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When You're Done With Rehab: The Reality No One Tells You Mar 26, 2026

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Description: How do you know when you’ve finally reached the point where you can't do it alone? For many, the realization doesn't come from a "lightbulb moment," but from the exhaustion of repeating the same mistakes while expecting different results. In Part 2 of our deep dive into the Levels of Care, host Terry McGuire and Dr. Sal Raichbach explore the psychological barriers to seeking help and the reality of life after the "rehab" doors close.
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Dr. Sal Raichbach, PsyD, LCSW, CFSW, is an expert in behavioral health with over 33 years of experience. In this episode, he tackles the uncomfortable truths about addiction treatment: why discharge planning must begin the very day you are admitted , the critical difference between "acute" and "chronic" symptoms , and how to navigate a toxic home environment once you've completed a program.
We also address the "failed" treatment attempt. If you’ve tried rehab before and it didn’t work, Dr. Sal offers a perspective that might change everything you think about your journey. From daily recovery habits—like self-reflection and medication adherence—to the power of peer support groups, this conversation provides a roadmap for anyone navigating the complex system of behavioral health. Recovery isn't a "one-stop shop"; it's a series of steps toward a life you actually want to live.
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 – Recap: The Continuum of Care
02:46 – How to Know When It’s Time for Help
05:23 – Choice vs. Coercion: The Truth About Ultimatums
07:27 – Acute vs. Chronic: Understanding Success Rates
10:45 – Is Relapse a Part of the Process?
12:59 – Why You Can't Dictate Your Own Level of Care
16:16 – Why Discharge Planning Starts at Admission
19:26 – Staying Sober in a Toxic Home Environment
22:53 – 6 Daily Habits to Maintain Long-Term Recovery
26:31 – "I Tried Rehab and Failed"—The Honest Truth
❓ Questions the Video Answers:
How do I know if I'm ready for addiction treatment?
Does treatment work if someone is forced to go?
What is the difference between acute and chronic mental health symptoms?
Is relapse a failure or a "setback"?
Why is discharge planning important in recovery?
How do I stay sober if my family still drinks or uses?
What are "wraparound services" in addiction care?
Can I bring my phone or laptop to residential rehab?
Why do people go back to rehab multiple times?
What daily habits help maintain sobriety after treatment?
How do I advocate for the right level of care?
What is the role of medication in long-term recovery?
Can adolescents be forced into treatment without consent?
What is "projection" in addiction psychology?
Why does "trying" therapy require full participation?
#addictionrecovery #mentalhealth #soberlife

Addiction Treatment Levels: Inpatient vs. Outpatient Explained Mar 19, 2026

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Navigating the world of addiction and mental health treatment can feel like learning a completely different language when you are already at your breaking point. How do you know if you need a "hospital level" of care or if weekly therapy is enough? In this episode of RECOVERable, host Terry McGuire sits down with behavioral health expert Dr. Sal Raichbach to demystify the "continuum of care" and explain exactly what happens at every stage of recovery.

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Dr. Sal Raichbach, PsyD, LCSW, CFSW, is a doctoral-level psychologist and Chief Clinical Officer at Haven Health Management with over 33 years of experience in the field. He breaks down the critical differences between Outpatient, Intensive Outpatient (IOP), Partial Hospitalization (PHP), and Residential treatment. You’ll learn why the "30-day rehab" rule is often an insurance myth and what a "SMART" treatment plan actually looks like.

Whether you are struggling with a dual diagnosis or trying to help a loved one choose the right path, Dr. Sal explains the risks of "DIY" research and why professional assessment is the first step toward lasting sobriety. We dive deep into the intensity of medical detox, the power of group therapy for those who "hate groups," and how to manage the transition back into everyday life.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Why Understanding "Levels of Care" Saves Lives

01:45 – The Danger of "DIY" Addiction Research

03:00 – Breakdown: The 5 Major Levels of Treatment

06:14 – Outpatient vs. Intensive Outpatient (IOP)

13:12 – What is a Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP)?

