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Creating New Habits for a Transformed Life
Habits are the actions we engage in daily, often without conscious thought. They serve as the foundation of our lives and have a profound impact on our self-perception. Our habits reinforce how we view ourselves and shape our identity.
As host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, reflects on the power of habits and how they shape our lives, she shares her personal journey of examining her habits. This episode details the five habits that she wants to create in 2024. These habits include unplugging more from her cell phone and other devices, reading more books, journaling daily, drinking less alcohol, and committing to getting fit. Tonya discusses the importance of aligning our habits with our self-image and how changing our habits can lead to significant changes in our lives. She invites listeners to consider the habits they want to cultivate in order to create the life they truly desire.
Tune in to learn how small actions can have a big impact on your life in 2024 and beyond.
Episode Breakdown:
01:22 Any moment is a chance to start again
02:41 Write a letter to 18-year-old you
05:09 Self-image habits
09:08 5 habits I want to be on autopilot
13:14 Habits that get you back in alignment
20:53 Unplugging and staying connected
24:47 The act of reading
27:20 The habit of journaling
31:40 Drinking less as a habit
37:44 Aging powerfully
Quotes:
"If you want to see your life change, take a look at your habits."
"Think about all of it, and you get to make up this amazing story about 18-year-old you. But it's not just enough to use our imagination. Our imaginations need evidence to really root in that self-image."
"The things that we do day in and day out are literally the building blocks of our lives."
"It's almost like I've gotten into this pattern of just enjoying, which is a beautiful thing, and riding the wave. But I miss that aliveness, that, oh my god, I just cannot wait to saunter into this day."
"If I want to see myself as a royal being, which I think we all are, what do I want to say to myself? How do I want to treat myself? And so with those two questions, I came up with five habits that I am committed to creating this year and making them habits, making them just autopilot, just what I do."
"I've noticed over the last month since I got that report, because I don't know why I haven't really been paying attention to the report, but we all need to look at that report and think about the number of hours a day you're spending on your phone and what else you could be doing with that time."
"I want to be more active on Instagram this year. And that's the crux. That's the hard part is when you have a business that requires that you share your work and you put yourself out there, you have to find the balance between unplugging and plugging back in."
"Maybe we should try reading more. I want to get back into books. There is a world that exists within books that opens you up to new ideas, new perspectives, new artists, new lands, new stories."
"The work that needs to be done is around your self-image. When you change how you see yourself, you change what you do."
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What is Tonya's WOTY? She has been selecting a word of the year for the past decade, finding it to be a transformative process. She firmly believes that merely setting goals and taking action is insufficient for creating lasting change. Instead, Tonya emphasizes the significance of personal growth and transformation in order to consistently approach things differently and achieve different outcomes. Having a word of the year serves as a guiding principle, providing direction and support.
However, Tonya faced difficulty in choosing a word of the year for 2024. Initially, she contemplated words like "power" and "integrity," but they didn't resonate with her. It was during a luncheon for the Good Friends organization that she witnessed a woman on stage who embodied qualities she deeply admired, such as power and integrity.
The word "royal" encapsulates the host's desired qualities of integrity, generosity, and elevating self-care. She explains that embodying royalty means radiating an energy filled with integrity, grace, compassion, and empathy. It entails adhering to moral principles and a code of ethics in both behavior and leadership.
Tune in to discover how to aim toward treating yourself with the utmost care and refinement.
Episode Breakdown:
00:33 Choosing a word of the year
02:14 One of the biggest mistakes that we make
06:09 My word of the year for 2024 is royal
08:24 Seeing yourself as someone of status
09:28 Lead with integrity
13:12 What is 'being royal'?
14:59 Being more generous in 2024
18:11 The Royal Treatment
19:39 My extraordinary goal
Quotes:
"My extraordinary goal this year is around leadership and my business and my team. I want to be a really royal leader."
"I don't believe in giving when you're doing it to get rid of guilt or to, you know, impress other people. I think that is the energy in which a lot of people sometimes give and then they start to feel resentful and it doesn't feel good."
"One of the traits that the woman who was on stage that revealed my word of the year to me showed me that I want more of this year is generosity."
