Six Minute Sex Ed

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Ep 1 - Why do people have sex? - Level One Sep 15, 2019

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38 - All about anal - Level Two Sep 09, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ I’ve got a quick note before we get to this week’s show. When I first launched Six Minute Sex Ed almost a year ago, I was able to make weekly episodes and monthly bonus content. Some wonderful people on Patreon made that possible. My personal circumstances have changed and going forward I'm making biweekly episodes and occasional bonus content. Because of that, I'm making all the episodes free. Support the podcast by sharing it with your friends and leaving a review. This week’s episode is level two, which means it’s more complex than my level one episodes and best for tweens, teens and adults. The last episode, episode 37, was level one and it was all about butts. This week’s episode is level two and it’s also about butts! This week, we’re going to talk about anal sex. We’re going to answer 4 questions: What is anal sex and how many people actually have it? Do you have to do it? Are there any risks? What do people need to know about anal sex before they try it? No one should ever have to do anything with their body that they don’t want to do. No one should be forced or coerced into any kind of sexual activity and forcing or coercing someone into sex is not only wrong, but it is illegal. Consent is only consent if it’s freely given. Consent should be freely given, reversible (which means people can change their minds), informed (which means people participating in sex are given all the necessary information to make a knowledgable decision, like what contraception or STI prevention methods will be used), Enthusiastic (the absence of a no is not a yes), and specific (consenting to oral sex does not mean a person’s consented to any other type of activity like anal sex). Links to studies: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2819126/ https://www.jahonline.org/article/S1054-139X(17)30330-0/fulltext https://bmjopen.bmj.com/content/4/8/e004996 Conversation starter: Why do you think mainstream media doesn’t show the conversations and considerations partners usually engage in before sex? Thanks so much for listening today! Send questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com

37 - All about butts! - Level One Aug 26, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This week’s episode is level one and we’re going to talk about BUTTS We’re going to answer three questions today: What are butts for? Are butts private? How do you look after your butt to keep it healthy? Resources: For kids - All about the digestive system: https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/digestive-system.html For kids - Digestive system video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnzwbipJuAA For kids - Cool facts about animal poop: https://www.earthrangers.com/wildwire/top-10/top-ten-facts-all-about-animal-poop/ For kids - 10 cool facts about poop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=9&v=eP_YbvhJzxU For parents/carers: 19 books about poop: https://www.todaysparent.com/family/books/books-about-poop/#gallery/kids-books-about-poop/0 Conversation starter: Why do you think talking about butts can be so funny? Why do you think some people feel embarrassed talking about butts? Thanks so much for listening today! Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

36 - Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships - Level Two Aug 12, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This week’s episode is Level Two, and we’re going to talk about healthy relationships The most common answers young people give me when I ask them to describe healthy relationships: Mutual support Freedom to be yourself Freedom to speak Acceptance of Friends, family, or carers Boundaries Conflict resolution What’s most important to you, when it comes to healthy relationships? When I ask young people to describe barriers to healthy relationships, these are their most common answers: Abuse Criticism Lying Control Dependence One of the reasons why it’s hard to talk about relationships is that very unhealthy relationships can feel healthy to the people in them, even though they’re not. It’s painful not just for the people in the unhealthy relationship, but also for the people who love and care for them. It’s extremely difficult to be in an unhealthy relationship because unhealthy behaviors make people feel very isolated: like they’re on their own and no one can or will help. At the same time, it’s really hard to care for someone who’s being abused and feel like you can’t help. If you’re not sure if you’re in an unhealthy relationship, there’s an online quiz you can take from the great organization Love is Respect: https://www.loveisrespect.org/for-someone-else/is-my-relationship-healthy-quiz/ You can also call love is respect.org at 1-866-331-9474 or text LOVE IS to 22522 You can also call the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233: https://www.thehotline.org/ Having been in abusive situations in the past, I know calling hotlines can seem intimidating. There are other people who can help you: close friends, trusted adults, social workers (including school social workers), councilors, doctors, nurses, and teachers. I know how alone abuse and unhealthy relationships made me feel and if there’s one thing I could tell my younger self it’s that I was worth fighting for, and worth protecting, and it’s not just OK but MY JOB to prioritize my own safety over other people’s feelings. Check the show notes for some good resources on healthy relationships by Scarleteen and Amaze.org: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gn7ZQ2x0cOE https://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/hello_sailor_how_to_build_board_and_navigate_a_healthy_relationship If you’re a middle or high school teacher, check out these great lesson plans on health relationships: https://sfusdhealtheducation.org/be-real-be-ready-2/ Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

