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How to Be, Like, 75% Organized Sep 23, 2021

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What better time to talk about organization than back to school season? We are kicking off fall by sharing our grand unified theories for getting/being more organized. We also talked all about our all-time favorite, go-to strategies for staying on top of shit, both digitally and IRL.

This episode was produced by Rachel and Sally and edited by Lucas Nguyen. Our logo was designed by Amber Seger (@rocketorca). Our theme music is by Tiny Music. MJ Brodie transcribed this episode. Follow us on Twitter @OhILikeThatPod.

Things we talked about:

The Subversive Joy of Lil Nas X’s Gay Pop Stardom by Jazmine Hughes for the New York Times
The video for “That’s What I Want” by Lil Nas X
“Jolene” cover by Lil Nas X (OK, we didn’t talk about this but the video came out between recording and release so we’re including it here)
How The Good Place taught moral philosophy to its characters — and its creator by Dylan Matthews for Vox
Bonus content at our official website: Exactly how to organize your Slack sidebar + the screenshots of Rachel’s inbox labels.

How to Throw a Better Party—During the Pandemic, or Whenever Sep 09, 2021

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Resources and reading about current events:

Thanks to the pandemic, gathering with others, whether for social or professional reasons, has become complicated, overwhelming, and fraught. But when we read The Art of Gathering, which was published in 2019, we both realized that author Priya Parker’s guidance and expertise means it doesn’t really have to be any of those things. And in fact, hosting gatherings that are special, enriching, and enjoyable is actually possible, even during the pandemic. We decided to prove it in this episode by planning a pretend (small, outdoor, vaccinated) party.

Things we talked about:

The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
The New Rules of Gathering (Priya Parker’s free gathering planning guide)
Just a Bunch of East Ways to Make Vaxxed Hangouts Safer in the Delta Era by Rachel Wilkerson Miller for VICE
The Design Sprint by Google Ventures
19 Unforgettable Ways to Make Up for Lost Time With Friends This Summer by Amy Rose Spiegel for VICE
Meme declares it's finally fall, now you 'can really start dressin' by Nicole Gallucci for Mashable
Untold: Malice at the Palace on Netflix
Untold: Deal With the Devil on Netflix (content note: this documentary includes graphic discussion of intimate partner violence)
WEATHER IS HAPPENING (on Twitter @WEATHERISHAPPEN)

Poetry for Children and Slobs Aug 12, 2021

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Poetry can be really delightful, but it can also feel really inaccessible. In this episode, we talked about our favorite poems, how to discover poems you love (and disregard everything else tbh), and then how to find poems that fit your specs. Stick around after the outro to hear our editor Lucas reading some selections.

Things we talked about:

The Anti-Sleep Routine That’s Actually Helped My Insomnia by Terri Pous for Apartment Therapy
The mockingbird that humiliated Sally on her own front porch
Verse Daily
r/Poetry
PoetryFoundation.org
Matthew Ogle’s poetry newsletter Pome
stacy-marie ishmael, whose newsletter The Main Event, often includes poetry
Poetry Rx: There Are Enough Ballrooms in You by Sarah Kay for the Paris Review
The Ultimate List of (Non-Cheesy) Wedding Poems by Najva Sol for A Practical Wedding
Are You Using a Poem in Your Wedding? by Emily Threlkeld for A Practical Wedding
Japanese Death Poems: Written by Zen Monks and Haiku Poets on the Verge of Death by Yoel Hoffmann
Devotions: The Selected Poems of Mary Oliver by Mary Oliver
Dew point versus humidity
Weather Time Machine: Old ships' logs are giving scientists new insights into the past and future of the earth's changing climate by Feilding Cage for Reuters

Rachel’s favorite poems:

The Orange by Wendy Cope
Differences of Opinions by Wendy Cope
Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell by Marty McConnell
On This the 100th Anniversary of the Sinking of the Titanic, We Reconsider the Buoyancy of the Human Heart by Laura Lamb Brown-Lavoie