"We are going to make mistakes, we are going to get it wrong sometimes. But the biggest mistake is in pretending you didn't make one."
"Because so often we discount ourselves, we shrink ourselves, we put ourselves down, we place other people above us."
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Host Tonya Leigh kicks off the new year by asking listeners to reflect on the characters they are tired of playing and the ones they are ready to step into. The episode discusses the external factors that support a person's character, specifically focusing on style and environment. The host emphasizes the importance of these external factors in expressing and confirming one's character.
Tonya also mentions an exercise called "Characters in Your Closet" where individuals can examine the clothes in their closet and identify the characters they have been playing based on their clothing choices. She suggests that by intentionally choosing their style, individuals can embody new characters that align with their desired self-image.
Tune in to start the year off right with this thought-provoking episode.
Episode Breakdown:
01:17 What does it mean to create, not fix
03:21 Live Like an Editor Workshop
08:27 We can have fixed mindsets
10:55 The character of the abdicator
12:49 The cost of playing this character
17:40 Responding to the world around you
19:06 Your character determines your relationships
22:08 This was the year that it ended
25:01 Famous Rachel Zoe philosophy
27:25 The character of an energized woman
Quotes:
"I want you to think about the difference in saying to yourself, I need to fix myself or I want to create myself."
"So many people, when I've talked to them about this concept of you can change who you are, they want to tell me, no, there's just an internal blueprint that you can't change."
"Last year, I found myself playing a character that I've been really good at playing. And in some ways, it has served me because that's the thing. If it didn't serve us, we wouldn't play it."
" I feel like I have stepped in my power in so many ways, but there were a couple of things specifically that I looked at and I was like, Oh, I've been playing the character of abdicator."
"That's a key aspect of character. It's not just about how you act. It's also about how you interact and connect with others"
"I'm going to speak up when I feel like someone is out of integrity. I'm going to speak up when there is something that needs to happen. And I'm going to be willing to have the hard conversations and make the hard decisions so that those things happen"
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What are your big takeaways from 2023? Heading into a new year always brings up moments of reflection. In this episode, self-image coach Tonya Leigh reflects on her top five lessons from 2023.
Tonya's top five lessons include: 1) Health is your greatest wealth, 2) Don't delay what needs to be done, 3) Don't take anything for granted, 4) Trust your intuition, and 5) Focus on your own path.
Tonya emphasizes the importance of seeing oneself as a masterpiece and approaching life from a place of love and joy. She also introduces her upcoming workshop, "Live Like an Editor," where participants can create their own magazine covers and set intentions for the new year. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own lessons from the year and carry them into the new year.
Join Tonya as she dives into these valuable lessons and provides insights for listeners.
Episode Breakdown:
00:26 - Bird Poop Anecdote and Good Luck for 2024 01:50 - The Concept of Creating vs. Fixing in Personal Development 03:20 - Live Like an Editor Workshop 06:45 - Reflecting on the Past Year's Lessons 08:10 - Lesson One: Health as the Greatest Wealth 12:55 - Lesson Two: Don't Delay Necessary Actions 16:40 - Lesson Three: Don't Take Anything for Granted 20:10 - Lesson Four: Trusting Your Intuition 23:45 - Lesson Five: Focus on Your Own Path 27:30 - Encouragement to Reflect on Personal Lessons 29:50 - New Year Wishes
Quotes:
'One of the biggest beliefs that keep us stuck in patterns and cycles that don't serve us is that we are broken."
"When you come at yourself as if you are broken, you end up perpetuating brokenness."
"I want you to see yourself as a masterpiece."
"I know that focusing on my health is my greatest love."
"If you need money to be free, then you're not really free because you are going to be a slave to money."
"We are responsible for our own vision and focusing on our own path."
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Unlocking Your Superpowers: Embracing Your Quirks
Summary:
Are you tired of trying to fit in and be like everyone else? It's time to love your quirks and embrace what makes you unique. Discover the secret to a more confident and joyful life: loving your quirks. Host Tonya Leigh takes listeners into just how powerful embracing one's quirks is and how it positively impacts self-confidence. When individuals accept and love their unique qualities, they send a message to their subconscious mind that they are deserving of love and acceptance. This, in turn, bolsters self-confidence as they no longer seek external validation or conform to societal norms. Instead, they embrace their authentic selves and allow their true essence to shine.
