Sex With Emily

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Why Antidepressants Can Kill Your Sex Drive (And What to Do) Aug 29, 2025

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In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives.

Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction

0:23 - How Antidepressants Affect Your Sex Life

1:15 - Female Sexuality and Cultural Double Standards

2:30 - Wetness Myths: Arousal vs. Lubrication Explained

6:26 - When You're "Too Wet" - Solutions and Normalizing

8:17 - Understanding Arousal Beyond Physical Signs

9:06 - Kegel Exercises for Better Orgasms

13:15 - Caller April: Relationship Stress Killing Sex Drive

17:00 - Communication Red Flags in Relationships

23:40 - Prozac and Orgasm Difficulties

26:31 - Switching from Lexapro to Wellbutrin Success Story

28:40 - Why Medication Doses Differ for Women

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The Beginner's Guide to Anal Play w/ Dr Glickman & Dr Hernandez Aug 26, 2025

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This episode tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in sexuality with two leading experts: Dr. Charlie Glickman, co-author of "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure," and Dr. Hernando Chavez. Together, they bust the biggest myths surrounding anal play, from the damaging idea that learning from porn is effective (spoiler: it's like "learning to drive from watching a car chase movie") to misconceptions about sexual orientation and hygiene. The conversation transforms anal exploration from anxiety-inducing taboo into approachable pleasure education. Charlie breaks down the real anatomy behind prostate stimulation and explains why men who receive anal play often become better lovers, while Hernando addresses cultural barriers and shares how that forbidden factor can actually enhance arousal. They dive into practical preparation techniques, revolutionary lube innovations, and why starting with external play removes performance pressure. Whether dealing with complete curiosity or recovering from painful past experiences, this episode provides the shame-free guidance needed to explore backdoor pleasure safely and successfully.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro 1:16 - Anal Play Discussion 2:57 - Why Anal Sex Isn't for Everyone 4:47 - Prostate Massage for Men: Breaking the Stigma 7:47 - How to Find and Stimulate the Prostate 11:41 - Benefits of Anal Play for Couples 15:23 - Anal Play Tips and Toy Recommendations 18:03 - Pegging Basics and Prostate Stimulation 21:22 - How to Bring Up Anal Play with Your Partner 25:58 - Discussing Anal with Your Wife 36:18 - Common Anal Sex Myths Debunked 42:08 - Personal Stories and Learning Experiences 44:27 - Preparation and Hygiene for Anal Play 47:06 - Essential Lube Tips and Product Recommendations

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The Hidden Power of Sexual Language with Amanda Montell Aug 23, 2025

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In this thought-provoking episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes linguist and author Amanda Montell ("Word Sl*t: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language") explore how patriarchal language controls our sex lives. They reveal why terms like "penetration" frame intimacy from a male perspective, how medical language describes vaginas as "organs that receive the penis" while penises get weapon metaphors, and why violent bedroom slang reflects power imbalances.

The discussion covers language reclamation strategies, from using "vulva" instead of "vajay-jay" to how transgender communities create new sexual terminology. Dr. Emily addresses listener questions about safe sex conversations during hookups, overcoming conservative shame around oral pleasure, and breaking toxic relationship cycles.

This episode shows how conscious language choices can revolutionize sexual experiences, moving from patriarchal frameworks toward more equitable intimate expression.

Timestamps:

0:22 - Introduction

4:21 - Why "penetration" frames sex from a penis perspective

7:56 - Medical definitions: "the organ that receives the penis"

11:16 - The problem with "vajay-jay"

18:02 - Mission to reclaim slurs

28:15 - Safe sex conversations during hookups

31:58 - Learning to enjoy giving oral pleasure

39:24 - Breaking recurring relationship explosion patterns

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How to Stop Sexual Fears from Killing Your Sex Life Aug 19, 2025

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0:00 - Introduction

4:13 - Common Sexual Fears We All Face

6:43 - Period Sex Anxiety

17:50 - Fear of Rejection in the Bedroom

23:25 - Sexual Trauma & PTSD

32:38 - Dreams About Your Ex: What They Really Mean

44:01 - Body Image Fears & Sexual Perfectionism

47:23 - Becoming Your Best Sexual Partner

50:04 - Role Playing to Overcome Sexual Fears

54:05 - Closing the Orgasm Gap Together

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How to Explore Your Sexual Fantasies Without Shame | ft. Sexologist Carol Queen Aug 18, 2025

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In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reunites with the legendary Carol Queen, sexologist, author, and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco. Carol, who's been Good Vibrations' staff sexologist for over 30 years and has been speaking publicly about sexuality for 50 years, returns for an essential conversation about revitalizing routine sex, navigating physical challenges in intimacy, and finding your sexual community.