18:13 – Residential Treatment: What Really Happens in "Rehab"

26:19 – The "SMART" Treatment Plan Explained

27:21 – The 30-Day Rehab Myth & Insurance Truths

31:52 – Inpatient Care: When Is It a Crisis?

35:53 – Medical Detox: Is It Always Necessary?

❓ Questions the Video Answers:

What are the different levels of care for addiction?
What is the difference between inpatient and outpatient treatment?
Is intensive outpatient (IOP) better than regular therapy?
What does a Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP) actually do?
How do I know if I need residential rehab?
Why does insurance only pay for 30 days of treatment?
Do I need medical detox for alcohol or drugs?
Can you do intensive outpatient (IOP) via telehealth?
What is a "dual diagnosis" and how is it treated?
What happens during a rehab intake assessment?
How long do I have to stay in a residential program?
Is inpatient care the same as being "locked down"?
What is a "SMART" treatment plan in recovery?
How does group therapy help if I'm not a "group person"?
What are the risks of detoxing at home without medical help?

#addictionrecovery #mentalhealth #rehab

Suicidal Thoughts Warning Signs: Teens vs Adults Mar 12, 2026

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Thoughts of suicide are not uncommon and can be a part of the human experience for many individuals at various points in their lives. In Part 2 of this series, host Terry McGuire welcomes back Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, a public health researcher specializing in suicide. This conversation focuses on the "invitations" people send when they are in distress and how to navigate the spectrum of suicidal thoughts with empathy and evidence-based tools.
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Dr. Kohlbeck explains that warning signs in teens often manifest as impulsivity or reckless behavior, such as dangerous driving or taking unknown substances. She introduces the "Assist" training framework, which views these behaviors as "invitations" to explore the underlying pain a person is carrying. This episode also clarifies the reality of "passive suicidal ideation"—thoughts like wishing to go to sleep and never wake up—which are valid experiences that require support even without an immediate plan.
Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, provides a rare, firsthand account of her own experience driving herself to the emergency department during a crisis. She details the medical triage process and addresses the common fear that seeking help will lead to immediate restraint or being "locked up". By normalizing these conversations and teaching listeners how to create a "Safety Plan," Dr. Kohlbeck empowers communities to become a foundation for wellness.
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 – [Intro] Normalizing Thoughts of Suicide
02:50 – Warning Signs in Teens: Impulsivity and Risk
07:15 – Identifying "Invitations" for Help
09;12 – Sudden Calmness: Why It Can Be a Danger Sign
14:10 – Understanding Passive Suicidal Ideation
28:52 – How Long Does a Suicidal Crisis Last?
29:29 – Restricting Access to Lethal Means
33:22 – How to Create a Safety Plan
41:08 – Walking into the ER: Triage and Treatment
45:24 – Will My Therapist "Lock Me Up"?
❓ Questions the Video Answers:
How do warning signs in teens differ from those in adults?
What is the "Assist" training framework for suicide intervention?
What are "invitations" for support and how do I spot them?
Is a sudden improvement in mood always a good sign?
What does "passive suicidal ideation" feel like?
Can the option of suicide act as a "safety valve" for some?
How long does a period of imminent suicidal crisis typically last?
Why is "limiting access to lethal means" critical for safety?
What is "means substitution" and does it actually happen?
What words should I use when walking into an ER during a crisis?
What medical tests are performed during a psychiatric ER visit?
Will I be handcuffed if I admit I am suicidal at a hospital?
How do I tell a therapist I have a plan without being hospitalized?
What are "coping cards" and how can they help?
How can communities better support those with suicidal thoughts?
#suicideprevention #mentalhealth #teenmentalhealth

Suicidal Thoughts Help: What to Say in a Crisis Mar 05, 2026

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CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses suicide and suicidal ideation, which may be difficult for some listeners; if you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis hotline like 988.