Moreover, embracing one's quirks attracts individuals who appreciate and celebrate their own uniqueness. When individuals exude confidence in who they are and unapologetically embrace their quirks, they naturally attract like-minded individuals who appreciate and resonate with their authentic selves. These are the people who see the beauty in their quirks and celebrate them rather than passing judgment or criticism.
By embracing their quirks, individuals also inspire others to do the same. When people witness someone confidently embracing their quirks and living life on their own terms, it grants them permission to do likewise. The willingness to be different and embrace one's uniqueness can inspire others, creating a ripple effect of self-acceptance and joy. Join Tonya as she dives into the power of celebrating our uniqueness.
Episode Details:
00:01 The power of loving your quirks.
01:04 Re-examining everything
03:18 Am I too feminine?
05:22 You are what you love
07:56 Bachelorette Hannah Brown's quirkiness
09:30 Rejecting some part of yourself
14:03 The weakest tithing I could ever do
19:20 When I accept myself as I am
22:40 Care less about whatt other people think
Quotes:
"I believe the secret to the most amazing and magical and extraordinary life is, drumroll, accepting and hopefully loving every part of yourself."
"We spend a lot of time changing and adapitng to please others."
"It's like telling that little girl within you, 'You shouldn't be that'."
"So much of our dis-ease with ourselves is because we havn't accepted ourselves."
"If you hang around certain types of people and you're in certain environments, there is a standard of behavior and sometimes your quirks don't fit in."
"Society will always try to shape you into what it wants you to be. "
"What makes you, you? What are your little quirks? Whatt makes you different from everybody else? I think those are your superpowers."
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Did you know that our brains are wired to default to worst-case scenarios? When we allow a worst-case mindset to take hold, this can hold us back from taking risks and making changes necessary for an extraordinary life to unfold.
Host Tonya Leigh challenges listeners to play the role of their angel's advocate by focusing on best-case scenarios. Tonya shares her personal experience of making big changes in her business and how focusing on best-case scenarios has helped her overcome fear and create a better life. She explains the pain-pleasure principle and how visualizing best-case scenarios and associating pain with staying in the current situation can motivate us to take action. Tonya emphasizes the importance of self-image and how our expectations shape our future. She encourages listeners to imagine and believe in best-case scenarios, take action to confirm their beliefs and create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Episode Details:
02:09 Managing our minds
05:19 The pain-pleasure principle
09:06 Visualizing a magnificent future
15:47 All roads lead back to self-image
17:32 Believing in best-case scenarios
23:03 Being your angel's advocate
Quotes:
"This is the role of looking for, finding and focusing on best-case scenarios."
"Your expectations shape your future."
"That is why it's so important, my friends, that we give time to our best-case scenarios."
"Because of who I've become, I now can allow people into my life at this level."
"It's within our daily journal practice, really thinking about how you want to think and show up on purpose."
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Creating Extraordinary Years: The Power of Planning
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the power of planning for extraordinary years. She emphasizes the importance of moving from wishing to taking action and shares her personal experience of making extraordinary decisions and plans. Tonya acknowledges the mix of excitement and fear that comes with stepping into the unknown and encourages listeners to embrace the opportunity for growth and change. As the year comes to an end, she reminds us that there is still time to make a powerful impact and create an extraordinary finish to the year, and shares how she believes the last month of the year can be the most impactful. Join her as she encourages listeners to embrace the scary and exciting aspects of pursuing what they desire.
Episode Details:
01:11 Extraordinary decisions
04:13 Creating an extraordinary year
10:29 Wishing versus planning
13:21 Obstacles to planning
18:04 The power of planning
23:58 Wishing for 2024
26:15 Turning dreams into reality
Quotes:
"Over the last couple of weeks, I have made some extraordinary decisions."
"She makes bold decisions and she's navigating to extraordinary."
"Planning is sexy."
"But not having a plan is a guarantee that you won't get there."
"If everything's important, then nothing really is."
