Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

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Releasing Perfectionism & Showing Up Imperfectly Instead Sep 07, 2022

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Why do we deny ourselves the grace we offer others? What makes us so “special” that we don’t deserve it, too?

In today’s episode, I open up about the depths of my struggle with perfectionism. And I share how I’ve unpacked my ideas of “good work” and “success” to keep doing my work, even when its not perfect.

Tune in to hear more about…

The idea of “terminal specialness” and why we deny ourselves the grace we offer others
How perfectionism becomes interwoven with professionalism
My personal Bad Place scenario that’s forced me to reevaluate what “good work” means to me
Why burnout is not a moral failing
The audacity & authenticity of showing up imperfectly

This episode is great for anyone who feels pressure to be perfect. Listen in if you want support releasing perfectionism and giving yourself permission to be who and how you actually are.
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Living a Small & Delicious Life with Carmen Spagnola Aug 24, 2022

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How do we balance hope and despair, expansion and collapse, survival and rest?

In today’s episode, Carmen Spagnola joins me to discuss how she cultivates a small and delicious life in the face of collapse. Together we explore the realities of not being able to meet all our needs, what happens when we’re under-resourced (and what happens when we’re ecologically resourced), and the paradigm shifts we need around needs.

Carmen Spagnola is a Le Cordon Bleu-trained chef turned trauma recovery practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist, and kitchen witch. As a chef, author, and facilitator, Carmen holds space for renewal amidst turmoil. Her work is an invitation to re-enchantment, soul nourishment, and a deeper and more animistic relationship to the natural world. She provides frameworks and skills to create cultures of collective care in precarious times.

Tune in to hear more about…

Sitting with your needs when they can’t be met
Finding hope & feeling despair in our collapsing world
Taking care of ourselves in survival moments
Attachment theory and how we approach our needs
Recognizing yourself as part of an ecosystem

Hang with Carmen...

Find Carmen on Instagram
Visit Carmen’s website
Listen to Carmen’s podcast, The Numinous Podcast
Buy Carmen’s book, The Spirited Kitchen: Recipes & Rituals for the Wheel of the Year

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You Don’t Have to Be Mean to Yourself Aug 10, 2022

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I recently received an email from a Needy listener who wrote, “We’re taught that being mean to ourselves will make it better. But it hasn’t worked. One day we’ll unlearn it…maybe.”

So in today’s episode, I’m talking about our combative relationships with ourselves, and how we can unlearn being mean to ourselves by practicing self-trust.

Tune in to hear more about…

Why being mean to ourselves doesn’t help us grow
Why self-trust is the antidote to self-cruelty
My new vision for trustworthiness, where we don’t compare ourselves to machines
How to develop a relationship with yourself that allows your humanity in, rather than holding your humanity at bay
Why failure is important for developing self-trust
Making space for the grief that comes when you unlearn what you’ve been taught

This is a tender episode that’s great for anyone who struggles with their inner critic. Listen in if you want support unlearning negative self-talk, turning toward yourself with grace, and accepting your needs.

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Making Things that Feel Good to Make with Nicole Antoinette Jul 27, 2022

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How do we find our way forward when we don’t have role models or road maps?

In today’s episode, Nicole Antoinette joins me to discuss how she cultivates a perpetual conversation with herself. Together we explore the pressure to conform our creativity & our careers to societal expectations, the guilt that arises around meeting our needs, and the release of letting something end.

Nicole Antoinette is totally obsessed with the question of how we close the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do—without being assholes to ourselves along the way. She works as a community-funded writer (Wild Letters) and podcast host (The Pop-Up Pod), and facilitates a variety of retreats and co-working groups. Offline you can probably find Nicole in the mountains—she's a long-distance hiker with 4,700 miles of experience who loves nothing more than sitting in the dirt and eating her favorite snacks after a full day of putting one foot in front of the other.

Tune in to hear more about…

Cultivating community and digital intimacy
Struggling to find role models for honoring desire and working differently
Having honest conversations with ourselves
Learning to quit negotiating with our needs
Accepting how our needs shift and change
Championing more graceful endings

Hang with Nicole:

Find Nicole on Instagram
Visit Nicole’s website
Listen to Nicole’s podcast, The Pop-Up Pod
Buy Nicole’s new trail journal, What We Owe to Ourselves

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Making Sustainable Commitments & Finding the Support You Need Jul 13, 2022

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How can we have energy for the things we want to prioritize without burning out because we’ve prioritized too many things?
In today’s episode, I talk about making sustainable commitments and how to decide what to devote your precious resources to. This is an invitation to say no more often, and a lesson in how to identify your priorities so saying yes feels better than ever.
I also get really honest about why I re-committed to the Needy podcast after a year-long hiatus, and how I’m applying these lessons to the return of the show so it can be sustainable now and in the future.
Tune in to hear more about…

Three signs that a commitment is unsustainable
How to figure out what to say no to & what to say yes to
The magical thinking that we can do everything (hint: we can’t)
Identifying what you need to make good on your commitments
The Needy podcast hiatus & our recent comeback (now with more support!)
Your invitation to join The Needy Podcast Inner Circle!

This episode also marks the launch of The Needy Podcast Inner Circle! If you love this show and want to support me in producing it sustainably, please consider making a one-time or monthly donation of any amount to join the Needy Inner Circle. You’ll get delicious treats, discounts for future offerings, quarterly Q&As with me, and more as thanks for your support. Join now and receive instant access to the recording of my beloved workshop, Your To-Do List Makeover.

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Mothering & Re-Mothering Ourselves with Sarah Durham Wilson Jun 29, 2022

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Where are you in the journey from maiden to mother to mature feminine? How do you know where you are or want to be?

In today’s episode, Sarah Durham Wilson joins me to unpack her evolution from maiden to mother and share how she tends to her needs as she creates rites of passage for women all over the world.

Sarah Durham Wilson is a women’s Rites of Passage Leader and Writer. Her offerings are rooted in Archetypal Mother work and resurrecting the Rite of Passage from Maiden to Mother. She has taught courses and led retreats for thousands of women over the past decade and works with private clients. Her first book, Maiden to Mother is out with Sounds True Publishing in June 2022.

Tune in to hear more about…

Longing for the rest and the play of mystery
Mothering & re-mothering our children, our creations & our selves
Rites for passage for moving from Maiden to Mother to Mature Feminine
Mara’s affirmation “I am the woman for the job”
Honoring your capacity as a human and a mother
The challenges of the book-writing process & the music that nurtured our books
Control & spontaneity in our daily routines
Meeting our needs to heal our wounds

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Quitting All-Or-Nothing Thinking & Prioritizing Your Needs Jun 15, 2022

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The Needy podcast is back! A year since our last episode! HI!!

Do you ever find yourself thinking “I’ll do that that thing I want when the world gets back to normal…” Or “I’ll finally create my book/podcast/business when my life isn’t so messy…” Or even “I’ll spend time with my spouse once our kids are out of the house…”?

In today’s episode, I talk about how all-or-nothing thinking gets in the way of fulfilling our needs. I break down why postponing our dreams until the timing is right or the situation is better or the opportunity is perfect will never bring us the life we want. And I talk about how to begin doing what is doable, so you can have the life you want and need now, not when things are more convenience/easy/better/perfect.