"When you are suicidal, it is an incredibly isolating feeling. It’s feeling like nobody really understands." In this episode of RECOVER, host Terry McGuire sits down with Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, a distinguished suicidologist and public health researcher, to peel back the layers of a topic often kept in the shadows. Dr. Kohlbeck shares her profound insights into the "suicide spectrum" and the reality of being high-functioning while struggling with thoughts of ending one's life.
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This conversation is designed to normalize the human experience of suicidal ideation and provide practical, research-backed tools for intervention. Whether you are currently struggling, a loss survivor, or someone worried about a friend, this episode offers a roadmap for connection. Dr. Kohlbeck explains the "Suicide Thermometer," why sadness isn't always the primary symptom, and how to navigate the fear of "saying the wrong thing."
Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, is a leading expert in suicide research, focusing on the complex socio-economic factors that contribute to suicidal behavior. Her work emphasizes that connection is prevention.
If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or reach out to local mobile crisis teams. You are not a burden, and there is hope for recovery.
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 – Intro: Breaking the Silence on Suicide
01:31 – Normalizing Thoughts of Suicide
03:05 – The Suicide Thermometer: Understanding the Spectrum
05:58 – The Reality of High-Functioning Suicidality
06:36 – Critical Messages for Those Currently Struggling
13:47 – Why It Happens: The Complex Risk Factors
15:55 – What to Say to Someone Who is Suicidal
22:22 – The Myth: Does Asking About Suicide Plant the Idea?
24:03 – Crisis Response: When to Call 988 vs. 911
47:24 – How to Tell a Partner or Parent You’re Struggling
❓ Questions the Video Answers:
How do I talk to someone who is suicidal?
Does asking someone about suicide put the idea in their head?
What is the difference between passive and active suicidal thoughts?
Can you be high-functioning and suicidal at the same time?
What happens when you call or text 988?
What should I do if someone gets angry when I ask if they are suicidal?
Why do I want to die if I don't feel sad?
What are the subtle warning signs of suicide?
How do I tell my parents I’m struggling if they don’t believe in therapy?
Is suicidal ideation a normal part of the human experience?
What is the "Suicide Thermometer" concept?
When should I call 911 for a mental health crisis?
How can I support a suicide loss survivor?
What are "Warm Lines" and how do they differ from crisis lines?
How do I help someone who feels like a burden?
#suicideprevention #mentalhealth #988lifeline

BPD: The 9 Diagnostic Symptoms You Need to Know (Part 2) Feb 26, 2026

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Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often feels like being "screamed at by your brain" while trying to navigate everyday life. In this deeply personal and educational episode, we go beyond the "scary" stereotypes to reveal the intense emotional pain and interpersonal turmoil that defines this condition.

Joining us is Sage Nestler, an LGBTQ+ mental health specialist and a leading educator on BPD. Sage is a member of the advocacy committee for the National Education Alliance on BPD (NEA-BPD) and provides a rare perspective as a clinician who also lives with the disorder. He explains that for those with the quiet version of BPD, the struggle is often internalized, making their experience invisible to the outside world. They share how the "Favorite Person" (FP) phenomenon and black-and-white thinking can create a constant cycle of idolization and fear of abandonment in relationships.

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Sage clarifies the common confusion between BPD, Bipolar Disorder, and PTSD, explaining why he believes focusing on symptoms rather than labels is critical for proper care. They also address the most searched questions on the internet: Is there a specific medication for BPD? (The answer might surprise you) and can the disorder truly be "cured"?. Whether you are a "support person" for a loved one or someone seeking clarity for your own experience, they offer the validation and insight needed to move forward with compassion.