35 - How to stay safe online - Level One Jul 28, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This episode is level one and we’re going to talk about how to stay safe online The internet and virtual worlds can be so much fun. There’s lots of games to play, things to learn, videos to watch, songs to listen to, and people to meet. The internet helps us do so many things! Just like real life, though, not everything and everyone online has good intentions. Tricky people use the internet just as much as trustworthy people use the internet and it’s important to learn how to keep yourself safe online just like it’s important to learn how to look both ways before crossing a street in real life. It’s also important to learn how to be a good person online, just like It’s important to learn how to be a good person in real life. Those are the two things we’re going to focus on today: how to stay safe and how to be kind. One of my favorite websites for learning about online safety is common sense media and they have a really great list of online safety guidelines for parents, caring adults, and kids to use together. Find links here: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/social-media/what-are-the-basic-social-media-rules-for-elementary-school-age-kids-0 https://www.commonsensemedia.org/privacy-and-internet-safety/how-do-i-protect-my-kids-privacy-online One of the most important things families can do to teach those skills is to make up a contract about online behavior that everyone agrees to follow. There are many, many examples of family internet contracts online. Here are some links: https://www.safekids.com/kids-rules-for-online-safety/ http://www.safekids.com/contract_kid// https://www.cyberbullyingbook.com/Internet_use_contract.pdf https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/pdfs/common_sense_family_media_agreement.pdf Conversation starters: Who would you talk to if someone was mean or bullying you online? What would you want that person to do to help? Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

34 - All About Condoms - Level Two Jul 15, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This episode is level two and it’s all about condoms: Condoms come in two forms: internal and external. We’re going to talk about both! We’re going to answer these questions: What are they? What are they made of? How are they used? How effective are they? Where do you get them? How much do they cost? Internal condom demonstration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMbMy1fyeKo To purchase internal condoms: https://fc2.us.com/ External condom demonstration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWUUkhKEXoI Order condoms online: https://www.condomdepot.com Find free condoms in your area: http://www.condomfinder.org/ Condom tips on the Six Minute Sex Ed Insta: https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/ Check your size: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/condom-size-chart Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

33: Teach Consent with my Consent Game Jul 03, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ Earlier this week, I posted an episode featuring an interview with an author of On Blossoming. Though the book includes great content, information about it's connections to a community I do not support was withheld from me, which limited my ability to make a fully-informed informed decision about featuring the book on my show. Once I was fully informed, I made the decision to permanently delete the episode and replace it with this bonus episode that was for only for patrons. I'm very glad to give you this episode right before a holiday celebration, because it's all about my consent game. My consent game is a great way to teach and practice consent for people of all ages. People of all ages love playing this game: preschoolers, teens, adults, and seniors alike! All you need is a table, people around the table, and either food or some objects in the middle. It teachers verbal and non-verbal communication skills and why practicing them is so important. Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

32 - How to listen when people say stop - Level One Jun 25, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This week’s episode is level one, which means it’s great for listeners of any age, and we’re going to talk about how to listen when people say stop. Kim introduces the concept of boundaries with a story about a kid named Harper, who is tickled when she doesn’t want to be. When someone says “Stop”, they should be listened to. They shouldn’t have to repeat it over and over again to be heard. Saying Stop is one way of making a boundary. A boundary is another word for limit: the difference between what is allowed and what is not, what is comfortable and what is uncomfortable, or what is safe and what is unsafe. People shouldn’t have to set boundaries or say “stop” more than once. To see a great video about this, watch Sex Ed School Episode 1 Consent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6QiamLdNUYM Conversation starters: 1. What words do you use to tell other people about your boundaries or limits? 2. How does your body show it’s saying no, or stop? Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

31: How to talk to kids about sex with Stefanie Rosen Jun 19, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This week’s episode is for parents and caring adults. I talk with Stefanie Rosen, who is a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist with a private practice in Westlake Village, California, outside of Los Angeles. She has a doctorate in contemporary psychoanalysis and has been a practicing marriage and family therapist specializing in relationships for 21 years. Stefanie talked with me about what parents struggle with when it comes to talking to their kids about sex and relationships, how to answer questions in an age-appropriate way while respecting boundaries, and how to start conversations if you have a kid that doesn't seem to ask any questions or show any curiosity. You can visit Stefanie’s website here: https://www.westlakevillagetherapist.com/ Patrons have access to the full interview, which covers how to talk to teenagers about sex, how to be sex positive, and how parents/carers and formal sex education can work in tandem to empower young people to grow into sexually healthy adults. Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

30: Labor and Birth - Level One Jun 10, 2019

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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This week’s episode is Level One, which makes it good for listeners of any age, and it’s all about labor and birth. We talk about the basics of labor and birth, but also discuss the uniqueness of everyone’s experiences. Here are some further resources: If you need a quick review of how pregnancy starts, listen to episodes 22 and 28 of the podcast, or watch this video from amaze.org: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OejdOS4IqeE Here’s a great video for younger ones: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=94&v=A1dfkziW-Oo This animation of vaginal childbirth is perfect for kids ages 8 and over: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYu-0rOnLpA This animation of a c section birth is perfect for kids ages 8 and over: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MeCtLhblzbo Funny video of parents explaining childbirth to their kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqk4-qkFbck Conversation starters: What do you think is the hardest thing about giving birth? What do you think is the best thing about giving birth? Questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent

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