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The Pivotal Moments of True Friendship with Jeannette, @shutthekaleup and Rachael, @rachaelsgoodeats Jul 11, 2023

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Welcome back to the On The Rocks Pod! Today we have the pleasure of having our own fireside chat with Jeannette of @shutthekaleup and Rachael from @rachaelsgoodeats to go deep on their supportive, loving friendship of 8 years.

It's inspiring to listen to two friends talk about being there for each other through thick and thin. They discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly, including how they met, what brought them closer, growing into adulthood, dealing with real-life events, and how they helped each other navigate life's challenges. There's so much more to their story, and it's truly inspiring to witness a mature, honest, and loving friendship that they have.

Hope you enjoy as much as I did.

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Connect with todays guests;

Jeannette — @shutthekaleup

Rachael — @rachaelgoodeats

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IG: @olivianoceda TT: @olivianoceda olivianoceda.com

Maintaining Connections with Taylor Tomlinson May 30, 2023

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Join us for a conversation with stand-up comedian, Taylor Tomlinson. In this episode, we explore the complexities of adult friendships, the challenges of maintaining connections while constantly on the move, and the personal decisions that shape our lives. We dive into the emotional impact of friend breakups, the struggle to let go, and the importance of finding friendships that leave us energized. Also, our discussion touches on societal expectations, communication dynamics, and the decision to have children. Get ready for an honest exploration of personal experiences and reflections that will resonate with listeners of all ages. Stay tuned!

We talked about:

Challenges of forming lasting friendships due to limited time and frequent traveling.
The importance of finding friendships that leave us energized rather than depleted, especially for introverts.
Balancing busy lives and maintaining connections through phone calls, Instagram, or whatever works best for both.
How fame and success can change friendships and the experience of reconnecting with old friends.
Navigating skepticism, caution, and genuine connections in an industry where boundaries can blur.
Reflecting on personal choices, such as the decision to have children and challenging societal expectations.

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You know where to find me — IG: @olivianoceda TT: @olivianoceda olivianoceda.com

“How to Break Up with Your Friends" and more with Erin Falconer May 16, 2023

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Today we have a conversation with Erin Falconer, therapist and author of the book “How to Break Up with Your Friends”, discussing the importance of intentional friendship and how to navigate conflicts in these relationships. Erin explains her inspiration for writing her book, noting that while society is obsessed with tracking information, such as calorie intake, steps taken, there is no agreed-upon language or blueprint for navigating friendship. The lack of focus on intentional friendship can be attributed to the fact that traditional therapy only focuses on the individual, family therapy, and couples therapy, with no equivalent for friendship. Join me in this candid conversation and please, let me know your thoughts and personal experiences around this topic!

Takeaways from this episode:

Normalizing intentional friendships can help us all work towards fostering stronger, more fulfilling friendships in our lives.
It's okay to take a deeper look at our friendships and evaluate them. It's important to recognize which friendships are important to us and which ones may not be worth investing our time and energy into.
When having a difficult conversation with a friend, it's best to do it in person or at least over the phone to avoid misunderstandings and show respect for the other person's feelings.
However, if the other person is highly defensive, emotional, or reactive, it may be better to send an email so they can process their reaction and respond later.
Before deciding to end a friendship, it's important to assess whether the relationship still makes sense for you and what you need at this point in your life.

IG: Erin Falconer

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https://broccyourbody.com

The Importance of Friendship Quality over Quantity with Carissa Stanton May 09, 2023

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In this episode, I discuss with one of my besties the concept of friendship, what to expect from one another, and how to be your original self with the other. We also talk about upcoming projects and the importance of quality over quantity when it comes to friendships as adults. We give advice on how to make new adult friendships, highlighting the need for persistence and putting oneself out there. Join me in this very special episode!

Takeaways from this episode:

The importance of being comfortable with oneself and having multiple friendships to avoid placing too much pressure on one person.
A foundational and secure friendship relies on not expecting too much from each other, and always being there for each other.
Trauma bonding playing a significant role in friendship.
Appreciate everything for what it is and don't take things too seriously.
It's essential to look at oneself and focus on being a good friend rather than blaming others for not being there. If someone is still not giving you the time of day despite your efforts, it's easier to cope when you know you’ve given it all.

Connect with Carissa here:

IG: @broccyourbody

You know where to find me —

https://www.daniellebayardjackson.com/

How To Make Adult Friendships with Female Friendship Coach Danielle Bayard Jackson May 02, 2023

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Soooo… how do we make friends again..? If this daunting question has run through your head, you are in good company (even though it may not seem that way). After college, one of the biggest transitions that was felt was drifting apart from friends and not understanding how (or where!?) to meet new ones.

In this episode, we're finally going to learn how to make new friends as an adult! Look at us go. We’re having an engaging conversation with Danielle Bayard Jackson, a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally on the subject of friendship as a wellness imperative. She is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships. We'll also be talking about women's cooperation, communication, and conflicts. This is going to be a good one, so stay tuned! Don't forget to subscribe and share the episode with your friends.

Key points for finding friends as an adult:

Don't feel awkward about speaking to an old friend and picking up where you left off.
Become a regular somewhere.
Rethink your fantasy of what it will be like to meet new people. It's not always going to be at a big party where it's really obvious. Instead, it might be in the line at Target or somewhere random.
Stay flexible.

Remember, there may come a time when a friendship ends or needs to be demoted. Be aware of friendship breakup territory and be prepared to handle it.

Hope you enjoy!

Connect with Danielle here:

IG: @daniellebayardjackson

TT: @thefriendshipexpert

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Lessons from a 20 Year Old Friendship with My Best Friend, Danya Apr 25, 2023

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This is a very special episode for me because I got to interview my best friend of 20 years… Danya. She’s a musical theater actress, corporate nine-to-five, girly, thats obsessed with home decor (just like me).

As we enter our 30s, we're realizing that friendships shift and evolve in many different ways. At one point, we became codependent and decided to take a friend break. Now that we have more knowledge on boundaries, self-care, and choice, we have a whole new approach to our friendship and environment.

Listen to the full episode and take this episode as a quick reminder to shoot your oldest friend a text telling them how much you appreciate them. It will go along way and can’t recommend it enough.

Key Discussion Points:

Red flags of codependent friendships:

Asking your friend to make decisions for you, and then blaming them when things go wrong.
Spending too much time together, using it as an excuse to avoid addressing your own issues and insecurities.

Green flags:

Asking your friend if the relationship ever becomes too much for them, or they feel like they need a break from discussing certain topics, or feel like you are talking too much about yourself and the relationship. You give them the full freedom to be open and honest with you.
Giving legitimate and valid reasons for your opinions on your friend's life.

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