Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

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Modern Masculinity: From Toxic to Communicative with Dr. Ish Major Jun 18, 2024

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Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity.

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Connect with Dr. Ish on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/dr_ish_major/?hl=en

Watch Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon:

https://www.youtube.com/@counselcultureshow

Reimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski”:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/come-together-cultivating-sexual-connection-in-long/id1588419386?i=1000643496587

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

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Rewrite Your Story: Healing from Trauma with Dr. Frank Anderson Jun 11, 2024

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Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves.

Relevant links:

To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank Anderson:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/to-be-loved-a-story-of-truth-trauma-and-transformation-frank-g-anderson/a2ac87e5d6d0f9f5?ean=9781962305112&next=t&

Connect with Dr. Anderson online:

https://www.frankandersonmd.com/

On Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/frank_andersonmd/

Learn more about the Trauma Institute:

https://www.traumainstitute.com/

Trauma-Informed Media:

https://trauma-informedmedia.com/

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma-bessel-van-der-kolk-m-d/9e63236863805513?ean=9780143127741&next=t&

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

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Strategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship (Re-release) Jun 04, 2024

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Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.

Relevant links:

Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet here:

https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/worksheets

Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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Take Dr. Alexandra's "Truth and Dare" Quiz:

https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/truth-and-dare-quiz

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Money & Marriage: When One Likes to Spend and One Likes to Save with Dr. Scott Rick May 28, 2024

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What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick’s research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships.

Relevant links:

Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott Rick:

https://www.amazon.com/Tightwads-Spendthrifts-Navigating-Minefield-Relationships/dp/1250280079

Engage with Dr. Rick’s research:

https://scottrick.com/

Connect with him on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/likelyshopping/

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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The Search for Green Flags: Ditch the Dating Myths, Not the Apps with Damona Hoffman May 21, 2024

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Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy.

Relevant links:

F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona Hoffman:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/f-the-fairy-tale-rewrite-the-dating-myths-and-live-your-own-love-story-damona-hoffman/c24fadc38204746e?ean=9781541602250&next=t&

Listen to Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dates-mates-with-damona-hoffman/id606100490

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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End or Mend: Managing Difficult Family Relationships with Nedra Tawwab May 14, 2024

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[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode]

Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement.

Relevant links:

Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/drama-free-a-guide-to-managing-unhealthy-family-relationships-nedra-glover-tawwab/afaed5d0e81da644?ean=9780593539279&next=t&

The Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-drama-free-workbook-practical-exercises-for-managing-unhealthy-family-relationships-nedra-glover-tawwab/57ff21534fdfb3eb?ean=9780593712672&next=t&

Listen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear This:

https://www.nedratawwab.com/nedra-podcast

Connect with Nedra online:

https://www.nedratawwab.com/

and on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/?hl=en

Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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"I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Space. Now What?" May 07, 2024

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In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection and minimize resentment.

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Access this episode's companion worksheet here:

https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/worksheets

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/mating-in-captivity-unlocking-erotic-intelligence-esther-perel/bdb74dc5969d45ea?ean=9780060753641&next=t&

Reimagining Love Episode: "Let's Talk About 'Sleep Divorces'":

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-sleep-divorces/id1588419386?i=1000627578113

Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men by Ellie Anderson:

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/hypatia/article/hermeneutic-labor-the-gendered-burden-of-interpretation-in-intimate-relationships-between-women-and-men/626426004DF2A4908D793B87C3148593

Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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Open Marriage: Lessons from Non-Monogamy & Motherhood with Molly Roden Winter Apr 30, 2024

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Author Molly Roden Winter joins Reimagining Love to share her story of opening up her marriage as a happily married mother and the hard-earned and profound truths she learned along the way. For Molly, her journey of non-monogamy opened her up to more: more choice and self-discovery, and feeling more than her roles as a mother and wife.

Relevant links:

More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Roden Winter:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/more-a-memoir-of-open-marriage-molly-roden-winter/ef06592ecf6404ff?ean=9780385549455&next=t&

New York Magazine's "A Practical Guide to Modern Polyamory":

https://www.thecut.com/article/how-polyamorous-relationships-work-ethical-non-monogamous-rules.html

Connect with Molly online:

https://www.mollyrodenwinter.com/

Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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The Other Significant Others: How to Reimagine Your Friendships with Rhaina Cohen Apr 23, 2024

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What would change if, instead of prioritizing romantic relationships, we made friendships the center of our lives? NPR's Rhaina Cohen joins Reimagining Love to explore the possibilities embedded within that question. In her new book, Rhaina invites us into the worlds of people who've organized their lives around deep friendship and, in doing so, challenge our ideas and assumptions about which relationships should be at the heart of a fulfilling life.

Relevant links:

The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-other-significant-others-reimagining-life-with-friendship-at-the-center-rhaina-cohen/c661c914e12ca407?ean=9781250280916&next=t&

Connect with Rhaina online:

https://www.rhainacohen.com/

"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality" from the Journal of Marriage and Family:

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.12898

Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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Liberated Love: From Codependency to Relational Safety with Mark Groves & Kylie McBeath Apr 16, 2024

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Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence.

Relevant links:

Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/liberated-love-release-codependent-patterns-and-create-the-love-you-desire-kylie-mcbeath/40bfe21a1c3c84ad?ean=9781250908957&next=t&

After purchasing Liberated Love, access the PDF Workbook and free Meditation:

https://markgroves.com/book

Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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