, connected to God/Source and full of love – our true selves.

Though we never lose our true essence, throughout our lives, we have experiences that wound us and we put on masks to feel safe in this world. This creates a sort of "false self" that covers up who we were really meant to be.

But I believe all of us can reconnect with our true selves – our Adult Chairs – and in doing so, live more authentic, peaceful and intuitive lives. This is the heart of The Adult Chair® model and a conscious choice we must make every day!

In this episode, I'm sharing some practical ways you can live connected to your true self, including how to notice and work with the challenges that try to disconnect you from who you really are.

Listen to discover:

● What connection to self means

● Why staying connected to the true self is so important

● The things that disconnect us from our true self

● The power of feeling our emotions and working with triggers

● The way our daily choices impact our connection with self

As I share in a personal story in this show, there will always be someone or something that triggers us, distracts us or tries to pull us away from ourselves. But staying connected to self is a choice! We can decide that no one will take us away from us.

And as always, remember this is a journey, and each moment of challenge is an opportunity to notice where you are on your path and how far you've come. You've got this! There really is no better way to live.

"At the root of The Adult Chair is our true self." - Michelle Chalfant

"Your true self is underneath all these masks, these limiting beliefs." - Michelle Chalfant

"When I'm connected to my true self, I'm connected to my inner compass." - Michelle Chalfant

"When I'm connected with my true self, I have a connection with God, Source." - Michelle Chalfant

"Every time that you sit and work with these triggers and you don't let them take you down, every time you work with them, that trigger begins to lose its power." - Michelle Chalfant

"When we're triggered, there's something in it for us." - Michelle Chalfant

"A trigger is something we carry with us." - Michelle Chalfant

"Holding that connection to the true self, which means staying in our Adult Chair no matter what, is the healthiest place for us to live. It's the most authentic place to live. And it takes work." - Michelle Chalfant

"I am not allowing anybody to disconnect me from myself." - Michelle Chalfant

"The world reflects where we are. The world is our mirror." - Michelle Chalfant

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Episode #364: How To Work With Triggers and Parts

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364: How To Work With Triggers and Parts Apr 27, 2023

Show notes

Guess what? I got triggered this week. AND I was able to work through the trigger and meet the most beautiful younger part of myself using the tools in The Adult Chair® model.

In this episode, I'm letting you guys in on exactly what happened and walking you step-by-step through how I transformed this trigger — and how you can use the exact same process the next time you're triggered.

It all started with a relatively simple interaction with my husband, Graham. Though we didn't have a fight, this interaction brought up feelings of anger and rage in me.

As I dug into those feelings, I found that a 10-year-old part of me was feeling really scared and unsafe because the interaction reminded her of an unpredictable situation from childhood. And what happened afterwards was SO POWERFUL that it still gives me chills!

Listen to discover:

● What triggers are and where they come from

● Why triggers are a HUGE opportunity to heal

● The step-by-step trigger tool I used to transform my trigger

● A powerful script for working with younger, scared parts of self

● How working with triggers can lead to healthier relationships

The really cool thing is that instead of letting my anger create a fight between Graham and me, we were able to have a really authentic conversation about what happened, and I left feeling seen and supported. This is the power of doing our work!

I wanted to openly share this story to not only equip you with the tools to work through a trigger, but also to show you that the goal isn't to "arrive" or "stop getting triggered." The goal is to do the lifelong work of turning inward to get to know and transform ourselves so we can connect more deeply with self and others.

"There are tools within this model that help us to heal and transform whatever is going on in our lives." - Michelle Chalfant

"We have so many parts that are within us. So, when you get triggered, remember, it's an unconscious belief that's rising up inside of [you]." - Michelle Chalfant

"Triggers are an opportunity for us to see what is unknown within ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant

"Oftentimes anger and rage...it's a defense against a more vulnerable emotion." - Michelle Chalfant

"Our emotions oftentimes are stacked." - Michelle Chalfant

"Nobody can make you feel anything. How you feel is already within you." - Michelle Chalfant

"Working with triggers is such an important thing to help us to heal and live with emotional balance…Working with triggers is a way to stay connected to yourself." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

Summer 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Now Open!

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The Adult Chair® Website

The Adult Chair Events

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification