Stay ConnectedTraditional marriage counseling and marriage coaching will tell you to work on communication. A pastor might tell you to sacrifice more and forget about yourself.
But, what actually works when it comes to creating a strong, passionate marriage? One that’s full of love, connection and intimacy?
Find out with us on our podcast, Strong Men Strong Marriages.
Hosted by psychiatrist and marriage coach Mike Frazier, MD
Copyright: © 2024 Strong Men Strong Marriages
If you’ve been following along with the intimacy intensive series, you’ve learned that women are attracted to strength.
So, you may be wanting to build your strength.
But, that strength needs to be built on a solid foundation.
If you want to build strength mainly so that you can save your marriage or have more sex with your wife…
You are built on a sandy foundation.
At its core, this reason is still manipulative and controlling. You’re changing to change her behavior.
And, therefore, building strength for her is very unattractive.
And, if your wife has already separated from you, she knows that if she comes back, you’ll be back to your old self. Because your motivation to change (getting her back) is now gone.
On the other hand, deciding to build strengths because that’s who you want to be as a man is strong and attractive.
You have control over this outcome, where you have no control over the other (your wife’s decisions).
And, if you anchor who you want to be as a man and husband to who God wants you to be, you are building on the ultimate strong foundation (in my Chrisitan beliefs and opinion).
You feel good about your decision and who you are, and that feels strong and is attractive.
Learn more about building strength and making changes for attractive vs unattractive reasons in today’s episode.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. In the next few weeks, I’ll be launching the updated version of The Strong Man System. It’s going to be the best and most effective version yet.
P.P.S. Want more intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLICK HERE to watch now. https://mikefraziermd.mykajabi.com/more-intimate-marriage
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Last week I attended a writing workshop through Scribe.
It was an amazing experience, but one of the most meaningful parts was getting clear on who I can help best.
In this episode, I describe clearly the type of person with the type of problem I feel especially able to help with.
I call him John.
John is a professionally successful Christian man who has a good marriage… except for the sex.
But, if you dig a little deeper, you’ll see that it’s really a deep sense of feeling trapped.
He tries so hard to make his wife happy, but it never translates to sex.
He feels he’s getting all the responsibilities of marriage with none of the benefits.
He wants to be committed to his wife sexually, but since she won’t have sex with him, what is he supposed to do?
He sometimes turns to pornography, then feels guilty about this. He sometimes thinks he’d be better off with another woman (like maybe women at work or even at church who admire him), then feels guilty about those thoughts.
He’s asked his wife to have more sex, but it never results in lasting change.
What is John to do? He wants to be a good man, and he feels like he’s being a good husband. Checking off the boxes of what should result in him having a great marriage and a great sex life.
But it’s not working. And leaving his wife or turning to pornography or another women don’t line up with his Christian values.
He feels extremely frustrated and trapped.
Learn more about John’s struggles in today’s episode.
If John sounds like you, then I can help you.
If he doesn’t, you’re probably better off finding another coach who can help you better.
Watch on YouTube here.
Fortunately, there’s a way out of this.
You can feel free and have an amazing sex life with your wife.
That’s what I help men do and we’ll talk more details in the next episode.
Dr. Mike
P.S. In the next few weeks, I’ll be launching the updated version of The Strong Man System. It’s going to be more fun and better than ever.
P.S. Want more intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLICK HERE to watch now.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Last week we learned about the common mistakes men make when trying to have more intimacy with their wife.
The main problem is that these methods are NEEDY, WEAK and SELFISH.
Women always have been and always will be attracted to…
STRENGTH.
In old times, physical or financial strength was enough.
But, now that women can provide for themselves financially, they are looking for men who are strong in ALL areas.
Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and sexual.
Today we’ll talk about what I believe is the MOST important strength…
And how you can start developing it TODAY to have more intimacy with your wife.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who wants more intimacy in his marriage…
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call to see if you’re a good fit for the program.
I look forward to speaking with you!
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Over the next few weeks we’ll be doing a short “intimacy intensive” course.
This will help you to start the new year with improved intimacy with your wife.
Today we’re going to talk about the 3 problematic approaches that men take when they want more intimacy with their wife.
