More than Roommates

Latest Episodes:

Episode 83 - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage - Part 1 Jul 02, 2024

Show notes

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage and how this plays out in our marriages. This new episode will be helpful for your own marriage and as you seek to encourage friends in their marriages.

Scriptures:

Matthew 19:3-12

Genesis 2:18-25

Ephesians 5:22-33

1 Corinthians 7

2 Corinthians 6:14

Matthew 5:27-32

Questions to Discuss:

1. Have you ever studied and discussed with your spouse what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage?

2. What are some practical steps you can take to help strengthen your marriage proactively?

3. How can you do a better job of inviting others in to your conversations about your marriage?

Resources:

Podcast – More Than Roommates, Episode 3 – The Biblical Vision and Picture of Marriage

Episode 82 - How Does Work Affect Your Marriage? (feat. Jordan Raynor) Jun 25, 2024

Show notes

In this episode, Derek and Scott interview speaker and author, Jordan Raynor. Jordan is a leading voice of the faith and work movement, and in this episode we get very practical as we discuss the connection, challenges, and opportunities of work and marriage.

Questions for Discussion:

1. Spend some time thinking about Jordan’s statement – who do you do your work with?

2. How can you not let your work/jobs negatively affect your marriage and family?

3. How can you be fully present both at home AND at work?

Resources:

Books by Jordan Raynor – Redeeming Your Time, The Sacredness of Secular Work, The Word Before Work

Website – Jordanraynor.com

Jordan’s Podcast – Mere Christians

Book – Every Good Endeavor, by Tim Keller

Scripture:

Genesis 1:26-28

Revelation 21

Isaiah 65:17-23

Episode 81 - How To Grow In Emotional Intimacy (Part 2 In A Series) Jun 18, 2024

Show notes

In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already!

Scriptures:

Genesis 2:25

Galatians 6:2

Ephesians 5:31-32

Matthew 18:15-17

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Resources:

Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – Fully Known, Fully Loved

Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 64 - Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every Week

Book – Untangle Your Emotions, by Jennie Allen

Book – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip Dodd

Book - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley Willis

Questions to Discuss:

1. How do you handle an “emotional mismatch” in your marriage (when one more readily expresses/shares/shows their emotions)?

2. What prevents you from being emotionally intimate with your spouse (i.e., technology, invalidation)?

3. How can you create more time and space for emotional intimacy?

Episode 80 - Fully Known, Fully Loved (Part 1 in a series on emotional intimacy) Jun 11, 2024

Show notes

We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage.

Scriptures:

Genesis 2:25

2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Resources:

Book – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip Dodd

Book - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley Willis

3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse:

1. Is there anything that I’m holding back from or not confessing to my spouse?

2. How can we be more emotionally intimate with each other (i.e., clear out time and space for emotionally intimacy)?

3. Am I providing a safe space for my spouse?

Episode 79 - Is Drinking Good For Your Marriage? Jun 04, 2024

Show notes

Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol.

Scriptures:

John 2

1 Corinthians 6:12

1 Corinthians 10:31

Ephesians 5:18

Isaiah 5:22-23

Questions to Discuss:

1. When did you have your first alcoholic drink (if ever)?

2. How can you and your spouse be more thoughtful about alcohol and your marriage?

3. Have a conversation with your spouse and an age-appropriate conversation with your kids about alcohol.

Resources:

Christ-Centered Recovery - Regeneration Recovery & Celebrate Recovery

Substance Abuse Resources

Episode 78 - How Does Anger Affect Your Marriage? May 28, 2024

Show notes

Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well.

Scriptures:

Proverbs 15:1

Ephesians 4:26-27

Proverbs 21:19

James 1:19-20, 4:1

Questions to Discuss:

1. What are the small day-to-day things that get you frustrated?

2. Do you find yourself quick to anger or slow to anger? What would your spouse say about you?

3. What are the triggers that you’ve identified that make you quick to anger both in life in general and in your marriage?

Resources:

Book – Unoffendable, by Brant Hansen

Episode 77 - Struggles, Recovery, and Your Marriage (feat. Ann Daly) May 21, 2024

Show notes

Like it or not, our struggles affect our marriages more than we realize. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott talk with Ann Daly about struggles, recovery, and your marriage. Because of Jesus, life change is possible for everyone and for every marriage.

Scriptures:

James 5:16

Proverbs 28:13

Genesis 2:24

Galatians 1:10

Romans 5:3-5

1 Peter 4:19

Galatians 6:9

Hebrews 3:13

Resources:

Regeneration recovery – change is possible!

Regeneration Struggle Finder – What are you struggling with?

Celebrate Recovery

Questions to Discuss:

1. Do you tend to identify yourself by your sin or by your relationship with Jesus Christ?

2. How do your issues/challenges affect your marriage?

3. What lies do you tend to believe? Who does God say you are? (Replace the lies with Truth).

Episode 76 - Decisions We Make in Marriage That Might Seem Weird to the World May 14, 2024

Show notes

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss things we do that may seem weird to the world but allow us to be different in our marriages than the struggling marriages we all see around us. These are decisions we’ve each made that may seem unique but allow us to strengthen our marriages.

Scriptures:

Romans 12:2

1 Peter 2:11

Philippians 3:20-21

2 Timothy 2:4

Resources:

Podcast & Blog Post - 5 Weird Decisions that Make My Marriage Awesome

Questions to Discuss:

1. What are the things you do in your marriage that make you different than the marriages of the world? (Romans 12:2)

2. Where do you see your marriage blending in with the marriages of the world/non-Christian marriages?

3. Would your non-Christian friends look at your marriage and see something unique or different?

Episode 75 - Simple Ways to Build Culture In Your Marriage May 07, 2024

Show notes

Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet.

Scriptures:

Genesis 2:24-25

Revelation 2:4

Proverbs 5:18

Resources:

Blog Post - How Inside Jokes And Rituals Can Strengthen Your Marriage

Discussion Questions:

1. What are some of your inside jokes or rituals in your marriage?

2. How can you build the culture of your marriage? What are the things that are like glue that bond your marriage together?

Episode 74 - How To Fight Your Temptations Apr 30, 2024

Show notes

Everyone of us struggles with temptation—even Jesus faced temptations! What are the temptations we need to avoid that can wreck our marriage? And how is marriage uniquely designed so that we can help each other flee from temptations?

Scriptures:

Proverbs 5

Proverbs 18:8

Proverbs 13:20

1 Peter 1:16

Questions to Discuss:

1. What does it look like for you to flee from temptation?

2. What temptations do you face? How can your spouse help you?

3. How can you move the line, magnify the consequences, and map out your escape?

4. What would be helpful for you to confess to your spouse and to your community to help you with your temptations?

Resources:

Book - Think Ahead: 7 Decisions You Can Make Today for the God-Honoring Life You Want Tomorrow, by Craig Groeschel