Self Obsessed

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how to find REAL HAPPINESS | stop burnout, people pleasing & quick dopamine Oct 17, 2025

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the happiness trap 💭— in this podcast, i’m sharing the mindset shifts that helped me break free from the constant chase for success and finally understand what real fulfillment feels like. after hitting 100,000 subscribers in 2022 and still feeling empty, i realized i had fallen into the arrival fallacy — the belief that happiness exists in the next achievement. this episode is all about resetting your relationship with success, detoxing from quick dopamine highs, and building daily habits that support long-term peace. from reframing your goals to practicing resilience, gratitude, and guided journaling, this is your reminder that happiness isn’t a destination — it’s a daily choice. let’s reconnect with the present, redefine what it means to feel “enough,” and build a life rooted in meaning, not milestones. ✨

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:
00:00 Introduction: The Illusion of Happiness
02:05 Chapter 1: Happiness Myths That Are Keeping You Stuck
09:15 Chapter 2: Mindset Shifts for Happiness
14:34 Chapter 3: Actions to Be Happier
21:19 Conclusion

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10 STEPS TO LOCK IN BEFORE 2026 | goal-setting, realigning, building habits & glow up secrets Oct 10, 2025

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10 steps to lock in before 2026 ❄️ — this is your chance to reset, realign, and transform before the new year begins. in this podcast, i’m sharing how to design a winter arc routine that’s tailored to your lifestyle and goals. from goal-setting and identity shifts to dopamine detox strategies and glow up secrets, these are the steps that will help you stay consistent, disciplined, and aligned. let’s lock in together this season and build habits, routines, and mindsets that feel sustainable, empowering, and transformative before stepping into 2026 ✨

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:
00:00 Introduction: The Great Lock-In of 2025
02:53 Step 1: Environment Creates Flow
05:49 Step 2: Set Friction Against Sabotage Habits
07:39 Step 3: Make Your Lock-In Enjoyable
10:08 Step 4: Energy is Everything
11:47 Step 5: Take a Dopamine Detox
13:05 Step 6: Set Your Game Plan
15:00 Step 7: Manifest Like a Pro
17:01 Step 8: Weekly Reviews and Course Corrections
18:26 Step 9: Challenge Your Identity
20:57 Step 10: Forget Your Feelings
22:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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how to heal your INNER CHILD & reinvent yourself | self love, trauma release + mindset shifts Sep 12, 2025

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the ultimate guide to inner child healing ✨ if you struggle with people-pleasing, over-apologizing, or low self-worth, it often comes from unmet childhood needs. in this video, i’ll show you how to heal your inner child through re-parenting routines, journaling, and neuroplasticity to rewire old beliefs. this is your blueprint to emotional healing, confidence & self love 💗

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:

00:00 Introduction: Understanding Your Inner Child

04:52 Chapter 1: What is Your Inner Child?

07:36 Chapter 2: How to Heal Your Inner Child

13:45 Chapter 3: Homework

17:32 Conclusion

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the ULTIMATE back to school guide | mindset glow up, friendships, routines + study hacks Sep 05, 2025

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this isn’t your average back-to-school advice video — this is the ULTIMATE Back-to-School Guide 2025 to help you glow up your mindset, routines, and study habits while reinventing yourself for the new school year.✨ instead of cliché tips, i’m sharing the mindset shifts and life systems that actually transform your high school experience: handling drama, making genuine friendships, romanticizing daily school life, mastering emotional intelligence, embracing failure as growth, and building effective routines that stick. this video is your blueprint to level up academically, socially, and personally — so you can step into your dream reality this year.

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:
00:00 — Introduction
01:15 — Chapter 1: Life and Drama
11:25 — Chapter 2: Studying and Goals
18:39 — Chapter 3: Homework
20:22 — Conclusion: Embrace the School Year Ahead

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Obsessed With Manifesting | the easiest way to manifest your dream reality Aug 29, 2025

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my new obsessed with manifesting journal is out! 🪄. this isn’t just another manifestation journal you forget about in a week. it’s designed to actually help you rewire your beliefs and step into your dream reality using neuroscience, self-concept work, and powerful manifestation techniques. inside, you’ll find:

✨ a vision board to map out your dream life

✨ gratitude immersion + daily affirmations

✨ law of assumption scripting & quantum leaping

✨ aligned action plans + manifestation prompts

✨ pages for detachment, self-concept & success tracking

basically, it’s everything i wish i had when i started my manifestation journey. and in this video, i’m also answering some of your most common questions — like how to manifest properly, how to build a journaling routine, and the psychology behind why these practices actually work.if you’re ready to stop manifesting the wrong way + finally create the life you’ve been visualizing, this video is for you.