Sally’s favorite poems:

Por que cantamos/Why We Sing by Mario Benedetti
Poem (The day gets slowly started) by James Schuyler
Resolution # 1,003 by June Jordan

Poems read by Lucas after the outro:

Banyan by Mary Oliver
A selection of Japanese death poems from here

It's Summertime!! [Upside Down Smiley Face Emoji] Jul 29, 2021

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Summer is the time of year when we’re all supposed to be footloose and fancy-free, cavorting in the sunshine and enjoying all kinds of outdoor social activities. But for some of us, summer is about making it through three or so months of being extremely sweaty, having to decide between clothing that’s functional or stylish, and feeling immense pressure to be social. No matter what your feelings are about summertime, this episode is for you because we’re sharing the things and strategies that help us get the most out of this season.

Things we talked about:

How to Have a Great Summer if You Hate Summer by Rachel for Vice
Weather apps, like OILT faves AccuWeather and Weather Strip
Rachel’s beach tent
Rachel’s preferred brand of beach chair
Peppermint Cooling & Reviving Spray from The Body Shop
Sex and the City and Us: How Four Single Women Changed the Way We Think, Live, and Love by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong
Calamine spray
Moisture-wicking socks and underwear
Aloe vera with lidocaine
Sally’s portable USB-charging pedestal fan

Queer Faves Grab Bag Jul 01, 2021

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We recorded this episode at the end of June, so we decided to talk a bit more about more of our queer (and queer-themed) faves. We have a ton of book recommendations to share, some podcasts to check out, a few video games, and a handful of queer miscellany.

Things we talked about:

Reading list: Pride edition by Rachel for her blog Just Good Shit
67 of the Best Queer Books of 2020 by Casey for Autostraddle
Does the Dog Die, the site that warns people about distressing scenes in movies (like whether an LGBTQ person dies or the movie contains homophobic slurs)
13 Queer Books To Read at the Beach, Pool, or Wherever You Are This Summer by S. Bear Bergman for Vice
Casey McQuiston Will Remind You What It Feels Like to Be Alive by Nolan Feeney for The Cut
Books and things to read
- Beebo Brinker by Ann Bannon
- The Killer Wore Leather by Laura Antoniou
- One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston
- Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson
- Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons by John Paul Brammer
- Valley of the Dolls by Jacqueline Susann
- In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado
- Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters
- On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong
- Something to Talk About by Meryl Wilsner
- The poem “Warming Her Pearls” by Carol Ann Duffy
Podcasts
- The Bright Sessions
- Sweetbitter
- The Nancy episode “Return to Ring of Keys”
- The You’re Wrong About episode “The Stonewall Uprising”
- The You’re Wrong About episode “Kitty Genovese and ‘Bystander Apathy’”
Instagram accounts
Video games
- Gone Home
- The Walking Dead by Telltale Games
- Life is Strange and Life is Strange: Before the Storm
- The Last of Us: Left Behind
- The Last of Us Part II
Queer grab bag
- Ash + Chess
- Automic Gold
- The newsletter Paging Dr. Lesbian
- Autostraddle
r/HobbyDrama
Peaches

Carol, Bound, and Other Queer Movies Worth Your Time Jun 17, 2021

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We decided to keep the Pride-themed conversation rolling, and this time around we discuss our favorite movies (and one episode of TV) that feature queer characters, queer love/romance, and queer stories. We cover ‘90s indie movies, sweet romcoms, cult hits, period dramas, and a lot more.