For more resources, check out the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the Family Connections Program through the NEA-BPD.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Defining Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

01:21 – Common Stereotypes vs. Reality

02:55 – What Living With BPD Feels Like Internally

05:31 – Advice for Loved Ones and Support Systems

08:56 – How to Know if You Have BPD

10:02 – Resources: NEA-BPD and NAMI

15:08 – The "Favorite Person" (FP) Concept Explained

22:52 – Breaking Down the 9 Diagnostic Criteria

46:02 – Best Medication and Treatments for BPD

48:53 – Can Borderline Personality Disorder Be Cured?

❓ Questions the Video Answers:

What is borderline personality disorder (BPD)?
What does BPD feel like on the inside?
What are the 9 diagnostic criteria for BPD?
What is a BPD "Favorite Person" (FP)?
What is "Quiet BPD" and how is it different?
Can BPD be cured or treated effectively?
Is there a specific medication for BPD?
What is "splitting" in BPD relationships?
How does BPD affect the fear of abandonment?
Is BPD often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder?
Why is BPD so heavily stigmatized in mental health?
How do you get a professional BPD diagnosis?
What is identity disturbance in BPD?
How can I support a partner or child with BPD?
Does BPD cause chronic feelings of emptiness?

#BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #MentalHealth Awareness

Borderline Personality Disorder: Why It's Pain, Not Manipulation Feb 19, 2026

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Stop the stigma. Sage Nestler, MSW, an LGBTQ+ mental health specialist and leading educator on BPD, joins the podcast to pull back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions. Often villainized or confused with narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder is actually defined by intense emotional pain and a desperate search for relief. Sage shares his personal journey of being diagnosed after a mental breakdown and how he transitioned from fearing he was "evil" to becoming a specialized advocate for the BPD community.

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In this deep-dive episode, Sage explains the fundamental characteristics of BPD, including mood dysregulation, an unstable sense of self, and the pervasive fear of abandonment that often sabotages relationships. We explore the specific nuances of "Quiet BPD," where emotional turmoil is turned inward through self-harm or eating disorders rather than external outbursts.

Sage also breaks down the power of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in managing daily spiraling thoughts. Whether you are living with a diagnosis or supporting a loved one, this conversation offers essential tools for de-escalation, communication, and radical self-compassion. Learn more about Sage Nestler’s work and advocacy by visiting the National Education Alliance on BPD.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction to Sage Nestler, MSW

01:38 – What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

02:36 – Understanding BPD Mood Dysregulation

03:29 – How BPD Impacts Sense of Self

04:30 – The Reality of BPD in Relationships

07:59 – BPD vs. Narcissism: Ending the Stigma

19:25 – Is it Dangerous to Self-Diagnose BPD?

20:45 – Quiet BPD vs. Traditional Symptoms

27:11 – Supporting Someone with BPD in Crisis

36:06 – What Causes BPD: Genetics vs. Trauma

❓ Questions the Video Answers:

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
How do BPD mood swings feel on a daily basis?
Is BPD the same as Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
What is "Quiet BPD" and how is it diagnosed?
Why do people with BPD have a fear of abandonment?
What is "splitting" or black-and-white thinking?
Can BPD be treated with medication?
How does DBT help with emotional regulation?
Why is BPD often misdiagnosed as Bipolar Disorder?
What causes BPD: is it genetic or trauma-based?
How should you support a partner with BPD during a crisis?
Why is BPD more commonly diagnosed in those assigned female at birth?
What is a "Favorite Person" in the context of BPD?
How can someone with BPD manage impulsive behaviors?
Why is there such a heavy stigma around BPD in the media?

#BPD #MentalHealth #QuietBPD

Depression Recovery: The Dangerous Lies Your Brain Tells Feb 12, 2026

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"The second I feel that I am cured and it no longer exists, is the moment that it invites itself back in." In the conclusion of our powerful conversation, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) Aja Chavez joins host Terry Maguire to move beyond symptoms and into the real work of recovery. We tackle the "uncomfortable conversations" that save lives, including how to decode the "FINE" acronym and why you must directly ask about suicidal thoughts.

