Self Care and Chill With Maui

Girl Talk EP:111 Oct 16, 2025

So many things have happened to me and here is an update of what’s been going on. Just some girl talk and of course some advice. Just reflecting on friendship and love; there is so much that I have learned from my journey . And I’m so grateful that, you all have been growing with me and watching all of this happen is real time.

Make sure you check out my website for my new book and show tickets.

https://www.mauithewriter.com/collections/all

What About Your Friends EP:110 Aug 31, 2025

On this episode I talk about a blog that I wrote on my Substack about what friendships have taught me in this season of my life of being on tour. How curiosity can give us the clarity that we need all by just asking our friends questions and not avoiding uncomfortable conversations. Clarity gives us space to be vulnerable and get closer. But your friends don’t deserve to be treated like they are disposable, when they haven’t betrayed you. Our friendships deserve the same grace, vulnerability and compassion we would give in a romantic relationship. Use the FRIENDS for a discount on my new book Still Unlearning

He Uses You For Sex EP:109 Jul 23, 2025

On this episode I talk about being in a situation with a person who provides the bare minimum to you spiritually but enjoys the benefits of your company and enjoying you sexually. Knowing and understanding that, people are doing what we allow them to do, because we are not properly communicating our standards or expectations. How do we get to a point that someone is coming over our houses all the time for sex but still has yet to plan a date with you? Or even worse, you are ubering or wasting gas to go over his house, where there is no flowers waiting for you, no meal prepared, just a bed that he made or may not have made, that he wants you to lay in with him. There is more to do, than just lay up with someone.

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You Move Too Fast EP:108 Jul 06, 2025

On this episode I talk about how it pays for you to take things slow and really get to know someone. Dating for a week and then it turning into sex and then hanging out at your place or their place is not dating. That’s just laying up. I give my opinion on what I feel like dating should look like, how to be intentional with the questions you’re asking and how to not waste your time or have someone save you for later.

Use the link below to order my new book or get tickets for your city.

https://www.mauithewriter.com

They Don’t Deserve You EP: 107 Jun 15, 2025

On this episode I talk about so many different things. Settling, knowing your worth, being exhausted trying to make a relationship work and spreading yourself thin. This was a really good episode. I’m also going on tour and would love to see yall there here are some links for what I have going on!

Preorder my new book Still Unlearning

https://www.mauithewriter.com/products/pre-order-still-unlearning

Check out tour dates and tickets

https://www.mauithewriter.com

A Muva EP:106 May 11, 2025

Happy muvas day to every woman, mother or not. Todays episode I honor a few different dynamics of mothers, sisters and daughters and what it means to be a mother. Today is also my first show of the year on Mothers day and in NY how ironic for it to be today of all days? I am so excited, you can still get tickets to join us using the link below. Enjoy.

https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/events/maui-the-writer-pfd9al

Who Do You love? EP: 105 May 04, 2025

On this episode of who do you love I talk about nurturing other relationships outside of our romantic ones. I challenge you to prioritize the things that are important to you and that you enjoy doing with the same enthusiasm used to plan a date with your man. We neglect so many aspects of who we are to show up for other people, we stop spending time with friends and family or even self development things like working out or our hobbies. How can you incorporate both things in your life so neither has to be neglected ? Lets talk.

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https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/ticket-selection?eventId=maui-the-writer-pfd9al

Validation EP:104 Apr 27, 2025

This episode I talk about seeking validation from our friends and partners. Making our own decisions and being comfortable with the choices that we make. It is so easy to get caught up in how we think other people are viewing us or their perceptions of us. Making choices you are happy with unapologetically. I have a mother’s day poetry show coming up in New York and have also included the ticket link. The show is for everyone not just women. But the line up of poets will be women.

https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/ticket-selection?eventId=maui-the-writer-pfd9al

Are They Using You? EP: 103 Apr 20, 2025

Are you entertaining transactional relationships by overextending yourself, people pleasing or associating your worth with being needed? Some people love of for what we do not who we are and what we can offer that benefits them . The quote goes “judge a man by his patience when he has nothing and his attitude when he has everything” People tolerate more when they need someone it’s not until they are in the position where they feel they don’t need someone or can no longer benefit that they show their true colors .

If You Love It Let It Go EP:102 Apr 17, 2025

The poem in the beginning is called

“you ain’t never loved nothing”.

This episode I talk about letting go, being uncomfortable, celebrating yourself and all that you have. I had a conversation yesterday where I mentioned this, but this has always been a theme in my life. Not celebrating myself or my journey just always focusing on what I need to do next or be better at. Look around, you so far from where you started. Honor that. Appreciate that. Thank God for it.

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Discipline Is Self Love EP:100 Mar 09, 2025

Today I talk about Ramadan and fasting. Fasting from social media and people. Starting a 30 day self care challenge. Prioritizing your time so you can take care of yourself and not make excuses for all the stuff you need to be doing. How would you feel if you realized the biggest distractions In your life were the people you are around? Are you not able to juggle it all, are you being a follower or are you just not prioritizing your time correctly?

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https://www.mauithewriter.com/products/self-love-guide-ebbok

Keep It To Yourself EP:99 Feb 05, 2025

It’s been a while and I have missed all of you. I have still been going to therapy and now back to working on my psychology degree. Being a mom of 3 has been dragging me by the hair but I’m doing my best!

