School of Self-Image

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351: How To Chill Out Aug 23, 2023

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Finding Calm in a Stressful World

In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of chilling out and finding relaxation in our lives. She shares her personal experiences with anxiety and the tendency to be intense and controlling. Tonya explores whether this mindset serves us and if we want to change it. She also touches on a conversation she had with Sarah and her boyfriend about anxiety and how it can push us forward. Tune in to learn more about finding calm and enjoying life.

Episode Details:

3:32 How to chill out.

06:37 Learning to chill out.

11:00 Technology and relaxation.

13:11 Body conditioning and self-image.

20:28 Chilling out and productivity.

23:10 Can I be competitive and chill at the same time?

26:27 Not chill in the passenger seat.

31:10 Monitoring and questioning assumptions.

34:49 Healthy lifestyle choices.

Quotes:

"Anxiety keeps me going."

"I was running from the fear of not being able to take care of my daughter."

"I'm blown away by how this is the missing piece that I just did not understand."

"Can I be competitive and chill at the same time?"

"I want to practice being a Federer, not a McEnroe."

"Even at the end, I'm going to be right there with you going nowhere and just giving myself so much love and compassion and reminding myself in this moment, I am OK."

"Did they increase your negative tension or did they inspire you to take a deep breath and to chill out?"

"One is there is no hurry because usually when I'm stressed, my brain wants to freak me out, tell me I need to hurry, hurry, hurry."

Useful Resources:

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350: Conscious Consumption Aug 16, 2023

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Conscious Consumption: How Your Choices Impact Your Life

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of conscious consumption. She prompts listeners to reflect on what they have consumed throughout the day and its impact on their lives. Tonya also introduces the upcoming "Week of Calm" workshop and shares her experience of finding calm amidst the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic. Tune in to learn more about the power of conscious consumption and how it can positively shape your life.

What Tonya covers in this episode:

01:04 Week of Calm.

07:05 Conscious consumption.

09:22 Self-image and reference group.

15:11 Consuming sexy foods.

18:38 Letting go of consumption.

Quotes:

What have you consumed today? From the books you've read to the people you've hung out with to the music you've listened to, and even to the food that you've ingested. I want you to think about the impact that those consumptions are having on your life. Are you consuming consciously?

If it's meant to be it's up to me.

If you want to change your life one of the quickest and fastest ways to do it is to start consciously consuming what you want to become.

I put myself in certain environments that instantly shook me up to potential new perspectives and new ways of thinking and therefore fast-tracked my growth and my experience in those areas.

Do you want to become that thing that you're consuming? Because if you don't, you need to stop consuming it.

A beautiful life has more to do with what you subtract than what you add.

Useful Resources:

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349: Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation Aug 09, 2023

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In this week's episode, Tonya shares her own challenges she is currently facing around understanding and overcoming emotional reactions, or triggers, and how we can get untriggered.

Tonya discusses the concept of feeling triggered and how to become unbothered by external events and emphasizes the importance of emotional resilience. She also announces the upcoming "Week of Calm" challenge and encourages listeners to sign up for this transformative experience. Tune in to gain insights on handling emotional triggers and finding inner peace.

The breakdown:

[00:02:27] Being untriggered.

[00:06:20] Reacting to triggers.

[00:09:12] Childhood coping mechanisms.

[00:17:39] Accepting and experiencing human emotions.

[00:18:49] Exploring irrational thoughts.

[00:24:04] Protecting our peace and discomfort.

Quotes:

"It is all about being untriggered, how to protect your peace in any situation."

"Over the past week, I have been triggered several times by someone that I love deeply."

"His reaction and what he learned to do from a very young age is fight."

"What part of you needs to step up and claim your power?"

"I am a human being having a human emotion right now. And this emotion is here to teach me something."

"I'm going to experience this emotion that I'm having with so much love and so much compassion."

"At the end of the day, I really do think that we all just want to be loved. We just want to be loved, to be understood, and to be respected."

