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240: Coercive Control In Relationships Mar 05, 2020

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Coercive control is a seriously negative strategy introduced in some relationships. Listen to today's show to understand if you are in a coercive control relationship, and how to navigate this territory.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Coercive control as a strategy for your partner to dominate others through manipulation, isolation and other toxic behaviors
How to stand up to a coercive controlling partner
How to determine if your partner exhibits coercive controlling behavior
Changing the negative patterns and seeking professional help
And much more!

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD is the author of Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. With a PhD in Psychology, she has spent 25 years as a researcher, advocate and teacher on topics related to violence against women and children.

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239: Is Love Best When It's Fresh? Feb 28, 2020

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Our romantic lives with our partners will inevitably change over time. How can we navigate these changes in long term relationships? Listen to today's show to learn some tools and insights into this thing we call LOVE.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Experiences of early intense love contrasted with longer term profound love
How can we make love and sexual desire last long term?
The importance of focusing on the profound aspects of your partner
Options for relationship styles depending on age and life circumstances
Answers to the BIG question: Is love best when it's fresh?
And much more!

Aaron Ben-Ze’ev is a Professor of Philosophy at the University of Haifa. His most recent book is The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change Over Time. (University of Chicago Press, 2019). He is a former President of the University of Haifa, and he is the Founding and Former President of the European Philosophical Society for the Study of Emotions. Professor Ben-Ze'ev is considered one of the world's leading experts in the study of emotions. Most recently, his research has centered on love and the impact of time on romantic love.

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238: When Sorry Isn't Enough Feb 19, 2020

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Much of a successful relationship involves properly apologizing to your partner and repairing the relationship. Relationships are not necessarily about preventing disagreements and arguments, but apologizing and moving forward positively. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize the right way!

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Why simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough
The five apology languages that you and your partner will likely fall into
Blame and its role in apologizing
How to communicate if you are desiring an apology from someone not giving it
How to make your apology sincere
And much more!

Dr. Jen Thomas is a TED speaker, psychologist and author. She enjoys teaching what to say when challenging conversations arise at work or at home. Today’s world requires that you know the essentials of successful apologies. Simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough. Dr. Jen helps people like you turn bad situations into good outcomes based on your love and apology languages. She is one of a handful of approved presenters for Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times best-selling book series “The Five Love Languages.”

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237: Pitfalls of Using Others to Manage Your Anxiety Feb 14, 2020

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Relationship partners and friends can offer valuable support for managing stress and anxiety in our lives. However, sometimes relying on others to manage our emotions can create negative effects in our lives and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to balance this sometimes complicated dynamic. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding if you are automatically pulling in a third person to help manage your relationship anxiety
The negative effects of relying too much on others
How to sit with your own anxiety before projecting it onto others
Writing things down to help process your problems
Becoming curious about how you function when you become anxious
And much more!

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist and mental health writer who lives in Washington, DC. She is the author of the new book, Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. She is an associate faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family and hosts the show Family Matters, a production of the University of the District of Columbia.

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Bonus: Wondery Presents Dying For Sex Feb 12, 2020

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When host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive. Over this six-part miniseries, Molly shares the details of her hilarious escapades in a story about friendship, death, and what you do with the time you have left. From Wondery, the creators of Dirty John and The Moment comes Dying For Sex. Listen now at https://wondery.fm/DFS20.

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236: The Amazing Expanded Orgasm Feb 06, 2020

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What if we told you that a woman is capable of having an hour-long orgasm? Sounds too good to be true right!? Well, there are techniques that can make this happen. Listen to today's show to learn about the expanded orgasm practice and its benefits for both men and women.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The practice of expanded orgasm and how to begin your journey to become an erotic master
Spirituality and expanded orgasm as meditation
Meaning making through sexual experience with your partner
The value of no male expectation for sexual reciprocity
And much more!

Susan Bratton is an advocate and champion of all who desire passionate intimacy. She is a best-selling author of 34 books and online programs that teach passionate lovemaking, bedroom communication skills and restorative sexual wellness techniques.

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235: How To Create The Relationship You Want Jan 29, 2020

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Want to feel empowered? How about realizing that YOU have the power to create the relationship of your dreams and find your own happiness. Many of us look to our partners to make us happy in our relationships. Listen to today's show to understand why that's the wrong approach and how to switch that mindset.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Getting rid of the expectation that our partner will make us happy
Self reflection practices to understand your contribution to creating conflict
Realizing that relationship issues don't always get solved
Using conflict for growth in your relationship
Developing positive characteristics in yourself
And much more!

As an author and public speaker with 40 years of experience in psychotherapy, Larry Shushansky has written a book called Independent Enough and is looking to share his theory with as many people as possible. Larry turns his theories on relationships into achievable day-to-day practices for his audiences through engaging, conversational-style presentations.

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234: Brain First Approach To Relationships Jan 23, 2020

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The brain — Sometimes we take it for granted, and don't realize its importance as an organ in shaping our relationships. The better we understand and take care of our brain, the better chance we'll have for relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to optimize your brain for a better relationship.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding our brains drive our behavior
How to optimize brain health through nutrition, movement, sleep and breath
The importance of play as an adult in relationship
How to avoid 'fight or flight communication'
And much more!

Dave Kenney is the Co-Founder and Executive Director at Emergo Recovery, along with Susan Kenney, who is the Co-Founder and Director of Therapeutic Wellness at Emergo Recovery. Emergo Recovery is a private, residential recovery and wellness center focused on a brain-first approach.

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233: Setting Emotional Boundaries In Your Relationship Jan 17, 2020

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Do you feel like you're constantly on the receiving end of your partner's emotions? In relationships we want to be emotionally available for our partners and maintain healthy communication. However, sometimes emotional boundaries need to be set to help protect your personal mental health and to benefit your relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to set healthy emotional boundaries.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn why 'keeping the peace' by not standing up for yourself can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics
Pausing to understand what it is that you really need for yourself and for the relationship
Is there such a thing as over communication in relationships?
Understanding that you don't always need to accommodate your partner's needs
Why conflict is OK in your relationship and how to better navigate it
And much more!

Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and is the founder of a group practice called The Relationship Place located in San Diego, California. Dana’s practice specializes in couples’ therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples’ therapy which is known as the Gottman Method.

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232: Non-Monogamy And Open Relationships Deep Dive Jan 10, 2020

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The best estimates are that 1 in 5 people have participated in some kind of non-monogamous relationship. These kinds of relationship structures are gaining wider awareness and acceptance in today's society. Learning about non-monogamy can be valuable whether it's appealing to you or not. Listen to today's show to learn all about non-monogamy and open relationships!

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding the different forms of non-monogamy
Polyamory vs swinging vs open relationships
Why debating whether non-monogamy or monogamy is most 'natural' is unproductive
How to talk to your partner about non-monogamy
Questions to ask yourself if you want to be non-monogamous
Importance of educating yourself before you start non-monogamy
Time management in open relationships
New relationship energy and what it can do for you
And much more!

Jase Lindgren is a non-monogamous dating coach, healthy masculinity educator and sex-positivity advocate. He has trained in positive psychology, Emotional Freedom Technique, consent education, and Buddhist mindfulness practice. He has worked with the government and celebrities on HIV public awareness in Russia, is a long-time fan of podcasts. As one of the hosts of the Multiamory podcasts he enjoys teaching people how to suck less at communication and grow in their relationships, especially the one with themselves.

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