Tune in to hear more about…

What all-or-nothing thinking is and how it harms us
The many ways we compartmentalize our lives and defer our desires
How to quit “wouldn’t it be nice…” thought patterns
How to figure out what you need & do what’s doable today

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On Opting Out & Building Self-Trust with Cait Flanders Jun 15, 2021

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Making decisions that are right and true for ourselves can feel like a sticky, uncomfortable process. What does it actually look like to go through the emotional ups and downs of deciding to live life differently than anyone you know?
Today’s guest, Cait Flanders, is here to share her experience. She is normalizing what it looks like to opt-out of traditional expectations and live a creative and intentional life.
Cait Flanders is the author of Wall Street Journal bestseller, THE YEAR OF LESS. Described by Vogue as “a fascinating look into a living experiment that we can all learn from,” it has been translated into 10 languages, and sold more than 190,000 copies. Her new book, ADVENTURES IN OPTING OUT, is a field guide to opting out of expectations, changing paths, and leading a more intentional life. Powell’s Books says it, “offers a sturdy and flexible framework to navigate whatever path you are currently on.”
In our conversation, Cait shares all about her experiences of opting out, growth and learning through experimentation, and working through the fear of trying something new. Whether you’re on the precipice of making a change or have walked this path many times before, Cait’s insightful stories will broaden your opting-out plans.
Tune in to hear more about:

Why it’s not so simple to choose differently
How to be less precious about your process, even though you don’t know where it will take you
Why a contemplation period before opting out can feel longer than you think it should (and why that’s totally normal!)
The squirmy process of actively standing up for yourself and your decisions
Navigating relationships as you opt in to the life you want
Why you don’t need a “big picture” vision for your life to live more intentionally
And why you’re never too small (or young, or old, or alone, or whatever) to make big decisions for your own life

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2021 is Not Over Yet Jun 07, 2021

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Do you routinely set resolutions for yourself in January, only to completely lose track (and steam) by March? Does it feel like 2021 is FLYING BY and you've been considering waiting until 2022 to finally get down to creating the life you've been wanting for yourself? Do you keep pushing your care off to next week, hoping it will be better, but that time never seems to come? This episode is for you.
Join me to dismantle the cycle that keeps your goals in limbo and your care relegated to the very last spot on your to-do list (if it appears there at all). Traditional resolution and goal setting doesn't include mechanisms that account for your humanity and daily needs. We are not taught how to make tandem commitments to ourselves rooted in WHAT WE NEED in order to make good on our promises. Instead, we are urged to push through and work harder -- only to get us stuck in deep bouts of burnout. Today's episode describes a different model for being in relationship with yourself and your desires, so that you are able to stop focusing on things that don't matter and start fueling your self-trust through consistent, inspired action.
Tune in to hear more about…

What setting resolutions on January has to do with diet culture
How to stop internalizing your exhaustion as personal failure
The steps to cultivating living, breathing goals that grow with you over the course of the year
What self-trust has to do with taking empowered action in your life

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Recovering from People Pleasing with Johannah Bogart Jun 01, 2021

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As a recovering people-pleaser myself, I am so delighted to bring you my conversation with Johanna Bogart.
Johannah is an internationally recognized coach for people pleasers, certified in trauma-informed care and by Erickson Coaching International. She studied sociology and comparative sexuality studies at the Ohio State University while managing projects for Amnesty International and Greenpeace. She’s worked as a Therapeutic Recreation Specialist at a foster care agency in the Bronx and as an Advocate Counselor in Brooklyn. Her work offers a unique blend of practical tools, spiritual integration, and social justice framework so that you can unhook from everything that has power over you and live as a sovereign being.
In today’s episode, Johanna shares all about navigating the world as a (recovering) people pleaser, the tension of both wanting to protect ourselves and wanting to be seen and known, and the power of claiming allegiance to yourself. We jam on about how people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency keep us small and from having our needs met -- even though (and especially) because they are valiant attempts to get our needs met in our relationships. Tune in to hear us explore what belonging to yourself can truly look and feel like and micro steps for becoming aligned with your truth.

Tune in to hear us explore:

What belonging to yourself can truly look and feel like
Navigating your vulnerability armor and how to stop being a damsel in distress
Telling the truth and renegotiating relationship contracts
Allowing people to really know you and support you
How you may be in a codependent relationship with yourself (and questions to ask yourself to shift from enabling to empowering)
A micro step for becoming aligned with your truth
How to stop being hypersensitive to how other people feel (hint: your feelings are yours, theirs are theirs)