On this episode I touch on a few topics

Forgiveness

Being mindful of who you take advice from and tell your business to

Being mindful of when you are wasting your advice on people who are committed to their own narratives.

Building a relationship with God and fasting from things.

You Move Too Fast EP:98 Nov 10, 2024

On this episode we talk about pacing yourself when dated to give yourself time to see exactly who someone is. It is no benefit to us to move fast when taking our time could not only lead to the same results but more than likely better results.

Pacing your love because not everyone deserves it and sometimes we have so much of it to give too much of our love to people who are only there to use us up.

Taking your time when your dating and getting to know someone and asking yourself what is being invested in this dating phase

Is it just quality time?

Conversation?

Romance?

Is it consideration and thoughtfulness

Is it being intentional ?

What have they communicated that they are looking for or what their intentions are when with dating?

You Forgave That Man But Not Her EP:97 Nov 03, 2024

On this episode we talk about a few things and one of those things are the reason behind why it is easier for some of us women to give more grace to the men in our lives who have betrayed us but not to the women in our lives who we have built friendships with? Granted I do understand that there are complex situations, but in the scenarios where a conversation could have been had why did that not happen?

Thinking about the relationships that you have with women in your life is there anything that reminds you of the relationship that you have with your mother or other women in your life ?

How did they make you feel? Do you miss them and if you do what do you miss? What would have been an ideal outcome of the situation ?

Who The F Are You? EP:96 Oct 27, 2024

If you’re tuned into this episode know that I miss you and am so happy and grateful that you all have been patient with me. But as I said, write down a few things that you do without blaming someone. Because there is always going to be someone who mishandled you, but I want you to focus on the emotions that you felt instead and how it has shaped you.

Also when I say “Why do you do the things you do without blaming other people” doesn’t mean that I’m not saying don’t hold people accountable or that they don’t deserve blame . I’m just saying for this specific thing I want you to do, I do not want you to involve those people.

Compassion, Not judging, creating and communicating real boundaries. These are a few points I talk about.

LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE EP:95 Jun 30, 2024

On this episode I talk about having the strength to leave a person that isn’t good for you | Giving yourself grace for not knowing better and the patience to do better. | I want people to write down a prayer for themselves that they can go back to, to remind them that they deserve better. Ask yourself why do I keep settling for this? Why do I keep going back? Why can I not be alone ? For tickets to shows and books use this link—> https://beacons.ai/maui_w

Standing On Business EP:94 Jun 09, 2024

On this episode we talk about standing firm on our boundaries when it comes to how we allow people to treat us and show up for us. Not being afraid to express exactly what it is that we want. Holding people accountable but also holding ourselves accountable also. And treating self care like it is a necessity, which it is in order to take care of yourself. If you haven’t check out my books on my website www.mauithewriter.com Happy self care Sunday ! Potty training book : https://www.amazon.com/Potty-Training-Days-Step-Step/dp/1623157900/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?adgrpid=59711097007&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.XRcZeQKqZG0MkWPXIrSyEd8Q80VvsrBF0sQlWJWWOBiHZwLrYXYPFUBHcXCDCj-NOho9bL-EublvsGqgI6V0u6Cj37tsTB6P0ikLmSEf62SkRekKl-e4fK4F64wGVdh-u08vq-UH1YWoPpkw-54pkOO6lKcoCWO3FtSY5ltUINNXF7NtJFZk8PpPwJ_B0Db0UY4Hd5-YDVZ8GlWiPuVOvw.-979Uvj6Ssw82B9XLUf0tTcWqXpnMh0A3atSfyab4Sk&dib_tag=se&hvadid=664624588231&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9007243&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=6790936644063456276&hvtargid=kwd-308594615488&hydadcr=28786_14754662&keywords=3+day+potty+training+method&qid=1717931899&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1

Seeing Your Inner Child EP:93 May 05, 2024

On this episode we have our special guest AJ McQueen. I ask him about growing up in St. Louis, mental health, relationships, his inner child, therapy and what does self care mean to him. The episode was really great and he dropped so many gems that people would be able to take away when it comes to how to show up for themselves, be confident and give themselves grace. Check out his music and tour dates below. My personal favorite song is Love Jones.

WATCH THE FULL VIDEO HERE https://youtu.be/zwQKyr7cl3U

TOUR TICKETS - AJTHEGREAT.COM/TOUR
APPLE MUSIC - https://music.apple.com/us/artist/aj-mcqueen/540889165
SPOTIFY - https://open.spotify.com/artist/5yQzq87Fu3ZTADxVWwWoj7?si=zXp1_iaeQHmvTHaw9b05-Q

Why Did You Stay With Them EP:92 Apr 21, 2024

On this episode we talk about what the people you have loved had in common and where they a REFLECTION OF YOU? What did certain people show you when it comes to your healing? What did you admire about them if anything? What are some things that your inner child really need as a child that you can supply them with right now to make them feel loved and safe ? You’re not on this journey alone, there are a million other people journeying just like you, don’t forget that. Here is the link to my LTK with all of my must haves and favorites, I will keep adding more books https://www.shopltk.com/explore/Maui_w and you can always ordering my books from my website www.mauithewriter.com

Love, Therapy and Boundaries EP:91 Apr 08, 2024

On this episode I talk about all of the things that I have been learning in therapy and utilizing in my daily life. Boundaries, communicating, validating emotions and getting my needs met by my partner. This season of my life has felt so transformative and I feel like I’m becoming a different person emotionally, so of course I wanted to share this with all of you. Let me know some of the things you have been working on in your life.

