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22. HeartShare: Talkaholics and How To Deal With Them Jan 15, 2019

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Have you ever felt trapped in a conversation with someone who can't seem to run out of things to say? You start to wonder when the monologue will end so you can carry on with your life and make the most out of your time. If bumping into a talkaholic feels like your time has been stolen from you, then it's time to speak the truth and be authentic in your encounters.

In today's episode, I explain the different factors that contribute to the making of a talkaholic. I share stories of my interactions with people who talk excessively as well as how I have experimented on my responses under those circumstances. I also share strategies you can use when dealing with talkaholics, including actual phrases you can practice and experiment with to discover the best way for you to handle these situations.

"Don't have the fear to interrupt. Allow yourself to do that - experiment with interrupting." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The declaration my wife made during a significant time in her life that inspired me to be more authentic in my conversations.
How my siblings and I rescued each other from our talkaholic Uncle Harry.
What makes a talkaholic.
How Excessive Talking Disorder is a symptom of several mental, physical, and emotional health issues.
The effect on talkaholics when they listen to another person.
How people with genuine self-confidence and self-esteem respond in conversations.
What an arrogant person thinks that causes him or her to keep on talking.
The possible effect of having even one dominant parent at home.
Why it's crucial to know the cause of a talkaholic's excessive talking.
How to still have compassion while maintaining your boundaries.
Steps to take when confronting a talkaholic.
Good starter sentences when confronting a talkaholic at work and at home.
Ways to help others be aware of and cope with their excessive talking.
Defining what a conversation is.
Expressions I use as a therapist that work well and bring about empathy from the other person.
When to leave the conversation.
What to do if you intend to stay and not confront the person.
How to use your imagination as a way to deal with a talkaholic.
What 'mindfulness presence' is and how to practice it.
Questions to ask when talking with a talkaholic.
How to experiment with interrupting.
How to take advantage of the pause.
How to deal with talkaholics if the person is someone you have a relationship with.
What happens when you do not do something to take care of yourself and be authentic.
Why five minutes is a good allotment for a back and forth conversation.
How to condition each other through the back and forth continuity of your discussion.
The story of how a female talkaholic trained herself to pause and give chance to others.
Different ways to set boundaries.

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21. It's Good to Have Great Neighbors Jan 08, 2019

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Sally and Randy Frazer are the owners of Double Exposure Art, a fine art & photography printmaking studio in Fletcher, North Carolina that helps artists archive and reproduce their work. On top of their passion, dedication, and use of top-quality materials, their ability to color-match your work truly sets their studio apart. Randy has been a sailor all his life and while they have been my neighbor for almost 20 years, their home has become a gathering point for several social events throughout our neighborhood. On today's episode, Randy explains what it takes to be a great neighbor. We discuss how he has looked out for his neighbors -- whether on water or land -- and how he has helped them not only because he wanted to, but also because the situation required him to. We also discuss how he provides assistance to others, the impact that being neighborly can have on children, and how his good deeds and intentions have enhanced my family, in particular.

"Some neighbors can get really stubborn. That's when we have to work on the compromise part." - Randy Frazer

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The different kind of social gatherings that take place at Randy's house.
What led to the 5-Day Feast at his home.
Why compromise plays a crucial role in maintaining a harmonious neighborhood.
The kind of family environment he grew up in.
What makes it easy for him to reach out when someone needs help.
What led him and his family to live in their current neighborhood.
Why he built a house after traveling the world on a boat for two years.
How to be neighborly even - if you're on a boat.
How to connect with your neighbor who has different values than you.
What brings people together.
The difference between the relational neighbors in town and the ones in his current neighborhood.
How children benefit from being neighborly.
Why his wife is very accommodating towards the neighbors.
What I learned from Randy that has impacted my life and my family.

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Double Exposure Art is a premier source for fine art printmaking services. Located in Fletcher, North Carolina, Double Exposure Art is passionate about helping artists archive and reproduce their artwork with highly accurate color matching skill and technology as well as top quality inks, papers, and canvas.

Be proud to share your artwork with the public. Contact Double Exposure Art for all your digital fine art and printmaking needs.

