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What Happens to Your Body During Anal (Surgeon Explains) Mar 27, 2026

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If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem.

In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way

• The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts

• How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options actually are when something goes wrong

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:51 - Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein: Anal Surgeon & Founder of Bespoke Surgical

3:46 - Where Does the Taboo Around Anal Come From?

6:54 - The Three Pillars: How to Prepare, Play & Recover

8:07 - The 4 to 6 Week Dilating Protocol Every Beginner Needs

14:08 - Lube 101: Silicone vs. Water-Based & When to Use Each

15:55 - The Lube Shooter, Empowering the Bottom & Why You Can't Assume Your Partner Knows

16:57 - Douching: Why Water and Store-Bought Enemas Can Do More Harm Than Good

20:33 - Less Is More: Gut Health, Fiber & How to Douche the Right Way

23:27 - Aftercare: What to Do If You Tear or Have Pain

24:19 - Beginner Tips: Positions, Partner Communication & Choosing the Right Size

32:38 - Listener Q&A: Hemorrhoids, Skin Tags & Can You Still Have Anal Sex?

36:43 - Listener Q&A: Colon Surgery, Couples Starting Out & Sex Positions by State

42:14 - Why Wet Wipes Are Wrecking Your Microbiome (Anal and Vaginal)

44:45 - Five Quicky Questions with Dr. Goldstein

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The Night a 20 Year Marriage Changed Forever Mar 24, 2026

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If you've ever felt like everyone else is having the sex life you're supposed to have — and you're just white-knuckling your way through it, faking it, or coming up empty — you're not broken. You're just not talking about it yet. Whether it's a desire you've been too scared to voice, a fantasy you've kept to yourself for years, or a body that's never quite gotten there with a partner, the shift almost always starts the same way: someone finally said the thing out loud.

In this episode, three real listeners share the moments that changed everything for them — and none of it looks the way you'd expect.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What finally happened when one husband spent months asking his wife for something she wasn't sure about — and why one unexpected text message changed their relationship and sex life forever

• How a 20-year marriage, a night out dancing, and a chance encounter with a stranger led to a first threesome that was hotter, messier, and more human than any fantasy

• Why so many vulva owners can't orgasm during penetration — and the exact combination of communication, touch, and mindset that finally got one woman there after years of trying

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:02 - Story #1 : A Husband's Pegging Journey After 12 Years Together

4:40 - Dr. Emily on Why Pegging Is More Common Than You Think

6:00 - The Psychology of Receiving & Breaking Sexual Shame

8:05 - Story #2: 20 Years Married & Their First Threesome

13:52 - Dr. Emily's Takeaways on Fantasies, Communication & Embodiment

14:09 - Story #3: Five Years of Not Orgasming With a Partner

17:00 - Dr. Emily on Sexual Trauma, Repetition & Being Heard

19:26 - How Jasmine Finally Got There (Breathing, Grinding & Letting Go)

21:48 - Dr. Emily on the Clitoral Network, Foreplay & Wandering Minds

23:24 - Closing: Share Your Sexy Story with Dr. Emily

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Why This Athlete Has the Best Sex of Her Life Mar 20, 2026

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If you've built a life that looks great from the outside but still feels like something's missing on the inside, the problem might not be your relationship — it might be how much of yourself you're actually bringing to it. Whether it's a body image spiral that shuts you down in the bedroom, a long-term dynamic that's gone quietly cold, or a fear of vulnerability that's been running the show since day one, the shift almost always starts with one honest conversation.

In this episode, volleyball legend, entrepreneur, and mother of three Gabby Reece gets real about what it actually takes to keep desire, respect, and intimacy alive after decades together — and why most of us are working harder than we need to.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why the masculine and feminine dynamic has been completely misunderstood — and how redefining it can transform your relationship and your sex life

• What Gabby and Laird's 48-hour rule actually looks like in practice, and whether a structure like that could work for you

• How to stop torturing yourself in the bedroom and finally get out of your head long enough to actually feel something

• The real reason long-term relationships lose their spark — and the daily habits that keep attraction from quietly dying

• How to talk to your kids about sex, body image, and peer pressure in a way that actually lands

• Why vulnerability isn't a personality trait you either have or don't — it's a skill, and it's one you can learn

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Chapters:

0:00 - Introduction

1:12 - Meet Gabby Reese: Athlete, Entrepreneur & Podcast Host

1:25 - Running a Business With Your Partner (Without Losing Your Mind)

6:30 - Defining Masculine & Feminine Energy in Relationships

11:03 - Vulnerability, Fear & What It Really Takes to Love Someone

13:34 - How Being an Athlete Impacts Your Sex Life & Libido

17:04 - Gut Health & Its Connection to Sexual & Mental Wellness

18:36 - Raising Daughters: Sex, Body Image & Social Media

26:27 - Rapid Fire Q&A: Exercise, Confidence & Sex Toys

31:36 - Least Favorite Thing About Sex & Final Thoughts

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The Talk Every Couple Needs to Have Mar 17, 2026

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If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it.

In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past

• What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have

• How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks

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Chapters:

0:00 - Introduction

0:55 - How to Tell If Someone's Into You

6:01 - Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date

9:38 - When You're Surprised by Your Partner's Body During Sex

16:20 - Should You Act on Your Partner's Fantasy?

