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How To Overcome A Difficult Childhood - Vienna Pharaon - #790 May 30, 2024

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Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an author.

Learning to understand yourself can be the most powerful form of self-care. It helps you fix bad habits and improve your relationships with others. But how do you actually begin to understand who you are, and how do you start the process of becoming unstuck?

Expect to learn how to reconcile what you needed as a child emotionally but never actually got, where your patterns in life come from, why people have so much resistance around opening up about their past and their family, how to avoid getting stuck wallowing in your history, Vienna’s favourite questions people should ask of themselves, how you can unwind your patterns and much more...

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(00:00) The Unresolved Past (06:23) Why We Resist Opening Up About Our Past (11:22) The Bravery of Confronting Your Mistakes (14:53) Vienna’s Most Common Clientele (17:19) Reluctance to Being Up Issues With Parents (22:41) How Often You Need to Speak to People From Your Past (27:03) What If You Don’t Remember Much of Childhood? (30:44) Convincing Men to Be Vulnerable (33:23) What Do We Outsource Our Worth to? (37:55) Feeling a Sense of Authentic Belonging (42:30) Why You Don’t Feel Like a Priority to Others (45:20) How to Heal the Wound of Safety (55:20) Uncomfortable Questions to Ask Yourself (59:06) What Does Origin Healing Look Like? (01:06:14) Fixing Conflict, Communication & Boundaries (01:08:56) A Healthy Use of Boundaries (01:13:42) Can We Actually Correct Our Programming? (01:18:07) Giving Yourself More Compassion (01:19:20) Where to Find Vienna

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Why The World’s #1 Pickup Artist Left The Game Behind - Neil Strauss - #789 May 27, 2024

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Neil Strauss is a journalist, writer, and an author.

Neil was the world's most famous pickup artist who kickstarted much of the modern dating discourse. So looking back 20 years later, what has he come to realise about what really matters in life and how to find love and connection?

Expect to learn the trajectory of Neil’s views on relationships over the years, how Neil reflects on his book The Game, why Neil is having a baby with his ex-wife, what went wrong with the world of pickup, why faking status is not such a great idea, how to measure success in a relationship, how to rid yourself of other people’s expectations and much more...

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(00:00) Neil’s Perspective on Relationships (03:25) Co-Parents But Not Partners (11:23) Letting Go of the Pickup Artist Identity (18:38) Our Current Mating Culture (23:10) Priorities of the Black Pill Community (31:32) The Current State of Men’s Mental Health (42:36) Can You ‘Game’ Love? (50:17) Advice to People Failing to Connect (58:45) Three Steps to Resolve Your Past (01:08:00) Asking Why Emotions Arise (01:19:05) Chris’s Therapy Experience (01:25:50) Explaining Enmeshment (01:31:54) How to Know Who You Really Are (01:40:02) Becoming More Self-Compassionate (01:46:33) What’s Next for Neil

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

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How To Save Your Brain From The Dangers Of Stress & Anxiety - Mo Gawdat - #788 May 25, 2024

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Mo Gawdat is an entrepreneur, former Chief Business Officer at Google, and an author.

We often experience stress without knowing where it's coming from. Although we feel overwhelmed, we struggle to pinpoint the source. So how should we go about assessing our lives and reducing our stress?

Expect to learn why the modern world is so stressful for everyone, what Mo means when he says young people are comfortably numb, how to assess stress and where it is probably coming from, the things you’re not aware of which cause your emotional discomfort, the most important habits you should implement if you want to become peaceful and much more...

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(00:00) Why is the Modern World So Stressful? (09:19) Becoming Numb to Emotions (13:29) Different Responses to Stress (20:21) What Stress Does to Our Bodies (28:19) Removing Unnecessary Suffering (35:01) Tips to Build a Gratitude Routine (40:25) Knowing When to Slow Down (47:10) The Hidden Causes of Emotional Stress (59:16) Commonalities in the Happiest People (01:05:18) The Role of Physical Stress (01:13:39) What Does Spiritual Stress Mean? (01:22:21) Advice to Those Who Don’t Want to Change (01:26:45) Where to Find Mo

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

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The Surprising Solutions To Heal Trauma Without Medication - Bessel van der Kolk - #787 May 23, 2024

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Bessel van der Kolk is a psychiatrist, researcher, and an author.

