Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

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99: Moving Beyond The Small (and Big) Traumas to Find MORE Happiness and Love! Sep 04, 2023

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Listen to this incredibly authentic episode with somatic trauma practitioner Karlee Holden and Bela. Karlee specializes in helping people for the last 20 years in poor relationships develop better boundaries, overcome anxiety and overthinking, more self-love and self worth to create the life they want! In the course of the conversation, Bela reveals a tough moment in her day with her son which Karlee helps her to handle more authentically (turns into a live coaching session). We all have little and big traumas that we can use our body and minds to heal, and Bela's son Max makes a debut on the podcast which was powerful :)
Karlee will tell us:
-What is considered trauma?
-Why is setting clear boundaries so important for our emotional well being?
How we can attract more love and healthy relationships?
How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. What does that look like?
What are some actions we can do to create self love, care and boundaries?
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98: The Nudge Text - When to Use in Dating! Aug 30, 2023

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97: What are BEIGE FLAGS in Dating? Aug 29, 2023

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Listen to this awesome mini episode where Bela tells you what the newest trend of "BEIGE FLAGS" are. What are your 'beige flags', and when can a beige flag turn into a red flag? Tune in for a succinct answer to this question, and know EXACTLY what to look for!
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96: The FASTEST Way to Get Over Heartbreak / Sadness Aug 28, 2023

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In this mini episode, you'll hear the most awesome, easy way to get over your sadness, grief, heartbreak & disappointment about your breakup! And it'll take you no time to do the exercise Bela recommends - listen NOW to amp up your healing! Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com). Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy! Fill out our podcast listener survey by putting this link into your browser: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/survey Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

95: The Unexpected #1 Relationship Killer: 46% of Divorced Couples Agree! Aug 21, 2023

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According to new studies, what is the #1 Relationship Killer (spoiler alert - it's NOT money or infidelity) according to 46% of divorcing couples? To answer the question, we invited Susan Guthrie, divorce attorney with over 30 years of experience and host of the "Divorce and Beyond" podcast to talk to us about it. You won't want to miss this whether you're single or coupled at any age! If you're dating, you'll know what to look for, and if you're in a relationship, you can navigate this! Susan talks through the data, and Bela talks about HOW to make sure your relationship doesn't end up THERE (and how to ensure a GREAT relationship)!
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94: Why Do We Become Narcissists, and Can We Change? Aug 14, 2023

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In this episode, Kate Anthony, Divorce Coach and Host of "The DIvorce Survival Guide Podcast" tells us about the 21st century narcissist. She explains:

What is the definition of a narcissist and why have you had a change of heart on the term?
Are there more narcissists today than ever before? Oof!
What is the difference between narcissist, abuser, sociopath and why doesn't the "diagnosis" even matter?
Do narcissists ever change?
Why divorce rates climb for second and third marriages?
What's the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath?
When is it best to begin dating post-divorce?
What do you feel are the reasons that men typically move on faster post-divorce?

You'll learn a lot, and enjoy Kate's fun style - she's smart, fun, and gets straight to it!
If you're ready for a change, book your consultation with us at www.smartdatingacademy.com
If you want to pre-order Kate's AMAZING new book (drops in October), here it is on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3QoeKJM
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93: HOW TO BE HOTTER THAN EVER! Aug 07, 2023

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This week's episode is a FUN one with Erin Keating who talks about her tips on being "Hotter Than Ever." Erin tells the story about how she blew up her life at age 50 and started to reinvent herself to become a more authentic version of myself TODAY (rather just living in the results of the goals she had for myself and my life 20 years ago). She also describes her unconventional dating "Rumspringa" the year following my separation (her year to explore and 'sow her wild oats'), and 4 things you can do to be Hotter than Ever.
Erin Keating is an award-winning television development and production executive and single Mom to twin tweens living in Los Angeles. Her podcast Hotter Than Ever reflects the authentic, messy, sexy, funny and inspiring stories of women over forty.
Erin’s passion for smart, brand-defining original programming has led to zeitgeist-shaping shows like Portlandia, along with the first-ever made-for-mobile scripted series. Her career has included senior creative roles at Snapchat, Big Beach TV, IFC TV and Magna Global Entertainment. She climbed the television ladder at BBC America, NBC and Comedy Central.
Recent shows created under Erin’s watch have included the Emmy-winning James Corden’s Next James Corden, the WGA Award winning drama Class of Lies, the WGA Award nominated thriller Breakwater and the NAACP Image Award-nominated Two Sides. Erin also conceived the drama Vida (Starz), produced the documentary Fatherless (Fusion), and executived the hell out of the iconic sketch series Portlandia (which won a Peabody and a bunch of other fancy statues) along with other comedy, dramedy and animated series.
Erin grew up in the basement theaters of downtown NYC, where she produced and performed in live comedy shows at venues like The Slipper Room and The Zipper Factory. She started out as an actor, studying theater at Oberlin College, Meisner technique at Ward Studio, and improvisation at The Second City Training Center in New York.
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92: Midore's Love Story - Finding Love after 50! Jul 31, 2023

