Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Latest Episodes:

577 - Should You Push Through the “Ick”? Apr 28, 2026

Show notes

Have you ever felt the "Ick"? Maybe you were in the beginning stages of a relationship and still evaluating if you're attracted to someone, getting to know them, and maybe, just maybe, one day you feel the Ick.
Or maybe this is common for you; you get turned off by someone early on in a relationship and it's starting to feel like your standards are too high or like you can't find anyone you're into. This episode, we're diving into the scientific reasons we sometimes feel the Ick, sharing some personal stories, and how to work with your Ick response in an actionable way.

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

576 - In Praise of Indirect Communication: Is Directness Actually Superior? Apr 21, 2026

Show notes

Today we're going back to our roots and discussing communication again! We're diving into direct and indirect communication during this episode, and talking about high context versus low context communication, the cultural and neurological differences that various types of communication show up in, and more.
Direct communication is often hailed as the "better" form of communication, but we'll explore in this episode why that might not always be the case, and how to bridge the gap when different communication styles clash.

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

575 - I’ll Never Be Their First Priority: Listener Q&A Apr 14, 2026

Show notes

This week we're answering a question from a listener in another Q&A episode. We're going to be diving into feeling like you're never a priority for your partner, and what to do when you're kept a secret from friends and family.
If you'd like a question of yours answered on a future Q&A episode, visit multiamory.com/questions.

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

574 - How to Make Calendaring Not Suck Apr 07, 2026

Show notes

Today we're covering a topic that causes a lot of friction in a lot of relationships: scheduling. Sometimes, coordinating time with people we love - whether it's family, partners, or friends - feels impossible. And it turns out, it actually is impossible to do perfectly. We're going to be delving into why scheduling feels so terrible, some of the research that reveals what happens when couples share their calendars, and of course, some actionable ways to make calendaring more tolerable in the future.

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

573 - Is the Non-Monogamy in Vicky Cristina Barcelona Realistic? Film Critique with Love Factually Mar 31, 2026

Show notes

Today we're excited to be sharing an episode with Eli Finkel and Paul Eastwick of the Love Factually podcast! We're critiquing Vicky Cristina Barcelona's portrayal of non-monogamy and discussing the film as a whole.
Eli Finkel is a professor at Northwestern University, with appointments in the psychology department and the Kellogg School of Management. He also serves as a founding co-director of the Litowitz Center for Enlightened Disagreement and as the Morton O. Schapiro Fellow at the Institute for Policy Research. His research topics range from marriage to political partisanship. He is the author of The All-or-Nothing Marriage, a co-host of the Love Factually podcast, and a guest essayist for The New York Times. The Economist declared him “one of the leading lights in the realm of relationship psychology.”
Paul Eastwick is a Professor of Psychology at UC Davis and the author of the book "Bonded by Evolution" that offers an exciting new look at the science of attraction and compatibility.
Along with Eli Finkel, he hosts the podcast Love Factually where they analyze rom-coms and romantic dramas from the perspective of relationship science.

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

572 - Building Commitment Off the Relationship Escalator Mar 24, 2026

Show notes

Today we're talking about milestones in relationships, and how to build commitment when you're actively trying not to stay on the relationship escalator. We'll be discussing traditional milestones, why they're valued, how relationship milestones with one partner can affect other partners, and some of the research around jealousy and envy in these situations. We will also dive into some non-escalator milestones that you can consider for non-monogamous, escalator-free relationships, and going into the takeaways from the discussion at the end of the episode!

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

571 - They're Unwinding from Monogamy. Should I Wait Around? Listener Q&A Mar 17, 2026

Show notes

Today we're diving into a question from one of our listeners about partners who recently left monogamy and are still adjusting to stepping off of the relationship escalator.
If you want one of your questions answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a Supercast subscriber!

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

570 - Play as Resistance: featuring Gary Ware from Breakthrough Play and Normalizing Non-Monogamy Mar 10, 2026

Show notes

This week we're featuring an episode from our friends Emma and Fin at Normalizing Non-Monogamy with guests Gary Ware and our own Jase Lindgren! Emma, Fin, Gary, and Jase talk about play during this interview, how important it is for our health and wellbeing, and how to frame play as resistance in times of geopolitical upheaval.
Be sure to check out Normalizing Non-Monogamy's other episodes and take a look at Breakthrough Play at https://www.breakthroughplay.com/ to learn more about Gary.

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

569 - Why is Everyone So Tired of Dating? Mar 03, 2026

Show notes

Today we're tackling a concept that's on a lot of people's minds lately: burnout. Specifically, we'll be discussing dating burnout and fatigue, which seem to be rife on social media, dating apps, articles, what have you. We'll be diving into what the data says about the increase in dating apps, how it's creating fatigue across the dating community, and whether meeting online or organically is better. Lastly, we'll be deciding if we're doomed when it comes to dating, or are there actionable takeaways we can use to improve our dating experiences?
The research used in this episode can be found here:
https://medium.com/@metbynick/the-burnout-epidemic-how-dating-apps-are-adding-fuel-to-an-already-raging-fire-9f2d4a1555e8
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/31/well/mind/burnout-online-dating-apps.html
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/nearly-half-of-u-s-adults-say-dating-has-gotten-harder-for-most-people-in-the-last-10-years/
https://screenshot-media.com/the-future/dating/couples-meet-online-less-happy/
https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

568 - When You Want More Time But Your Partner Won’t Give It Feb 24, 2026

Show notes

Today we're talking about time, both quality and quantity of it, and what to do if you and your partner end up clashing over it. We're going to discuss some research about shared time together as well as some of the different types of time you could be lacking in your relationship. Whether you're dating someone busy or you're the one who struggles finding time for a partner, we'll have actionable tips about what to do and not do when having conflicts about time together.
Here's a handy PDF Guide for this episode: Episode 568 PDF Companion: What Type of Time Are You Craving?
If you'd like the PDF guide for this episode and you're not a subscriber yet, please join our community to enjoy bonuses like these, as well as ad-free episodes and early releases.
multiamory.com/join

Join our amazing community of listeners at ⁠multiamory.com/join and get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

Our TOPPODCAST Picks

Follow Us

Stay Connected

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Related Podcasts

Links

Stay Connected