Sex and Psychology Podcast

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Episode 429: Can Kink Help Us Live Happier Lives? Sep 05, 2025

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BDSM practitioners have mastered skills that many of us struggle with every day, including honest communication, clear boundaries, deep trust, and the courage to be vulnerable. In this episode, we’re exploring what we can learn from kinky folks about leading happier lives, both in and out of the bedroom.

I am joined once again by Alicia Walker and Arielle Kuperberg. Alicia is an associate professor of sociology at Missouri State University and the author of The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife as well as Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation, and Infidelity. Arielle is an associate professor of sociology at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County. Together, they are co-authors of the new book Bound by BDSM: Unexpected Lessons for Building a Happier Life.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How does BDSM offer a way for people to explore their creative side?
What can we learn from BDSM practitioners about vulnerability and intimacy?
How can BDSM allow us to explore pleasure beyond traditional sexual scripts?
What can we learn from kinky folks about having realistic expectations in the bedroom?

You can click here to order Alicia and Arielle’s new book.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 428: What People Get Wrong About BDSM Sep 02, 2025

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Is kink just about whips and chains? Is it always about sex? Is everyone who’s into kink working through some type of trauma? In today’s show, we’re diving into the science of BDSM and debunking common myths about it. We’ll unpack what kink really looks like in practice, how consent and trust are at its core, and what it is that really draws people to BDSM in the first place.

I am joined by Alicia Walker and Arielle Kuperberg. Alicia is an associate professor of sociology at Missouri State University and the author of The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife as well as Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation, and Infidelity. Arielle is an associate professor of sociology at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County. Together, they are co-authors of the new book Bound by BDSM: Unexpected lessons for building a happier life.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

What are some of the biggest things people get wrong about kink and BDSM?
What might people get out of BDSM besides (or in addition to) sexual fulfillment?
How do people typically find their way into BDSM?
What’s the role of community in BDSM?
Why is kink more prevalent in among LGBTQ+ persons?

You can click here to order Alicia and Arielle’s new book.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 427: How We Can Make Sex Education Better Aug 29, 2025

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The sex education we have in the United States today isn’t really working. And, unfortunately, it’s only set to get worse as a growing number of states are pushing to restrict what students can learn in these classes. So in today’s show, we’re going to talk about why it has been so difficult to make sex ed better and what we can actually do to change it.

I’m joined once again by Margaret Grace Myers, a writer, researcher, educator, and former bookseller based in Maine. She is the author of the new book The Fight For Sex Ed: The Century Long Battle Between Truth and Doctrine.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How many US states today require that students receive sex education?
Why don’t we have a federal mandate for sex ed in the US?
What can we do to improve sex ed in our own communities?
What can we learn from other countries that are getting sex ed right?
Why do we need to stop thinking about sex education as a one-time talk or course?

You can check out Margaret’s website to learn more about her book.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 426: Why Sex Ed Sucks (And Always Has) Aug 26, 2025

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Sex education is highly controversial. Last year alone, 27 US states introduced bills aimed at restricting sex ed! However, this fight over what sex ed should cover (and whether it should even be taught at all) is nothing new. We’ve been having the same fights about sex ed for over a century, and that’s a big part of the reason why modern sex education still sucks.

I’m joined today by Margaret Grace Myers, a writer, researcher, educator, and former bookseller based in Maine. She is the author of the new book The Fight For Sex Ed: The Century Long Battle Between Truth and Doctrine.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

Why do we keep having the same arguments about sex ed?
What really holding sex education back?
How did abstinence become such a dominant part of sex education in the US?
Does abstinence education actually work as intended?
Why is it so hard to access comprehensive sex education when it’s what most parents say they want?

You can check out Margaret’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 425: What Determines Our Sexual Orientation? Aug 22, 2025

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Why are some people straight while others are gay or bisexual? What determines our sexual orientation anyway? Today, we’re going to be diving into what we’ve learned about the biological origins of our sexuality from decades of scientific research. As you’ll see, there’s not a simple and easy story—it doesn’t boil down to something like a “gay gene.” It’s way more complex than that!

I am joined once again by Nathan Lents, a Professor of Biology at John Jay College, where he is the director of the Cell and Molecular Biology program. His research lab studies human genetic evolution and forensic DNA technology. He also writes popular science articles and is the author of the new book The Sexual Evolution: How 500 Millions Years of Sex, Gender, and Mating Shape Modern Relationships.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

Is same-sex attraction genetic?
How can two people who share 100% of the same DNA have different sexual orientations?
When researchers are studying sexual orientation, should they be looking at attraction, identity, behavior, or all of the above?
Why is having more older brothers linked to greater odds of homosexuality in men?
What other biological factors are associated with sexual orientation?

You can check out Nathan’s website to learn more about his work.

