Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

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109: "Long Distance" Love Story: Linda finds love with Brett through a Facebook Group (and they're in their 50s) Nov 13, 2023

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"Long Distance" Love Story: Linda finds love with Brett through a Facebook Group (and they're in their 50s)
Listen to this week's inspiring Smart Dating love story with our client Linda, a physician from Chicago. Linda had some fears, and a self-proclaimedly "bad picker." She got married in her 40s (red flags in his online profile even back then). As her light started to dim in her marriage, she played smaller and smaller while his behavior got worse and worse. One day, she came home to a letter from his mistress attached to her windshield wiper. She didn't want to get divorced, until a divorce attorney said, "I've seen this movie thousands of times." She filed, got divorced, and her light started to shine brightly again. As she said, "I became fabulous again." When she attended a med school reunion, a friend of hers suggested Smart Dating Academy. She went through our process, and learned to how 'pick' High GHQ guys, and MET HER GUY BRETT IN A FACEBOOK GROUP! We teach people how to use all 3 'levers' to meet people -- online dating, meeting people in real life, and getting friends to 'fix you up.' Her friend Sara Jane sent a DM to "Brett the Vet" on behalf of Linda, and the rest has been history. They have made a long distance relationship work, and are so in love, Smart Dating style (with good coaching helping to keep it on track). Listen to this episode, and Linda will capture your heart, and inspire you that love can come from ANYWHERE, even a professional Facebook group, and can thrive across state lines!!
Remember, love will come to you in an unexpected package, in an unexpected place, at an unexpected time. It's your job to be READY! If you're ready to be the next LInda, go to www.smartdatingacademy.com and fill out a contact form to get on our waitlist for Peak Dating Season. You're NEXT to find love!
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108: How We Fall in Love with Dr. Helen Fisher Nov 06, 2023

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Bela talks to one of the world's great love luminaries, Dr. Helen Fisher, who has been studying romantic love for over 50 years. Helen is a prolific author, researcher, TED speaker, and Chief Scientific Officer at Match.com. You will be RIVETED by this episode, where you will hear:

What exactly is ROMANTIC love, and what are the markers of it?
Why love is a drive like hunger and thirst - it's involuntary!
HOW you keep romantic love alive for decades
What is the biggest difference between "new, hot in love" couples and couples that say they're still "in love" after decades - and this is documented by FMRI brain scans!
Why marriage keeps us healthier
How Helen met and married in her 70s!!
Why 'positive illusions' are critical to relationships
What are the THREE KEY things singles on Match say that are IMPORTANT to them?
Why online dating makes meeting people harder
Helen's wisest gem advice at the end -- don't miss this!

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107: Helping Women Find Bliss in Midlife! Oct 30, 2023

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Listen to this episode with Dr. Anna Garrett! She was a pharmacist who realized that she was filling lots of prescriptions to "react" to medical issues, but that no one was really looking for the "cause" of the issues. She went back and became certified in Functional Medicine, and has a practice to help women feel GREAT in midlife. She will discuss the differences between perimenopause, menopause, weight gain, what hormones NEED to be looked at (and their proportions), and why dating during this time can be awesome for both women (and the men that are dating them)! She gives her great gem of advice to men at the end of the episode which will make you laugh!
If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!
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106: Creating REAL connections in a disconnected world Oct 23, 2023

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Today's world can feel more disconnected than ever, and yet we are WIRED for connection. Humans crave it from family, friends and romantic partners. How do we begin to "feel seen" and reconnect with people? Dr. Jody Carrington opens up with a BANG with her story of finding out about her adopted sister when she was in her late 30s (this story will GRIP you). Jody pursued her Masters, PhD, and made online dating a JOB (went on dates at 10am and 2pm on Saturdays and Sundays). She met her husband, is a mom of 3, and a renowned therapist, author, and speaker. In this episode, you will learn:
-"We are just here to walk each other home" -- why that Ram Dass quote hangs above her desk and why you NEED to make this your outloook
-The best skill you can teach yourself in dating
-What is the most grounding force in the world that can make you feel better right away?
-Why agency and gratitude make dating FUN
-Why an emotionally regulated partner is SO important
-What 4 minutes of eye contact is for!
You'll fall in love with Dr. Jody,
BIO
Dr. Jody Carrington is a renowned psychologist sought after for her expertise, energy and approach to helping people solve their most complex human-centred challenges. Jody focuses much of her work around reconnection – the key to healthy relationships and productive teams.
As a bestselling author, speaker, and leader of Carrington & Company, Jody uses humour, and all she has learned in her twenty-year career as a psychologist to empower everyone she connects with. In her latest book, Feeling Seen, she dives into what it takes to reconnect a disconnected world.
Jody’s message is as simple as it is complex: we are wired to do the hard things, but we were never meant to do any of this alone.
If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!
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105: 3 Simple Steps to Change Your Life & Get Unstuck! Oct 16, 2023

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Listen to Bela chat with Britt Frank very candidly about how we ALL have trauma, and how to get UNSTUCK! Britt became a neuropsychotherapist after experiencing addiction and abuse - and is artful at helping people get out of their own way as she did. She defines trauma as anything that is "too much, too fast, or too soon" for our brains. Trauma to our brain is what indigestion is to the stomach. Here is what you will learn in this amazing episode:

What is trauma and what is trauma response?
What are the "3 Steps to Unstuck" - and how can you start this TODAY?
Why we should ditch the "WHY?"
What can trauma from a past romantic relationship look like and manifest itself?
What is pattern interruption and why is it so important in healing trauma and getting off of autopilot?
What are some tools to break old habits?
Hear Bela's awesome idea to get yourself included in new events that family and friends are hosting!