Gratitude And A Home Birth EP:90 Mar 03, 2024

This episode is mainly my birthing story and how Hos does so many things in our lives that show us how grateful we should be.

Thank You To My Man EP:89 Feb 11, 2024

This episode is all about love! With Valentine’s Day coming up I wanted to leave you with a few to look for while dating someone or dating yourself!

New Year New Me In 2024 EP:88 Jan 07, 2024

This episode is filled with everything that we need to be leaving in 2023 and not bringing into the new year! It’s a new year and new version of ourselves for everyone! I hope that you use this year to really tap into your full potential and take advantage of all the beautiful things that you have going on in your life!

Self Sufficient Women Enjoy Help Too! EP:87 Dec 13, 2023

Today I talk about why do men help women who bring nothing to the table but are reluctant to help women who they see are already doing so much on their own? Do they feel like since she can do it all what does she need me for? Or do they just naturally have no desire to offer or be of service to her because their ego desires someone who NEEDS them?

Cheesecake Factory First Date EP:86 Nov 19, 2023

This episode is about where you are going or not going for first dates and why. They made a list on Instagram of first date places that women don’t want to go to and I also made a list of 9 qualities I think are important for you to notice if someone has when you are dating or in a relationship with them. These qualities are important to me, but that doesn’t mean they have to be for you lol. Anyways I’m happy to be done touring and god willing book number #5 will be ready for you to preorder this Friday !!

Love Takes Bravery And Vulnerability EP:85 Oct 15, 2023

I start off with my new poem Invisible Girl On this episode I talk about how much courage it takes to walk into love with no wall up. How walls may protect you but they also keep things from coming in, some really beautiful things. Don’t be afraid to show up as your full self in any type of relationship, WE ARE NOT STARTING FROM SCRATCH WE ARE STARTING FROM EXPERIENCE. If you are afraid to be hurt I understand, but that’s one of the risks we take. I hope that you are able to take that risk for what you want. Use the link below for my upcoming shows https://beacons.ai/maui_w

Not Getting Your Needs Met EP:84 Oct 08, 2023

On this episode I give a recap and talk about not feeling guilty about expressing what you need. A lot of the times we don’t want to feel like we are a burden or asking for too much so we allow ourselves to continue to be unsatisfied or to feel unappreciated. It is okay to ask for what you need, it is okay to say “this is not working for me, let’s try a different way” , you do not have to settle for what is offered to you. FOR TICKETS TO MY UPCOMING SHOWS USE THE LINK BELOW https://beacons.ai/maui_w

Give Yourself Some Grace EP:83 Sep 24, 2023

On this episode I talk about letting people live in their world of delusions, being accountable if you’ve been the delusional one and forgiving yourself but not being too hard on yourself because you are doing your best. Make sure you get tickets below for the last poetry nights that I will be having for the year !!!! NY 9/28 Indy 10/5 Boston 10/13 St. Louis 10/20 https://beacons.ai/maui_w

Stop Lowering Your Standards EP:82 Sep 17, 2023

Today I talk about not watering down your expectations or desires because you’re with someone you feel like will never give it to you. Don’t make excuses for why someone won’t show up for you or try and convince yourself that you don’t need certain things in a relationship because you’ve accepted the fact they won’t put the effort in to do it. Make sure you get tickets to see me in New York this month at City Winery New York https://citywinery.com/newyork/Online/mapSelect.asp?doWork::WSmap::loadMap=Load&createBO::WSmap=1&BOparam::WSmap::loadMap::performance_ids=00AD16AD-49C6-43D3-B26A-197A5174AB24

Are You A Placeholder? EP:81 Sep 10, 2023

On this episode I talk about being a placeholder. Allowing someone to continue to reap benefits from you while you never get what you want in return, they will use you up while they wait for what they actually are looking for. I talk about people leading you on, being misleading or saying anything you want to hear so that they can keep using you. Check out my books at www.mauithewriter.com and my NY show 9/28 at City Winery

Stop Taking Them Back EP:80 Sep 03, 2023

On this episode we talk about how being in toxic relationships also effect the other personal relationships in your life. Everyone from your friends, to your children and family, can get hurt by seeing someone they love constantly being hurt. I talk about choosing yourself, letting someone go, creating a list that will help you with perspective and not having to beg someone for what you need. You can find all my books at mauithewriter.com

You’re A People Pleaser Jul 30, 2023

Sending love and prayers to my friend and sister Andrea Jones and healing strength to her family. This episode is for my people pleasers, I beg you to stop doing more for people who already don’t appreciate you. Stop going out of your way for people who hurt you, stop allowing people to keep using you, save some of YOU for YOU!!!

