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What happens when student affairs professionals become college parents themselves? The latest episode of "Student Affairs Voices from the Field" tackles this unique blend of personal and professional experience, yielding candid and relatable insights for anyone working in higher education—or embarking on the college transition with their own child. Host Dr. Jill Creighton welcomes Dr. Gourjoine Wade and Miriam Khalil, both seasoned student affairs leaders, as they reflect on their experiences sending their own children off to university. Their stories illuminate the challenges, emotional dynamics, and surprising discoveries that arise when the boundaries between "the job" and "parenthood" blur in profound ways. A core theme runs through the episode: The journey to college looks different for everyone, and no amount of professional expertise can fully prepare a parent for the emotional impact. Even though Dr. Gourjoine Wade had coached countless families through orientation, he shared that all of the professional advice went "blank" when it was his turn to drop off his daughter. Both Dr. Gourjoine Wade and Miriam Khalil note that their students—having grown up around campus life—were actually more prepared than many of their peers. This "insider knowledge" led to increased confidence for their children, demonstrating the subtle ways children absorb lessons from their parents' work. Another important discussion centers on the balance between empowerment and involvement: how do you, as an expert, step back to let your own child take charge? Both guests emphasized the importance of encouraging independence, coaching their students through processes without taking over, and resisting the urge to leverage professional networks for shortcuts. It's about trusting the process—and the staff—just as they encourage other families to do. The episode also confronts the role of privilege in the college journey, candidly acknowledging that not all families possess the same resources or insider knowledge. Dr. Gourjoine Wade and Miriam Khalil urge their student affairs colleagues to give grace to staff, offer support to fellow parents, and use their unique vantage point to enhance onboarding experiences for all. Ultimately, this conversation shines a fresh light on how lived experience as a college parent can deepen empathy, inform more intentional practices, and bring both greater transparency and humanity to the world of student affairs. If you're curious about how your colleagues are navigating college transitions with their own children, or simply want a heartfelt reminder of what families experience, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in and join the conversation! TRANSCRIPT Dr. Jill Creighton [00:00:01]: Welcome to Student Affairs Voices from the Field, the podcast where we share your student affairs stories from fresh perspectives to seasoned experts. Brought to you by NASPA, we curate free and accessible professional development for higher ed professionals wherever you happen to be. This is season 15, Enhancing the Career Pathways and Well-Being of Student Affairs Professionals. I'm Dr. Jill Creighton, she/her/hers, your SA Voices from the Field host. Welcome back to Student Affairs Voices from the Field. Today, we have a really unique conversation to share with you between 2 student affairs professionals who are also sending their own young adult children to university this fall. So you're going to hear from them both as the administrators that they are in senior leadership positions in student affairs, as well as their perspective as parents. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:00:47]: I really loved this dialogue. Our first guest is Miriam Khalil Yousuf Khalil. Miriam Khalil is a higher education professional with extensive experience in academic advising, student success, retention, and institutional effectiveness across the GCC region. She's advised diverse student populations across disciplines and partnered with senior academic leaders to advance student retention, accreditation, quality enhancement, and student engagement initiatives. Her expertise includes academic advising, the first-year experience, assessment, and data-informed decision-making to support student achievement. An active contributor to the student affairs profession, Midyem has authored and contributed to NASPA publications, including articles featured in the NASPA Global publication of 2026, and has presented at regional and international conferences. Miriam Khalil is the Regional Director of IACIS in the Middle East. Through her collaboration with NCADA, she has supported efforts to advance academic advising practices and professional development opportunities within the Middle East region. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:01:40]: She currently serves as the Director of Academic Advising at Northwestern University in Qatar. Our next guest is Dr. Gorjwan M. Wade, who is a pioneering collegiate executive, higher education loyalist, student success champion, first-generation advocate, and talent cultivator with over 2 decades of transformative and inspirational shaping student access, achievement, and institutional excellence. Currently serving with the Alamo Colleges District as Vice President for Student Success at San Antonio College, Dr. Wade integrates strategy, compassion, and innovation to drive meaningful outcomes, fueling enrollment and retention growth, advancing first-generation persistence, and cultivating inclusive campus cultures where all students can thrive to build lives that they want. A proud first-generation college graduate originally from Louisiana and now rooted in Texas, Dr. Wade is nationally recognized for his outcomes-driven, data-informed, and student-centered leadership that challenges higher education to reimagine pathways for access, belonging, and student success. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:02:35]: Throughout his career, he's designed scalable first-generation programs at HBCUs and HSIs, initiated enrollment and retention strategies that improved persistence and graduation outcomes at 4-year universities and community colleges, secured millions in grants and stewarded fundraising relationships to strengthen the student experiences at private liberal arts institutions, and amplified institutional impact through innovative digital storytelling nationwide. He's also deeply committed to developing the next generation of higher education leaders through mentoring and national service. Dr. Wade earned a Doctorate of Education in Higher Education Leadership and a Master of Science in Higher Education Administration and a Bachelor of Public Administration with a minor in Political Science from Grambling State University. At the core of his kind leadership philosophy is an ongoing dedication to authenticity, transparency, inclusive excellence, and putting people first, with students and his team always at the center of the mission, anchored by a steadfast belief in the life-changing power of education, a belief he also champions as a board leader for Dollar Match, where he advances national efforts to close the college opportunity gap for first-generation students. A lifelong believer in the transformational impact of learning, Dr. Wade shares this passion for education with his wife, Shara, a dedicated K-12 education leader. Together, they emphasize the importance of learning, leadership, and service in their family, raising 2 wonderful daughters who inspire their commitment to building a better future through education. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:03:57]: Welcome to Student Affairs Voices from the Field. So excited to have you here, Gourjwan. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:04:01]: I'm excited to be here. Thank you for the opportunity to have a conversation today. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:04:04]: And Miriam Khalil, we're also very excited to have you in from Qatar today. Miriam Khalil [00:04:08]: Thank you. And I'm very happy to be here and looking forward to the conversation. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:04:13]: This is an episode that I've been looking forward to recording for such a long time because I've got so many colleagues that are in the same boat. And it's a conversation we've been having, I think, in the profession for a while, but capturing it for SA Voices, I think, is going to give it some new perspective. And the topic today is student affairs professionals who are also sending their own students to university for the first time. There's so many things that we think about as professionals on our end as we're preparing to welcome students. I know on my campus, we just welcomed a whole bunch of new students and their families. And I know we have expectations for the experience that we're delivering for the students and their families, and I'm sure you do too. But then being on the other side and being the family that's being received, it's gotta just be such a wild different experience. So that's what we're gonna dig into today. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:05:02]: But before we go there, like to get to know you both just a little bit more. So, Gourjuan, starting with you, can you tell us how you got to your current seat in Texas? Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:05:11]: Absolutely. And thank you for everyone listening and having conversation with us today. So, I landed in Texas. Texas was not unfamiliar. Before that, I was in Louisiana. I was the AVP and eventually interim vice president at my undergrad alma mater, which was the same space that I did my work study. So, that's a whole nother conversation for another day. Ended up going to Texas Lutheran University as the VPSA. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:05:36]: And then here at San Antonio College as the Vice President for Student Success. Before that, I was actually teaching as an adjunct here, and my students kind of coerced me into seeking the opportunity, just hearing their feedback. And then fast forward, and here I am today. So looking forward to our conversation and getting a chance to talk about all the things dad and student affairs and sending my kid off. So. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:06:00]: Excellent. And Miriam, how about you? Hi. Miriam Khalil [00:06:03]: Thank you for hosting us. Well, prior to joining Northwestern Qatar in 2021, I was in the UAE where I was a senior academic advisor and an adjunct faculty in the School of Business and the School of Arts and Science at the American University in Dubai. So more than 10 years experience in academic advising, working with students from day one until graduation, and it's a profession that I really enjoy, although my background is in finance and banking, but I would always choose advising as a career. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:06:42]: So why don't you go ahead and tell us about your now adult children who are students at university? Who are they and where did they go? Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:06:50]: Well, I'll start. For me, I've got one daughter, well, 2 daughters. My now college student who is a musical theater kid, you know, we started the process, I believe, kind of late. You know, for me, I'm a first-gen college student 3 times. So we felt, my wife and I, like she was also a first-gen student, that we were going into the process a little bit more prepared than we were. And we found that to be grossly inadequate from all things scholarship to all things about housing, res life, which is my background is housing and residence life. I was like, yeah, we got this, we're ready, let's go. And I was not ready. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:07:27]: So we went on the college tours and all the things about a year and a half ago. She landed at the University of Texas at Arlington. pursuing her Bachelor of Fine Arts degree in musical theater. We rolled up there early in August and dropped her off. And, you know, we were both just kind of looking, my wife and I, like, I think we're ready for her to go. And she was looking at us like, we're ready for you. I'm ready for y'all to go. And, and that was it. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:07:54]: You know, before the drop-off, you know, so many folks were like, you know, you're gonna cry, you're gonna be so intense, it's gonna be crazy. And we did not have those emotions. And I think for multiple reasons. One specifically, I think we had kind of prepared for it. You know, I have facilitated countless number of conversations at orientations, parent family orientations, talking about the transition and letting your kids go. And to be on that side of the spectrum now was really weird. So we dropped her off and she was good and we were good and we all rode off and, and that was it. And, you know, she came home for Labor Day, everything was great. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:08:28]: She drove home, drove back. It's good. So, you know, for me it was, that was my firstborn child. You know, I had shared her journey in social media spaces, so people were familiar with where she was going and how she got there. So it was just an exciting time. Uh, it was not sad, right? I think for us it was just about almost kind of like a congratulatory thing. Like we had all collectively gotten her to that space and letting her kind of go off and be her best version of herself. And it was like a joyous time. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:08:56]: So it didn't feel sad, still feel good. You know, she texts every now and then. Uh, I'm not one of those parents that are like, you better call me every day and check in. No, she texts, she checks in randomly. I'm good. So good to have her in her, her own space doing her own thing. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:09:15]: Ghorjawan, when you were in the process of kind of being on that receiving end of parent orientation from what is now UT Arlington, how was that experience knowing that usually you're the other person giving that presentation? Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:09:30]: It was kind of weird. Again, you know, so I've been in those spaces multiple times and But nowhere in this transition for me as a parent did I ever think about the things that I was telling other parents in orientation. It was like it all went blank. Like I, I had, uh, none of that stuff came to mind. None of the helicopter parents or, you know, the safety and security tips or the reminders to check in. None of that stuff came to my mind. It only came to me after I realized that she was gone. And then it was like, hmm. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:10:02]: How am I gonna prepare for her being gone? What do I need to do? And my wife and I, we just kind of played it by ear. And, you know, again, I think my wife who was on the K-12 side of the education spectrum, she was very much, you know, make sure you call me every day and tell me how your classes are going. And for me, it was just kind of like, ah, you know, just go out there and YOLO, live your best life, have fun, you know, make good choices and do all the things that you feel like you need to do. And I feel like we have prepared her to go out and be the best version of herself. So I, I've been really content with that. And when I think about those conversations with parents, um, the tears and the, can I put my head on your shoulder at those type of orientation type events? I was like, I don't have that. And, and maybe it's because I'm a practitioner and I've been prepared more than the average parent. But it was, it was almost like a foreign concept when I thought about, you know, how I emotionally had prepared to to let her go. Dr. Gourjoine Wade [00:11:00]: So it was just a weird thing. Very weird. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:11:02]: Miriam Khalil, how about you? Tell us about your student. Miriam Khalil [00:11:05]: So my firstborn daughter is the one going to university next week. Next week? Dr. Jill Creighton [00:11:12]: Congrat…
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