Shame Spiral

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"Congratulations On Your Perfect Parents" w/ Lane Moore Sep 05, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People) We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playing the worst songs over and over in your head, making art from pain, the struggle to believe there's nothing wrong with you, the difficulty of giving yourself the grace & compassion you freely give others, and SO MUCH MORE.
Check out Lane's incredible podcast I Thought It Was Just Me, available exclusively on Patreon ( https://www.patreon.com/lanemoore) and buy her freaking amazing and relatable books: How To Be Alone and You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult.
You can follow Lane on Twitter, IG and TikTok @hellolanemoore and find all things Lane at lanemoore.org.
And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod! Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN. What can I say guys, shame is my brand.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"The Shame Of Breaking Someone's Heart" w/ Carly Montag Aug 29, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag!
We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a nice Jewish boy, the rocky learning curve of your first relationships and the regrets that follow and SO MUCH MORE.
Carly performs stand up in NYC, DC and beyond, and is the co-host of one of my fave podcasts, Alone At Lunch, a pod about feeling like the odd man out! Go binge it immediately if you haven't already, and follow the pod everywhere @aloneatlunchpod and Carly @carlyjmontag on IG & Twitter!
You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod! Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN. What can I say guys, shame is my brand.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"Your Dad Dies And You Have Gay Sex" w/ Joel Kim Booster Aug 22, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill)
We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirsty, people pleasing tendencies (except for with the TSA,) the journey of going from shameful to shameless, a dead Dad orgy, masochistically name searching yourself on Twitter and SO MUCH MORE.
Joel has written for and/or appeared in so many shows you probably already love: Shrill, The Other Two, Big Mouth, Loot, Search Party and Praise Petey, to name a few. You can and SHOULD stream Joel's stand up special Joel Kim Booster: Psychosexual on Netflix (IT IS SO FUNNY,) and if you haven't already seen it, go watch the hilarious and moving and iconic film Fire Island RIGHT NOW, which he wrote and stars in, and is an overall absolute delight. And stay glued to his socials @ihatejoelkim for upcoming tour dates!
You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod! Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN. What can I say guys, shame is my brand.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"If It's Hysterical, It's Historical" w/ Tara Schuster Aug 15, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with the disarmingly honest, lovely, hilarious & brilliant writer Tara Schuster! (Glow In The F*cking Dark, Comedy Central)
Talking shame with Tara was hilarious, delightful, and honestly inspiring AF. We talked shame and trauma, the relief and empowerment that comes from knowing when the past is crash landing into the present, drunk dialing your therapist, self-compassion & forgiveness, the good side of "selfishness," reparenting yourself, existential angst and SO MUCH MORE.
Tara is the author of two incredible mental health/self-help books (with a fabulous dash of memoir.) Her book Glow In The F*cking Dark came out just a few months ago, and her first book Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies was a finalist for Goodreads Best Non-Fiction Book of 2020.
Before pivoting to writing, Tara served as Vice President of talent and development at Comedy Central, where she was the exec at the helm of iconic shows like Key & Peele!
Follow Tara on IG, TikTok & Twitter @taraschuster, buy her books and check out her substack: taraschuster.substack.com!
And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"What Kind Of Psychopath Has Half A Beer?!" w/ Emma Willmann Aug 08, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with incredibly hilarious, honest and charming comedian, writer & actor Emma Willmann! (Colbert, Comedy Central, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) Emma and I talked ADHD, addiction and recovery, accidentally learning things from TikTok, getting in a fight with Chelsea Handler, ungodly shameful moments with exes and discerning when apologizing is for you and not them, and unpacked maybe my MOST BRUTAL hypothetical shame game scenarios yet ( sorry Emma!)
Follow Emma on Instagram and TikTok @emmawillmann and Twitter @iamemmawillmann to catch her insanely funny clips, and stay in the know on upcoming shows! Emma's out performing stand up constantly and she is SO GOOD, get after it!!!!
And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"I Would Live, B*tch" w/ Nori Reed Aug 01, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Nori Reed! (Netflix is a Joke, HBO Max, Comedy Central) Nori's stand up is iconic, hilarious and brilliant, and she was featured in New York Magazine as one of Vulture's "Comedians You Should Know And Will Know In 2021." She also recently wrote for seasons five & six of Disney's Raven's Home, creating Disney's first ever live-action trans character, which led to a GLAAD award nomination! Nori and I talked class and financial shame, weirdly going to the same uber-niche Northern California hippy therapy school (!!!!) in the hopes of having a transformational experience, shame as a pesky fly you need to accept rather than keep trying to kill, the lifeline of meeting fellow queer/trans kids when you are a queer/trans kid, our mutual adoration of Orna from Couple's Therapy, and SO MUCH MORE!
