Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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How to Stop Yelling Jul 29, 2021

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When we believe our children are being difficult, we tend to use yelling to make them listen to us. But yelling can only go so far before it starts to form cracks in the relationship with our kids and leave them with emotional scars that might never go away. At some point, we need to ask ourselves: Is my child’s obedience worth losing their love and respect?

In this solo episode, I share my experience of being a parent who used to yell and how I continue to overcome that urge with hopes that I can encourage other parents to do the same.

Remember, the road of parenthood is not paved with fear, but with love.

Episode Highlights:

How yelling played a role in my life
How yelling can jeopardize our relationship with our children
Using connection and empathy as a replacement for yelling
My advice on how to calm down and process your emotions
The long-term effects yelling has on our children

Looking for ways to parent without yelling or threatening? Do you want to start using connection to better handle and guide your kids? I know I’ve definitely been there. Through my years of learning and experience, I’ve started to reach out and help other parents overcome their parenting challenges with a much calmer and empathetic approach. You can check out my mini-course called How to Stop Yelling right here!

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Chitra’s Journey into Connective Parenting Jul 22, 2021

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Traditionally, children are meant to obey their parents without question and any sign of defiance is met with punishment. We believe that our child’s behavior is a reflection of us as parents and that opens us up to judgment from others. No one wants to be labeled as a “bad parent” but just because something is accepted as the norm doesn’t always mean it’s automatically right either.

Chitra Peña, a member of the Peace and Parenting community, sits down with me to share her story and experiences in moving towards a more conscious parenting method and its results-- including her relationship with her children and her confidence in herself as a parent. Additionally, we’ll also dive into the effects of conventional parenting on the emotional well-being of both the parents and children.

Don’t forget to tune into this episode so we can help you forge a healthier relationship with your family!

Episode Highlights:

Chitra’s journey towards conscious parenting
How she processed her thoughts and feelings when her child experienced hurt
Deviating from conventional parenting and how she dealt with the judgment
Parenthood is not meant to be a hierarchy
The emotional cost of conventional parenting on your child and yourself

Connect with Chitra

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The Power of Listening Partners with Cassie and Lindsay Jul 15, 2021

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Parents try to prop themselves up as these invincible figures who aren’t affected by sadness or fear, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. They have their own fair share of anxieties and trauma; and when all of that just builds up, it starts to leak into other aspects of their lives. When that happens, it’s good to have someone who's willing to empathize and listen.

For this episode, I’ve invited two members of the Peace and Parenting community, Cassie and Lindsay. They have been listening partners for over a year and they will share with us how opening up to another person and learning to listen has aided them in becoming better parents and partners.

Join us for this episode as we discuss the importance of connection and how we can lend each other a listening ear.

Episode Highlights:

What are listening partnerships
Cassie and Lindsay’s experience being each other’s listening partner
How listening partnerships can improve our relationships
Deeper introspection allows us to heal
Advice for listening partnerships

Interested in finding a listening partner?

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Step-parenting with Connection and Guest Nikki Jul 08, 2021

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Parenthood is a challenge enough in itself, but when you throw in becoming a stepparent; it can become a whole new ballpark. The desire to form a genuine bond with their stepchild while also trying not to overstep their boundaries is a balancing act that our guest is familiar with.

Joining me for this episode is Nikki, a stepmom of 10 years, to share with us her experiences and how she managed to navigate what she considered as uncharted territory.

For any struggling or upcoming stepparents, be sure to tune into this episode!

Episode Highlights:

Nikki’s marriage and becoming a stepmom
Her relationship with her stepson
Balancing between two sets of parents
How she made her stepson feel loved and cared for at home
Advice for current and upcoming stepparents

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Untigering with Iris Chen Jul 01, 2021

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Parenting shouldn’t be synonymous with control, but for my guest, Iris Chen, this was her reality while growing up in an Asian-American household. Our childhood experiences can shape what kind of parents we’ll become to our kids; but as their parents, it is our role to guide and care for them while also respecting their own autonomy. This is the realization that Iris came to when she saw her tiger parenting was driving her son away from her.