I Had To Get My Lick Back EP:78 Jul 09, 2023

On this episode we talk about wanting to get your lick back or revenge on people who have hurt you or embarrassed you. We talk about being hurt by people that we cared for and really having to sit with those emotions of betrayal and embarrassment. I also answer 3 audience questions. Also check out all my books and use the code LOVE for free shipping at www.mauithewriter.com

It Is Not Your Partners Job To Make You Happy EP:77 Jun 04, 2023

On this episode here are some of the topics that I talk about

Its not your partners job to make you happy all the time
Its not your partners job to do the work for you
Outgrowing or not outgrowing people
Soulties
Being proud of yourself
Expressing how much you love people and not being afraid to be vulnerable

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I HAVE BEEN HURT BUT I DESERVE LOVE EP:76 May 28, 2023

On this episode I talk about how being hurt can change the way that we love and our ability to let people in to also love us properly. I talk about being comfortable expressing your standards, qualities to look for in a partner, breaks during relationships and being with someone on your emotional level. You deserve to experience a love that has no limits when it comes to you and a love that will show up for you when you need them the most. This episode was recorded in real time also on instagram live so that I could answer your questions. Check out my relationship books below https://www.mauithewriter.com/

He Is Not Your Man EP:75 May 07, 2023

This episode is for the people who are pouring into and building connections with people who have no desire to be with them or take them seriously. Set boundaries and expectations when it comes to dating so that you do not keep wasting your time on dead end situationships

Lets Talk Sex, Positions and Relationships Ft: Ler and Lionel EP:74 Apr 23, 2023

On this episode of Self Care and Chill we talk about everything sex related. From being a late bloomer, trying new sex positions and even relationships. I had a great time recording this episode because it was super funny yet informative. If you were a tom boy like me growing up I know you will really be able to relate to some of my experiences. I loved how open Ler and Lionel were on their perspectives, so make sure you also check out their podcasts Late Night With Ler & Lionel. Also subscribe on youtube so you can watch the visual when it drops this week!

https://www.youtube.com/@MauiTheWriter

I Have A Surprise And Some Advice EP:73 Apr 16, 2023

Hey y’all ! I wanted to give y’all some updates on what’s been going on in my life! From my baby turning 1 being in the middle of a sold out poetry tour! Let’s do a little recap and all the things I learned walking into 2023! You can watch this whole recap on youtube too so that you can see some behind the scenes from the poetry shows that we have been having.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qqhZ1h0kZJI

Health, Healing And Relationships Ft: Adjua Styles EP:72 Mar 19, 2023

Check this episode out NOW ON YOUTUBE! This episode with Adjua Styles was so great! Adjua a mother, an author, a business woman, health advocate and the wife to Styles P. We talked about health, relationships, healing and dealing with grief. On this never ending journey of healing and discovering different layers of yourself, her strength is so admirable. I hope this episode allows people to see different amazing sides of her and for you to have confirmation or something that you needed to hear on your own journey of healing. Make sure you follow their business @farmacyforlife where you can order their health and wellness products.

A Tired Mom EP:71 Mar 12, 2023

This episode we talk about making time for ourselves and our partners as moms. Sometimes it is so difficult to find that balance and find time to not only make your partner feel loved but yourself. I wanted to talk to you a little about what I have been doing and what has been the key to my self care routine when it comes to showing up for myself. Buy tickets for the tour https://beacons.ai/maui_w Watch the last episode on YouTube https://youtu.be/PZ_FcWcVseE

Dont Turn Me Off Ft: Nigel Euro EP:70 Mar 09, 2023

I sat down with Nigel Euro and we talked about him being on the last season of Too Hot To Handle on Netflix, relationships, dating and holding himself accountable on certain decisions that he has made when it has come to dating and relationships. The interview was very light and fun. Make sure that you follow him on instagram at @nigeleuro_ on instagram and follow the @selfcarexchill podcast instagram page. This episode is available to watch on youtube via the link below https://youtu.be/PZ_FcWcVseE

I Got Cheated On EP:69 Feb 26, 2023

On this episode I answer 2 questions that were sent to the podcast page @selfcarexchill and I talk about being cheated on. The emotional hurt that you have to deal with when you’re cheated on and all of the things that we “tried to do right” I also have a bunch of shows coming up so make sure you follow on social media to stay up to date !

Single But Not Lonely On Valentines Day EP:68 Feb 14, 2023

Thank you for tuning into a new episode of Self Care & Chill with Maui. We talk about being single, knowing our worth, standing on our boundaries and not settling. A lot of what we touched will be in my new ebook I am dropping today at www.mauithewriter.com I also took a trip to Scarsdale NY and went to @farmacyforlife so make sure you check them out on instagram for all of their vitamins

New Year New Me Jan 19, 2023

A mini episode of motivation. I missed all of you so much. I just wanted to stop by and give you a recap of what has been going on in my life and send you some light. Use the code selflove for a discount at mauithewriter.com

Tell Me How To Love You EP:67 Dec 18, 2022

This episode I talk about if it is okay to tell someone how you want to be loved or should they just know? At what point are we self sabotaging relationships by expecting people to be mind readers? Or should we not have to explain certain things to someone who is interested in us? What are some things that you are not willing to explain to someone "At this big ole age" as you all like to say? lol- You can also tune into this episode on Youtube at Maui The Writer so you can let me know how you feel about this. Follow me on instagram @selfcarexchill