Things we talked about:

Queer movies/things to watch

All Over Me
Ammonite
Bound
Carol
Happiest Season
Moonlight
Mosquita y Mari
Portrait of a Lady on Fire
“San Junipero” (Black Mirror S3, E4)
Saving Face
Showgirls
Steven Universe (the movie)
The Half of It
The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls In Love
The Watermelon Woman
You Don’t Nomi

Queer miscellany

Rachel’s T-shirt that pays homage to Gina Gershon’s Showgirls character Cristal Connors
The Bury Your Gays trope
Queer women have been killed on television for decades. Now The 100's fans are fighting back. by Caroline Framke for Vox
The SNL skit “Lesbian Period Drama”
The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time by Drew Gregory for Autostraddle

Homosexual Tendencies (Let’s Talk About Pride!) Jun 03, 2021

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Every year when June rolls around, a whole bunch of conversations continue and other ones begin anew—conversations about identity, representation, safety, freedom, liberation, and…rainbow-colored corporate logos. So we decided to jump right into a few of those topics, and share our thoughts on things like cops at Pride (no), kink at Pride (yes), what it means to show up as an “ally,” and more.

Things we talked about:

A couple of social media posts about Pride merch (like this one and this one)
This mask chain from Shopbizla on Etsy
PictureThis plant identifying app
A Misstep by the Organizers of Pride by the NYT Editorial Board (we’re not linking)
“No Cops at Pride”: How the Criminal Justice System Harms LGBTQ People by Melanie Langness and Gabriella Velasco
The rise of anti-trans "radical" feminists, explained by Katelyn Burns for Vox

Mailbag Vol. 1: Friendship Questions May 20, 2021

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A quick note from us: When we recorded this episode, Israel was five days into its violent offensive on Gaza. Since then Israel’s aggression has only escalated, killing as of this writing, more than 200 hundred Palestinians. Hamas rockets have killed about 10 Israelis. Please check out the resources below and join us in supporting human rights for Palestinians, an end to the occupation, and a free Palestine.

A Guide To the Current Crisis in Israel/Palestine from Jewish Currents
Decolonize Palestine, an independent, self-funded project founded by two Palestinians living in Ramallah
Difficult Conversations about Israel and Palestine from Jewish Voice for Peace
The Hundred Years' War on Palestine: A History of Settler Colonialism and Resistance, 1917–2017 by Rashid Khalidi

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In this episode, we answer your questions about friendship. We talk about how to deal when you don’t like your friend’s partner, how and when to have courageous conversations, and dealing with unwanted vaccination advice from friends. We weren’t able to get to all of the awesome questions we got, so we will definitely be recording a second installment!

Things we talked about:

“I’m Sorry If You Felt…”: A Guide to Good Apologies May 06, 2021

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In this episode, we talk all about how to construct apologies that sincerely express empathy, regret for having messed up, and a promise to do better in the future. Once you’ve taken the time to really think about what you’re saying and why you’re saying it, offering a solid apology isn’t so elusive. We also talk about getting better at receiving apologies, an oft-overlooked aspect of the apology process.

P.S. On an upcoming episode we will be answering your questions about friendships—starting them, ending them, maintaining them, etc. If you have a question or need advice (or want to hear our thoughts about being or having a friend in 2021), we want you to ask us.

Email us your question at OhILikeThatpod@gmail.com. Or you can record a voice memo and send that to us at OhILikeThatpod@gmail.com, and we will play your memo in the episode. Just make sure you tell us your name (and if you’re writing in, please let us know how to pronounce it) and your pronouns.

If you want to submit a question anonymously or would like to send us a voice memo but not have it played on the air, just let us know that too!

Things we talked about:

How to apologize Like a Goddamn Adult by Sally for BuzzFeed
The Five Ingredients of an Effective Apology by Guy Winch, PhD
Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner
The Apology Language Quiz
The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas
The 5 Love Languages
Boring Books for Bedtime podcast
Everyday Dinners: Real-Life Recipes to Set Your Family Up for a Week of Success: A Cookbook by Jessica Merchant

Send Us Your Questions About Friendships! Apr 29, 2021

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On an upcoming episode, we will be answering your questions about friendships—starting them, ending them, maintaining them, etc. If you have a question or need advice (or want to hear our thoughts about being or having a friend in 2021), we want you to ask us.

If you want to submit a question anonymously or would like to send us a voice memo but not have it played on the air, just let us know that too!