Stay ConnectedDating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
Whether you’re swiping, healing, or somewhere in between…this is your show.
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In this week's solo episode, I’m catching you up on my life and answering listener questions about navigating societal and family pressures. I share an exciting and intimidating update, reflect on embracing stillness after a busy season, and talk about the pressure to “keep up” with milestones like marriage, babies, and houses. Later, I offer advice to a listener feeling stuck in her late twenties and share tips for handling family holiday questions about being single and thriving during the holiday season.
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Ken Reid returns to 'Seeing Other People' to discuss various pieces of dating advice. Together with we delve into the pros and cons of popular dating tips and phrases, offering different perspectives on what might work, what doesn't, and why context is crucial. Topics include the validity of statements like 'if they wanted to, they would,' 'the best way to get over someone is by getting under someone else,' and many more.
00:00 - 02:34 Welcome Back, Ken!
02:34 - 03:59 Debunking Popular Dating Advice
03:59 - 10:29 High Value Partner Debate
10:29 - 17:39 If He Wanted To, He Would
17:39 - 23:58 Finding Love When You Least Expect It
23:58 - 25:12 The Healing Power of Meeting New People
25:12 - 27:47 The Importance of Indifference in Breakups
27:47 - 30:38 Navigating Avoidant and Narcissistic Exes
30:38 - 35:05 The Numbers Game in Dating
35:05 - 37:39 The Myth of Loving Yourself First
37:39 - 45:52 When You Know, You Know: Debunked
45:52 - 47:31 Finding Dating Advice That Works for You
Want more dating advice? Check out this playlist filled with episodes and guests covering the dating advice you need to hear.
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In this episode, Avi from California opens up about his experience with cheating and the profound self-reflection journey that followed. He delves into the initial stages of his relationship, the lead-up to his infidelity, and the addiction-like behaviors that ensued. Avi candidly discusses the aftermath, the steps he took to understand and change his behavior, and how therapy and vulnerability played crucial roles. He offers insights and advice for both cheaters and those who have been cheated on, emphasizing the importance of empathy, self-awareness, and open communication in relationships.
We won’t cheat you on episodes about cheating! Check out this playlist with all the cheating stories you want to hear.
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Jackie Shames, friend and co-host of Fill Your Cup is back to chat all things confidence, learning from past relationships, and staying true to who you are. Jackie shares her experiences dating between Miami and New York, how the seasons have been impacting her dating life, and the challenges of balancing personal and professional life. We discuss the the New York influencer scene, friendship dynamics, and podcasting, and we live-text someone Jackie went on a date with.
00:00 - 09:30 Navigating Confidence and Dating
09:30 - 26:24 Unexpected Encounters
26:24 - 28:54 Reflecting on Closure and Moving On
28:54 - 29:49 The Importance of Detachment
29:49 - 31:25 Running Into an Ex-Fling
31:25 - 33:24 Finding Security in a New Relationship
33:24 - 36:26 Navigating Dating Patterns and Self-Sabotage
36:26 - 43:38 Balancing Personalities in Relationships
43:38 - 55:53 Influencer Culture and Personal Growth
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Bethany and Walter share their heartwarming real-life journey of meeting on an app and building a relationship over the past 1.5 years. They delve into their initial dating struggles, including catfishing and ghosting, and their eventual connection that sparked over a phone call and FaceTime. The couple discusses the importance of open communication, handling financial changes, how they support each other in tough times. Walter and Bethany explore their compatibility, different upbringings, and expectations in their relationship, and provide advice to singles ready to give up on dating."
Love hearing how people found love? Check out this playlist filled with stories of how real daters met their person!
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Felix Levine, entrepreneur and host of Unlike Me, joins the show to discuss his journey in podcasting, the dynamics of his relationship with Serena Kerrigan, and his personal growth. Felix and Ilana delve into why he started his podcast during a challenging time in college and the lessons learned from interviewing successful individuals. Felix shares insights on the importance of genuine connections, handling past relationship traumas, and the intricacies of dating someone significantly older. The episode also addresses listener questions on unique dating challenges and offers advice on maintaining relationships amidst personal anxieties.
