Sex With Emily

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Locktober: How to Do Chastity Play Safely Oct 03, 2025

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica answer listener questions covering intimate challenges from anal play to mismatched libidos. The episode addresses a woman whose boyfriend wants to try receiving anal rimming but can't relax into it, examining masculinity myths around pleasure. They cover penis cage safety during chastity play and what to watch for during extended use. Listeners also hear from a woman whose partner never initiates sex despite therapy, someone experiencing numbness during oral sex, and a recently divorced woman struggling to reclaim her sex drive. Throughout, Emily emphasizes communication outside the bedroom, understanding our bodies' responses, and reclaiming sexuality as something we own for ourselves—not something tied exclusively to our partners.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:15 - Helping Your Partner Feel Comfortable with Anal Play

6:38 - Penis Cage Safety & Chastity Play Guidelines

13:49 - When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex

18:45 - Numbness & Tingling During Oral Sex Explained

23:07 - Reclaiming Your Sex Drive After Divorce

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How Porn Can Actually Improve Your Sex Life Sep 30, 2025

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily teams up with anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin to tackle pornography—one of modern sexuality's most polarizing topics. From addressing listener concerns about partners who need porn to climax, to exploring how porn shapes our sexual behaviors and expectations.

The episode examines real listener scenarios including a woman feeling inadequate because her boyfriend requires porn and dirty talk about other women to orgasm, and another struggling with her partner's search history filled with degrading terms. Emily and Wednesday also dive into the research on porn's actual impact on sexual aggression, the rise of choking and other behaviors in mainstream sexual culture, and the difference between ethical porn and typical productions.

Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that porn itself isn't the problem—it's often a communication issue. The episode explores how couples can use porn as a tool for sexual exploration and self-knowledge rather than a source of shame or conflict, while acknowledging the legitimate concerns about how mainstream porn represents sexuality and consent.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

4:27 - Historical Context: Porn Has Always Existed

8:23 - First Porn Experiences

17:20 - Research Findings: Porn's Actual Impact on Behavior

27:47 - Case Study: When Porn Becomes a Relationship Issue

37:32 - Ethical Porn vs. Mainstream

41:56 - Using Porn as a Learning Tool for Self-Discovery

50:42 - Communication Strategies: Talking About Porn Preferences

57:17 - Final Thoughts

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When Your Friend Ruins Your Relationship By Sharing Your Past Sep 26, 2025

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Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description: In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Eric tackle listener-submitted "Am I The Asshole" scenarios focused on sex, dating, and relationships. From a wife refusing threesomes her husband demands to fix their struggling marriage, to a boyfriend dismissing his girlfriend's painful sex as exaggerated. The episode examines a daughter's shock at discovering her mother's 24/7 BDSM collar and addresses sexual compatibility deal-breakers, including a five-month relationship ending over asexuality versus mismatched libidos. They also tackle friendship boundaries when a well-meaning friend reveals intimate details about someone's sexual past to their new partner. Throughout these scenarios, Emily emphasizes that most relationship conflicts stem from lack of sexual education and communication skills rather than malicious intent. The episode reinforces the importance of honest self-reflection, clear boundaries, and recognizing when patterns aren't serving your relationships. Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:21 - Threesome Pressure in Struggling Marriage

4:45 - Why Threesomes Don't Fix Relationships

8:03 - Dismissing Partner's Sexual Pain During Sex

11:04 - Understanding Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain

14:09 - Anal Sex Pressure Despite Clear Boundaries

17:15 - The Importance of Consensual Partners for Anal

18:46 - Discovering Mom's BDSM Collar Bombshell

22:00 - How to Have Healthy Sex Conversations with Kids

24:46 - Breaking Up Over Sexual Incompatibility

28:18 - Sexual Compatibility by 5 Months Rule

30:33 - Oversharing Friend's Threesome History

33:14 - Never Share Others' Sexual Stories

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How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Sex Life Sep 23, 2025

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships.

How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough."

The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved.

They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification.

The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus

5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries

8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships

11:43 - Egg freezing experience

16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes

21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz

26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy

30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games

35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection

38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships

40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice

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Why Your Partner's Sexual Past Is Haunting Your Present Sep 19, 2025

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Episode Description

In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering?

A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner.

For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom.

Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go?

Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve.

Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past

5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus

11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal

17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships

20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes

29:52 - The Field Effect

34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response

40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions

46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

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The 4 Secrets to Amazing Oral Sex (From a Sex Educator) Sep 16, 2025

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Jennifer Freed reveals why true sexiness comes from daring to be authentically yourself—not trying to imitate anyone else—and how confidence means being good with yourself without waiting for approval. Then sex educator Shani Hart shares her game-changing tip for staying aroused during oral sex (hint: it involves a Magic Wand), her mission to bring quality pleasure products to underserved communities, and why she tells customers that if their partner controls their toy purchases, it's a major red flag.

Dr. Freed and Emily explore the difference between sexiness and preferences, discussing how we can find attraction beyond our usual type when we recognize someone's soul.

Through Shani's journey from pop-up girlfriend to certified sex educator, Emily and Shani tackle the lack of diversity in the sex toy industry and why quality pleasure products should be accessible to all communities. Shani breaks down her four essential blowjob tips—enthusiasm, wetness, communication, and technique—explaining why "it's called a job for a reason" and sharing her favorite products for enhancing pleasure.

They also dive into CBD's benefits for sexual wellness, from reducing anxiety and increasing blood flow to helping rewire the brain's association between sex and pain for people with conditions like endometriosis. Shani discusses her favorite current toy (the Womanizer Duo with smart silent technology) and why she believes your own pleasure should be a priority.

Timestamps:

0:28 - Intro

1:48 - Authenticity vs Performance in Relationships

3:26 - Overcoming Impostor Syndrome in Dating

5:41 - Why Hiding Your True Self Kills Intimacy

10:26 - Sexual Preferences vs What Makes Someone Sexy

13:42 - Being Present During Sex Creates New Experiences

17:22 - From Sex Shop Employee to Certified Sex Educator

20:26 - Creating Quality Sex Education in Underserved Communities

24:43 - When Partners Control Your Pleasure (Red Flags)

27:48 - Magic Wand Multi-Use Tips for Solo and Partner Play

29:33 - Four Essential Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Work

31:45 - Racism and Exclusion in the Sex Toy Industry

36:02 - CBD for Better Sex: Anxiety, Pain Relief, and Enhanced Pleasure

38:48 - Quick Fire Questions: Biggest Turn-Ons and Turnoffs

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"What Happens When You Stop Reacting and Start Responding" Sep 12, 2025

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Episode Summary

In this Sex with Emily episode, comedian Adam Ferrara reveals why he sits by the front door with his dog for exactly 15 minutes every time his wife says "I'll be right there"—and how learning each other's patterns became the secret to their successful long-term marriage.

Adam breaks down the difference between reacting and responding, sharing how his Italian upbringing taught him to react emotionally while his marriage taught him to respond from choice. He explains his breakthrough moment realizing that "worry is not responsibility"—a revelation that helped him separate anxiety from actual care-taking—and discusses his journey off ADD medication in favor of meditation and therapy.

Through a caller's dilemma about losing sexual attraction to her boyfriend while being tempted by someone else, Emily and Adam explore whether sexual chemistry can be built or if some relationships lack that essential foundation. They tackle the hard truth about the two-year relationship mark when initial passion fades, and provide practical tools like the "Yes, No, Maybe" list for couples working to rebuild intimacy together.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction 1:32 - Losing Sexual Attraction After 2 Years 3:20 - Breaking Down Sexual Compatibility vs. Chemistry Issues 6:46 - The Oral Sex Double Standard Problem 8:13 - Creating vs. Fixing Sexual Connection 11:51 - Adam Ferrara on Anxiety & "Worry is Not Responsibility" 13:27 - Emily's Therapy Process: ADD, Self-Worth & Achievement 16:39 - Finding Presence Through Performance & Connection 18:25 - Marriage Communication: Learning Each Other's Patterns 22:43 - Reacting vs. Responding: Managing Emotional Impulses 25:43 - Meditation Practice: Separating Thoughts from Identity 29:24 - Practical Meditation Tips for Anxiety & ADD 31:16 - Childhood Trauma & Long-Term Anxiety Development 33:26 - Therapy Benefits: Life Tools, Not Stigma 34:28 - Five Quickie Questions

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"How to Identify Your 6 Core Emotions for Better Relationships" Sep 09, 2025