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Aja Chavez brings both professional expertise and the lived experience of surviving a 2008 suicide attempt to discuss depression as a chronic condition that requires long-term management, much like diabetes. This episode provides a practical roadmap for those feeling like a burden, explaining how medication provides a "floor beneath your feet" and how to build a personal "wellness wheel" that incorporates therapy, spirituality, and even the smallest moments of joy. Whether you are struggling to get out of bed or trying to reach a partner who is pushing you away, Aja’s blunt clinical insights and compassionate perspective offer a way forward.

About Our Guest: Aja Chavez, LMFT, LPCC, is a clinical expert specializing in adolescent mental health and crisis intervention. She is a dedicated advocate for lowering barriers to care and helping individuals rediscover their worth through evidence-based therapy and holistic wellness.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – [Intro: Why Depression is Never Fully "Cured"]

01:04 – [Review: Laziness vs. Clinical Depression]

05:54 – [The Lies Depression Tells: "You Are a Burden"]

09:28 – [Why Therapists Don't Give You a "Lies vs. Truth" List]

12:36 – [How 988 and Crisis Hotlines Actually Help]

14:26 – [Managing Depression Like Diabetes]

17:22 – [Decoding "FINE": F***ed Up, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional]

19:25 – [How to Support Someone Who Pushes You Away]

22:42 – [Finding Free and Low-Cost Mental Health Resources]

27:02 – [Why You Should Never Say "At Least..."]

32:01 – [The Power of "Wellness Wheels" and Small Joys]

35:50 – [Medication: "Do You Want to Be Pretty or Dead?"]

42:26 – [The Role of Prayer and Spirituality in Recovery]

47:31 – [The Safest Move: Asking Directly About Suicide]

❓ Questions the Video Answers:

Is clinical depression a permanent condition?
How can I help someone with depression who refuses help?
What does the "FINE" acronym mean in mental health?
Why does depression make me feel like everyone is better off without me?
How do I find therapy if I don't have insurance or money?
Can I use the 988 crisis line if I'm not in an immediate emergency?
Does depression medication change your personality or make you a "zombie"?
How can I tell if my teenager is depressed or just being moody?
What is a "wellness wheel" and how do I build one?
Is it okay to ask someone directly if they want to kill themselves?
Why shouldn't I tell a depressed person they have "so much to be grateful for"?
Can prayer and medication work together for recovery?
Why is irritability a sign of depression instead of sadness?
How do I support a partner when they get mean or defensive?
What are "glimmers of joy" and why do they precede hope?

#depressionrecovery #mentalhealthsupport #988lifeline

Depression: Am I Depressed or Just Lazy? Feb 05, 2026

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Ever stared at your to-do list and wondered, "Am I depressed or am I just lazy?". You're definitely not the only one searching for that answer. In this episode of RECOVERable, host Terry McGuire is joined by Aja Chavez to peel back the layers of a condition that often hides in plain sight. Aja Chavez is an EMDR-trained Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) & Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC) who offers a perspective that is as rare as it is vital: she is both a clinical expert and a suicide attempt survivor.

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Depression isn't always sitting in a dark room with the blankets pulled over your head. For some, it feels like a "warm, heavy weighted blanket" or a "stage four clinger" that robs you of your ability to connect with joy. Aja shares her personal journey from a high-achieving 20-something who "had it all" to the moment she realized her internal dialogue was a lie designed to keep her in a shame spiral.

We dive into the "train whistle" warning signs you need to watch for and how "contrary action" can save your life when the darkness starts to feel like a "nice friend". This isn't just a clinical lecture; it’s a conversational toolkit for anyone navigating the muddy waters of mental illness. If you've ever felt "other" or like you missed the life rulebook, this episode is for you.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction to RECOVERable and guest Aja Chavez

01:35 – What does depression actually feel like?