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20. Non-Violent Communication II: And How to Overcome Negativity Bias Jan 01, 2019

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Steve Torma is the co-founder of The REAL Center, an organization based in Asheville, North Carolina that is committed to encouraging compassion, communication, and intimacy. He is also the former president of Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as a former core faculty member of The Asheville Tantra School. For over 30 years, he has been passionate about helping others master the art of communication and compassion. His deep desire to help others seek healing and find direction in their lives led him to pursue training in several fields such as Non-Violent Communication, Radical Honesty, Restorative Circles, and Permaculture.

Steve joins me again to elaborate what non-violent communication is, what it looks like, and the different ways to show it. We discuss the concepts of Evolutionary Psychology, Mismatch Instincts, and Negativity Bias and why the latter is the greatest cause of human suffering. We also share helpful tips and tools to overcome Negativity Bias as well as how to change this habit so you can improve the quality of your life and your relationships.

"The more we focus on gratitude, the more we'll have neuro-pathways for gratitude and the more inner peace we'll have. The more inner peace we have, the better the relationships we will have. It just becomes an upward spiral." - Steve Torma

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

What is Non-Violent Communication (NVC).
The "honesty" part of the NVC Model.
The distinction between a need and a request.
Examples of the four parts of the communication model in a real-life situation.
The two types of requests in the NVC World.
The kind of request that helps most people work through a conflict.
Why making a connection request is crucial before making an action request?
The significance of being curious and interested versus listening to judgmental self-talk - even during conflicts.
Why curiosity is important in conversations.
What empathy deficit is and why many people are operating on it.
The concept "Interrupting a conversation to bring it back to life."
The root behind the impulse of talkaholics.
How to make it easier for people to hear feedback.
Defining Evolutionary Psychology and its relation to a person's responses.
What are Mismatched instincts?
Identifying one of the most obvious types of mismatched instincts.
The main mismatch instinct that hampers human beings.
The ratio between positive interactions and negative interactions for a relationship to be sustainable.
Explaining the concept of Unchosen Nature and how this explains a person's impulse to look for what's wrong.
Why you should make a list of the ten most memorable positive moments in your life.
The chain reaction that happens in your body when you choose to feel gratitude.
The power of choice and changing your belief system.
How negative awareness and thoughts are part of the healing and growth process.

Resources Mentioned:

Episode 10: Non-Violent Communication

Connect with Steve Torma:

The REAL Center
Email: info@therealcenter.org

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19. HeartShare: The Secret to Love is Just Kindness Dec 25, 2018

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The secret to love is kindness -- a very simple concept that many people tend to overlook. Take a closer look at your relationships, for example. When was the last time you made coffee for your husband or gave your wife a back rub?

When was the last time you were present and available to listen to what your children had to say?

When was the last time you did an unexpected good deed for someone you don't know just because you want to be kind?

When was the last time you made a conscious effort to pay attention to your tone and attitude when expressing your feelings or a different point of view?

Today, I share how to be kind to the people in your relationships -- to your spouse, children, even to strangers. I explain the difference between being nice and being kind, the impact that a parent's kindness can have on their children's character, and the significance of being kind to yourself. I also emphasize the roles that your tone and body language play in showing kindness to others and yourself as well as some actionable tips on showing kindness to the people in your relationships.

"Research has shown that kindness along with emotional stability is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

Why it is often hard for kindness to thrive.
Why I believe people are not more kind to others.
How being kind to yourself allows you to be more kind to others.
Small acts of kindness you can do for yourself.
Showing kindness by owning up to an unkind act.
The best situation to practice kindness.
Factors at the root of extreme niceness.
The difference between being nice and being kind.
How my wife has been a continuous inspiration of being kind to oneself.
How openness, seeking positive attributes and giving them the benefit of the doubt are powerful signs of love and kindness.
Telltale signs that you're not kind in the relationship.
The importance of your tone and intention.
Why people can take your text messages the wrong way.
Choosing between leaving a voicemail versus texting emotional content.
Why you should make it a priority to spend time with your spouse.
The "hypocrisy of kindness" parents are not aware they're doing.
How to show kindness through body language.
An inspiring story about showing small acts of kindness to strangers.
How the "little things" show small acts of kindness.
How holding your tongue or holding back on things you want to say can be a small act of kindness.
Quick tips on showing kindness to your spouse every day.
One of the kindest acts a person can do.
How being rude, hurtful, and mean destroys trust and intimacy in your relationships.
Reflective questions parents can ask themselves to check if they are kind to their children.
Things parents can do to show kindness to their children.
The direct correlation between the parent's kindness towards their children and having kind children.
Why moving away from talkaholics is considered a kind act to yourself.