Useful Resources:

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Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

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348: My Romance With Anxiety Aug 02, 2023

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In the episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the overwhelming nature of the world's constant expansion, particularly in terms of technology and information. She explains that this constant exposure can overwhelm our nervous systems, leading to feelings of chaos and anxiety. Tonya emphasizes the importance of having specific strategies and techniques to calm our nervous systems in order to avoid creating health issues. Without these strategies, it can be difficult to create what we want in our lives. Rather than labeling herself as an anxious person, Tonya reframes it as being a woman who sometimes experiences anxiety and believes that anxiety can serve a purpose in our lives.

Overall, the episode emphasizes the idea that anxiety can be embraced and used as a tool for personal growth and self-discovery. By reframing our relationship with anxiety and viewing it as a normal part of life, we can learn valuable lessons about ourselves and harness its potential for positive change.

Tonya also shares a list of things that bring her joy, emphasizing the importance of appreciating what we already have. Despite experiencing anxiety, Tonya reminds listeners that they are not alone. She also shares an exciting announcement about her work called 'A Week of Calm' which helps thousands of people create more calm in their lives. Tune in to find out more about Tonya's journey with anxiety and how she finds joy amidst it all.

In this episode:

00:01:35 Anxiety is a common experience.

00:09:45 Embrace and make peace with anxiety.

00:12:37 Embrace and accept your anxiety.

00:20:05 Movement and self-care reduce anxiety.

00:28:36 Romance and embrace your anxiety.

00:32:03 Choose calm for transformative resilience.

Quotes:

"If you want to worry less and create more, if you want to stop spending your time fearing the worst-case scenario and feeling paralyzed by your fear, then you want to join us for the week of calm."

"I needed to surrender to it. I needed to fall into the mystery of it."

"And the moment I just embrace my anxiety and not try to change it, it starts to dissipate. It doesn't have that big of a grip on me."

"I can do amazing things with anxiety."

"You will unlock a superpower that empowers you to build an extraordinary life that you love."

Useful Resources:

FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south

Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:

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347: How to Overcome Appearance Obstacles Jul 26, 2023

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Overcoming Appearance Obstacles: Transforming Your Self-Image

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses how to overcome appearance obstacles. She emphasizes that appearance obstacles are actually thinking obstacles and shares insights on how our thoughts about our appearance can hold us back from feeling confident and achieving our goals. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset and embrace the beauty within yourself.

In this episode, Tonya discusses:

[00:01:38] Overcoming appearance obstacles.

[00:06:14] Aging online is a real thing.

[00:09:20] Happiness.

[00:16:28] Changing physical appearance.

[00:19:11] Embracing aging and societal expectations.

[00:23:34] Valuing inner beauty over appearance.

[00:29:19] Appreciating natural beauty with age.

[00:31:31] Struggles with appearance in today's world.

Quotes:

"The true key to happiness is changing your inner world."

"The way I approach this is I think about what can I change and what can't I change?"

"What is for myself and what am I doing to meet societal and external expectations?"

"It's the whole package. And yet we spend so much of our lives just focusing on the shell versus what the shell houses."

"I was looking at my face in the mirror and I could hear that little voice saying, oh, my God, look at the neck. Look at those extra lines around your eyes. Like I could hear that. But there was this other voice of like, oh, my goodness, look at you."

"Because if you don't change what's going on inside, what's outside will never matter."

Useful Resources:

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346: How To Forgive Yourself Jul 19, 2023

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In this episode, Tonya Leigh explores the topic of self-forgiveness and how it can lead to a beautiful life. She shares a powerful quote by Doreen Virtue that encourages listeners to forgive themselves for past actions or decisions.

Tonya discusses the importance of extending grace, love, and compassion to oneself and offers guidance on how to forgive. If you're struggling with self-forgiveness, this episode is for you.

Don't miss out on the opportunity to let go of shame, guilt, and regret and embrace a more positive and self-loving mindset.

The takeaways:

[00:03:47] Withholding forgiveness from ourselves.

[00:07:00] Self-forgiveness and personal growth.

[00:11:14] Acceptance and taking responsibility.

[00:13:36] Forgiveness and self-growth.

[00:19:36] Unconditional love for ourselves. [

00:24:12] The renewal stage.

[00:27:18] Sign up for The Weekly Edit.

Quotes:

"I came across this quote by Doreen Virtue that caused me to consider that self-forgiveness is the answer to a beautiful life."