I’m Not Happy In My Relationship EP:66 Dec 04, 2022

This episode we discuss not being happy within your relationship and two people putting in the effort to make the relationship work. Being comfortable communicating about what you want and not feeling bad. This is your life make sure you are living the life that you want and not the one that you settled for. Use the code selfcare for a discount at www.thesoftestlife.com and for relationship books www.mauithewriter.com

A Lonely Holiday EP:65 Nov 24, 2022

I am sending you love if this is your first holiday alone. Somebody loves you and it is okay to surround yourself with people that remind you how loved you are!! Enjoy 50% off the entire website when you use the code BLACKFRIDAY www.thesoftestlife.com

First Date Sex EP:64 Nov 20, 2022

This episode we talk about having sex too fast. Is there a time limit? What should we look for when dating someone? How do I know of things are moving too fast or if this person is worth my time? I hope you enjoy! Follow on social media at @selfcarexchill @maui_w @thesoftestlife

Being Single Is Boring EP:63 Nov 09, 2022

This episode is for single people who are just tired of being by themselves. I feel you, I understand you and I get it. It will be worth it in the end knowing that you didn’t settle! Use the code LOVE at mauithewriter.com for free shipping on my relationship books

I Dont Feel Considered EP:62 Oct 31, 2022

This episode we talk about not feeling considered or appreciated within your relationship. Something that I feel is super important in order for a relationship to prosper and work. We also talk about how lonely and ugly your self love journey can be in the beginning stages when you are trying to figure out who you are. This journey is not about being perfect, it is about making progress to be a better version of who you no longer want to be. Make sure you follow the social media pages @selfcarexchill @maui_w @thesoftestlife

We Don’t Have A Title EP:61 Oct 16, 2022

Today we did a Q&A and just some mini advice and words of encouragement for anyone who has been wasting their time with someone who doesn’t want any tittles. Use code MAUIDARES at Dare To Have Hair for your hair!! Happy self care Sunday!

Oh You Being Sneaky EP:60 Oct 10, 2022

So on this episode we discuss what exactly is cheating, what are the dos and do nots while on a break and guys who are nice but do not want to be in a relationship. Make sure you follow on Instagram at @selfcarexchill and @maui_w

Splitting Bills & Dating EP:59 Oct 02, 2022

This episode we talk about splitting responsibilities in the household. The bills aren’t my issue, it’s the men who do not realize that they are requiring their women to do all of this housework and still GO TO WORK.

He Cheated And I’m Staying EP:57 Sep 23, 2022

The title says it all. Today I am talking about staying in a relationship after your partner has cheated and trying to navigate that relationship. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and Maui The Writer on YouTube

I Feel So Alone EP:56 Sep 17, 2022

This episode we talk about getting through feeling alone, not liking who we see in the mirror and learning to feel better about ourselves. Make sure you subscribe to the YouTube Maui The Writer and follow the instagram pages @selfcarexhill and @thesoftestlife

I Love A Married Man EP:55 Sep 07, 2022

This episode I answer a listener’s question about her relationship she currently has with a man that is married. What should she do? Should she move on or is it okay because he isn’t happy? Make sure you run into this episode. Follow on social media @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife

Healthy Relationship Tips EP:54 Aug 28, 2022

This episode we discuss some things we can work on to make our relationship better and healthier. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and follow @thesoftestlife

I Don’t Know How To Love Me EP:53 Aug 21, 2022

This episode I talk about what my self love journey looked like in the beginning for me, what I learned in some relationships and what made me start it. I hope someone needed to hear this today. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife

I’m Just Too Nice EP:52 Aug 04, 2022

This episode is for the ones who are always nice to everyone when they like someone or are dating. Liking people way too fast, doing the most and not thinking of yourself. Meet me in Wilmington De 8/31. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife

I Want My Partner To Do All The Work EP:51 Jul 31, 2022

Todays episode I talk about making sure you can reciprocate what you require. A lot of people are looking for other people to show up in areas in their life where they lack and looking for void fillers. Being honest and accountable if this is us in relationships and doing the work to change that. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife

How Do I Know When To Leave EP:50 Jul 26, 2022

This episode we talk about how do we know when it is time to leave someone. Knowing our worth, creating boundaries and not allowing people to treat us how they see fit. Hopefully this is confirmation for someone who has been trying for far too long to make something work with a person who continues to do things to jeopardize everything. Make sure you follow @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife on Instagram

The Sex So Damn Good EP:49 Jul 10, 2022

On this episode I am talking to the people who are finding it hard to let go of someone because the sex is good or they have caught feelings for someone who they only have been having sex with. Realizing that the standards we have for ourselves should be more than how well someone can have sex with us. Make sure you follow these instagram pages @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife

Be Submissive They Say EP:48 Jul 02, 2022

This episode we talk about all of the social media talk we hear about women needing to be this or be that for a man. There are too many posts telling women how to treat a man and not enough statements to help women understand what type of man deserves that type of treatment or helping men understand women more or treat them better. But have no fear, Maui is here and she has an opinion. Make sure you check us out on instagram at @selfcarexchill and my new self love instagram page @thesoftestlife

I Love Me More Than You EP:47 Jun 22, 2022

This is one of my favorite episodes I have did in a while. I went through messages sent to the self care page and many of them were very sad relating to what people are settling for in relationships. On this episode we talk about what we love ourselves more than. I hope someone really needed to hear this today. Check out the instagram page @selfcarexchill and make sure you check out @fitbeads.co and use my code MAUI20 for 20% off your first order of fitbeads.

