Have you ever felt on the outs? Like someone built a table purposefully for you NOT to sit at? Have you ever felt psychically attacked? Emotionally bullied? Ever screenshot private texts and shared them without permission... or had that done to you? This episode we are exploring something we call "Sisterwound", the psychological, emotional and social wounding that occurs, almost pathologically, EVERYDAY - particularly in cis female spaces. It is important to acknowledge that sisterwound is a result of the gender binary and is the internalized expression of the larger white supremacist patriarchal system. To that end, we take some time to do some education on the difference between anatomical sex and gender identity and underscore why the binary is harming and so easily produces something like Sisterwound.
Hierarchy and cultures of silence are the gasoline on this fire - where any hierarchical system exists, where people are not encouraged and supported to be direct with their needs and feelings, sisterwound will be present - with needs and feelings being weaponized for gain up that hierarchical structure.
This episode discusses where feminism missed the mark and how white cis- hetero passing women are the main perpetrators AND beneficiaries of this malignant force within social spheres, work spaces, spiritual circles and even activist groups. As two cis het white women we know it cause we ARE it - trying to figure out how to decondition/reprogram/heal/do better than inherited reactive patterning.
We don't claim to have it right. This is our raw, honest 2019 rendering of a tough conversation that doesn't stop at the end of this episode. This is a through line in our work and friendship and our commitment to working outside of this conditioning (or at least TRYING TO! This stuff goes DEEP!) is how we are able to keep our relationship clear. This episode might make your gut churn and throat get hot. That's the edge, the fear, the place we need to be in to grow beyond harming patterning - thanks for being brave. Feel free to reach to us with your feelings and memories brought up by this convo. We are co creating a new paradigm together and we need each other as we wade through the inherited muck of normalized wounding.
Next episode will be on trust building... some expansion after the contraction.
This episode of Tether Together was produced by Salvatore Interlandi
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