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Understanding Attachment Styles Sep 18, 2023

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Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up a great question! What on earth is attachment style? What is it, why does it matter, and how does it affect our lives? We are being joined by Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Melissa has worked for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! MELISSA CRUTCHFIELD, M.A., LPC has worked in the "people business" for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Melissa has a passion for helping individuals step into the freedom and fullness of who they were made to be. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friendships As An Adult Sep 11, 2023

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Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks how we can maintain friendships as an adult. In this episode, we will be discussing some helpful tips on how to navigate the challenges of friendships during this season of our lives, and ways to foster healthier relationships with our friends. We are joined by Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley, MS MHP, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care. She has experience in community mental health, crisis, suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. Tune in now for today's hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! JENNIFER HINKLE-STANLEY, MS MHP Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley has been married for 24 years, and has 3 teenage daughters as well as a granddaughter. She has worked in Missouri, Kansas, and now Pennsylvania. Her husband is in full time ministry and together they lead the Freedom ministry in their church. Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care.She has experience in community mental health, crisis and suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. She is the co-founder of Busted Biscuits, a program teaching women to be in healthy relationships with one another through in person group sessions and podcast. Her desire is to promote healing and growth within her sessions, helping each individual to find their identity and purpose, while also healing their relationships. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dysfunctional Family: Is There Hope for Me to Have a Future Healthy Family? Sep 04, 2023

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Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who says she comes from a dysfunctional family. They ask, can you have a healthy family despite coming from a dysfunctional one? We'll discover that answer in today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Our special guest is Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC, one of the amazing counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bri will leave you feeling empowered and full of hope for the future as we discuss how to cultivate hope for a future healthy family. Tune in now for today's hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! BRI FRANKLIN is proud to be able to integrate a faith perspective with research-based mental health practices. She offers a tailor-made approach to each of her clients. She graduated from a nationally-ranked, top ten graduate counseling program focusing on Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy with a certification in Mental Health Counseling. She is Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy trained. Bri has led counseling groups on topics of grief, anxiety, trauma, creative arts, and healthy relationships at a college counseling center. She is an Associate Certified Coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation and works as an Adult ADHD Executive Functioning Coach in addition to her role as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has taken seminary courses on biblical and theological foundations. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enjoying Singleness vs. Wanting Marriage Aug 31, 2023

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Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We're talking through this important topic today....so if you feel like you're having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Ways To Pray For Love (Even Before You Have A Relationship) Aug 29, 2023

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How do you pray for love? And what if you don't even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship? If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school. Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs. So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin? Whether you're praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love. 8 Ways To Pray For Love Today on the podcast, we're talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one. So check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn eight ways to pray for your love life. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Guard Your Heart Without Being Too Guarded Aug 24, 2023

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"Guard your heart". That's pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice. But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded? How To Guard Your Heart Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart...because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it's worth protecting. We've got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, physical, and emotional boundaries. Today we're talking through some of those steps, and what it looks like to practically guard your heart from getting attached to someone prematurely. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out how to guard your heart! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! TONIGHT, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Faith & Romance: Attracted to a Non-Christian Aug 21, 2023

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Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn't spiritually in tune with where you're at with your faith? What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship? Attracted To a Non Christian Today's episode answers a question from Sarah from Boston who is wondering what to do when you're attracted to someone who is not a Christian. How do you proceed with the friendship, or the relationship, without compromising your own faith? As a professional counselor who also happens to be a Christian, I've seen the role that faith plays in my personal relationship with my husband. But more so, the research backs it up....so let's have this conversation about faith and romance! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. Aug 18, 2023

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What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know. Being a Christian who also happens to be a Licensed Professional Counselor, I'm often asked to speak about the topic of biblical dating. How does a person date in a biblical way? What does the bible actually say about dating? How can a Christian manage the world of dating with a God-honoring perspective? Which concepts of dating can you take from the "world" and which should you take from the bible? I wrote my book, True Love Dates, because I wanted to tackle some of these important questions and bring to light how we can apply the concepts from the bible to approach toward dating, in a way that's spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically healthy. On the podcast, the question came up yet again: How do you pursue biblical dating? Interestingly enough, the answer might surprise you. BIBLICAL DATING ISN'T WHAT YOU THINK Interestingly enough, if we look through the pages of the bible, biblical dating is non-existent. People didn't "date" in the Middle East, and in fact, dating is still a brand new concept even today. In today's episode of the podcast, I talk through why biblical dating isn't actually what we think - and probably not what we want. Yet with the reminder that God's word is filled with concepts and principles that we can apply to dating right here and right now. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Single in my 30s- How To Hold On To Hope Aug 14, 2023

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What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s - your mid 30s, in fact - with no prospect of love in sight? "I never imagined I'd be single in my 30s". Today's caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined. I'm not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it's with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint. And in this world, there aren't always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and lies we can make sure we're demolishing as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart. Single in my 30s If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward. Tune into today's episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out the Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date Aug 10, 2023

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Heart break doesn't have to be the norm...if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on Tuesday's popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn't Date. Avoiding Heart Break These 10 ladies will string you on...drag you down...and break your heart. But it doesn't have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we're going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for. Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on. Tune into today's episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices