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Episode 391 - I Meet Her Needs, Why Won't She Meet Mine? Oct 17, 2025

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So many men tell me, "I meet all her needs, why can't she meet mine?" Almost always that "need" is sex. I understand the frustration behind that question, but here's the truth- it's not helping your sex life, it's hurting it. In this episode, I talk about why framing sex as a "need" actually shuts down desire, and what to do instead if you want real intimacy and connection. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of obligation, resentment, or just going through the motions, this conversation will give you a new perspective and a path forward.

Episode 390 - The Brain Chemistry of Sex Oct 10, 2025

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Have you ever wondered why you can feel like a totally different person during sex than afterward? In this episode, I break down what's actually happening in your brain before, during, and after intimacy, and why it matters for your sex life. I'll show you how your neurobiology impacts desire, openness, and connection, and how you can use that knowledge to feel more present, communicate better, and stop judging yourself for normal responses. If you've ever been confused about why you or your partner seem "on different pages," this conversation will make so much sense.

Episode 389 - The Good Guy She Doesn't Desire Oct 03, 2025

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In this episode, I'm diving into a pattern I see so often in marriages: good men with the best intentions who unintentionally invalidate their wives' feelings. I'll share real stories of couples who get stuck in this cycle and explain why it happens, especially when a husband's identity is tied so closely to being "the good guy." You'll hear how this dynamic leaves wives feeling unseen and husbands frustrated, even though neither partner wants that outcome. Most importantly, I'll talk about what both husbands and wives can do to break free from this pattern and build deeper connection and intimacy. Whether you see yourself in these stories or simply want a stronger marriage, this episode has something for you.

Episode 388 - Sexual Grief Sep 26, 2025

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Sexual grief is something many experience but few talk about. In this episode, we explore what it means to grieve the sex life you thought you'd have, and why making grief your companion instead of your enemy can lead to deeper healing, connection, and hope. You'll hear how sexual grief shows up in different ways, from unmet expectations to struggles with desire or intimacy, and why acknowledging it matters. Most importantly, you'll learn how grief, when faced with compassion, can become a guide toward creating a more authentic and meaningful intimate life. If you have ever felt grief, and then shame, about your sex life, this is the episode for you.

Episode 387 - She Doesn't Hate Sex, She Hates Bad Sex Sep 19, 2025

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In this episode, I'm tackling one of the most common questions I hear in my coaching practice: why do so many women say no to sex? The truth is, it's often not about low libido, it's about the kind of sex they're having. When intimacy feels like an obligation, when body image fears take over, or when pleasure and freedom are missing, it's no wonder women start turning away. I'll walk you through the real reasons behind sexual rejection in marriage and share how couples can rebuild connection, joy, and desire so intimacy feels safe, fun, and fulfilling again.

Episode 386 - Blending Your Erotic Minds: How Novelty and Intimacy Keep Marriage Hot an Interview with Katie Runyan Sep 12, 2025

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In this episode, I welcome back Katie Runyon of Faithful Fling to explore how playfulness, novelty, and emotional intimacy can transform long-term marriages. Katie shares how role play dates help couples break free from routine, rediscover curiosity, and keep monogamy passionate. Together, we discuss why emotional connection and sexual novelty aren't opposites but actually fuel each other, creating stronger trust and desire. With over 50 creative "flings," Faithful Fling offers tools to bring fun, mystery, and intimacy back into your relationship. If you've ever wondered how to keep passion alive after years of marriage, this conversation is full of insight and inspiration.

You can find Katie and Faithful Fling on:

Instagram: @faithfling

Their Website: faithfulfling.com

Episode 385 - The Dangerous Illusion of Sexual Certainty Sep 05, 2025

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In this episode, we explore why sexual certainty, which is the belief that you already know exactly how intimacy should look, might actually be blocking passion and connection in your relationship. You'll learn the difference between confidence and certainty, how curiosity creates space for growth, and why faith and openness are key to deeper intimacy. Through personal stories, brain science, and real-life coaching examples, you'll see how letting go of rigid beliefs and asking better questions can transform your marriage, strengthen your connection, and help you discover new levels of joy in your intimate relationship.

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Quotes from "Conclave" (2024 film directed by Edward Berger)

Episode 384 - The Difference Between Safety and Security in the Sexual Relationship Aug 29, 2025

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In this episode, we're unpacking a powerful insight that could completely transform the way you experience intimacy in your marriage. It's all about the surprising difference between safety and security in your sexual relationship and why understanding it might be the missing piece to reigniting the passion you've been longing for. Most people think they're the same thing, but once you see the distinction, it can change everything about the way you connect with your spouse.

Sources: Safety vs. Security concept credit: Whitni Miller (BDEmoves on Instagram) on "You Are Not Broken" podcast with Dr. Kelly Casperson Episode: "325. Sex, Safety and Embodied Intimacy" (July 5, 2025) Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329?i=1000715944578&r=495

"Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" by Esther Perel

Episode 383 - Learning to Love Your Body: A Conversation with Boudoir Photographer Hope Orr Aug 22, 2025

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In this dynamic episode, Amanda sits down with Hope Orr, the owner of Elevated Boudoir, Utah's premier boudoir photography studio. Hope shares her personal journey from body insecurity and diet culture to self-acceptance and how one DIY boudoir session completely shifted her mindset. Now, she helps other women (and couples) experience that same transformation through photography that's more about healing than it is about posing. We dive into how boudoir photography can spark self-love, rebuild confidence after trauma, and even strengthen marriages and intimacy. You'll hear deeply moving client stories - from new moms rediscovering their beauty to longtime couples reconnecting in ways they never expected. Whether you've always been curious about boudoir sessions or thought, "That's not for me," this conversation will challenge and inspire you. Plus, learn exactly what a session with Elevated Boudoir looks like and how it's designed to be a safe, empowering experience—no matter your size, age, or comfort level.

You can find Hope at:

Her website: http://elevatedboudoir.com

Email: info@elevatedboudoir.com

Instagram: @elevatedboudoir

Episode 382 - The Difference Between Sex Drive and Sexual Desire Aug 15, 2025

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In this episode, we're diving into a powerful idea I recently heard on the Sex Therapy 101 podcast - a conversation between Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and my friend Dr. Cami Hurst. Dr. Sellers shared a thought-provoking insight about the difference between sex drive and sexual desire. It's something we've touched on before, but today I want to give it the attention it deserves. This is one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage, and I truly believe that understanding this difference might just revolutionize your relationship. Let's unpack it together.

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