-The Mosquito Method
-The Pout Method
-The “You Owe Me” Method
All three of these are based on neediness and weakness, and will eventually lead to LESS passion and intimacy in your marriage.
Learn what these methods are, and how to stop them, in today’s episode.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who wants more intimacy in his marriage…
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call to see if you’re a good fit for the program.
I look forward to speaking with you!
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
I’ve been sick in bed with COVID all this week, so today I’m going to refer you to a different podcast.
The Joe Rogan Experience - #1747 - Dr. Peter A McCullough
Dr. McCullough is a renowned physician and has testified in congress regarding COVID treatment.
In this episode, you’ll hear Dr. McCullough’s concern about the glaring lack of treatment for COVID-19.
You’ll also hear why he believes masks don’t really make sense, and how you can not get COVID twice.
His solution to beat the pandemic is focusing on natural immunity and treatment for the virus to avoid hospitalization and death.
If you want to hear me say basically this in a sick voice,
Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/H6CVWbAZm9w
Dr. Mike
P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $2500 back. CLICK HERE to join.
P.S. Want more intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLICK HERE to watch now.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
You’re probably setting some goals for the new year right now.
But, before you do, listen to this episode.
You may be setting goals for all the WRONG reasons…
Which will SABOTAGE your success…
Or make your success less sweet.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $2500 back. CLICK HERE to join.
P.P.S. Want more intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLICK HERE to watch now.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
It’s Christmas this week and a great time to get to know Jesus better.
Over the past few months, I feel like I’ve finally started to understand Jesus better.
Instead of trying to EARN my salvation and “try to be like Jesus,”
I’ve started to focus on letting Him into my life.
I feel more free, easy and abundant than I ever have.
And that’s available to you too.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $2500 back. CLICK HERE to join.
P.P.S. Want more intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLICK HERE to watch now.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
When I ran track in middle school, my coach told me…
“Imagine there’s a big dog chasing you.”
That DID motivate me to run faster (especially since I had been attacked by a dog a few years earlier).
For high achieving men, the “dog” motivating them to “run faster” is often the feeling of not being good enough.
They reach for higher and higher levels of financial and professional success, hoping to finally feel they have “arrived.”
And this strategy DOES work to achieve high levels of financial and other success (though it eventually gets frustrating).
But it fails MISERABLY in marriage.
You try everything you can to “make your wife happy…”
But that’s not your REAL motivation.
You’re doing nice things for her so that she can give you attention, appreciation and affection.
So you can finally feel like a strong, sexually attractive man.
In other words, you are USING her to feel good about YOURSELF.
And that is EXTREMELY unattractive.
Learn the solution to all of this in today’s episode.
How to get rid of the dog, but still be motivated to be the type of man you were meant to be.
Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $2500 back. CLICK HERE to join.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
If you’re a human male, you’re going to get mad sometimes.
But, how you handle that anger will have a BIG impact on how attractive you are to your wife...
And how you’re viewed by everyone else.
Learn how to stop the “volcano method”
(Acting like everything is fine and then exploding over something small)
And the “coping method”
(Escaping anger and other negative emotions with alcohol, drugs, pornography, or food)
In today’s episode.
Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.
https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you want to learn my best tools to build your spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength, come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $2500 back. CLICK HERE to join.
P.P.S. Trying to save your marriage? Watch my free training, The 3 Fatal Mistakes High Achieving Men Make When Trying To Save Their Marriage… And What To Do Instead. CLICK HERE to watch now.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
About 1 in 10 women suffer from depression.
About 1 in 4 suffer from anxiety
About 1 in 4 have been through sexual trauma.
If your wife is suffering from depression, anxiety or PTSD, she’s not alone.
And neither are you.
Supporting a wife who is struggling with depression, anxiety or PTSD can be very difficult.
Today I’ll share the most helpful tips that have helped me and my wife as she has dealt with all three of these issues.
Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving Christian man who is ready to create deep mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with his wife starting TODAY… (even if she's struggling with depression, anxiety or PTSD)...
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll get daily coaching and accountability to become the strong, attractive man that God wants you to be.
It’s in line with Christian principles, so the changes are lasting and set the example for generations to follow.
Because of this, success is inevitable.
See results here.
Let’s get to work my friend!
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
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