He Doesn’t Want A Relationship EP:46 Jun 09, 2022

So you have been talking to someone for months and they still aren’t ready for a relationship? Well here is what I think about wasting your time by allowing someone to string you on. This episode also features our partner @fitbeads.co where you can use my code MAUI20 for 20% off your first order of waist beads.

I Have Sex Too Fast EP:45 May 22, 2022

On todays podcast episode we discuss the people who have sex too fast during the dating stage. YES, you can do what you want with your body but it’s also okay to wait until you’re comfortable. I also have partnered with @fitbeads.co and you can use my code MAUI20 for 20% off your first order of waist beads, you know we love a good discount 💙

I Love A Bum EP:44 May 14, 2022

This episode we talk about the people who are choosing to be in relationships with people who do nothing for them. The people who are laying next to someone right now who couldn’t help them with an electric bill or the candles they will need when they are in the dark. Let’s rescue these people from the bare minimum.

True Partnership EP:43 May 07, 2022

On this episode we talk about what real partnership is in a relationship and what that looks like to you. What could you or your partner be doing to make sure that you both are showing up as team players everyday?

I Don’t Want To Be Hurt EP:42 Apr 10, 2022

This episode we talk about not wanting to be hurt so we walk through life trying to avoid the very thing that we continue to attract. So what can we personally do differently, so that we can receive different outcomes? Make sure you follow on instagram at @selfcarexchill

Aries Besties EP:41 Mar 24, 2022

This episode is a short one to give my favorite podcast listeners a recap on what has been going on with me, I hope you enjoy. You can also check out @womb.ish on instagram for doulas and also doula training.

They Show No Effort EP:40 Mar 16, 2022

Today we discuss people showing no effort, we also discuss men lacking the leadership qualities that it takes to allow women to be in tune with their softness and femininity. Two of the books I’m reading are Sacred Woman by Queen Afua and Taming the Tiger Within by Thich Nhat Hanh. Also check out @Anpu1.1 instagram page this is the live that I have been checking out lately.

What’s Love Got To Do With It? EP:39 Feb 20, 2022

This episode is a short episode for self care Sunday reminding you time choose yourself even when it may be a little difficult or hard. Choosing to not continuously stay where you are hurting and find the time to reset and regroup. I hope you enjoy. You can check out my books at mauithewriter.com or follow my social media @maui_w or @selfcarexchill

He Got To Know You & Didn’t Like You EP:38 Feb 13, 2022

On this episode we address a tweet that I posted on my instagram that many people seemed to have an opinion on. “He got to know you and didn’t like you”. The lies we tell ourself and not being honest about the inconsistency that people show us in the beginning and making excuses for it.

Loving Yourself Is Boring EP:37 Jan 29, 2022

This episode is about how difficult it may be to love yourself, exercise boundaries or figure out exactly what makes you happy. Make sure you check out my books on my website mauithewriter.com

Love & Basketball Ft: Khalif Wyatt EP:36 Jan 14, 2022

So on our first episode of 2022 we have a special guest and one of my favorite people Khalif Wyatt. We talk about him playing basketball overseas, mental health in men, creating his sports apparel brand and also our relationship and things that we have learned. Everyone who checks out this episode and uses my code MAUIW can receive 2 FREE books with their black and gold order from his website www.m-sportco.com Follow him on social media at @msport_legacy & @leafbuck1

I’m Having A Baby!! EP:35 Dec 26, 2021

This episode is kind of self explanatory from the title, but in case you missed the news with my maternity photo on Instagram this weekend, I came to share the news personally with all of you. I am so excited and grateful. I also cannot believe I have kept this from all of you for months but nonetheless here we are. So here are all the deets. Follow on social media @selfcarexchill and @maui_w

A Bad Bish With A Broken Heart EP:34 Dec 19, 2021

This episode we are talking about getting our heartbroken and trying to heal. We are letting go and getting in tune with who we really are. It is okay to cry and be sad but we will not be in the same spot that someone left us.

Happy Wife Happy Life EP:33 Dec 07, 2021

This episode I talk about the how making your partner happy is an investment in your own happiness. How can we show up for our partners and create environments where they feel loved, seen & heard?

Is Your Partner A Reflection of You? EP: 32 Nov 17, 2021

Today we did a recap of what’s been going on in my life and a question that one of you have sent. I touch briefly on the situation with Dani and Da Baby, But the main moral of todays episode is what part of yourself is your partner a reflection of? Use my code mauiw for free shipping on our fitness site https://m-sportco.com

He Said I Am Not Submissive EP:31 Oct 27, 2021

This episode is more dedicated to men and the things that we often hear from them. I also touch on my opinion on how to give men more grace with the things that they may be going through and also being patient with an ambitious man. There are a ton of men who feel like my podcasts are never advocating for them, so today I wanted to give them some advice.