18:55 - Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido

22:35 - Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship

26:47 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame

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How to Have FaceTime Sex (Without the Awkwardness) Mar 13, 2026

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If the idea of FaceTime sex makes you want to immediately close your laptop and never speak of it again, I get it — but hear me out. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, traveling, or just looking to try something new with a partner you see every day, virtual sex is one of the most underrated tools for keeping intimacy alive. And when you do it right, it's genuinely hot.

In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to know — from the practical setup to what to actually say — so it stops feeling awkward and starts feeling like real sex.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to actually set up, prepare, and get in the mood before the call — including the one thing you can do beforehand that builds confidence and arousal at the same time

• What to say during FaceTime sex, even if dirty talk doesn't come naturally to you — plus how to use past memories, future fantasies, and simple direction to keep things moving

• How to handle it when your partner's virtual kinks don't match yours, when sexting with someone outside your relationship starts bleeding into your real one, and how to know when a sexting session is actually over

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:48 - Who Benefits from Virtual Sex (Long-Distance, Couples & Singles)

3:34 - Sending Nudes: Risks, Consent & Generational Differences

6:51 - Safety First: Platforms, Boundaries & Mutual Consent

8:01 - The Power of Foreplay Before You Go Live

10:58 - How to Pull Off FaceTime Sex: Prep, Setup & Device Tips

16:16 - Dirty Talk & What to Actually Say in the Moment

20:06 - Q&A: How to Spice Up Virtual Sex

22:07 - Q&A: Navigating Kinks You're Not Into

26:44 - Q&A: How Does a Sexting Session Actually End?

28:28 - Q&A: Is Sexting Outside My Marriage Cheating?

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The Truth About Hookup Culture Nobody Tells You Mar 10, 2026

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Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected

• How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire

• What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter to make sure your needs actually get met — and how to navigate hooking up within a friend group without blowing everything up

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Chapters:

0:00 - What Makes Casual Sex Satisfying?

1:43 - Defining Casual Sex (It's Not Just Hookup Culture)

3:59 - Surprising Research: Casual Sex Trends by Generation

5:44 - The Benefits of Casual Sex

8:23 - The Downsides & Risks to Know

10:37 - How to Know If Casual Sex Is Right for You

12:20 - How to Find & Communicate With Casual Partners

17:51 - Best Casual Sex Advice From Dr. Emily's Audience

20:12 - Listener Q&A: Orgasming Through Oral Sex

23:46 - Listener Q&A: Casual Sex After a Long-Term Relationship

27:06 - Listener Q&A: Shame & Regret After a Hookup

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Why Your Fantasies Are Sexually Healthy Mar 06, 2026

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If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling

• My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start)

• What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a conservative upbringing can shut down your erotic imagination, and how to gently rebuild it

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:47 - The Most Common Fantasies (Group Sex, BDSM, Voyeurism & More)

3:50 - Listener Fantasy List: What YOU Shared on Instagram

6:12 - How to Bring Up a Fantasy to Your Partner (The Who, What, Where, When, Why Method)

8:24 - Fantasy vs. Fetish: What's the Difference?

9:09 - Caller Update: Tracy's Throuple Story

15:44 - "Is It Wrong to Fantasize About Someone Else While in a Relationship?"

17:33 - How to Find a Couple for a Threesome

20:32 - Latex Fetish & Pegging: How to Get Your Partner on Board

24:12 - How to Make the First Move Without Falling into the Friend Zone

28:26 - Foot Fetishes 101: How to Blow His Mind

31:03 - When Trauma Blocks Your Fantasy Life

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How to Have Sex While On Antidepressants Mar 03, 2026

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If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life.

SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process.

In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight

• How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think)

• The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get off antidepressants entirely

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

0:31 - Sarah's Story: The SSRI Sex Drive Dilemma

3:50 - Why SSRIs Kill Your Libido (The Science)

6:50 - How Common Is This? Depression & Sex Stats

14:00 - Side Effects Breakdown: Vulva vs. Penis Owners

15:50 - Practical Hacks: Timing, Alcohol & Cannabis

20:53 - Alternative Treatments: TMS, Ketamine & Psychedelics

25:31 - Both Partners on SSRIs? How to Rebuild Intimacy

31:58 - The 36 Questions Study That Reignites Closeness

33:37 - Perimenopause, Hormones & Anti-Depressants at 48

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The Beginner's Guide to Anal Pleasure Feb 27, 2026

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Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms.

From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it

• The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong)

• Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first experience is actually pleasurable

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Why Try Solo Anal Play? Benefits for All Bodies

2:20 - Prostate Pleasure 101 (Penis Owners)

3:16 - Anal Orgasms & Nerve Endings (Vulva Owners)

5:48 - Body Acceptance & Releasing Shame Around Anal

6:52 - Busting Myth #1: Does Anal Affect Your Sexuality?

8:21 - Busting Myth #2: Anal Requires Preparation, Not Spontaneity

10:41 - How to Start: Anal Training & Finger Exploration

11:51 - Toy Recommendations by Anatomy

16:06 - Lube Guide: Silicone vs. Water-Based

18:05 - Q&A: Your Anal Questions Answered

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Why This Is Halle Berry’s Sexiest Chapter Yet Feb 24, 2026

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After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted.

From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March.

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In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself

• How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare

• The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good

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Chapters:

00:00 - Chapter Title

00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms

02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages