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FFN 110: The Rise of the Peter Pans Jun 01, 2018

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We've all seen the movie, Peter Pan. It's fictional work but it seems that more and more it paints an eerily familiar picture with what we see in the boys who never want to grow up into men.

I'll give you a prime example. Just the other day, there was a piece I read about a 30-year old man who had taken his parents to court because his parents were "evicting" him from their house. How pathetic is this? Maybe there's something wrong with this guy (obviously there's something wrong with this guy). But it's amazing that his thought process is to fight so hard to stay at home. I can't help, but there's something seriously wrong with him. But in addition to that, I can't help but think there's something wrong with the parents. How was this guy raised? How was he fathered?

When I was done with high school, we went on our senior trip. The day I got home - the very next day - I moved out. It wasn't' because I had anything against my mother but because it was time. It was time to leave the nest. I see so many boys who are more concerned with staying at home than experiencing life. They're more concerned with not having bills and upholding their responsibilities. They're more concerned with Call of Duty or Fortnite (or whatever the game is that they're playing). They're shirking their responsibilities. They don't have jobs. And, their parents are enabling them to actually do this. And we question why we're having problems with our boys turning into men. This is the failure to launch syndrome - the rise of the Peter Pans.

The good news is that there are some solutions to this. If you find yourself in a position where you're a boy or a male who wants to grow up but can't figure out how to do it, this article will provide the solution. I see so many men who use the excuse of not having a father figure in their life to justify their lack of performance as men. I can't believe that it needs to be addressed, but it certainly does. So, let's talk about this today.

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Dreaming Big and Writing Your Own Story | Charlie Jabaley May 29, 2018

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All of us have a story. We all have a past. Our prior circumstances define who we are today but do not have to define who we will become moving forward. Too bad most of us never learn to rewrite the script.

Today, I am joined by a friend and man who is impacting and influencing millions. His name is Charlie Jabaley and he's someone who walked away from a multi-million dollar business to rewrite his life, lose a massive amount of weight, become an endorsed Nike athlete, and bike across the USA. We talk about what inspired him to make a life-altering change and how he is using positivity to change the world.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

How to turn your struggles into fuel
Why "war mode" isn't always the best mode
How to realize your childhood dreams
How to work smarter, not harder
How to rally people around a cause
How to use imperfection to inspire others
The difference between eating "dead" and eating "alive"
Overcoming a negative mindset
What it means to train like an 8-year-old
Using fun and play as the metric for success
How to step away from something secure into the unknown

CHARLIE JABALEY

I met Charlie several months ago when he and I were podcasting in St. Louis with Andy Frisella on the MFCEO Podcast.

He and I immediately hit it off and I was extremely inspired by him, his story, and the positive changes he is making in his life.

This man is a Nike endorsed athlete although he doesn't look like your typical athlete. But, it's a testament to who he is, his infectious energy, and how powerful his past, present, and future are.

Right now, he's biking across the USA in order to share his story and help others live the life they're meant to live.

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FFN 109: How We Stop School Shootings May 25, 2018

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Every time we turn around it seems like there's yet another school shooting. And, from what I can see, we're addressing this from a very surface level perspective. This is not about gun control. This is not about gun regulation. In fact, I don't even believe it's fully a gun problem. I think it's a symptom of the problem but not the problem.

Obviously, it has to do with the young men who are creating these situations. But more so, we ought to put the responsibility where it truly lies, which is on us as men. I'm going to explain what I mean by that. Bear with me, because I think you're going to agree at the end of this conversation that we've got a real problem with the way that we, as men, are showing up. And the symptom of that is school shootings and some of the other atrocities that we see in society today.

Before I get into the details, I do want to say again, this is not meant to be a gun debate but there are a couple of surface level issues that I do want to address first and foremost before we get deeper into this.

So, let's begin by addressing how we physically protect our kids when they're at school. There are some very simple solutions to this:

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ITT 012: Overcoming the Grip of Depression and Suicide| John Gilliland May 23, 2018

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Today, I talk with John Gilliland about overcoming multiple suicide attempts, rising from the guilt and shame associated with it, using addiction in a positive way, and lifting yourself out of the bottom.

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166: Why Men Should Compete | Jake Thompson May 22, 2018

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Competition is such a critical component of our journey to develop masculinity and manliness. Too bad it's often viewed as an unnecessary and antiquated way of operating by much of society. Heaven forbid we hold ourselves to a high standard and teach our children to keep score.

My guest today, Jake Thompson, Founder of Compete Every Day, makes the case for utilizing healthy competition as a critical factor in improving our lives. Today, we talk about why competition is so important, why executing to failure is so powerful, why losing does not necessarily equal "loser", and why men should compete every day. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

• Why competition is important • How competition creates opportunities and builds capabilities • What separates those who grow with competition and those who self-destruct • How to compete at things that aren't a competition • Why executing to failure is so important • Why losing does not equal "loser" • How to separate yourself from the pack • How to find and develop value in yourself and others • How to teach our children to use healthy competition for growth • Why men are uniquely desirous to keep score and how to use that to our advantage

JAKE THOMPSON

My guest today is Jake Thompson. Jake and I met last year and an American Dream U event at Fort Sill, Oklahoma.

I had the privilege of hearing him speak about the power and importance of competition and new that I wanted to have a deeper discussion with him about the concept.

The word, competition, seems to have a negative connotation surrounding it but I think you know as well as I do how powerful competition can actually be.

In a world that likes to take it easy and shy away from keeping score, Jake is encouraging more people to do it through his organization, Compete Every Day, and as a speaker, author, and coach.

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FFN 108: Bridging the Integrity Gap May 18, 2018

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There is a gap in most men's lives and, in fact, I would argue in every man's life. This gap represents what we know we should be doing versus the things that we're actually doing. This is the integrity gap. The larger that gap is, the less fulfilled, the more unhappy, the more unpleasant, and depressed you will be. The smaller that gap, the more fulfillment, satisfaction, joy, contentment, happiness, wealth, and prosperity will come into your life.

There was a time in my life roughly 10 years ago where I had a huge integrity gap in my life (again, the gap between what I knew I should be doing and what I was actually doing). Here's the reality: Everybody that reads this, including you, knows what you should be doing.

If I were to ask anyone, "How do you lose weight?" 99.9% of people would say, "Well, I probably ought to eat a little bit better and exercise a little bit more." If I were to ask how to build more wealth in your life, everybody out there would say, "I need to find a way to make more money and/or spend less money."

These are not secrets. This is not rocket science here. Everybody knows what they should be doing, yet when you look around in society you can plainly see that many individuals are not living up to their potential. That's the integrity gap. It's knowing what you should be doing, and not doing it.

Living with this gap is the most unpleasant, unsatisfying, and miserable time in any person's life. But rather than just tell you that there's this big integrity gap and you need to figure out a way to bridge it (which you certainly do) I want to share with you a very simple formula that will help you bridge the gap.

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ITT 011: Execution of Discipline | Cody Duffney May 16, 2018

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Today, I talk with Cody Duffney about the execution of discipline, the power of internal reflection, correcting mistakes quickly, and accepting points of weakness.

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165: Boys Adrift | Dr. Leonard Sax May 15, 2018

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Continuing on the theme from last week (because I believe this is such a critical topic right now), today we talk about the fact that young boys seem to be going astray. The school system is stacked against them, society seems to be dismissing masculinity altogether, and being a man is something that actually has to be defended.

My guest, Dr. Leonard Sax, joins me to talk about 5 factors driving an epidemic of unmotivated boys and underachieving young men, how the school system needs to be overhauled if we are to re-engage our boys, the dangers of endocrine disruptors in men's lives, and how boys are going adrift and, more importantly, how to get them back on track.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

5 factors driving unmotivated boys and underachieving young men
How the school system is stacked against young men
Why boys are struggling with academic achievement
How the school system needs to be changed
The dangers on endocrine disruptors
The effect pornography has on young boys
The value of consequences for young men
How to help our boys find passion and purpose
How to re-engage our boys

DR. LEONARD SAX

I was introduced to Dr. Leonard Sax's work through my wife as she picked up a couple books on her pursuit to more effectively raise our boys.

She came across two books in particular: Boys Adrift and Why Gender Matters. After she got done reading them, she asked if I would. From the opening remarks, I knew this guy had some of the answers to the challenges we seem to be facing in raising young men.

Dr. Sax is an MIT graduate, a physician, and a psychologist and has been practicing for nearly 30 years. He is well-versed (as you'll hear today) in gender issues and the crisis our young men and women seem to be facing today.

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FFN 107: Crafting the Perfect Morning Routine May 11, 2018

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Today, I want to talk about such an important topic and one which is easy to overlook simply because we've all heard about it so often. That said, I believe establishing a healthy morning routine is one of the most important things you can do during your day as it really establishes the benchmark, the framework, and the foundation for the way the rest of your day will go.

The reason that I think most people overlook (or can't even stick to a morning routine) is because there's so much advice about it already and we begin to believe that we have to pigeonhole ourselves into one way of doing it. Here's what I'm here to tell you: I'm going to share my morning routine. Now, that doesn't make it the morning routine. It simply means that it works for me. The most powerful thing if you can do with regards to your morning routine is to find something that works for you.

This is a process of experimentation. So, again, I'm going to share with you what works for me. If you like it, adopt it. If you don't like it, don't adopt it. If you like parts of it, adopt part of it. You get the idea.

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