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A Life Update: Grad School, LA & What I Learned This Summer Sep 17, 2026

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#264. Unfortunately, summer is coming to an end (though I'm not ready to admit it). Nonetheless, we have a lot to catch up on. I'm going through the whole summer — France, Texas, Joe's season, Los Angeles, Georgetown, the National Security Summit — plus what this fall looks like heading into the hardest course of my program. I also have some news about the show.

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The Oxytocin Menu, Explained: What Your Nervous System Actually Wants Sep 10, 2026

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#263. Everyone's talking about the oxytocin menu, so this week I'm building mine — with a very honest look at what the research actually supports. Built like the dopamine menu, this episode includes Oxytocin appetizers through specials: the 20-second hug, the long phone call, the standing weekly thing.

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Beauty Maxxing: the Good, the Bad, & the Ugly, with Caroline Stern Sep 03, 2026

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#262. We’re talking about the realities of Beauty Maxxing, the good & the bad, with Caroline Stern. In this episode, we are sharing procedures we’ve undergone, what we regret, and touch on the emotional side of beauty maxxing and the desire to change yourself. How far is too far? What is worth the price? Where does one draw the line? All in this episode of Note to Self.

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My Best Friends Host My Podcast: a Life Update with 3 Way (ft. Emon & Kristen) Aug 27, 2026

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#261. Kristen went on a date with her task rabbit. Emon can’t stop talking about 4d movies and her nemesis from 2nd grade. Your favorite girls from the now-defunct 3 Way podcast are back on the mic for a few very important life updates.

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ASK P: some tough-love advice from your stand-in big sister Aug 20, 2026

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#260. The men are not alright in today’s installment of ASK P. We’re talking about relationships, post-college life, guy friends & beyond this week.

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What I Needed to Give Up in Order to Gain Peace (*somewhat controversial) Aug 13, 2026

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#259. A re-release of a favorite, Things I Left Behind to Gain Peace, and some of these may be rather controversial. In every era of my life, whenever I notice I’m a little on-edge, I realize I’m more often in need of releasing what doesn’t suit me rather than adding to my life. What are you releasing in this era?

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How Hard Can It Be? Boys Do It — & Other Musings with MadsMitch Aug 06, 2026

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#258. Maddy has been one of my favorite people to follow on socials for years, so when I found out we were crossing paths in Los Angeles, I had to have her on NTS. We’re chatting about her fresh (somewhat traumatizing?) start in LA, the parts of going viral nobody posts about, why we’ve both decided we need significantly more whimsy, our correct opinions, and so much more.

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The Return of the Party Girl Jul 30, 2026

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#257. Why is the party girl suddenly everywhere again? This week I trace the shift from clean girl and tradwife aesthetics to a messier, freer moment — the culture, the politics, the history of partying through hard times — plus the party girl commandments and my hoe theory.

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The Non-Linear Career: How to Build Credibility, Wealth, and a Life You Love, with Kira Mackenzie Jackson Jul 23, 2026

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#256. I'm sitting down with brand strategist, angel investor, and Material Interest writer Kira Mackenzie Jackson to talk about building credibility and wealth when your career doesn't follow a straight line. We get into following a "random" interest until it becomes real expertise, the entry-level truth about angel investing, and Kira's rule for balancing consistency with the innovation that keeps you feeling alive — plus honest talk on motherhood and building an ambitious career that still leaves room for a life.

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