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This episode is a wonderful, inspiring story of Midore T, who lives in NYC. Midore saw Bela on a national NBC show called, "1st Look" and knew she needed to enlist some help with her dating life. She is now happily married to John, and tells her story in detail. Here is the form that Midore filled out to contact us:
Send us your question or what you're interested in!:
Hi Bela,
I contacted you once about 5 months ago this year via email (not from this form).
My first marriage ended in divorce over 10 years ago...and ever since I was busy building my career as an architect in NYC. My last relationship was a long distance one with an Italian man in Italy, which lasted a bit over a year. At a time of its break-up, I began studying Italian, which I still am. I love all things Italian and travels to Italy a lot. In My recent vacation, i spent a week in Umbria, being in a Yoga Retreat and another week in Puglia (a heel of a boot of Italy).
I decided to contact you because I would love to meet men with a similar passion (in life, travel, culture, language) to have a solid relationship with and eventually to get married. It's been challenging because I am a very young 50 yr. old, and easily mistaken for 30 something. While I am often attracted to younger men, it's not about their biological age, but about their spirit. I love kids though I might not be able to have my own . So, meanwhile, I have two kitty girls. Anyway, I am interested in a Coaching Package. Please contact me to discuss this process. Thanks & I look forward to hearing from you!
Midore
In this episode you will hear:

Her BIG learning curve, and the massive mindset shifts Midore made around dating
How she had an accountability partner for dating in her office (who was also a Smart Dating client), and their weekly dating meetings
How her first relationship ended up being with someone with 'red flags' and how we told her to end it (which ended perfectly)
How she dated on her own again after Raymond, and decided to come back to Smart Dating for a second round of coaching (and that was the magical round)
How she realized she had been attracted to 'narcissists'
After her 'reboot', how she had the WRONG time for her first date!
What she suggested for her second date (and he said YES)
How they got engaged on October 13, and how COVID affected their wedding in Oaxaca Mexico
How she has made a career pivot, and is coaching architects to live their best lives!

You'll love this episode, and hear the beautiful Midore tell her story. And how love can come in an unexpected package! You'll be inspired to dip your toe, or JUMP into the pool as she did. It's never too late to find love :)
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91: HOW TO GET "UNSTUCK" IN LOVE AND LIFE! Jul 24, 2023

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Bela has an amazing conversation with somatic coach Sarah Baldwin about getting "unstuck" and it's NOT what you expect. And getting unstuck requires a thorough understanding of and healing of...wait for it.....your nervous system. Sarah has been through unspeakable trauma, and after years and years of therapy, began somatic healing for herself, which became her purpose. In this episode, you will hear about:
1) How our nervous system is responsible for EVERY perception we have
2) How to learn to regulate ourselves?
3) What are daily neural exercises we can all do (if we're in fight, flight, or freeze)?
4) What is neuroception, and what database does it draw up from our brain?
5) How our nervous system is our best friend, and how it protects us?
6) Different breathing techniques for every situation that will make you feel better, instantly
You will LOVE this episode, and learn SO much. Sarah is amazing, and we are so happy to have had her on the episode.
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90: How to Lose Weight, Lower Stress & Optimize Your Health for FREE - with Megan Ramos! Jul 17, 2023

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How to Optimize Your Health, Balance Your Hormones and Lose Weight - with Megan Ramos
Bela has an incredible interview with one of her personal heroes, Megan Ramos, best-selling author of "The Essential Guide to Intermittent Fasting for Women." Megan and her business partner, Dr. Jason Fung, are some of the most renowned researchers in health and fasting. Intermittent fasting is something that can benefit so many of us, and the benefits are massive overall. Listen to Megan drop her best gems including:

How we have been sold a 'bill of goods' about what & when we should eat
How the average American woman has tried 126 diets by the age of 50
How Megan hired Canada's most expensive nutritionist and trainer, and ended up gaining over 80 lbs (and developing Type 2 Diabetes at 27)
Why have we become 'unhealthier' as the decades have gone on
How to fix things for good, and it requires NO money, special foods, etc.

Bela loves Megan (and Dr. Fung) and learned of their work on a girls' weekend in 2021. Her life and health have changed for the better since then, and we hope you will find this episode incredibly enlightening!
If you want to purchase Megan's new book (which is GREAT and easy to read), click here to purchase: https://amzn.to/3qZUX90
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