Resource Mentioned:

Diane A. Ross

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18. Is Stress Affecting Your Relationships? Dec 18, 2018

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Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier spa based in Asheville, North Carolina that offers first-class services such as Salt Water Floatation (a.k.a. sensory deprivation), Esalen Massage, and Cranial Sacral Therapy. Having a very intimate relationship with stress and anxiety, Corey studied Somatic Psychology and acquired a master's degree in Clinical Psychology. Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and music therapist.

Corey joins me today to share how understanding your body and being aware of what happens to it when you're stressed can affect your personal and professional relationships. We discuss where to look and what to do to the body when you're stressed and explain the gravity of destressing and taking care of your ownanxiety so you can take care of others. We also share techniques that you can use to help you improve relaxation and decrease stress and explain why self-care is not simply a luxury, but a necessity for achieving a harmonious relationship with others.

"There's always going to be anxiety. There's always going to be stressful things. It's how we deal with those things and what tools we can use in the present moment to be able to work with that energy of stress." - Corey Costanzo

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

How stress affects the physical body according to science.
What the Zen Breath technique is and how to do it.
Why yoga, meditation, and mindfulness are popular de-stressing activities.
The first step to unlocking the door to stress and anxiety.
The benefits of being aware of your stress.
A technique to avoid the stress blame-game.
The importance of giving your partner some space when managing stress.
The benefits of doing physical activities instead of rationalizing your stress.
The difference between shallow-breath reactions versus deep-breath responses.
How deep breathing affects your body and influences your connection with others.
Regulation versus dysregulation of the nervous system.
The reason Corey began working the field of healing arts.
How he learned to beat depression and anxiety.
The paradox of holding stress as a badge of honor in some communities.
How your family background affects the way youhandle stress and anxiety.
How addiction in the family affects the next generation.
How parents' suppressing stress or anger transfers to their kids and the results.
The link between indecisiveness and anxiety.
Why you should give yourself permission to be wrong.
The unselfish aspect of taking care of yourself so you can take care of your relationships.
How you can choose to break the stress cycle and habit.
What the habit of stress looks like and the biological markers and symptoms to watch out for.
The number one go-to stress buster and stress reliever.
What the Curious Paradox is and how it helps you accept what's going on in your body.
How Epsom salt and Esalen Massage help reduce stress and anxiety.

Connect with Corey Costanzo:

Still Point Wellness

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StillPoint Wellness is Asheville's premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point's world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!

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16. HeartShare: Understand and Manage Differences in Your Relationships Dec 04, 2018

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There's a common expression that says, "You wouldn't want to marry yourself!" This expression sounds funny to many, but if you look closely, it expresses a deeper issue people face in relationships. Having differences is inevitable, but whether you choose to be accepting or critical, curious or judgmental, interested or disrespectful towards the other person makes the difference in the status of your relationships.

On this episode, I discuss the differences in people's relationships and how to navigate them through real-life stories and examples. I emphasize the importance of the "how" versus the "what" when negotiating differences, the difference among needs, wants, and preferences as well as how to effectively communicate using these. I also explain how to train your mind to see traits you can like and appreciate about the other person and discuss the difference between a complaint and criticism as well as ways of dealing with differences in money, expectations, and non-negotiables.

"Differences call for understanding and negotiating." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The wrong notion about compatibility being synonymous with similarity
The role that differences play in relationships
Why we choose somebody that's different from us
The essence of choosing well and carefully in partnerships
How women typically choose men
What to do when projecting expectations towards your partner
The role that the foundational aspects of communication and connection play in your relationship
Two vital learner type questions to ask yourself as you assess your response to your partner
A story of a couple who didn't think alike but loved alike
The antidote to relationships who are facing problems regarding their differences
Why disgust is one of the major poisons in relationships and examples of how we show it
Redefining self-esteem in relationship negotiations
The mystery of the wine colored French beret
How the differences can be a tremendous gift in a person's growth
Examples of basic commonalities you don't need to negotiate
Questions to ask yourself when assessing your relationships
Facing challenges regarding non-negotiables
The power of appreciating somebody for who they are
The difference between a complaint and a criticism
Dealing with differences in money
How to work through expectations

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15. Men's Friendship: The Challenges and Rewards Nov 27, 2018

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Gregg Levoy is an accomplished author, speaker, and seminar leader who regularly holds workshops and keynote presentations in the business, governmental, educational, faith-based and human-potential industries. He has presented on stages such as the Smithsonian Institution, the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), Microsoft, the National Career Development Association, and the International Association of Career Management Professionals as well as countless lectures for colleges and universities across the country. He is a regular contributor for Psychology Today and has made frequent guest appearances on CNN, PBS, NPR, andABC-TV.Additionally, he is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life- the latter of which is rated as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by Workforce Information Group.