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Episode 424: Are Humans Made To Be Monogamous? Aug 19, 2025

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Are human beings made for monogamy or non-monogamy? This is a popular subject of debate. While some argue that humans evolved for monogamy in order to ensure parental investment in our offspring, others argue that humans evolved to be non-monogamous because it increases the odds of reproductive success and genetic diversity in our species. So which is it? That’s what we’re going to be talking about today.

I am joined by Nathan Lents, a Professor of Biology at John Jay College, where he is the director of the Cell and Molecular Biology program. His research lab studies human genetic evolution and forensic DNA technology. He also writes popular science articles and is the author of the new book The Sexual Evolution: How 500 Millions Years of Sex, Gender, and Mating Shape Modern Relationships.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

What’s the difference between social monogamy and sexual monogamy?
How common are social and sexual monogamy in both humans and animals, and how often do they overlap?
Can research on other primates shed light on how human mating strategies evolved?
Can someone’s brain chemistry predispose them to being monogamous or non-monogamous?

You can check out Nathan’s website to learn more about his work.

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Episode 423: The Hidden Causes Of Erectile Dysfunction Aug 15, 2025

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Erectile dysfunction is one of the most common sexual difficulties that men encounter, and it can be very distressing. But while ED is highly treatable, we really need to understand what causes it in the first place in order to treat it most effectively. In today’s show, we’re going to explore some of the psychological reasons why it occurs, including how early attachment wounds can manifest as erectile difficulties later in life.

I am joined once again by Dr. Nazanin Moali, a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and the host of the internationally acclaimed Sexology Podcast. Based in Los Angeles, she leads a successful private practice where she helps individuals and couples deepen emotional intimacy, overcome sexual challenges, and create more fulfilling relationships.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

Does porn cause erectile difficulties?
How can insecure relationship dynamics play a role in erectile difficulties?
How does early attachment trauma affect sexual function during adulthood?
Where does performance pressure come from and how does it affect erectile function?
What are some of the benefits of sex therapy for ED?

You can check out Nazanin’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 422: How To Break A Sexual Dry Spell Aug 12, 2025

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In long-term relationships, almost everyone will go through a sexual dry spell at some point. This is normal, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you or your relationship. However, the good news is that there’s a lot you can do to break the dry spell and get your intimate life back on track. Today, we’re going to explore the reasons why sex often disappears in relationships, and what you can do about it.

I am joined by Dr. Nazanin Moali, a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and the host of the internationally acclaimed Sexology Podcast. Based in Los Angeles, she leads a successful private practice where she helps individuals and couples deepen emotional intimacy, overcome sexual challenges, and create more fulfilling relationships.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How many people are in sexless relationships?
What questions should we be asking when we find ourselves in a sexual dry spell?
How can you bring erotic tension back into your relationship?
What are ways to bring a sense of mystery and play back into sex?
How can we reinvent our date nights in a way that’s going to cultivate more erotic energy and excitement?

You can check out Nazanin’s website to learn more about her work.

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Episode 421: Digital Intimacy and the Rise of Erotic Camsites Aug 08, 2025

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As many as 1 in 5 adults have visited an erotic camsite. However, the appeal of these sites goes far beyond sexual gratification. A new study of camsite users finds that they are often looking for emotional connection and fulfillment, too. But are they actually finding it? In today’s show, we’re diving into the data and exploring whether intimacy is really an experience that can be commodified.

I’m joined once again by Ellen Kaufman, a Senior Research Associate at the Kinsey Institute. Her research focuses on the intersection of sexuality and technology, exploring how our relationships and overall sexual and emotional wellbeing are shaped by new modalities of connection.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How is a camsite different from a traditional porn site?
Who are the primary visitors of camsites?
To what extent do users feel emotional bonds with cam models?
Can we develop authentic intimacy in a transactional setting?

You can check out the website for the VIBES research team to learn more about Ellen’s work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 420: How AI is Changing Dating Aug 05, 2025

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Everyone is talking about how artificial intelligence (AI) is going to fundamentally change almost every aspect of our lives, and that includes our intimate lives. So in today’s show, we’re going to explore the impact that AI is already having on the world of dating and relationships and whether it’s helping or hurting our chances of finding lasting love.

I am joined by Ellen Kaufman, a Senior Research Associate at the Kinsey Institute. Her research focuses on the intersection of sexuality and technology, exploring how our relationships and overall sexual and emotional wellbeing are shaped by new modalities of connection.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How many singles are currently using AI to boost their dating odds?
In what ways are people using AI to help them date?
Is AI going to ruin dating or make it better?
How many people have sought an AI romantic companion?
What’s the appeal of an AI companion? Can AI actually provide emotional fulfillment?

You can check out the website for the VIBES research team to learn more about Ellen’s work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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If you’re looking for a libido supplement that’s effective and that you can feel confident about, it’s time to check out Drive Boost by VB Health. Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.

A bad mattress can be bad for your intimate life. If you want to upgrade your sleep, check out Brooklyn Bedding, where you can try a 120-night comfort trial. Go to brooklynbedding.com and use my promo code JUSTIN at checkout to get 30% off sitewide.

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