01:35 - 03:40 Navigating College and Depression
03:40 - 04:32 Podcasting as a Career
04:32 - 06:10 The Realities of Podcasting
06:10 - 08:18 Maturity and Personal Growth
08:18 - 11:06 Friendships and Ambition
11:06 - 14:03 A Special Relationship
14:03 - 15:02 The Meet Cute and Beyond
15:02 - 25:15 Dating Advice and Personal Stories
25:15 - 27:58Confident Beginnings
27:58 - 30:59 Overcoming Past Trauma
30:59 - 34:46 Healing and Moving Forward
34:46 - 41:29 Navigating Age Gaps in Relationships
41:29 - 48:32 Listener Questions: Weird and Serious
48:32 - 51:10Best Dating Advice
51:10 - 53:29 Outro
Need more of the guys’ perspective? This playlist has all SOP episodes with male guests!
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Harry returns to the show after two years to discuss his life journey, highlighting the lessons learned from navigating singlehood, personal growth, and embracing new passions like photography. Throughout the conversation, they explore Harry's experiences with dating, the societal pressures of relationships, and his journey to understand and accept his neurodiversity. The episode emphasizes making one's own rules in life, finding personal fulfillment through community, and the transformative power of genuine human connections.
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In this episode, Rebekah Lipsky, a therapist specializing in major life transitions, joins us to share her personal experience of calling off her engagement and wedding after a five-and-a-half-year relationship. She delves into the emotional challenges of such decisions, the importance of aligning one's values, and her journey of self-discovery post-breakup. The discussion includes insights on handling grief, the role of supportive friends, and her upcoming support group for women who have called off engagements. Rebecca also offers valuable advice for anyone facing similar life transitions.
Follow Rebekah on Instagram at @reflectwithrebekah and inquire to work with her at www.rebekahlipskycounseling.com/
04:41 - 06:34 Life Transitions and Personal Struggles
06:34 - 09:45 Calling Off her Engagement
09:45 - 15:21 The Emotional Rollercoaster
15:21 - 27:48 Making the Tough Decision
27:48 - 28:24 Facing the Guilt of Canceling a Wedding
28:24 - 29:56 Support from Friends and Family
29:56 - 33:01 Layers of Grief in Breakups
33:01 - 38:14 Supporting Friends Through Breakups
38:14 - 45:10 Rediscovering Yourself After a Breakup
45:10 - 48:39 Navigating Relationship Decisions
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Adrian, a self-identified 27-year-old male nerd from Canberra, Australia, shares his experiences and insights on dating, offering a male perspective. He discusses his dating history, including early high school relationships and the impact of a serious breakup at age 18. Adrian explains his cautious approach to dating apps and reflects on the challenges of dating as an introvert. He emphasizes the importance of taking risks in dating, inspired by a quote from the movie 'We Bought a Zoo.' Adrian also addresses the common dating adage 'if he wanted to, he would' and shares his thoughts on modern dating pressures and misconceptions.
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The incredible Suzy Welch joins us today to discuss how uncovering your values can help you find and build lasting relationships. Suzy is a public speaker, author, and professor of NYU's infamous "Becoming You" course. Suzy shares her journey of self-discovery through her 'Becoming You' methodology along with her life-changing decision making method 10-10-10 (yes, you can apply it to making decisions in dating!)
We discuss the potential impacts of value misalignment in relationships, and how understanding of one's values can inform personal and professional life decisions, leading to greater fulfillment.
Follow Suzy on Instagram @suzywelch and check out the Becoming You podcast on Spotify.
03:34 - 03:34 The Concept of Values and Their Importance
03:54 - 07:12 Developing the 'Becoming You' Methodology
07:12 - 08:28 Values in Relationships and Personal Growth
08:28 - 14:15 The Values Bridge Tool and Its Applications
24:19 - 26:03 High Scope vs. Low Scope Values in Relationships
26:03 - 30:06 Work Centrism: Balancing Career and Family
30:06 - 37:28 The 10-10-10 Decision-Making Method
37:28 - 41:47 The Velvet Coffin: Avoiding Complacency
41:47 - 46:19 Whose Life Do You Want Anyway?
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