03:54 – The #1 search: Am I depressed or am I lazy?

06:47 – Why depression is a medical condition, not a choice

10:53 – High-functioning depression: Hiding in plain sight

13:02 – Aja’s story: When depression feels like a "nice friend"

23:08 – Dropping the mask and asking for help

30:48 – The "Train Whistle": Identifying early warning signs

37:01 – Wellness plans and the power of "contrary action"

42:21 – Why do I feel depressed for "no reason"?

❓ Questions the Video Answers:

Am I depressed or am I lazy?
What does clinical depression feel like?
How do I describe depression to someone who has never felt it?
Is depression a medical condition or a mood disorder?
What are the different types of depression diagnosis?
How can I tell the difference between sadness and depression?
What is high-functioning depression?
Why do high achievers struggle with mental health?
Can you be depressed if your life looks perfect from the outside?
What are the first technical signs of depression?
How does irritability link to depressive episodes?
Why does depression make it hard to do simple tasks like showering?
What is "contrary action" in mental health treatment?
Can you be depressed for "no reason"?
How do I identify my own early warning signs?

#mentalhealth #depressionrecovery #highfunctioningdepression

Emotion Regulation: 3 Simple Ways to Calm Your Nervous System (Part 2) Jan 22, 2026

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Stop being the thermometer that reads the room and start being the thermostat that sets the temperature. In this deep dive, emotional regulation expert Alyssa Blask Campbell (New York Times Bestselling Author and CEO of Seed & Coach) reveals why our reactions are often "learned habits" and how we can regain self-control in high-stress moments. Whether you are navigating a toddler's meltdown, a workplace panic attack, or a heated argument with a partner, understanding your nervous system is the key to changing the outcome.
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Learn more about Alyssa’s work at Seed & Sew: https://www.seedandsew.org/
Alyssa explains the science of the Vagus Nerve—the "muscle" of your parasympathetic nervous system—and why TikTok is obsessed with it. You’ll learn why "hiding" your feelings actually fuels anxiety and how "cold exposure" or "humming" can physically reset your body's fight-or-flight response in seconds. We also explore the revolutionary idea that behavior is never the problem; it is merely a symptom of an unmet need.
By the end of this episode, you will have a toolkit of grounding techniques that actually work and the insight to stop "shutting down" when things get hard. Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., is the author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and Bigger Kids, Bigger Feelings.

Emotion Regulation: How to Respond Instead of React (Part 1) Jan 15, 2026

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Stop reacting and start responding. Emotional development expert Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., explains how to understand and fix your unique nervous system today. Feeling overwhelmed, snappy, or like you're constantly "treading water" just to stay afloat? You’re likely living in a state of nervous system dysregulation. In this episode, New York Times bestselling author Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., breaks down the science of emotion regulation and why most of us never learned these essential adulting skills in our youth.

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Learn more about Alyssa’s work at Seed & Sew: https://www.seedandsew.org/

We dive deep into the crucial difference between "coping mechanisms" that provide temporary dopamine hits—like substance use or impulsive shopping—and "coping strategies" that produce lasting serotonin and oxytocin to truly calm the body. Alyssa introduces the Collaborative Emotion Processing (CEP) method, explaining how our unique sensory systems—including proprioceptive and vestibular senses—dictate how we experience stress and how we must recharge.

Whether you are navigating "sensory mismatches" in your marriage, trying to handle a child’s grocery store meltdown, or recovering from trauma, this conversation provides a roadmap to self-awareness and self-control. Discover insights from her New York Times bestseller, Tiny Humans, Big Emotions , and learn why "microdosing" self-regulation throughout the day is the key to lasting peace.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Intro: The "Only Way Out is Through"

10:33 – What is emotion regulation?

28:09 – How do I know if I'm dysregulated?

40:19 – Does nervous system reset actually work?

41:41 – What is the fastest way to calm myself down?

❓ Questions the Video Answers: