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What I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s Jul 10, 2026

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In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was quietly running my entire sex life. I also get into why attraction alone was never enough to sustain a relationship, why stress and anxiety were wrecking my desire, and why confidence in the bedroom comes from taking action, not the other way around. If you're in your 20s trying to figure this all out, or you're older and realizing you're still carrying some of these same beliefs, this episode is for you.

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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Best Sex Ever Tour Announcement

00:52 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s

01:46 Setting the Scene: Emily's Sex Life in Her 20s

05:03 #1: Everyone Else Seemed to Know What They Were Doing

08:43 #2: I Thought Good Sex Should Happen Naturally

10:34 #3: I Thought Attraction Was Enough

11:53 #4: Pleasure Is Your Own Responsibility

14:38 #5: Confusing Validation With Desire

16:23 #6: Sex as Performance vs. Being Present

18:47 #7: How Stress and Anxiety Affect Desire

23:24 Do Generations Experience Sex Differently?

25:30 #8: Everyone's Erotic Blueprint Is Different

27:35 Boundaries, Attraction & What Changes With Age

33:13 #9: How Shame Was Driving My Decisions

39:03 #10: Confidence Comes From Taking Action

40:41 Final Thoughts

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Why Self-Acceptance is the Key To Better Sex Jul 07, 2026

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In this episode, I'm covering the fifth pillar of Sexual Intelligence: self-acceptance. This is the pillar that ties everything else together, because no matter how embodied, healthy, collaborative, or self-aware you are, none of it lands if you can't accept yourself as you are right now. I'm talking about the "pleasure thieves" that steal our self-acceptance, like comparison, judgment, and perfectionism, and why so much of our sexual shame was programmed into us before we even knew what was happening. I walk through a mirror exercise you can try this week, share why orgasm isn't the measure of good sex (pleasure is), and answer more listener questions. If you've ever felt like you're not enough, not sexy enough, or not doing sex "right," this episode is your reminder that you already are worthy of pleasure, exactly as you are today.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

3:31 Guided Breath Work to Become Present

4:17 What Self Acceptance Really Means

6:59 Why Sexual Confidence Is a Practice

8:11 Common Shame Narratives

9:49 Mirror Talk Exercise

11:54 The Three Pleasure Thieves

18:34 Weekly Self-Acceptance Challenges

25:06 Bringing the Five Sex IQ Pillars Together

26:26 Q&A: Why Do I Tense Up?

29:08 Q&A: How Can I Feel Comfortable With the Lights On?

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What I Wish I Knew About Sex in my 30s Jul 03, 2026

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In this episode, I'm breaking down everything I learned about sex and relationships in my 30s… because this decade taught me lessons my 20s never could. I used to think if the chemistry faded, the relationship was over, but I discovered that real intimacy is something you build, not something you stumble into. I'm talking about why stress crushes desire more than attraction ever could, why responsive desire is normal (not broken), why boring sex doesn't mean a boring relationship, and why communication really is a lubrication. If you've ever wondered why talking about sex feels harder than having it, or worried that losing the honeymoon phase means you're with the wrong person, this episode is for you.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

3:34 Lesson #1: Chemistry Isn't Enough for Lasting Intimacy

4:28 Lesson #2:Why Communication Makes Sex Better

6:05 Lesson #3: Stress Can Kill Desire

7:56 Lesson #4: Boring Sex Doesn't Mean a Boring Relationship

9:25 Lesson #5: Your Desire Changes

11:57 Lesson #6: Your Body Isn't the Enemy

13:41 Lesson #7: Choose Pleasure Over Performance

14:30 Lesson #8: Life Can Crowd Out Intimacy

15:46 Lesson #9: Great Sex Is Something You Build

17:01 Audience Q&As

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The Secret to Magnetic Chemistry in Long-Term Relationships Jun 30, 2026

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Are you and your partner really collaborating in bed, or just going through the motions? In this episode, I'm diving deep into the third pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Collaboration. I break down why two people can be having sex without truly connecting, how sexual polarity creates that magnetic charge we all crave, and why desire mismatches don't have to drive a wedge between you and your partner. I also walk you through one of my favorite practices — the Sexual State of the Union — and share simple, actionable tools like the Yes!No!Maybe? list and 60-second eye contact to help you and your partner start co-creating the sex life you actually want. Whether you're partnered or flying solo, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy.

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Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

4:00 Breathwork to Build Presence

5:29 Why Sex Doesn't Always Mean Collaboration

08:09 Energetic Collaboration

10:36 Sexual Clarity

14:08 Examples of Collaboration

21:47 Emily AI

23:17 Why Talking About Sex Changes Everything

25:24 The Sexual State of the Union

29:55 Somatic Healing & Next Week's Workshop

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Your Brain is Your Biggest Sex Organ. Here’s How to Support It Jun 26, 2026

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In this episode, I'm diving deep into the second pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Health. I’ll be breaking down exactly how your physical and mental wellbeing are directly shaping your desire, arousal, and pleasure. I'm walking you through everything from movement, hydration, and hormonal balance to pelvic floor health, stress, trauma, and the negative self-talk that quietly steals your pleasure. If you've ever wondered why you're just not in the mood, or why intimacy feels out of reach no matter what you try, this episode will connect the dots in a way that finally makes sense. Better sex doesn't just start in the bedroom, it starts with how you're taking care of yourself every single day.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