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:

00:44 Chapter 1: Manifestation Myths

02:18 Chapter 2: How is Obsessed with Manifesting Different?

08:02 Chapter 3: Why Does Obsessed with Manifesting Work?

11:55 Chapter 4: Obsessed with Manifesting Q&A

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the ULTIMATE guide to friendships | advice I WISH I knew earlier to build lasting friendships Aug 15, 2025

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friendships are harder than relationships sometimes… and no one talks about it. this is the ✨ULTIMATE ✨guide to friendships — the advice i wish i knew earlier to build real, aligned, and lasting connections. we’re diving into red flags, green flags, setting boundaries, and why so many of us settle for surface-level friendships. if you’ve ever felt misunderstood, drained, or unsure of your standards, this video is for you 🤍

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:

00:00 Introduction
01:50 Chapter 1: What to Avoid in Friendships
10:29 Chapter 2: Setting Your Standards
19:36 Chapter 3: Being a Great Friend
26:41 Conclusion

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how to MASTER self-love while dating | detachment, boundaries, & self-worth no one talks about Aug 04, 2025

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mastering self-love while dating isn’t always easy — especially when no one talks about the detachment, boundaries, confidence, and self-worth it really takes. if you’ve ever felt like you start shrinking in relationships, this video is for you. i’m sharing the exact mindset shifts that helped me stay independent, grounded, and fully in my power while navigating love. after spending time single, focused on building my dream life and reconnecting with myself, i learned that the right relationship should expand your world — not consume it. whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or healing from one, this video will help you protect your peace, stop overgiving, and keep becoming her — the woman you were always meant to be. 💅🏽💖

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:

00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Self-Love and Independence

02:21 Chapter 1: The Talk

08:44 Chapter 2: The Lifestyle

15:43 Chapter 3: Homework

18:48 Final Thoughts

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the 5 laws of self-obsession | how to build unshakable confidence & start choosing YOU Jul 25, 2025

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the 5 laws of self-obsession aren’t about being selfish — they’re about how to build unshakable confidence, protect your peace, and start choosing you. in this episode, i share the mindset shifts that helped me heal, stop people pleasing, and finally become the most confident, grounded version of myself. we’ll talk self-love, boundaries, personal growth, and how to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for simply prioritizing yourself — this one’s for you. ✨ it’s time to reclaim your power and start living for you. 💅🏽💭💖

♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:

00:00 Introduction: Why Self-Obsession Isn’t Selfish

01:11 Critique of Societal Views on Self-Obsession

02:41 Law 1: The Mirror Law

06:22 Law 2: The Boundary Law

08:25 Law 3: The Celebration Law

10:18 Law 4: The Upgrade Law

13:04 Law 5: The Rewire Law

15:52 Final Words of Empowerment

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watch this when you're in a slump Jul 18, 2025

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feeling stuck or in a slump? here’s your sign to reset and realign 🫶 i’ve been there. in this video, i’m sharing 7 reminders and mindset shifts that helped me break out of low-energy phases and reconnect with my higher self. we’ll talk about how to stop spiraling, reconnect with your future self, and turn quiet seasons into your biggest growth moments. whether you’re going through a rough patch or just feeling off, this is your sign to reset, reflect, and step into your comeback era.

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00:00 – Overcoming the Slump Phase

01:14 – Fact 1: Emotions Are Not Reality

03:19 – Fact 2: It's Just a Phase

05:27 – Fact 3: Stop Identifying with the Slump

06:59 – Fact 4: One Decision Away

08:32 – Fact 5: Future Self Knows Best

10:32 – Fact 6: Resisting the Next Version of You

12:28 – Fact 7: You Are Resilient

13:28 – Final Motivation

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relationship RED flags that are actually GREEN | 10 healthy dating signs every woman needs to know Jul 15, 2025

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💚 you might be pushing away healthy love without even realizing it. in today’s episode, we’re talking about the 10 “red flags” in men that are actually signs of emotional maturity — and why your past might be making you miss them. from taking time to reply, moving slow, having female friends, or even being a little “boring”… these things aren’t toxic, they’re actually green flags 🫶

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♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:

00:00 – Introduction

01:45 – Debunking Dating Red Flags

01:49 – Green Flag #1: He is Picky

03:13 – Green Flag #2: He Rejects You

04:54 – Green Flag #3: No Past Relationships

05:55 – Green Flag #4: Has Female Friends

07:11 – Green Flag #5: Takes Time to Texting Back

09:03 – Green Flag #6: Challenges You

10:36 – Green Flag #7: He Has His Own Life

12:03 – Green Flag #8: He Moves Slow

13:53 – Green Flag #9: There Are No Sparks

15:48 – Conclusion