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How Narcissistic Parents Create Battle of the Sexes. Sep 17, 2019

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Narcissistic parents cannot love their children because they do not love themselves. Children of narcissist will see this lack of love as an indication that they are unlovable. They will scapegoat flaws and differences as cause not realizing that the true cause is the lack of love. Extreme shame specifically around sexuality begins to make one feel inadequate as their specific gender. In “Trauma and it’s effect on Sexual identity” I discuss how the sexual self is not able to develop due to insufficient relationship blueprint and mirroring of healthy sexuality. Partners in adulthood are going to most usually trigger this shamed sexuality and underdeveloped sexual self creating a distortion that all men if your a woman or all woman if your a man are evil, bad, the enemy you name it. This creates an impossible double bind where the individual is attracted to the opposite sex but also abhored by the shame their partner makes them feel. Because communication of the cause never happens (this would take rigorous self reflection and healing of sexual identity) frustration, hate and anger is projected on to the sexuality of their partner or of the opposite sex in general. For narcissistic abusers, sex becomes a conquest. No vulnerability. Just a winner and a lose with the winner taking control. Sex becomes a proxy for dominance which is a way of protecting from inner sexual shame, body shame, performance shame etc. It all comes back to shame and the underdeveloped self. This makes one feel small, humiliated, worthless and never good enough for the opposite sex leading to the hate and rage towards them. Parents who don’t reflect and mirror back to the child a sexual self will cause this damage which will wreak havoc on adult intimate lives. To solve, one must heal one’s perceptions of sex, one’s sexual identity, and woman/ men. Heal the self and resolve the shame around this subject and learn to live one’s diffences, perceived flaws and sexual difference without self destructing and shaming oneself.

Self Reflection - Self Correction Sep 16, 2019

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In order to heal after abuse it is vital that one takes responsibility for the wounds, Personality flaws, brokenness and inner dysfunction as without doing so it will lead to chaos in personal relationship with self and others. Self reflection includes facing one’s shame and guilt as well as developmental traumas that are not healed.

How Trauma Creates a Distorted Lens of Perception Sep 15, 2019

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When a child is traumatized they will have extreme emotional reaction. These reactions become overwhelming and will create a distortion of the child’s reality. The Amygdala, the emotional brain, will be on overdrive and since children identify with their emotions they will believe that these feelings are the basis of their reality. This distorted the cognitions of the child making it difficult to see reality from a lens that is accurate and healthy.

Smothering Sep 14, 2019

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Smothering happens when a person is controlled, manipulated, or abused most commonly found in victims of narcissistic abuse. Because of its subtle nature of this abuse it may be difficult to identify that it is abuse. It is imperative to heal this wound as with our doing so it can cause unhealthy, codependent and enmeshing dysfunctional relationships later on life.

Grieving After Narcissistic Abuse Sep 12, 2019

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Narcissistic abuse is often difficult to identify but when does there will an initial shock. This shock will be followed by stages of grief that mirror a death. In reality, coming out of a narcissistically abusive relationship is similar to a death. The loss of one’s innocence, love, time, dreams, and opportunities will need to be grieved properly in order to heal and create a healthier future.

Childhood Programming Sep 11, 2019

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Children will learn in childhood how to see themselves and relate to themselves and others based on how they were treated and perceived by primary caregivers. This becomes a program and an operating system which is the blueprint for how the individual will operate in adulthood effecting virtually every aspect of their lives. If the programming is faulty or abusive then it will lead to breakdowns , self sabotage and potentially abuse. In order to correct a faulty programming it is important to face one’s inner landscape of beliefs, emotions, and thoughts in order to challenge the lies and shift into a healthier and more sustainable way of operating.

Alignment and Authenticity as a Form of Healing Sep 10, 2019

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When a person is aligned with their authentic self they are at peace. Most mental disease stems from being out of alignment. This is usually because of pressures from parents, family, and society to adopt a false version of themselves in order to fit it and survive. In order to align one must face their painful tiers that they have been avoiding which may include severe abuse that happened at the hands of those trusted in early childhood.

Breakdown/Breakthrough Sep 09, 2019

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Breakdowns in life which include lost jobs, broken relationships and feeling isolated are all potential opportunities to break through into a higher level of awareness and self love. Victims of sever abuse will often have their faulty childhood programming fall apart feeling out of control and at a loss. When this happens it is an opportunity to awaken to one’s true essence and higher purpose otherwise known as a spiritual awakening.

Emasculated Male Narcissists Sep 08, 2019

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Narcissistic mothers are extremely smothering. With a weak dad, the son of these mothers will come to enmesh and rely on their mother even into adulthood. With no ability to develop a healthy ego and a sense of self, the suffering male will look for female partners who are similar to their mother and look to take revenge on their female partners for what their mother did to them. To heal from this type of enmeshment the individual suffering from extreme toxic shame will need to work to separate and individuate from mom and develop a healthy and assertive sense of self.

The Narcissists’ Perpetual State of Denial Sep 06, 2019

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Narcissistic abusers live in this state of denial and project the true and shamed aspects of themselves onto victims. This is done to remove these aspects of themselves by punishing and abusing victims for having these aspects. This defense mechanism is in order to never face reality and truth of their situation which includes a self that has been humiliated, shamed, guilted and abused.

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