Gregg joins me today to discuss what makes our friendship as men unique and the challenges men often have regarding maintaining and deepening their relationships. We discuss the different ways men can show their vulnerability and humanity and how men's behaviors can often be attributed to the cultural stigmas they've learned throughout their childhood. Gregg shares some of his fondest memories with his twin brother, father, and friend that illustrate the reality of men's outlook on life and the way they view relationships as well as how honesty and the power of conversation can impact your friendships and relationships.

"The more we are real men with one another, I think we'll bring that into our relationships with our partners." - Gregg Levoy

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

How boys are raised with many taboos and stigmas on behavior and how it affects men's struggles with forming trusting friendships.
How men are conditioned for competition and to act and behave a certain way.
Gregg's unique experiences as a twin brother.
How men who feel pressured to compete with other men can overcome and get past it.
How men bond over activities and entertainment.
How communicating, being vulnerable, and practicing generous listening can help deepen men's friendships with other men.
How his father's heart attack led them to reach a new dimension in their relationship.
Why men struggle with asking for help.
My story on vulnerability, the challenge of asking for help, and the importance of loyalty.
The criteria that make up strong, healthy friendships with other men.
How having well-defined relationships from a young age has a positive impact on developing long-term, healthy male relationships.
Why humor and laughter are important in healthy relationships with men.
The similarities and difference between men's friendships with other men versus their relationships with their partners.
The importance of keeping in touch and connecting with other men.
How the reality of death enables men to be more vulnerable and open about their relationships.
Gregg's advice for building deeper friendships with other men.

Related Content:

Men's Work: Having Healthy Male Relationships

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14. Why Communicating Consent Matters in Healthy Relationships Nov 20, 2018

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Lee Warren is the co-founder, designer, and builder of a sustainability co-housing community at Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as the co-founder of the 5-acre cooperative farm, Imani Farm. She is an herbalist, writer, teacher, and food activist with an avid interest in rural wisdom, alternative relationships, sustainable economics, and women's issues. She is the Managing Partner of the organic food production learning institute, School of Integrated Living(SOIL). Additionally, she is the Executive Director of the Organic Growers Schoolin Asheville, NC.

Lee joins me today to discuss the multi-faceted concept of consent and the importance of communicating consent and boundaries to build stronger andhealthier relationships. She explains the "wheel of consent," the crucial role consent plays in your personal and professional relationships, and the importance of communicating your preferences. She also shares why it's important to reframe 'no' as an act of liberation instead of a rejection.

"When you say 'no,' you're saying 'yes' to something else. And that's your sovereignty." - Lee Warren

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

Understanding the concept and full scope of consent.
The different realms of abuse and why consent transcends sexuality.
How restrictions imposed upon us during childhood affect our perceptions ofintimacy as adults
Why saying 'yes' or 'no' has everything to do with you and nothing to do with the other person.
Reframing 'no' from rejection to liberation.
The importance of being able to trust responses from others.
Why consent doesn't take the sexiness and appeal out of things, despite what most people may think.
How consent changes things for the better, especially when it comes to intimacy.
The importance of communicating your preferences and how the overall experience is for you.
Consent outside of the sexual realm.
Coercion and co-dependency, and why we need to move away from them.
The value of listening.
How adults "play," and how consent figures into that need.
Tackling the barriers of intimacy.
How consent opens new pathways for showing adoration and communicating warmth.
The need for different ways to say 'no'.
Why saying 'no' is actuallysaying 'yes' to something else.
How you can learn what's 'yes' and what's 'no' for you.

Connect with Lee Warren:

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13. HeartShare: The Art of Apology Nov 13, 2018

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When was the last time you said 'I'm sorry' and truly meant it? It is often easy to say the words, but to truly feel sorry - to be vulnerable, take accountability, and try to change a bad behavior or habit - it can often prove more difficult. We tend to say 'I am sorry' when we feel embarrassed about mistakes or trying to appease another person.

