Stay ConnectedDating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
Whether you’re swiping, healing, or somewhere in between…this is your show.
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I thought I was the exception to the dating advice everyone gives when you’re single. I wasn’t. In this episode, I’m breaking down the advice I ignored and what it cost me, from chasing potential to confusing mixed signals for chemistry. We’ll talk about desperation, fixing people, and the stories we tell ourselves to avoid walking away. If something feels off in your relationship, this might help you name it.
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Eli Weinstein returns to the pod fresh off releasing From I Do to We Do, and we’re getting real about what actually makes relationships work — long before kids enter the chat. We talk about the biggest mistakes people make while dating, the underrated green flags that matter for the long game, and why most couples don’t blow up overnight… they just never had the hard conversations early on. Eli breaks down his “import/export list,” the tiny resentments that quietly build into big fights, and how to know what’s worth compromising vs. what’s not. Plus: roommate energy in relationships, interdependence vs. losing yourself, and the pressure-release “rompus moment” every couple needs.
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This week we’re recording from Hawaii and reflecting on the trips we’ve taken together, from our first weekend away to big family vacations. We talk about how travel reveals your real relationship dynamic, what happens when you start merging families, and why in-law situations can feel simple for some couples and complicated for others. We also get honest about shared PTO, family expectations, and how different upbringings shape vacation dynamics.
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Caroline Sacks joins the pod to break down her Hinge meet-cute turned long-term love story — from casually dating in NYC to defining the relationship months later. We talk about dating without intention (and getting lucky), being the “boyfriend girl,” and why marrying with intention matters more than dating with it. She opens up about choosing a calm partner over chemistry chaos, navigating content creation in a relationship, and what wedding planning has really taught her about friendships. Plus: 24 venues, no dress (yet), and the politics of the metaphorical seating chart of life.
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I’m joined by Colette Jane Fehr, couples therapist, relationship expert, and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love. We talk about why “not fighting” isn’t the same as being connected, how losing your voice can slowly erode a relationship, and what it actually means to do the work in love. Colette shares how her own divorce, dating experiences, and attachment patterns shaped the way she shows up in her second marriage, and why speaking up (even when it’s scary) is the key to secure love. We get into conflict avoidance, anxious vs. avoidant dynamics, the fear of being “too much,” and more.
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This week on Co-Hosts for Life, we’re catching up on work offsites, falling off our 20-week challenge, and the half marathon I secretly signed up for that got canceled, so I ran it alone anyway. I share why I needed that race for myself and how it ended up being one of my strongest runs ever. Then we answer your questions about supporting a friend through a breakup, losing the “obsessed” feeling in long-term relationships, and what it really means when someone slowly pulls back while dating. We also talk about freedom versus stability, catching feelings for a friend’s ex, and how to know if it is worth exploring. As always, Jake gives his honest perspective and reminds you to send this episode to a friend.
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In Part 2 of my career story, I’m picking up right where we left off — from losing my job at Hinge to launching Seeing Other People just weeks later. I break down how the podcast actually grew, why co-hosting didn’t last, and what it really looks like to make money as a podcaster, content creator, and dating coach. I get radically honest about freelancing, brand deals, influencer income, pay transparency, and the instability no one warns you about.
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We’re recapping an unforgettable weekend in London celebrating Jake’s brother Jeff and his now-fiancée Sydney’s engagement. We talk about the behind-the-scenes chaos of keeping the surprise secret, tracking them on Find My Friends, dodging FaceTime calls, and the moment everyone ran out to surprise them. We also catch up on our 20-week challenge struggles, Ilana’s mortifying podcast scheduling mishap, Barkley’s health scare, and of course… Jake’s deep dive Tell Me Lies finale theories (and his ongoing inability to say Pippa’s name).
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In Part 1 of my career story, I’m breaking down how I got here –from quitting my photojournalism major at Syracuse, to hustling through internships in music, to landing my “dream job” at a major record label that left me underpaid, burned out, and questioning everything. I share what it actually takes to break into creative industries, the realities of pay and privilege, and how burnout and heartbreak pushed me to pivot out of music – ultimately landing me at Hinge, where my career (and confidence) took a major turn.
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What if loving each other forever doesn’t automatically mean getting married? In this episode, I sit down with Maxson and Emily to talk about their unconventional love story and why they’re questioning marriage instead of rushing into it. We get into prenups, divorce, kids, legal myths, and whether marriage actually strengthens a relationship—or just complicates it.
Should We Get Married? on Spotify and Apple Podcasts
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