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, psychiatrist Dr. Will Siu reveals why he went from atheist to spiritual devotee in 20 minutes during his first psychedelic experience—and how that breakthrough taught him that anger is actually a mask for feeling weak. Will shares his journey from achieving external success while feeling internally miserable to discovering the profound connection between emotional healing and sexual satisfaction. He breaks down his six fundamental emotions framework and explains why "You're not getting angry because you're tough—you're getting angry because you feel weak," a revelation that changed how he approached both therapy and intimacy. Through candid stories about religious sexual shame and the universal male experience of measuring penis size with a ruler, Will demonstrates how vulnerability can actually increase attraction. The conversation tackles why less than 5% of therapy clients discuss sex directly, how working on general insecurities often improves bedroom experiences more than focusing on sex itself, and practical steps for finding partners who can hold space for authentic emotional expression. Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:03 - From Harvard Success to Internal Misery

7:43 - First Psychedelic Experience

12:14 - The Six Core Emotions

15:08 - The Truth About Male Anger

18:07 - Why Women's Anger is Suppressed and Its Sexual Consequences

22:02 - Male Penis Insecurities

26:01 - The Power of Authenticity Over Vulnerability in Relationships

29:22 - Finding Examples of Healthy Relationships in Modern Culture

32:17 - Building Male Mentorship and Emotional Communities

36:05 - Quick Fire Questions

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Why 'Good Girl' Turns Some People On So Much Sep 05, 2025

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily explores praise kink—the trending phenomenon where sexual arousal comes from receiving verbal affirmation and approval during intimacy. She breaks down how this differs from simply enjoying compliments and connects to deeper psychological needs for feeling worshipped, special, or desired.

The episode introduces core erotic desires—the fundamental feelings we seek during sex that stem from our experiences and shape what turns us on. Whether involving feeling powerful, nurtured, transgressive, or humiliated, understanding these desires is crucial for sexual satisfaction.

Through listener questions, Emily tackles complex dynamics: a man missing the intense connection with a kinky ex despite his fiancé's willingness to participate, a woman who shut down after an embarrassing bondage moment, and someone questioning fantasies about their partner with others. She normalizes these experiences while offering practical communication strategies, including her "Yes, No, Maybe?" checklist for exploring new sexual territory with partners, and emphasizing that sexual fantasies and messy moments are normal parts of intimacy.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:46 - Understanding Kinks vs Conventional Sex

5:14 - Praise Kink and Submissive Energy in the Bedroom

7:04 - How Praise Kink Helps with Body Image Issues

9:09 - Core Erotic Desires: What Really Turns You On

11:48 - Different Types of Core Desires (Worship, Humiliation, Power)

15:07 - Mining Your Fantasies to Discover Your Desires

17:07 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Fantasies

19:47 - Listener Question: Missing Kinky Ex vs Current Partner

24:42 - Listener Question: Embarrassing Moment Killed the Kink

30:34 - Listener Question: Is My Cuckolding Fantasy Healthy?

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Stop Giving More Than You're Getting in Relationships Sep 02, 2025

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down the dynamics of toxic relationships—why we get stuck in them, how to spot the red flags, and what it takes to step into something healthier. She explains how cycles of fighting and making up can become addictive, why perfectionism and unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy, and the subtle ways emotional unavailability shows up through gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and avoidance.

The episode also explores the deeper psychology behind repeated patterns: why we’re drawn to unavailable partners, how our own fears and defenses play into toxic dynamics, and why real change only happens when both people are willing to do the work. Listener questions and calls highlight unmet needs, long-term relationships starved of affection, and the painful realization that sometimes love isn’t enough to sustain a partnership.

Alongside this, Emily offers clear strategies for breaking toxic cycles, communicating needs without blame, and deciding when it’s time to stay, seek help, or walk away. With candid stories about gaslighting, perfectionism, and emotional neglect, this episode is a raw but empowering guide to recognizing what doesn’t serve you—and finding the courage to choose relationships that do.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:04 - When High Standards Destroy Love

6:35 - Signs of Emotional Unavailability You Need to Know

11:04 - How Long Will You Stay in an Unfulfilling Relationship?

13:34 - 8 Years of Unmet Needs and One-Sided Love

20:18 - Words vs Actions

25:36 - Anniversary Disappointment After 28 Years of Marriage

30:59 - Having the Difficult Conversation Your Relationship Needs

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