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Christine Cocchiola, LCSW, return guest on Slam the Gavel discusses Post Separation Abuse and how it Affects Parents and Children May 18, 2021

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Christine Cocchiola, LCSW, a return guest on Slam the Gavel discusses Post Separation Abuse and how the courts and Legislation have Cognitive Dissonance as they don't want to believe Coercive Control exists.
Major discussion on Compound Trauma and the article, "Welcome to Holland," written by Emily Pearl Kingsley which can be related to Coercive Control that leads to Post Separation Abuse before and after leaving an abusive relationship.
"The power to control," states Christine. is what it comes down to as 50% of all women and children are homeless due to leaving Coercive Controlling relationships while Post Separation Abuse can occur in a relationship before, during and after.
Not only does this damage the Target Parent, but especially the children. Christine asks, "how would you treat a child with a physical wound?" Positive coping skills for parents and their children are extremely helpful.
We discussed Legislation, Ty's Law in Colorado HB 21-1099, Kyra's Law in New York A05398, Kaden's Law in Pennsylvania SB 868 and Jennifers' Law in Connecticut 1091 SB, proposed by Alex Kasser.
To reach Christine Cocchiola: www.christinecocchiola.com
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Barbara Schroeder, Certified Reunification Coach, Ohio Supreme Court Mediator, Guardian ad Litem and Parenting Coordinator, works with families who are experiencing alienation May 13, 2021

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My guest today is Barb Schroeder. Barb works with families who are experiencing alienation. She is a certified Reunification Coach, Ohio Supreme Court Mediator, Guardian at Litem and Parenting Coordinator.
Although Barb works in the court system her emphasis is working with families that the court system has failed. Helping alienated parents find stability, strategies for reaching out to their adult children and preparing them for reunification are just some of the things she focuses on with her clients. Barb would be happy to work with you.
We discussed how alienated parents will handle upcoming graduations, Mother's Day and Father's Day and the coping skills such as reaching out to an organization for children without parents and try to do something special for them for those occasions. The importance to plan an activity or project to keep oneself focused on something else other than a day a parent won't be able to see their child.
Barbara encourages to avoid social media and focus on other projects and positive coping skills.
Remember that this is a day about your child, not about you and making sure that you are trying to make it known to your child that you are present, whether it be a graduation or wedding.
Barbara encourages that part of preparing to reunify is making sure that you can anticipate the ups and downs of reunification and also that you are in the best shape physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally.
She can be reached by email at barbschroeder864@yahoo.com or 440 221-1866
https://www.thebridge4us.com/

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Barbara Drtina, Founder and CEO of Wellness Matters, You Matter, LLC. discusses disrupting the myth of Parental Alienation May 10, 2021

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Barbara Drtina earned her degree in Early Childhood Education. She has lived in a number of different places in the world and loves to experience different cultures. She was able to realize her dream of being a stay – at – home mom after stabilizing her marriage and finances.
After being married 20 yrs she found herself in a High Conflict divorce trying to raise 2 daughters as a single mom. This situation changed the course of her life. She became the Targeted Parent in the throws of Parental Alienation. She has been navigating through this for over 20 yrs.
She lost one daughter to suicide at the age of 15 and is speaking out on the collateral damage of suicide as well as Parental Alienation. She believes that PA is the root cause of her daughter’s death and the estrangement of her other daughter and her grandson. Her passion is create awareness of parental alienation and to save our children from being put in the middle when separation or divorce happen and to champion the rights of our children to have full access to both parents. Our children and the targeted parent are the collateral damage.
Barbara Drtina is the founder and CEO of Wellness Matters, You Matter, LLC, a company dedicated to creating a lifestyle focused on physical health as well as emotional health. After losing a daughter to suicide at the age of 15 she realized how important it is to address emotional health and wellbeing especially with our youth. She teaches mindfulness and meditation practices and works with single moms going through divorce to help mitigate the trauma on themselves and their children.
She focuses on Physical Health through Nutrigenomics as well as Emotional Health, Resiliency and Trauma Guided Recovery. She is dedicated to bringing awareness to the going epidemic of Parental Alienation ( Parental alienation describes a process through which a child becomes estranged from a parent as the result of the psychological manipulation of another parent). She is a speaker on this topic as well as, surviving the loss of a child, those left behind after suicide, parental alienation as well as the emerging field of Nutrigenomics.
She has just written her story called, "Remember Me, Mom,". Her book launches on May 28th, Ignite Possibilities… She would love your support. You can go to Amazon on that day for a Free Kindle Download on that day.
To reach Barbara: www.WellnessMattersYouMatter.com