Bio:
Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP is a licensed neuropsychotherapist and author of The Science of Stuck(Penguin Random House), named by SHRM, Esquire, New York Magazine, and The Next Big Idea Club as a must-read. Britt received her undergraduate degree from Duke University and her master’s degree from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct instructor. Britt is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and her work has been featured in Forbes, NPR, Fast Company, Psych Central, SELF, and Thrive Global
Website (and where you can buy the book): https://www.scienceofstuck.com/
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104: Love Every Day with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Oct 09, 2023

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Bela chats with Dr. Alexandra Solomon about her new book, "Love Every Day" - and we talk about so many things including:

Can we get better at relationships?
Toxic Monogamy - What does it mean, and why is it fostered by "Disney" and the Hollywood industry?
Attraction -- does being attracted to someone while you're in a relationship mean the death-knell of the relationship?
What is 'micro-cheating' and how to know if you're doing it! The best test and so easy to do....
Why a deep friendship is KEY to a successful relationship
Why great sex long term is also fueled by friendship

This episode is awesome, and if you're ready to invest in Dr. Solomon's book, put this link in your browser to buy it! https://bit.ly/3Lu449e
Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational jmSelf-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely.
If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!
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103: Secrets to the BEST You! Oct 02, 2023

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Bela chats with Julia Arndt, founder of the PPM (Peak Performance Method) about key practices to becoming the BEST version of yourself. Julia didn't have an easy path - even though if you look at her, you would think that. She originally hails from Germany, has lived in 5 countries over the last 14 years and speaks three languages fluently. After working at Google in Silicon Valley for seven and a half years while the company grew from 30.000 to 100.000 employees, Julia BURNED OUT and took 3 months leave to figure out her life - which led her to teaching over 10,000 employees at huge companies how to do this themselves. She has been cheated on, moved countries, and has figured out how to help us:

Love ourselves (so we aren't 'addicted' to the feelings of romantic love)
Destress ourselves
Ask 3 important questions to decide HOW to handle a 'not-awesome' situation
How to create a life you want
How to create the steps to DO IT...

You'll learn a great deal in this episode (and do email me your lists to share if you'd like -- spoiler alert - there's homework)! If you like Julia's planner, put this link into your browser to order it (https://amzn.to/3rkXnQ4).
If you're ready to find the lid to your pot, and this episode inspired you to TAKE ACTION, email datecoach@smartdatingacademy.com TODAY and inquire about how we can help you to get on track!
If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!
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102: The BIG Secret to a Happy Relationship! Sep 25, 2023

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This episode is genuinely amazing - Bela chats with relationship therapist Carole Cullen about the secrets to the happiest relationships! Carole is trained by the Gottman Institute, and you will hear so many gems including:

What being 'vulnerable' means on dates and HOW to do it (without oversharing)! Great tips on how to do this date by date
Why being vulnerable connects you in the right ways
What is a "Love Map" and why you relationship needs one?
How many positive to negative interactions should one have for a happy relationship?
How do you truly send 'appreciations' to your mate?
What does 'turning towards' mean and how does it positively affect your relationship?
How has Carole put even the most troubled relationships back on track, and what it takes for both people to do?

You will LOVE this and if you did, we would LOVE for you to share this episode, and tag us on your social media! We will give you some love back! You can tag us @smartdatingacademy on Instagram or Facebook!
If you're ready to find the lid to your pot, and this episode inspired you to TAKE ACTION, email datecoach@smartdatingacademy.com TODAY and inquire about how we can help you to get on track!
If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!
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101: Dating and Aging From a MAN's Perspective Sep 18, 2023

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Listen to Tom Blake, dating columnist and author offer his wisdom to women from a man's perspective about Dating Over 50. Tom was thrust into the dating world when his wife of six years called him on Christmas (while he was visiting his elderly mom) to let him know that she and her kids had moved out! He started a column helping other singles in his age bracket, and has been writing about this since 1994. He lost his partner of 25 years last year, and has been online dating for the past year. You'll hear:
-How Tom missed his date walking by in the bar because her photos were SO outdated
-His favorite date
-The Biggest Mistakes Women Make
-What he thinks about long distance
-How to make yourself 'available'
-Why the amount of time someone has been divorced or widowed doesn't always matter
Tom is sweet, honest, and since you wanted more male voices, we are delivering!
If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!
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100: THE INSIDER'S SECRETS TO DATING SUCCESS - PART 1 Sep 12, 2023

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Bela chats with her long standing Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson in a 2 part episode to review the secrets of her most successful clients! Lindsay has been helping people find love for over 20 years, and has helped thousands of singles find love! They will discuss the patterns that have HELPED their clients most! You won't want to miss any of this, and here are some highlights of the episode:
1) You won’t know who the love of your life is based off on online profile or a first date - and hear WHY!
2) Ignore the clock - internally and externally! How and why to do that!
3) Doing something everyday adds up to big results over time - what's the best routine?
4) Treasure Hunting - How people find love in the most unexpected places!
5) Diversify your dating life - how do you do that?
6) Where there is smoke, there is fire....Kick the tires, and hard!
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