I Am Not An Escort EP:30 Oct 18, 2021

This episode is about dating properly and holding out on having sex. I picked this title because sometimes men tend to think that women use their body as a reward for a man dating them or has sex only after getting certain things from him, which is not what I mean when I say wait. I want more women to wait until it feels right, until this person is consistent and shows interest and when you really believe this relationship is growing. This episode will also be available for you to watch on YOUTUBE so make sure you tune into my channel Maui The Writer. Make sure you follow this page on instagram @selfcarexchill & @maui_w

Co-Parenting and Long Distance Ft: Sap Life EP:29 Oct 06, 2021

On this episode we have a special guest; author, poet and my sons father Sap Life we discuss co-parenting, long distance relationships and showing gratitude in your relationships. You can follow him on instagram at @sap__life and check out his books that are in his bio. This episode is also brought to you by MSport Legacy; a black owned fitness brand, with affordable high quality fitness clothes for men, women and children. You can follow them on social media and check out their website and use my code "mauiw" for FREE shipping. Check them out on IG@msport_legacy and m-sportco.com.

Court Me Properly Ft: Just Mike EP:28 Sep 28, 2021

This episode we talk about different topics with international poet @justmikethepoet. We talk about the dating pool for men, women taking their time to find the right person and working on yourself. You can also use the code “Maui” for free shipping on his website also at justmikethepoet.com

Am I Ready To Date EP:27 Sep 05, 2021

This episode is for the people who don’t know if they are ready to date, don’t know how to date and don’t know if they are currently dating. Hopefully I gave you some good tips and insight. Make sure you follow on Instagram at @selfcarexchill

He Was A Narcissist EP:26 Aug 26, 2021

This episode we talk about people constantly using the word narcissist and what it actually means and if we have dealt with one or if we have just stayed with someone who didn’t care about us. Make sure you follow on IG @selfcarexchill

No More Survival Love Ft: Cito Blanko EP:25 Aug 17, 2021

This episode is featuring special guest @citoblanko we touch on black men and mental health, trauma bonding, healing and qualities needed in a relationship. Make sure you follow him on social media and check out his book 98 Sense.

You A Bad Bish So Get Into It EP:24 Jul 29, 2021

This episode we are reminding women of exactly who they are and what they bring to the table in case they forgot. Settle for what? Do you not bring so many beautiful and wonderful qualities to the lives of other people? I know what it’s like to forget and if anyone has forgotten, today I will remind you! Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarxchill and @maui_w

Lovers And Friends Ft: Kira J EP: 23 Jul 13, 2021

Today’s episode me and special guest poet and author @iamkiraj talk about being friends with someone that you have history with and it wouldn’t be right if.

Hold Yourself Accountable EP:22 Jun 17, 2021

Today’s episode is about holding ourselves accountable for the choices we make when Wa laikum salam decide to stay in certain relationships. Not blaming people for being exactly who they are. Make sure you follow on Instagram at @selfcarexchill @maui_w

The Side Chick Advantage EP:21 May 29, 2021

This episode we talk about side chicks, getting cheated on and why some women are okay with being a secret. Make sure you follow us on IG at @selfcarexchill and @maui_w

Being Nasty And Doing Too Much EP:20 May 23, 2021

On today’s episode we talk about being nasty, when is too soon to do certain things, expressing to our partners what we want and how to know if we are doing too much for someone. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @maui_w

Girl Code EP:19 May 13, 2021

On today’s episode we talk about girl code and also loving yourself for YOURSELF. The goal is to heal and reach our highest potential not to heal for someone else. The work has to be done for ourselves. Make sure you follow on Instagram @maui_w and @selfcarexchill

Oh Give Me A Break Ft. Azai EP: 18 Apr 30, 2021

On this episode we talk about the value of needing a break and taking time for yourself. You deserve time to rest and recharge! Make sure you follow the Instagram page for the Podcast @selfcarexchill

I Don’t Know What To Do Without Him EP:17 Apr 18, 2021

Today I answer some questions from the listeners. How to move on, allowing yourself to feel hurt and realizing how much value you bring. If you haven’t followed me on Instagram make sure you check out @maui_w

What Should I Require? EP:16 Apr 04, 2021

Today’s episode we start off with some affirmations and being mindful about how we speak to ourself. Making sure we are being gentle and kind to ourself and hyping ourself up! Being our biggest cheerleader and also figuring out what we should require in a relationship.

DATING AND SAYING NO EP:15 Mar 30, 2021

Today this listeners had a chance to choose the podcast topic for the day. There are multiple topics that are discussed from dating, saying no and not letting your emotions control you. Hopefully someone needed this episode on their self love journey. If you have not already follow the instagram page @SELFCAREXCHILL

HOW CAN I BE HAPPY? EP:14 Mar 22, 2021

This episode we talk about allowing ourselves to be happy in a relationship and being with someone who keeps cheating.

But It Feels So Good EP:13 Mar 14, 2021

This episode we talk about letting go of relationships that we love because the sex is good. What to look for when we are dating and being honest about if we are at a place in our lives where we should be focused more on ourselves or building a new relationship. The relationship with ourself is the most important one we have.

Alone But Not Lonely EP:12 Mar 05, 2021

On this episode we discuss so many different topics. Being alone, being honest with ourselves, the type of partners we are choosing and if we need to just work on being a better version of who we are right now in this moment.

Who Am I Choosing Ep:11 Feb 27, 2021

Being honest with ourselves about exactly who we are choosing to be in relationships with. What we bring to the table and not feeling bad about still being single.