Iris is the author of the book, Untigering, where she shares her experience of being a tiger parent and her journey of pulling away from cultural norms for a more empathetic and respectful approach to parenting while also redefining what it means to be a successful parent.

Don’t forget to listen to this episode to help develop a more peaceful and healthier relationship with your kids!

Episode Highlights:

Iris’ childhood growing up in an Asian-American household
How her tiger parenting affected her relationship with her eldest
Accountability and learning to let go of controlling habits
It’s never too late to change
How projection warps how we perceive our child’s behavior

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Success Story with Emilie, Mother of Two Jun 24, 2021

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The initial transition to connective parenting isn’t exactly a straight line, and it can take years for us as parents to unlearn everything that was imposed on us when we were younger. But, it doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

For this episode, I’ve invited long time member, Emilie, to share with us her success story with connective parenting. Being a mother of two, she knew she needed to do her homework to prepare her elder son for a new baby sibling. Thanks to connective parenting, she’s definitely on the road to building a strong relationship with her two kids.

Episode Highlights:

Her initial problems with her older son
The sudden shift in her relationship with her son
Emilie’s experience with my connective parenting programs
Working on our relationship with our kids now, so we save ourselves when they turn into teenagers

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How to Help our Kids Make Decisions Without Giving Advice with Blimie from Unconditional Parenting Jun 17, 2021

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There are going to be many times while raising our kids that they come to us with their problems, and we as parents might feel the need to immediately jump in as Mama Bear and tell them exactly what they need to do.

But what if that isn’t what they really need?

In this episode, I’m joined by Blimie from Unconditional Parenting to open up a conversation about why and how we can be reflective listeners for our kids-- allowing them to come to their own realizations and courses of action.

Be sure to listen in on this conversation that can definitely help you all out!

Episode Highlights:

Controlling ourselves from giving our advice
Why being empathetic and listening is important
Sometimes we need to take the brunt of their feelings
How they eventually learn to solve their own problems

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How to Handle Sibling Rivalry: A Parenting Question from April Jun 10, 2021

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When dealing with sibling rivalry, it’s important we validate all sibling feelings. If we choose sides it can jeopardize our connection.

In this episode, I’ve invited April, a long-time listener to the podcast who has worked hard and long on her parenting. She’ll be walking us through the sharing issues between her two girls, while Michelle helps her unravel this common sibling struggle.

If you’re feeling the same way, be sure to listen to this episode and let it serve as your guide to building a loving relationship between your kids!

Episode Highlights:

The root cause of jealousy and sharing issues between siblings
It’s more than just about winning
Instilling empathy in our kids
Modeling
Advice for raising toddlers

Click here to check out my episode with Dr. Laura Markham where we talk about raising siblings without rivalry!

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Peaceful Eating with Gitte for Real Food Hero Jun 03, 2021

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So many parents and families struggle with pickiness in children’s eating habits. Our guest today, Gitte, has figured out what exactly might be the problem. With years in child psychology, she believes that the problem doesn’t lie in the food-- but rather their experience during mealtime.

Gitte has developed a 4-week course called Real Food Hero, where she teaches us how to take back our mealtimes and allow our kids to grow a healthy relationship with food.

Be sure to tune in on this episode so we can help our kids develop good eating habits!

Episode Highlights:

Why pickiness is not about the food, but the environment during mealtimes
Gitte’s experience during mealtime with her kids
Letting go of controlling what they eat at the table
Why bribing or threatening our kids isn’t the answer
Late night bites before bed are not necessarily a bad thing
Changing how we see sweets and treats, using them in moderation

Connect with Gitte:

You can check out her Real Food Hero in 4-Weeks course here. Don’t forget to use the coupon code “PEACE” for 30% off!

To sign up for my One-on-One Private Parenting Sessions, click here to start now and change your parenting reality!

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