Trauma is often discussed as a mental and psychological issue. But what if it affects more than just the mind? What does it mean if your body is holding onto trauma, and how might these memories manifest outside of our brains?

Expect to learn what is meant by the body keeping the score, what is wrong with the traditional way we talk about trauma, how you can learn to be more self compassionate, how trauma manifests and masks itself as illnesses, the best therapies and modalities for understanding and releasing trauma and much more...

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(00:00) Do We Think About Trauma Wrong? (03:56) Link Between Trauma & Chronic Stress (07:28) Why Trauma Causes Us to Shield Ourselves (12:41) How to Not Be at the Mercy of Your Feelings (21:34) Does Trauma Make Us More Vulnerable to Future Trauma? (26:48) Tips to Being More Self-Compassionate (33:58) How Trauma Manifests as Illness (38:32) Principles for Treating Trauma (50:49) Opening Up to Other People (01:01:40) What Bessel is Excited About (01:04:38) Bessel’s New Book (01:05:04) Where to Find Bessel

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠

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Why Are Differences Between Men & Women Being Denied? - Steve Stewart-Williams - #786 May 20, 2024

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Steve Stewart-Williams is an evolutionary psychologist, a professor and an author.

If you follow the thread of evolution long enough, you see that humans are simply a product of adaptations. So why are humans so peculiar? Does everything we do have a rational explanation, or are there aspects of our lives and psychology we have yet to understand?

Expect to learn how aliens would view our species if they were observing from above, what most people get wrong about understanding sex differences, Steve’s best explanation for the gender equality paradox, why humans have such strange sexual desires, why men tend to insult their intimate partners, how to deal with the discomfort of learning evolutionary psychology, my spicy new theory on dysgenic gene erosion and much more...

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(00:00) The Evolutionary Role of Culture (05:03) We Are Born to Maximise Grandchildren (11:40) What Most People Get Wrong About Sex Differences (16:27) How Men & Women Feel Jealousy Differently (20:15) Why Women Have Concealed Ovulation (26:05) Role of Socialisation in Sex Differences (38:15) Did Ancient Men Actually Do More of the Hunting? (42:57) The Paradox of Gender Equality (49:51) Our Ancestral Mating Setup (59:23) The Bizarre Way to Predict Mating Preferences (01:03:16) The Mutual Mate Choice Model (01:09:24) Why Some Men Insult Intimate Partners (01:12:30) Applying EvPsych Into Daily Life (01:23:03) Do Common Mutations Occur in Different Generations? (01:29:19) Where to Find Steve

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠

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The Reality Of What It Takes To Become A Better Man - Jimmy Rex - #785 May 18, 2024

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Jimmy Rex is a mens work coach, author and a podcaster.

What does it mean to be a better man today? Is it driving a Bugatti? Praying to God? Making a lot of money? Building a family? Turning into a monk? The options are endless, so are there any underlying principles which can help guide your way?

Expect to learn what it means to be a healthy authentic man, the problems most men struggle with, how more men can learn to face their fears, what it means to be a warrior and give full devotion, the role of friendships in the modern world, why no one talks about love anymore and much more...

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(00:00) Overcomplicating Masculinity (07:10) Feeling Safe as Men & Women (12:00) Most Common Struggles of Men (20:35) Is Shame Harmful? (25:07) Feeling Comfortable in Your Own Skin (35:08) Why So Many People Are Cynical (38:16) Biggest Lessons From Coaching (46:22) Balancing High Standards & Gratitude (58:39) The Role of Fear in a Man’s Life (01:04:38) How Important is Community? (01:08:15) How to Be More Decisive (01:19:50) The Decline of Alcohol Issues (01:27:14) Advice for Becoming More Present (01:31:38) The Stories You Tell Yourself (01:37:26) Having Devotion in Your Life (01:41:37) Where to Find Jimmy

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠

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Why $1,000,000,000 Won’t Make You Happy - Robin Sharma - #784 May 16, 2024

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Robin Sharma is a leadership expert, motivational speaker and an author.