This episode tackles everything from making masturbation part of your self-care routine to creative solutions for mobility challenges in the bedroom. Carol breaks down how sexual discourse has evolved from underground feminist publications to mainstream media, while emphasizing that there's no "normal" sex life everyone must follow. We explore practical techniques for spicing up routine encounters and dive into the importance of finding consensual spaces for all types of sexual expression.

We take listener calls from Jess, who wants to elevate his hookup routine with temperature play and atmosphere, Tommy, who's seeking advice on approaching older women, Jake, who's looking for safe spaces to explore exhibitionist fantasies, and John, whose wife's knee problems require creative positioning solutions. Carol's decades of experience shine through as she emphasizes that variety and difference make sexuality beautiful, not something to be ashamed of or conform to arbitrary standards.

0:00 - Introduction

1:20 - Caller Question: Spicing Up Gay Male Hookups & Avoiding Boredom

7:13 - Dating Older Women: How to Start Conversations & Build Confidence

10:05 - Preventing Recurring UTIs: Practical Tips & Product Recommendations

13:45 - Interview with Sexologist Carol Queen: 50 Years of Sexual Liberation

16:15 - How Sexual Discourse Has Changed: From Underground to Mainstream

20:32 - The History of "Pegging" & Educational Porn vs Entertainment

31:14 - Sex Positions for Physical Challenges: Knee Problems & Alternatives

41:03 - Quick Fire Questions with Carol Queen

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"Summer Sex Hacks You've Never Heard Of" Aug 12, 2025

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In this fun and informative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes sex educator and author Elle Chase for a summer-themed exploration of mindful sexuality, body-positive positions, and creative outdoor adventures. Plus, psychological astrologer Dr. Jennifer Freed returns to help you align your sexual energy with cosmic guidance.

We dive into mindfulness techniques for sexual anxiety, including 4-count inhale, 6-count exhale breathing to calm the nervous system and 5-senses grounding exercises to stay present during intimate moments. Elle shares creative summer sex ideas from car sex nostalgia to pool noodle hacks for outdoor comfort, plus body-positive positions like "Threading the Needle" and "The OM Position" that work for all body types.

The episode features listener questions from Trevor about threesome safety, Michael seeking position alternatives for plus-size couples, and Bill concerned about his wife's upcoming hysterectomy. Dr. Emily provides medical advocacy advice about getting second opinions and exploring less invasive alternatives like uterine artery embolization before major surgery.

Dr. Freed's astro forecast highlights courage as this month's theme, with personalized guidance for each sign—from Aries learning to pause and attune to others' desires, to Capricorn embracing daily masturbation for stress release. We also explore alternative intimacy techniques like yoni/lingam massage and the importance of breaking the "penetration as goal" mindset for deeper pleasure exploration.

0:00 - Intro

8:27 - Sexual Liberation & Breaking Free from Negative Self-Talk

9:41 - Threesome Planning: Communication & Boundaries Guide

16:00 - Body-Positive Intimacy Tips

23:00 - Hysterectomy Alternatives: Getting Second Opinions

27:37 - Summer Sex Ideas

32:00 - Massage for Connection

37:22 - Female-Friendly Visual Content & Arousal Discussion

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How to Make Consent Sexy (Not Awkward) l ft. Sarah Sloane Aug 08, 2025

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In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce.

Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners.

We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah’s Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration

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How to Heal Low Self Worth to Build a Fulfilling Sex Life l ft. Tara Schuster Aug 05, 2025

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In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change.

Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?"

They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive.

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth

3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life)

7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough

14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works

19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration

22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy

39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration

49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication

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How to Build Real Emotional & Sexual Connection Aug 01, 2025

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Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction

1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse

10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters

18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex

24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy

27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers

31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating

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How Food, Hormones & Shame Are Destroying Your Sex Life l Ft. Will Cole Jul 29, 2025

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In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being.

Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies.

We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself."

The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness. Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:57 - What is Functional Medicine?

8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings"

13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms

22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back

32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health

39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support

46:25 - The Missing Conversation

52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession

54:29 - Quickfire Round

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