You can and SHOULD follow Nori on Instagram @norireed and Twitter @therealnorireed, and go see her perform live! If you're in the Seattle area, she has a show coming up on 8/13 and tickets are available on her IG! GET AFTER IT!
And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"Oh God, My Clients Might Listen To This" w/ Jess Sprengle Jul 25, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with queer, neurodivergent and gender expansive psychotherapist Jess Sprengle! (@TheCrankyTherapist on IG) Jess is an Eating Disorder Specialist and Educator, and especially passionate about engaging with the intersection of the LGBTQIA+ experience, neurodivergence, and eating disorder recovery. We talked shame as an adaptive response, the fear of being a bad therapist, explored brutal therapy-themed shame scenarios and the strange and specific experience of being a therapist with a social media presence, "cool girl" archetypes, boundaries, dopamine and social media, owning the reality that therapists are real, messy, and flawed people, and SO MUCH MORE.
You can and SHOULD follow Jess on Instagram, where they have a massive following- for good reason- at @thecrankytherapist! Jess is so funny, honest, and vulnerable online and in person, which just so happens to be my favorite combination of things. And to learn more about Jess and her work, check out her website: jessprenglelpc.com.
You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"Embarrassing Myself In Front Of Jon Hamm" w/ Mara Wilson Jul 18, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with writer & actor Mara Wilson! (Good Girls Don't, Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire) We talked growing up in Hollywood, being a chronic oversharer, the prison of being a "good girl," the drama of young adult relationships, anxiety & OCD, My So-Called Life, and so much more!
Plus, Mara shares a multi-layered shame upon shame upon SHAME story about embarrassing herself in front of multiple celebrities....and then sharing the story with a friend and feeling shame yet AGAIN by her response.
Follow Mara on Instagram and Twitter @marawilson, check out her Substack, and listen to her new audiobook "Good Girls Don't," available exclusively on Scribd! It's A LOT about shame and she both wrote and narrates it, and it's amazing so GET AFTER IT!
You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpod
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"Get Me Out Of This Meat Suit!" w/ Marisa Crane Jul 11, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with queer author and hilarious, deeply relatable person Marisa Crane! (I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself) We talked internalized homophobia, being menaces in our twenties, self-sabotage, parenting shame, botox and the horror of lying to Drew Barrymore, why it's so damn hard to give yourself the grace you freely give everyone else, the quiet shame of being a jock in the literary world, Rugby as an addictive self-punishment tool, and SO MUCH MORE.
Plus, Marisa shares a shame story about having a history of infidelity in their relationships, feeling like they had really overcome that pattern, and then meeting their wife while they were both in relationships with someone else. We dove deep into what it's like to have their happiness tied to this reminder of one of their hugest sources of shame- and what it would take for them to finally forgive themself.
Follow Marisa on Instagram @marisa_crane, Twitter @mcrane_12 and TikTok @marisacranewrites. And buy their debut novel, I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself! It's queer and dystopian and INCREDIBLE! GET AFTER IT! https://books.catapult.co/books/i-keep-my-exoskeletons-to-myself/
You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.
Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpa
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"Give Me All The Hard Things" w/ Xander Boger Jul 04, 2023

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This week I spiraled out with physical therapist & cast member of instant queer reality tv classic The Ultimatum: Queer Love Xander Boger! This one is a special treat for all you fellow Queer Love Ultimatum fans, because we dove deep into shame around deciding to be on the show, being on the show, and the emotionally complicated aftermath. And we don't just discuss the show- we also went hard on queer relationships and codependency, chasing people who are giving you every signal that they don't want to be with you, being a healthcare provider with a public persona, and so much more.
Plus. Xander tells a shame story about watching the show for the very first time LITERAL HOUR before filming the reunion, and spiraling around seeing herself exist on screen in the place they were in at the time of the show- and reckoning with the world seeing her in that place , too.
Xander was such a delight to talk with and was so real and honest about the intricacies of the whole multi-layered reality tv process and about life overall! I officially love them now and I know you will too, if you don't already! You can follow Xander on Instagram and TikTok @xander.ology, and if you want to check out the work they're doing now, peep their website www.movewithxan.com, where they're newly offering virtual physical therapy and yoga and more.
You can follow me and the pod on IG, TikTok & Twitter @elykreimendahl and @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun and juicy video clips from the episodes. Thank you so much for listening, and please rate and review!
Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli
Original Music: Shadwick Wilde
Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek

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