4:05 A Guided Breathing Exercise

7:23 Moving Your Body To Feed Your Desire

9:14 Hormones and Their Impact on Libido

10:52 Hydration and Nutrition

12:13 Why Pelvic Floor Health Matters

15:19 Medications That Can Affect Your Sex Drive

16:38 Mental Health and Sexual Pleasure

19:26 Stop Performing and Start Feeling

22:06 Breaking Negative Self Talk and Shame

28:06 Cultivating Self Esteem

32:37 Simple Ways to Calm Your Nervous System

36:40 Why Better Sleep Improves Your Libido

38:42 Embrace Daily Pleasure

41:06 Final Takeaways

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The Most Common Fantasies (& How to Actually Try Them) Jun 23, 2026

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In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to exploring or just looking to deepen the conversation with your partner, this episode is your permission slip to get curious, communicate openly, and make sex feel playful again… because that's exactly what it's meant to be.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

2:59 Most Popular Fantasies Revealed

4:03 Roleplay and Scenario Based Fantasies

8:41 BDSM Explained for Beginners

12:21 Tools and Techniques

17:11 Sensory Play and Temperature Play

18:58 Voyeurism vs Exhibitionism

20:21 Exploring Fantasies Without Pressure

22:44 Favorite Toys & Finding Local Communities

25:03 When Partners Have Different Fantasies

29:24 How to Try New Experiences Together

32:08 Are They Weird or Harmful?

36:24 Psychological Benefits

40:32 Exploring Fantasies While Single

42:03 Planning vs Spontaneity in Relationships

43:40 Kinks vs Fantasies Explained

46:49 Fantasy vs Fetish Differences

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Why Your Mind Is Blocking Your Pleasure (& What to Do About It) Jun 19, 2026

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Disclaimer: Today's episode is a recording from a live class I taught for my community on Embodiment: the first pillar of the Sex IQ Framework. You might hear some audience questions throughout, and the audio isn't our usual quality. Thanks for your patience!

If you've ever found yourself distracted, disconnected, or just going through the motions during sex, this episode is for you. Today, I talk through the very first sexual intelligence framework pillar: Embodiment. Being truly present in your body during sex isn't something you're either born with or not, it's a skill you can actually learn and practice. I walk you through exactly what embodiment means, why so many of us lose it (and why that's not your fault), and the simple techniques I use myself that can completely transform how you experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection. Whether you're single or partnered, this is the foundation everything else is built on, and I promise once you start practicing it, you'll feel the difference in and out of the bedroom.

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Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily

02:58 The Sexual Intelligence Framework

05:31 Pillar One: What Is Embodiment?

07:37 What It Feels Like to Be Truly Embodied During Sex

13:53 Micro-Movements & Waking Up Dormant Sensations

15:23 Shift to a Pleasure-Focused Mindset

17:48 Mindful Solo Embodiment Practice

18:43 "Mirror Work" Appreciating Your Body Without Judgment

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Would You Try This in The Bedroom? Jun 16, 2026

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In this episode, I'm breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you've ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn't know how to bring it up — or didn't even know what was "on the menu" — this episode is for you. I'll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how to turn your “yeses” into real plans you'll actually follow through on. I'm also sharing some incredible stories from our community, breaking down newer terms you might not have heard of, and answering your live questions about what to do when you and your partner don't match up on your answers.

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:30 What Is the Yes! No! Maybe? List?

04:40 How the List Can Improve Your Sex Life

06:20 Why Singles Should Explore Their Desires

07:40 Bringing Novelty Back Into Relationships

08:17 How to Prepare for the Conversation

10:20 Filling Out the Yes! No! Maybe? List

11:43 Exploring New Interests

15:00 Massages, Pleasure & Connection

17:10 Turning Your Yeses Into Real Experiences

20:30 Navigating Different Answers With Your Partner

24:48 Overcoming Shame, Fear & Blocks

32:08 How Desires Change Over Time

35:44 Healing Through Communication & Trust

43:53 Final Takeaways & Next Steps

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Rewire Your Brain For Better Sex Jun 12, 2026

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What if you've been measuring your sex life all wrong? In this episode, I explore why sexual satisfaction is about so much more than orgasms, performance, or how often you have sex. Together, we'll discuss how mindfulness, self-awareness, emotional connection, and open communication can help you create deeper pleasure and more fulfilling intimacy. I'll also share ways to let go of shame, strengthen your connection with yourself and your partner, and redefine what satisfaction truly means. Whether you're single or partnered, this conversation will help you build a sex life that feels more authentic, connected, and pleasurable.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

0:58 "Pleasure Begets Pleasure"

2:19 What Sexual Satisfaction Really Means

5:30 The Performance Myth

7:22 Cultural Messages and the Pleasure Gap

10:00 Mindfulness Improves Intimacy and Desire

13:06 How Shame Blocks Sexual Satisfaction

15:36 Supporting Your Partner’s Pleasure Journey

16:34 Avoiding Comparison in Relationships

18:27 Communication and Giving Feedback During Intimacy

20:02 Bucket Lists and Keeping Things Exciting

21:21 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Sex

28:03 What's the Goal?

31:40 Is Intellectual Conversation a Love Language?

33:25 Why Vulnerability Creates Deeper Connection

39:46 “Heard, Hugged, or Helped?”

45:52 Final Thoughts

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The Pleasure Practice Everyone Should Know About Jun 09, 2026

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What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and simple techniques to help you tune into sensation, quiet distractions, and build a stronger connection with your body. Whether you're looking to expand your pleasure, boost confidence, reduce anxiety, or simply learn more about yourself, this workshop offers practical tools you can start using today.

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