The art of apologizing is a critical skill we must learn in order tobuild deep, meaningful relationship with those around us. And while we often try to avoid conflict in our day-to-day lives - especially with those closest to us - it's important to remember that it is through conflict and differences that we learn, grow, and improve ourselves and our relationships.

On today's episode, I discuss the art of apologizing and why it is critical for deepening your relationships. I explain why conflict is necessary for self-growth and understanding and the connection between self-compassion, accountability, and a sincere apology. I also explain how a sincere apology can impact the healing process following a hurtful event, why it's okay to take time to truly feel sorry before apologizing, and how it can often lead to acceptance and forgiveness.

"One of the greatest gifts of exploring apologies is the lesson of humility." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The importance of only apologizing when you truly feel sorry.
How to handle situations when you're not ready to apologize.
The importance of taking time to digest and understand your partner's perspective in a hurtful situation.
Why it is often difficult to take accountability for hurting others.
The connection between self-compassion, accountability, and a true apology.
The difference between feeling remorse and feeling embarrassed or ashamed.
What is required before true forgiveness can occur?
How apologizing can impact your relationships with your
How apologizing can help heal wounds and build bridges in estranged family relationships.
The importance of empathizing with how the other person feels.
The importance of expressing your regrets when apologizing.
Identifying strategies for changing poor behavior or habits.
Examples of effective, heartfelt apologies.
Setting realistic expectations when apologizing and asking for forgiveness.
The difference between accepting an apology and true forgiveness.
The importance of always accepting an apology - even if you can't forgive the behavior.
Expressing the qualities you seek in an apology with your spouse or partner.
How sincere apologies can impact the healing process.
The impact that accountability and apologizing have had in political disputes.
The importance of apologizing even when you don't feel accountable, wrong, or that you've intentionally hurt the other person.
Exercises to help you improve your apologizing skill to deepen your relationships and begin the healing process.

Resources Mentioned:

The Healing of America by Marianne Williamson
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

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Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.

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12. The Nature of Confronting People Nov 06, 2018

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Angela Porter specializes in providing guidance to people with addictions, relational troubles, mental health problems, and codependency issues. Her impressive 25-year career as a professional therapist in California encompasses trauma and addiction treatment, self-care workshops and consultations for therapists as well as international BREEMA workshops for professionals in the medical and healthcare industries. After serving as a Program Director at the New Bridge Foundation's substance treatment program in Berkeley, she is now a group facilitator at Bayside Marin's substance abuse treatment program in San Rafael and maintains an active private practice in both San Rafael and Oakland.

Angela joins me on today's episode to discuss the art of confrontation — why we shouldn't fear it, how we should do it, and why it's important to confront not just others, but ourselves. She shares her experiences in working with people suffering from addiction, mental health issues, and emotional problems, as well as one life-changing moment that imparted upon her a lifelong lesson. In addition, she and I take the time to talk about our own friendship, and how our commitment and desire to connect by embracing the truth in ourselves has allowed us to help each other grow as individuals and as professionals.

"You don't feel safe because of inner conditions — because you've stopped listening to your own truth, and you're looking for it outside of yourself." - Angela Porter

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The various ways to confront people, including yourself, in a manner that's kind yet clear.
My friendship with Angela, and how confrontation plays a positive role in it.
The underlying desire for connection and transcendence in every relationship — and how that need is only fulfilled by the presence of truth.
The extensive work that Angela has done in dealing with people and helping them stand up with truth.
A powerful, truthful moment that we shared during a rather memorable workshop.
Expectations in a relationship, and how the need for confronting people's truths plays into those.
Angela's experiences with her partner with regard to confrontation.
My personal experience where I confronted someone with a powerful truth, resulting in a very positive outcome.
A unique and difficult experience involving a client that taught Angela a valuable lesson.
Confronting people with their positive attributes, instead of their negatives and what they lack.
The word "confrontation" itself, its power, and its impact.
Understanding that whatever you're doing right now is NOT who you are.
What an apology really means, in the context of self-confrontation.
How Angela walks people through the sense of discomfort that comes with confrontation.
How the truth is actually a holistic experience.
The self-loathing and fundamental brokenness at the heart of every human being.
How we can't really "teach" each other anything — and what we CAN do for each other, instead.

Connect with Angela Porter:

Angela Porter's website
Email: angelaportermft@gmail.com

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