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244 - How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal Mar 08, 2022

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Sexual betrayal is one of the most devastating things a person can experience. Though struggling spouses are not primarily out to hurt their husband/wife, sexual brokenness brings immense amounts of pain and trauma into a marriage. As an addict or struggler, is it possible to help our spouse heal from the pain we’ve caused? Is there anything we can do to help in the healing process? On today’s episode, we explore what an addicted/struggling spouse can do (if anything) to help their spouse heal from sexual betrayal.

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SEXUAL INTEGRITY 101 (VIDEO COURSE)

BETRAYAL & BEYOND (BETRAYED WOMEN’S RESOURCE)

SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM (STRUGGLING MEN’S RESOURCE)

UNRAVELED (STRUGGLING WOMEN’S RESOURCE)

HOPE FOR MEN (BETRAYED MEN’S RESOURCE)

PURE DESIRE COUNSELING

APSATS (BARABARA STEFFENS ORGANIZATION)

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243 - Spiritual Bypass w/ Dr. Craig Cashwell Mar 01, 2022

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As followers of Jesus, knowing what is true and biblical is important. But when it comes to battling the effects of unwanted sexual behavior or betrayal trauma we can very easily use spiritual truths to minimize the reality of our situation or struggle. This is referred to as "spiritual bypass." On today's episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell talks to us about spiritual bypass and why it can be so damaging on our journey of healing and recovery.

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242 - Women's Takeover #4 - Stories Of Healing: Cyndie & Dusty Gillingham Feb 22, 2022

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Sexual brokenness shatters the lives of so many men and women. We’ve heard this story many times: a man struggles with unwanted sexual behaviors and, because of this, his wife experiences betrayal trauma. But what happens when the roles are reversed? When a woman struggles and betrays her husband? On today’s episode, Cyndie and Dusty tell us their story of healing. They share how sexual brokenness impacted their relationship, how they were introduced to Pure Desire, what their recovery and healing journey looks like, and so much more!

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241 - Women's Takeover #3: Empowering A Betrayed Partner Feb 15, 2022

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When discovery or disclosure happens, it impacts the mind, body, and soul of a betrayed partner. Our mind becomes stuck on rewind; processing every word of every day, wondering how we missed it. We can’t eat. We can’t sleep. We no longer feel safe. Is there any hope? On today’s episode, we sit down with Jennifer Howie and talk through several aspects of betrayal trauma that will empower a betrayed partner on their healing journey.

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BETRAYAL & BEYOND (WOMEN’S BETRAYAL RESOURCE)

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240 - Women's Takeover #2: Integrating Psychology & Spirituality w/ Dr. Craig Cashwell Feb 08, 2022

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Historically, in many faith communities, there seemed to be a great divide: psychology on one side of the canyon and spirituality on the other side. But now, this gap is closing. On today’s episode, we are privileged to have Dr. Craig Cashwell as our guest. We first met Dr. Cashwell during Module 2 of the PSAP training and used this opportunity to dig deeper into what we learned. As a Mental Health Counselor, Professor, and author, he shares his passion for integrating psychology and spirituality, how this plays out in the healing process, and so much more.

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SHADOWS OF THE CROSS (CRAIG’S RESOURCE)

INTEGRATING SPIRITUALITY & RELIGION INTO COUNSELING (CRAIG’S RESOURCE)

CLINICAL MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELING (CRAIG’S RESOURCE)

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239 - Women's Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens Feb 01, 2022

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When we experience betrayal, it seems as though our world has been turned upside down. This type of trauma can leave us feeling paralyzed and alone, unsure of what’s happening to us and if healing is even possible. On today’s episode, we are honored to have Dr. Barbara Steffens as our guest. She is the author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal and the founding President of APSATS: The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. Dr. Steffens walks us through what it looks like to find healing from betrayal trauma.

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238 - Barriers To Sexual Intimacy w/ Dr. Juli Slattery Jan 25, 2022

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Creating emotional and sexual intimacy in marriage can be challenging. This is especially true when sexual brokenness is present in a marriage. Today, Dr. Juli Slattery joins us to talk through barriers couples face when creating sexual intimacy and how we can overcome them.

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AUTHENTIC INTIMACY WEBSITE

FIND THE HERO IN YOUR HUSBAND: REVISITED (JULI’S BOOK)

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237 - Church Hurdles (REPLAY) Jan 18, 2022

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As the COVID spike has caused issues with our regularly scheduled podcasts, we thought we would re-release an oldie but goodie episode. Back in December of 2017, we did an interview with Rodney Wright about the hurdles many churches face when it comes to addressing the effects of sexual brokenness. Even though we’re now 4 years later, this episode still rings so true. As the church, we need to continue improving our compassion and competency toward those who are impacted by sexual brokenness and betrayal trauma. Enjoy this replay episode!

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236 - Bold Intimacy (Summit '21) Jan 11, 2022

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This week's episode is unique. Like so many, COVID has finally visited Nick and Trevor's family. As a pivot, we decided to feature a really powerful message from the 2021 Pure Desire Summit from Rodney Wright. Rodney's message is titled Bold Intimacy.

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235 - Stages of Recovery Jan 04, 2022

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The journey of recovery is a difficult one. While in the recovery journey, it's easy to get discouraged by the process and how long it takes. On today's episode, we identify the five stages of recovery, how long they take, and how these stages help us see the true goal of recovery.