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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of embracing the slow life and the tendency to rush toward our goals. She explores the idea that many of us believe that the future is better than the present, leading us to constantly strive for something more. Tonya also delves into the idea that we often try to outrun our own stories and seek validation and worthiness through accomplishments. Tune in to gain insights on how to slow down and find fulfillment in the present moment.
Episode details:
00:01:10 Embracing the slow life
00:06:05 Slow and sustainable growth
00:09:26 Extraordinary goals and personal growth
00:14:32 Slow growth and sustainable success
00:18:03 Self-image transformation
Quotes:
00:04:26 - "The real work is seeing yourself as worthy now and building from that place."
00:08:30 - "But I'm so afraid of failing. I'm so afraid of what my dad will think. I'm so afraid of not making money that I don't know how to stop."
00:10:19 - "But when you change your whole approach, when you change your mindset, when you make a declaration that you are going to enjoy your life and not postpone it until 'one day when', then a goal setting can become delicious."
00:14:39 - "It may look slow to the outside world, but you are like growing deep, deep roots underneath the surface that maybe people can't see, but it's going to be what allows you to have sustainable success."
00:17:09 - "I've tried both ways and I will take slow growth any day of the week."
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In this episode, Tonya explores the concept of self-gratitude and how often people undermine their success and achievements. She shares her gratitude for various aspects of her life, including her family, health, and the School of Self-Image community. Tonya references Snoop Dogg's speech in which he thanked himself and highlights the importance of acknowledging and appreciating one's own efforts and accomplishments. She encourages listeners to thank themselves and give themselves credit for the positive things they have done in their lives. Tune in for this insightful glimpse into self-gratitude.
Episode details:
00:00:12 Practice self-gratitude
00:03:20 Self-gratitude and Snoop Dogg
00:04:40 Thanking myself for self-improvement
00:12:41 Body gratitude
00:14:11 Overcoming and Becoming
Quotes:
00:02:38 - "If you are grateful for me, I just want you to know I am so grateful for you."
00:04:40 - "I want to thank me for believing in me. I want to thank me for doing all this hard work. I want to thank me for having no days off. I want to thank me for never quitting. I want to thank me for always being a giver and trying to give more than I receive. I want to thank me for trying to do more right than wrong. I want to thank me for being me at all times."
00:07:31 - "We are so used to being our own worst critic, our own worst enemy, of being perfectionist and making our love very conditional towards ourselves."
00:11:05 - "I remember when I did my very first podcast, which by the way, I'm thankful for the version of me who was willing to suck at it."
00:14:57 - "I want to thank me."
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In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of elegant eating and how it can revolutionize one's relationship with food and body. She shares her experience of hosting an event and the positive feedback she received. Tonya explains that elegant eating is about choosing quality over quantity and thinking long-term. She emphasizes the importance of slowing down while eating, learning to eat to the point of elegant satisfaction, and finding pleasure in activities outside of food. Tonya encourages listeners to practice self-love throughout the holiday season and commit to loving themselves no matter what. She also mentions the slim self-image program available in the School of Self-Image membership.
Episode Details:
04:05 Personal struggle with food and desire for a healthy relationship
05:49 Introduction to the concept of elegant eating and its simplicity
07:26 The tendency to complicate the relationship with food
08:50 The importance of self-possession and long-term thinking in elegant eating
10:18 Eating with love and grace for oneself
13:33 Eating mindfully and savoring food with others
14:19 Importance of feeling and understanding emotions instead of numbing
17:09 Listening to and understanding the body's signals
20:39 Taking action to support a new self-image
23:19 Diversifying sources of pleasure beyond food
26:14 Finding pleasure in showing up for oneself
28:12 Committing to loving yourself through the holidays
Quotes:
"Elegant eating is about quality over quantity."
"The majority of people have complicated their relationship with food."
"We neglect just timeless truths and wisdom that have worked throughout the ages, that resides in elegant eating."
"Elegant eating is about eating with love and grace for yourself."
"Train the brain. The brain's going to want to come back to old patterns, come back to old ways of thinking. Place that attention on the food, and you just have to train it, like, no, it's not where we're going."
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