Often we tell ourselves, ‘Once I make X amount of money then I’ll be free to enjoy my life. However, when we reach that milestone, the fulfillment we hoped for isn’t always there. So what is the key to finding happiness in life while also achieving material success?

Expect to learn the types of wealth that money can't buy and how to cultivate them, what true wealth looks like, how to ensure you are choosing the path that’s best for you personally and financially, if you actually have to become rich before changing your focus to other leisure activities, what you should be auditing every day to make sure you are aligned in life and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) What Does True Wealth Look Like? (08:26) Biggest Misconceptions on Personal Growth (13:48) The Messiness of Deep Growth (17:16) Best Strategies for Wellness (26:13) Healthy Relationships With Partner & Family (35:01) Finding Pleasure in Your Craft (51:31) The Howard Hughes Money Trap (01:01:01) Building a Community of Friends (01:06:05) The Importance of Mentors & Adventures (01:16:29) Where to Find Robin

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

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Is Ozempic A Miracle Weight Loss Drug Or A Secret Killer? - Johann Hari - #783 May 13, 2024

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Johann Hari is a journalist, a writer and an author.

From fad diets and fasting to vibrating plates, the quest for easier weight loss has been endless. The recent emergence of Ozempic and similar drugs promises a no-strings-attached solution to achieving the body you've always wanted, but is this actually a new miracle drug or a bundle of hidden side effects?

Expect to learn the biggest impact Ozempic is having on people’s lives, why these drugs work so well, what it's like taking Ozempic, the potential long term side effects, whether Ozempic is different to weight loss drugs of years past, how these drugs interact with our modern diets, the potential problems for people with eating disorders and much more...

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(00:00) Johann’s Weight Loss (05:11) Is This Any Different to Previous Pills? (11:29) How Common Are Weight Loss Drugs? (15:10) Why Society Has Become More Obese (21:29) Taking Away the Pleasure of Good Food (30:19) Why Not Just Diet & Exercise? (38:05) Most People Are in an Unfair Fight (43:10) How the Drugs Impact Other Behaviours (47:17) Main Risks of Taking These Drugs (52:38) How Weight Loss Drugs Impact Muscle Mass (55:04) Our Appearance-Obsessed World (01:03:53) Johann’s Thoughts After Writing the Book (01:10:52) Where to Find Johann

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How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

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The Scary Future Of Robot Sex & Artificial Love - Roanne van Voorst - #782 May 11, 2024

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Roanne van Voorst is an anthropologist, researcher and an author.

Given that many people are already struggling to find partners in the modern world, what does the future of love have in store? Is it AI girlfriends, rentable cuddle partners and sex robots? Or a return to something more traditional?

Expect to learn what is happening with modern sexuality, what the future of sex work may look like, whether polyamory is going to become more popular, why so many young people aren’t having as much sex as they used to, what it's like to go to a sex doll brothel, what a better definition of love is, what it's like to be in a virtual relationship and much more...

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(00:00) Studying the Future of Human Sexuality (08:10) Roanne’s Research on Sex Dolls (14:57) Can Robots Convey Actual Connection? (21:09) The Love Pills Available on the Market (26:28) Are Love Pills the Same Effect as Alcohol? (30:40) The Experience of an Erotic Massage (35:56) The World of Virtual Relationships (41:48) Matching With a Partner Through DNA (47:14) Is Polyamory Actually Growing in Popularity? (53:31) Hanging Out With Asexual People (58:38) The Changing Definition of Love (01:00:46) Where to Find Roanne

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Episodes You Might Enjoy:

This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠

How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

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