"But it's also hard to just go to, I forgive myself."

"I love what Byron Katie says, to argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time."

"Forgiveness is saying, I forgive you for being a human."

"The people who have a hard time forgiving you are the same people that have a hard time forgiving themselves."

"No one wins by you withholding forgiveness for yourself and for other people."

Useful Resources:

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345: How to Change Your Past Jul 12, 2023

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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh shares the power of changing our past and introduces the concept of how our perception of our past can greatly impact our present and future. Tanya reflects on her experience in the Bay Area and how she had to adjust her expectations of the weather. She also discusses her fiancé, Fonz, and his remarkable perspective on his difficult childhood. Despite facing challenges growing up, Fonz sees his past as a grand adventure.

By adopting this mindset and storytelling of our future selves, we can build confidence and become unstoppable. This episode highlights that it is the story we have about events from our past that holds us back, not the events themselves. We possess the power to change our story, which in turn can change our perception of the past. By reframing our past experiences in a positive and empowering light, we can overcome fear, lack of confidence, and other obstacles that may impede us from pursuing our dreams.

Tune in to learn how shifting our perception of our past can transform our lives.

The details:

[00:02:08] Fonz's unique childhood perspective.

[00:07:20] Shame and fear holding back.

[00:10:01] Changing your past.

[00:14:00] Personal transformation and empowerment.

Quotes:

"He talks about how at five years old, how he would just go around the city by himself on the bus and all of the interesting characters that he would meet. He learned to hustle from a very young age and all of the amazing lessons that he learned on the streets and how that experience shaped him in a positive way."

"You can change the past by changing the story."

"The story is where you are giving away your power because everybody can agree that she's going to be disrespected."

"Say goodbye to the self that's holding you back and hello to the new you."

Useful Resources:

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344: The Worthy Decision Jul 05, 2023

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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of worthiness and how it can impact our lives. She discusses the importance of recognizing our own value and how it relates to bringing value to the world. Tonya shares personal experiences and insights on making the decision to see oneself as worthy, emphasizing that worthiness is not something that needs to be earned. Tune in to learn more about the "worthy decision" and how it can lead to a life of deep satisfaction and well-being.

The details:

[00:02:27] Being worthy and self-value.

[00:06:03] Your spending habits change.

[00:10:09] A worthy decision.

[00:13:49] Pay attention to your desires.

Quotes:

"It was really a decision of seeing myself as worthy."

"When you see yourself as worthy; when you see yourself as having nothing to prove, that's when the magic happens."

"Things can't make you worthy or make you less worthy."

"You're worthy enough to ride in that beautiful car and to pull up in style."

Useful Resources:

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343: The Emotion of Clothing Jun 28, 2023

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Enclosed cognition is the idea that the clothes we wear can influence our thoughts, emotions, and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes. By using clothing to create associations and shape our self-image, we can influence how we see ourselves, think, feel, and behave. This can also impact how others perceive us and the narrative that is built around us. Changing our style can lead to significant changes in our lives, as it is all interconnected. Therefore, it is important to ask ourselves what emotions and beliefs we want to cultivate about ourselves and choose our clothes accordingly. This concept is a core pillar within the school of self-image.

In this podcast episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, discusses how we can control the narrative of how we want to be perceived through our clothing and style choices.

Enclosed cognition suggests that our clothes can trigger certain associations and expectations. By choosing clothes that align with our desired self-image, we can cultivate beliefs about ourselves and behave accordingly. Tonya emphasizes the importance of making associations between ourselves and our clothes first, before considering how others may perceive us. She also shares personal experiences of how her style choices have led people to associate her with certain places or qualities. This episode highlights the power of using clothing to transform our self-image and behavior.

Timestamps:

[00:01:40] Enclosed cognition and clothing.

[00:05:11] Personal style.

[00:07:18] Clothing shapes self-image and perception.

[00:10:55] Power of clothing associations.

Quotes:

"This concept suggests that the clothes we wear affect our thoughts, our emotions and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes."
"It's about an emotional journey."
"You can shape how the world sees you."
"When a woman changes her style, she changes her life because it's all connected."

Useful Resources:

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