Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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How Can We Help Our Kids Through Difficult Moments Without Fixing with Guest Jenna Mar 18, 2021

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Sometimes when our child is having a hard time of course we want to fix things, help

them see the bright side. But things might look arduous and difficult for our children and leaning into those upsets with empathy can help them feel seen, heard and understood. This way they are able to let go with more ease.

In this episode a lovely mom Jenna asks how to navigate negativity. We discuss leaning into the icky feelings, validate them and come with empathy to honor discomfort. It’s not easy seeing our children upset but with our love they can make it through.

Episode Highlights:

How to respond to our kids when they are negative
Using empathy to heal discomfort
Letting them win
Allowing them to make mistakes

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Do Our Children Have the Right to Say “No” with Guest Sterna Mar 12, 2021

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When our child says “no” it can send us into emotional turmoil both because of how we were raised and how society views a child who stands up for themselves. But no doesn’t need to be a dirty word, and our children need to have the space to explore standing up for themselves. If they aren’t allowed to do it at home how can they ever set boundaries as they grow up. What of yes too, if we are insisting on “yes” is that yes we receive authentic or is it coerced somehow and only used as a way to please us?

Sterna is my guest today, she helps us unravel this sticky parenting moment, and gives us her incredible insights into why no is more than just a child being defiant on purpose and ways we can work through the moments when our children use no.

Episode Highlights:

Why “No” isn’t always bad
Collaboration works better than blind obedience
Letting go of complete control
Respecting our kids, so they respect us

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Using Connection to Help with Aggression with Guest Ashley Mar 05, 2021

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Aggression is a common occurrence in children and we see it often when there’s a new sibling. It is a fear response and one that can be tricky to unravel.

If we take a global look at our child and work on ways to build in connective practices while also allowing the tantrum to fully occur we can get movement with aggression.

Long time listener Ashley fully understands the modes of Peace and Parenting it’s just a pep talk she needs to reassure her she’s on the right path.

Episode Highlights:

Aggression is fear, fear of needs not being met
The connective nature of tantrums are therapeutic
Empathy for feelings of jealousy can help offload feelings

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Resilience Feb 26, 2021

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How do we promote resilience in our child and use the tenets of Peace and Parenting? Does being a kind loving parent mean our children will not be able to handle the cruel world? Perhaps empathy and kindness is exactly what allows our children to build in self esteem and the ability to recover from hard things.

Episode Highlights:

Why you should let your child win
Listening to your child with empathy
How to promote resilience
The ways in which peaceful parenting protects our kids from shame.

Check out the Shame and Winning episodes and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst.

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No More Yelling! How Courtney Transformed her Parenting Feb 19, 2021

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Today I’m joined by Courtney, a lovely mother of three young boys who recently completed my One on One Six Week Course. In this episode, she tells us how she has begun to transform her family, let go of yelling, and found more calm for her and her boys.

If you think you can’t change the dynamics of your family and find peace and less yelling, you CAN, just like Courtney did. Listen in as we discuss what she learned in my One on One Six Week Course.

You can find Courtney on Instagram @mostlyplantbasedmama

Courtney Learned:

How to let go of punishments
Finding ways to be and cultivate more calm
How connection can strengthen the relationship she has with her sons.
How taking things personally isn’t always helpful

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How to Use Connection to Help Move Through Thumb Sucking Feb 12, 2021

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Kids have different ways to cope with stressful situations. Some resort to more vocal ways-- while others tend to go inward as a way to cope with what’s hard in life. It’s hard for us to know exactly how to approach them with love and kindness while still helping them move through tough behavior.

Joining me this episode is a follower and active participant on the Facebook group, Jillian.

Jillian, like so many of us, struggles with a behavior that she can’t quite figure out how to navigate. We take a look at the whole child, the underlying and the more obvious and try to find ways to meet her daughter where she is using connection.

I know others struggle with thumb sucking and pacifiers and hope this episode is helpful.

Episode Highlights:

Familial background
The root cause of thumb sucking
What we can do to curb it without the use of shame

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How do you come alongside your child when they are upset? What do you say and how can you be supportive when emotions are running high?

Find out what to say and the best ways to come with empathy in this free downloadable guide HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY: What to say and do when your child is really upset

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Kelly Tells us How Listening Partnerships are the Cornerstone to Connective Parenting Feb 05, 2021

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Trying to parent without being resourced is impossible. We all need and deserve a place to have our feelings. Someone to listen can help us move through difficult moments and unravel childhood unmet needs and just come to our parenting more centered because we have a place to be heard too!