Why Do They Keep Hurting Me? EP:10 Feb 18, 2021

Why does your partner keep hurting you, keep lying or pretending that they have changed? Today we talk about exactly why they do this.

I Am My Own Valentine EP:9 Feb 12, 2021

Today I talk about what exactly inspired me to start my self love journey, how hard it was for me, how much letting go and healing it took. I hope that someone needed to hear this today. Even when I am married I will still remember to give myself the love I deserve.

We All Need A Little Therapy EP:8 Feb 05, 2021

This episode I talk about my therapy experience with the hopes that it will inspire others to go if they feel the need to, i offer some new books that I am reading and I answer some questions that were emailed.

Being Afraid And Letting Go Feb 02, 2021

For those of us who are afraid to date, who are heartbroken or do not even want to imagine the thought of putting their emotions out their like that again this is for you.

Minding Your Business EP:6 Jan 28, 2021

Todays episode we talk about not allowing people to come into our lives and distract us from the inner work that we are doing. They only want to know why we have not been so accessible not because they mean us any good.

Grace And Gratefulness EP:5 Jan 23, 2021

This episode we talk about handling things with grace and not getting out of character when we have grown so much. We also are talking about being grateful even when things are not going how you wanted them to go.

808s and Heartbreak Jan 20, 2021

This episode we talk a little about getting over heartbreak, allowing people to do what is best for them and not forgetting to pour into yourself in the process of showing up for everyone else.

OUTGROWING PEOPLE Jan 13, 2021

This episode we discuss outgrowing people and letting them go. Allowing people to also move at their own pace of growth and not forcing what we want for them onto them.

DATING CONVERSATIONS WITH DAPPA EP:2 Jan 09, 2021

This episode we have a special guest @REALDAPPA on all social media platforms. We are discussing dating, green flags when you are dating and what are things that men may look for in a relationship. Super great episode. Make sure you check out and follow @REALDAPPA on Instagram and other platforms along with checking out his dope music.

2021 Self Love Bootcamp EP:1 Jan 08, 2021

This episode we are talking about all the things that we need to change walking into the new year. Things that we need to work on or let go of . Allowing ourselves to reach our fullest potential by no longer entertaining things that do not align with where we are going.

Entrepreneurship Consistency Wins EP:16 Jan 05, 2021

On this unreleased episode we talk about entrepreneurship, being consistent and finding something that you love doing.

Maybe You Should Leave EP:15 Dec 29, 2020

Today we talk about why exactly do you stay if you are so unhappy, expressing what we want and being clear on our worth

You Cant Properly Date Because You Move Too Fast EP:14 Dec 19, 2020

On todays episode we talk about dating properly and taking your time when you are dating. Not rushing just because you like someone or are attracted to them. Taking things slow with a clear mind and clear intentions.

From taken for granted to taking the exit EP 13 Dec 12, 2020

This episode we talking about men cheating, getting taken for granted and cheating backkkkk.

Let Me Just Put The Tip In EP:12 Dec 04, 2020

This episode we talk about allowing someone to pretend to offer you something when in reality their only concern is how can this benefit me. How can they get what they want out of you with giving you bare-minimum treatment.

Momma gotta have a life too EP:11 Dec 02, 2020

On this episode we talk about trying to be a mom and find our place in the world. We need breaks and time to recharge. We also talk about people trying to find time to heal from the things that they dont speak on.

Self Sabotaging Ep:10 Nov 29, 2020

This episode we talk about ruining things before they start and self sabotaging love that we dont really believe we deserve.

Boundaries and Being Selfish Nov 26, 2020

This episode is all about saying tf, no. Taking time for yourself to rest and recharge. Realizing it is okay to say no and not feel guilty about it.

Hoe Phases and Zodiacs EP:8 Nov 21, 2020

On this episode we talk about when are you too deep into your hoe phase and when should you just sit your butt down? And towards the end its all about zodiac signs.

EP:7 Keep Your Vagina Sis Nov 19, 2020

This episode we talk about from going to a girlfriend to a friend with benefits with someone you were in a relationship with that you still love. Creating your boundaries and sticking to them.

Saggy Titties Ep:6 Nov 16, 2020

Today we are talking about insecurities, being gentle with yourself, and being with people who refuse to be accountable.

Half Ass Love EP:5 Nov 09, 2020

Todays episode is about going back to people that treat us horrible, not realizing how much more we deserve and settling for half ass love.

Forgiveness and Alignment EP:4 Nov 07, 2020

This episode we talk about how everything is aligned perfectly, even the things that hurt us. Also letting go of the baggage that we carry around from refusing to forgive people who have hurt us. The forgiveness is for ourselves.

Lets Have A Sex Talk Ep:3 Nov 03, 2020

Today we are talking about my personal opinion on the different levels of nasty sex. What level are you on?

Self Love and Your Toxic Ex EP:2 Oct 31, 2020

On this episode I am talking about your self love journey, the lonely nights, the dating, the wanting to text your ex. This journey is hard but it is worth it in the end.

Food Court Love Ep:1 Oct 29, 2020

Let us stop over extending ourselves to people who do not appreciate anything that we have to give and it is all because we have made ourselves way to available.

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