Sex and Psychology Podcast

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Episode 479: Can Humor Make You Better In Bed? Feb 27, 2026

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Research shows that couples who bring playfulness into conversations about sex report greater satisfaction and emotional connection. A well-timed joke can lower defenses and make high-stakes topics feel safer. Today, we’re diving into how humor works inside relationships, and how it can be an effective tool, when used appropriately, to enhance sexual communication.

I am joined once again by Jenny Zigrino. You’ve seen her on late-night television, in film and streaming specials, and lighting up social media with bits that are bold, self-aware, and sharply observant. You can see her in the new show Crowd Control on Dropout TV and her most recent Don’t Tell Comedy special is out now.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

Why does humor lower sexual tension?
When does humor help sexual communication, and when does it derail it?
Is being funny actually sexy?
What do sex and stand-up teach us about staying open instead of defensive?
How can you blend humor with honest sexual communication?

You can check out Jenny’s website to connect with more of her work.

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Episode 478: When Is Sex Funny? And When Is It Not? Feb 24, 2026

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Talking about sex is one of the hardest things for people to do. People want to communicate about desire, boundaries, and fantasies, but the conversation can feel painfully high-stakes. And yet, in one place, sex gets discussed openly in front of strangers: the comedy club. Today, we’re exploring why sex is so funny, how comedians navigate taboo topics, and the tightrope between normalizing sex and reinforcing stigma.

I am joined by Jenny Zigrino. You’ve seen her on late-night television, in film and streaming specials, and lighting up social media with bits that are bold, self-aware, and sharply observant. You can see her in the new show Crowd Control on Dropout TV and her most recent Don’t Tell Comedy special is out now.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

Why is sex such irresistible comedy material?
How can stand-up bits about sex also serve as a form of sex education?
When do sex jokes normalize conversation, and when do they reinforce shame?
How has talking about sex in stand-up evolved over time?

You can check out Jenny’s website to connect with more of her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 477: Testosterone And Women’s Sexual Health Feb 20, 2026

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When we talk about hormones and women’s sexual health, the focus is almost always on estrogen. But testosterone also plays a key role in desire, arousal, and overall sexual well-being. Despite being labeled a “male hormone,” women produce (and need) it too. In this episode, we separate myth from fact about testosterone in women and why it remains one of the most overlooked topics in sexual medicine.

I am joined once again by Dr. Maria Sophocles, a board-certified OB/GYN and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner. She is the CMO of EMBR Labs, a Boston-based wellness device company. Maria is also author of the new book, The Bedroom Gap, which is all about sex at midlife.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

What testosterone does in women’s bodies and sex lives
How levels change across the lifespan
When testosterone may help menopausal symptoms
Potential risks and side effects
Why there’s still no FDA-approved testosterone treatment for women

To learn more about Maria’s work, you can check out her website.

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Episode 476: The Bedroom Gap At MidLife Feb 17, 2026

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For many women, the menopause transition brings painful sex and low libido—issues that have long been endured in silence. Meanwhile, men have had access to highly effective sexual performance treatments for decades. The result is what my guest calls the bedroom gap: the widening divide in sexual expectations and capabilities between men and women in midlife.

I am joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles, a board-certified OB/GYN and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner. She is the CMO of EMBR Labs, a Boston-based wellness device company. Maria is also author of the new book, The Bedroom Gap, which is all about sex at midlife.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

Defining the bedroom gap
The often overlooked sexual effects of menopause
How Viagra widened the divide at midlife
Barriers to treatment for women’s sexual health
How to close the bedroom gap

To learn more about Maria’s work, you can check out her website.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 475: How To Have More Pleasurable Sex Feb 13, 2026

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When people think about great sex, they often picture what happens at the peak (i.e., the orgasm). But what if we stopped thinking about pleasure as a single moment and, instead viewed it as a cycle? In today’s episode, we’re going to explore the three phases of the pleasure cycle–wanting, liking, and learning–and discuss how cultivating each of them can transform your sex life.

I am joined once again by Dr. Nicole McNichols, an Associate Teaching Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington. Nicole’s course, “The Diversity of Human Sexuality,” is the largest and most popular course in the university’s history with four thousand enrolled students each year. Nicole is author of the new book You Could Be Having Better Sex.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How does connection to your own erotic self shape attraction to your partner?
What happens in each phase of the pleasure cycle?
How does modern life disrupt desire and dopamine?
How can we leverage the power of anticipation to build more pleasure?

You can check out Nicole’s website to learn more about her work.

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Episode 474: The New Rules Of Intimacy Feb 10, 2026

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Most people think of sexual consent as a simple yes-or-no question. But it’s rarely that clear-cut. In this episode, we unpack why consent is about more than permission, how power and context shape sexual choices, and what it means to build experiences that feel mutual, ethical, and genuinely good for everyone involved.

My guest is Dr. Nicole McNichols. She is an Associate Teaching Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington. Nicole’s course, “The Diversity of Human Sexuality,” is the largest and most popular course in the university’s history with four thousand enrolled students each year. Nicole is author of the new book You Could Be Having Better Sex.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

What are we getting wrong about sexual consent, and what’s missing from the way we typically define it?
What does “intentional awareness” actually look like in a sexual encounter?
Why does honesty about your motivations matter just as much as a verbal yes?
Should pleasure be considered a core part of consent? If so, why?
How can we practice consent not just as a rule to follow, but as a relational and erotic skill that makes sex better?

You can check out Nicole’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 473: The 5 Mindsets That Help Love Last Feb 06, 2026

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Knowing someone loves you is one thing. Actually feeling that love in your body and daily life is another—and that’s where many relationships get stuck. In this episode, we move from problem to solution, exploring five research-backed mindsets that help love land and deepen real connection.

I am joined once again by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of the best-selling books The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness. Her latest book, co-authored with Dr. Harry Reis, is titled How To Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More Of What Matters Most.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

How does the “Relationship Sea-Saw” explain the give-and-take of feeling loved?
What does healthy self-disclosure actually look like in a relationship?
How can couples sustain curiosity in long-term partnerships?
How can we approach our relationships with more compassion and less scorekeeping?
How can we learn to become better listeners and stop having repetitive conflicts?

To learn more about How to Feel Loved, click here.

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Episode 472: Why Being Loved Doesn’t Always Feel Like Love Feb 03, 2026

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You can be deeply loved—and still not feel it. In this episode, we’re exploring the gap between being loved and feeling loved, the myths that keep love from landing, and how modern life can amplify disconnection. If you’ve ever felt unseen, insecure, or lonely inside an otherwise good relationship, this conversation will help you understand why, and what you can do about it.

My guest is Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of the best-selling books The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness. Her latest book, co-authored with Dr. Harry Reis, is titled How To Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More Of What Matters Most.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

Why do so many people struggle to feel loved, even when they clearly are?
How can admiration and praise actually leave us feeling lonelier?
Why does believing you have to “earn” love block you from experiencing it?
What happens to our mental health, relationships, and desire when we don’t feel loved?
How is modern technology undermining our sense of connection?

To learn more about How to Feel Loved, click here.

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Episode 471: Letting Go Of Someone You Can’t Let Go Of Jan 30, 2026

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Limerence is an intense state of romantic preoccupation where someone takes over your thoughts and emotions. It can feel exhilarating and even spark new love. But it can also become unhealthy, especially when the feelings are unrequited, inappropriate, or tied to someone who is unavailable or toxic. In this episode, we explore when limerence becomes a problem, and how to work through it.

I am joined once again by Dr. Tom Bellamy, a neuroscientist and honorary Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham. He has published over forty scientific works on neurophysiology. He runs the popular blog Living with Limerence and is author of the new book Smitten: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence, and How to Make Love Last.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

What keeps limerence going, and what do you need to understand before breaking the cycle?
How do you shift into a recovery mindset?
What practices help interrupt rumination?
What should you look for in a therapist if you need help working through limerence?
How does living more purposefully protect against limerence?

You can check out Tom’s website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 470: The Science of Romantic Obsession Jan 27, 2026

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Have you ever been unable to stop thinking about someone? They’re the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last before you fall asleep. When they text, you’re ecstatic. When they don’t, you feel deflated. That experience has a name: limerence. In this episode, we unpack what it is, where it comes from, and why the brain can become so powerfully attached to another person.

My guest is Dr. Tom Bellamy, a neuroscientist and honorary Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham. He has published over forty scientific works on neurophysiology. He runs the popular blog Living with Limerence and is author of the new book Smitten: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence, and How to Make Love Last.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How is limerence different from lust and love?
What happens in the brain during limerence?
Why does uncertainty fuel romantic obsession?
Is modern dating making limerence more common?
What emotional needs or life circumstances make someone more vulnerable to limerence?

You can check out Tom’s website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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