A Listening Partner is this person! Someone who supports you weekly in your parenting challenges. This Parenting Tool from Hand in Hand Parenting is life changing. If you want to know more about this tool. Use this link to get the Listening Partnerships Booklet and a clear explanation on how to get one started. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/partner/Peaceandparenting/

Since I am a partner of Hand in Hand a portion of the sale of the LP Booklet goes to support this little podcast.

You can also join our Private Facebook Group to search for a partner.

Kelly lives in South Africa with her twin boys. Her background is in Montessori Teaching and now has become a HIH Instructor. She will share with us the significance of listening partnerships and how this transformative tool can bring healing to our relationships and parenting journey!

Episode Highlights:

Kelly’s pregnancy experience with her twin boys
The reality of giving birth
What it feels like to have and raise twin babies
What is a Listening Partnership?
The powerful impact of Listening Partnerships.
Unpacking your emotional backpacks
How do we re-parent ourselves?

Have you ever thought that tantrums are actually connective? Did you know big messy feelings are healing and the idea of being an empathic listener is what makes this all happen for our children?

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About Our Guest:

Kelly van Rooyen is a certified Hand in Hand Parenting instructor, passionate about bringing the listening tools to families looking to build a deep connection and parent from the heart.

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Parenting Beyond Perfection with Guest Kiersten Jan 29, 2021

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“When we bring kids into this world, our hope is that in the future, there will be a more peaceful world for them.”

Good behaviour from our children begins with us, their parents.

In this episode, Kiersten, a dear member of our community joins me to talk about how her journey’s been like as a mom, the joyful and the hard parts, as well as how she is growing as a mother and how peaceful parenting helped her nurture her relationship with her kids!

When we are met with defiance, we can’t help but lose our cool sometimes especially when there are many things going around at the same time.

Keep listening to today’s episode to find out how you can connect with your kids on a deeper level and learn how to move away from punishing and controlling and lean into calm and peace.

Episode Highlights:

How Kiersten’s journey with peaceful parenting began
Peace begins with us, parents
Stop trying to control your kids
Let your kids grow and experience life
The hardest part of peaceful parenting for Kiersten
Mistakes are inevitable, remember to be gentle with yourself too

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We make plans for many things in life, but what about making a plan to connect each day with our children? Connection is the cornerstone to Peace and Parenting. Making plans each day to weave connection into your everyday life is essential to ensure we are making it our focus. In this FREE plan, I give you the things I do each day to keep connection top of mind and give you some ideas for your own well thought out plan. Download the free plan HERE https://bit.ly/39qmkxP

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The Case Against Mindfulness Jars and Cool-Down Corners Jan 22, 2021

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At some point in your child’s life, they will experience things which may cause overwhelm, and we won't be able to prevent them from feeling these tough emotions. However, we can be the safe place for them to be when things are tough.

Having deep empathy for our children and allowing them to fully emote helps those feelings pass, be processed so our child can move forward and be the cooperative kind kid they are meant to be.

Mindfulness Jars, Cool Down Corners and Breathing Techniques may "get" kids to calm down, but at what expense? Where have the feelings gone and what will then glean from our expectation of calm? Listen in as Michelle explains just this.

Episode Highlights:

What are the pitfalls of mindfulness jars and cool-down corners and breathing techniques?
What can you do when things are difficult for your child?
Being empathic shows unconditional love.
What is co-regulation and how can we model it?
Telling our child they need to calm down might be giving them the wrong message.
Having empathy and holding space for your kids to release their feelings is the key to expelling upsets they may be stuck

Check out the Empathy Podcast (https://apple.co/39VgyU1) and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst.

Download the FREE guide - HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY

How do you come alongside your child when they are upset? What do you say and how can you be supportive when emotions are running high?

Find out what to say and the best ways to come with empathy in this free downloadable guide HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY: What to say and do when your child is really upset (https://bit.ly/2KAqglQ)

Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes.

Support this podcast and also find useful parenting material from Hand in Hand Parenting. Want the Booklets Michelle discusses in the show? Click Here (handinhandparenting.org/partner/peaceandparenting)

Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here (https://app.kajabi.com/r/UePe9pqc/t/pvvnvmcl) and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.

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