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Claudia Ovalles, a Marine and Child Advocate, helping with Legislation in Texas, to Bring Awareness to Child Custody Interference May 08, 2021

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Slam the Gavel welcomes Claudia Ovalles, a Marine as well s a Child Advocate out of Texas who helps with Legislation and brings much awareness to Child Custody Interference.
Claudia assists other parents who want the best for their children by speaking to Legislation to help push Senate Bill 2011 and HB 4240 (Interference with Child Custody) through. (Can be found on Facebook) She also started a Facebook page for California regarding these HB's in reference to California.
She shared her own experience with Parental Alienation and after going through the pain of her own experience channeled her energy while gathering more parents into speaking with the Legislation into passing not only Senate but House Bills as well.
A true Champion, Claudia Ovalles is determined to make a change in children's lives and wants to see the Children's Bill of Rights come forward. She shares with us that HB 2153 has very little time and may have to approach Legislature again in two years to review this HB.
Claudia shared with us her coping skills while staying busy advocating to, with and for parents and spends time with her spouse and her beautiful Mastiff.
To reach Claudia, you can find her on Facebook
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Tracy Kittle of the Hero's Circle discusses how Family Court contributes to children's physical and emotional well-bing and her book, "Parental Alienation: The Aftermath" May 07, 2021

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Tracy Kittle is an adult child of parental alienation. Tracy’s dream is to one day see all 50 states adopt a rebuttable presumption of 50/50 custody to end the unnecessary separation from either parent and put a stop to covert alienation. She is the co-host of "Friends Talking Nerdy" podcast.
Also, Tracy is working on a book called, "Parental Alienation: The Aftermath," (a collection of true stories told by adult children of parental alienation. This is a part of her campaign to bring public awareness to this serious form of child abuse.)
We discussed speaking out on Parental Alienation and 3.9 million children are in contact with an overt and covert Alienator. Also discussed was visitation orders and accountability within the Family Court System.
Tracy gave good advice going into Mother's and Father's Day was to focus on self-care and a positive mindset.
To contact Tracy: https://theheroscircle.com/
Instagram account where she shares and talks about her own healing journey and is always open to having conversations through there: @ThereIsLifeAfterTrauma
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Lisa Johnson discusses "Been There Got Out,” and her Legal Abuse Support Group That Helps Others Deal With A Broken Family Court System May 06, 2021

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Lisa is a state-certified domestic violence advocate in her seventh year (and counting) in the court system. She has represented herself successfully on both the trial and appellate court levels through dozens of court appearances, and her case was just published in the Connecticut Law Journal (March 23, 2021) to be used as legal precedent. She also recently testified before the Connecticut Judiciary Committee to support Jennifers’ Law, which seeks to expand the definition of domestic violence in the courts to include “coercive control.”
She has saved literally hundreds of thousands of dollars by representing herself in court and has been told by experts that her success is due to her courageous refusal to quit and ability to access an invaluable support network.
A former high school English teacher and backpacking around Europe aficionado, Lisa’s current life now also includes parenting her two practically adult kids, chairing her local library’s book sale (16+ years), running an online luxury fashion business, and being on the go with her partner, Chris, the male half of Been There Got Out! She also enjoys reading, tag sailing, writing, hip hop dancing, kickboxing, and all kinds of creative projects.
We discussed her triumph at the Appellate level as a Pro Se Litigant, Legal Abuse and how she dealt with 14 Continuances in one and a half years as well as excellent coping skills.
Episode runs 58:38
How to reach Lisa: lisa@beentheregotout.com
On Instagram: @been_there_got_out
Facebook: been there got out
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Trish Guise and her daughter, talk about divorce, coping with Parental Alienation, Depression and her Life Goals May 06, 2021

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Trish Guise, High Conflict Divorce Strategist and New Ways for Families Coach, is back on Slam the Gavel now with her daughter, Keelee. We talked about how Keelee finds her counselor very helpful and that in the future, Keelee would like to be Therapist and help people dealing with trauma and Neuro-Psychology.
Keelee talks about getting her Master's Degree as well as her Ph.D, but wants to study in Norway.
Talking about Depression and self-harming behaviors, cutting herself off from her friends, Keelee has struggled with these emotions for a number of years and is concerned about how all this will carry over to her adult life.
Keelee is an inspiration to us all and is determined to make a change in not only her life, but in the lives of others and encourages everyone to focus on communication.
To reach Trish: trish@trishguise.com
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Carnell Smith, Author of "TRAPPED BY LAW," won his own paternity fraud case after appealing to the U.S. Supreme Court by changing the law in his state Apr 30, 2021

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Carnell Smith is a husband, father, grandfather, Ordained Minister and Engineer with a degree in Electronic Engineering Technology with studies in Information Technology and Product Management.
Mr. Smith won his own paternity fraud case using the legislation that he co-wrote with Georgia Legislators, after the Supreme Court of the United States denied his constitutional arguments.
Carnell Smith also has written model law, consulted on legislation in more than 10 states and has gotten legislation passed in several states.
Author of the book, "TRAPPED BY LAW," spokesman and speaker, workshop leader, is a frequent contributor to TV, radio, books, newspapers, magazines and film projects in the United States and abroad. He has marketed and sold Legal DNA Testing for Maternity, Paternity and Immigration identifications for a decade and currently serves on the Advisory board for the Women Against Paternity Fraud, a 501 (c) tax exempt non-profit organization.
"Everyone deserves to know the truth." We discussed how 30,000 men and boys are not to be the fathers and sit in prison. They will travel in and out of the court system and prison system paying child support on children that aren't even theirs. Cases of mistaken identity, soldiers deployed in the military and some trying to fight back publicly just to name a few. It's a nightmare that can happen to any teen or young man.
To Reach Carnell Smith: Linktr.ee/PaternityCoach
Carnell Smith, Truthologist/Paternity Coach
Founder of DNA Truth University
Facebook: Paternity Coach and carnellsmith.com
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Danica Joan, M.Ed. is a Certified Family Mediator with the Florida Supreme Court and discusses educating professionals and guiding families through coaching Apr 27, 2021

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Wonderful conversation with Danica Joan, M.Ed who is a Certified Family Mediator with the Florida Supreme Court, a Guardian Ad Litem, the author of Florida’s Family Stabilization Parent Education Curriculum, a Personal Custody Coach and founder of Kids Need Both, Inc. She’s devoted her life to guiding families, through coaching, education and resources, to find workable, equitable, solutions to their custody conflicts. Her model includes educating professionals in the custody field, thus completing the circle of stakeholders, who will be empowered to find the best solutions for all. She continues to seek opportunities to collaborate with organizations that will support her model, and bring global healing to families.
Ms. Joan has dedicated her life to advocating for families going through a contentious divorce. Her work continues to evolve, and she's created a network of experts who expand her ability to support you as you enter new, often fraught, territory. Danica Joan has developed expertise in three primary practice areas, and created informative social media platforms that provide support and guidance for individuals, families and professionals who are involved in custody matters.

We discussed her new community platform Hope4Families, which provides vetted resources to the Family Stabilization community, which serve families seeking professionals as well as the professionals themselves. Hope4Families is in pre-launch status: https://hope4families.net/welcome/

To reach Danica Joan, M.,Ed: https://kidsneedboth.org/about/ and https://danicajoan.com/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidsneedboth/permalink/4201306473255401/

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Christine Cocchiola, LCSW, Tenured Professor discusses Coercive Control and how it affects Domestic Abuse Victims and Children Apr 26, 2021

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Christine Cocchiola, LCSW is a tenured professor at a community college teaching in the Human Services/Pre-Social Work Studies Program for over 19 years. Christine began her career in social work by becoming a Certified Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Counselor for Safe Haven of Greater Waterbury at the age of 19 where she remains a volunteer. Her expertise is in the area of intimate partner violence, trauma and child abuse and neglect. she has developed various training on these topics, presenting to agencies statewide, regionally and nationally.
Ms. Cocchiola is a 2022 candidate for a Doctorate in Social Welfare, attending New York University (NYU) where she teaches as an adjunct instructor; her Capstone Project and publications are focused on Intimate Partner Violence, specifically on Coercive Control and the impact that this abuse has on adult and child victims. She has been educating on the topic of Coercive Control, Post Separation Abuse, The Trauma Bond and Cognitive Dissonance and is actively involved in supporting Legislation that will codify Coercive Control as part of Domestic Violence, creating a policy brief that may be used by sponsors of such bills. Ms. Cocchiola has a private practice serving adolescents, families and couples and is a divorce mediator.
We discussed the Social Justice issues In Connecticut, post separation abuse and legal abuse. Christine suggests to contact legislation for Ty's Law in Colorado HB 21-1099,
Kyra's Law in New York A05398, Kaden's Law in Pennsylvania SB868 and especially Jennifers' Law in Connecticut 1091 SB, proposed by Alex Kasser.

To Reach Christina:www.christinecocchiola.com

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