Matthew and Paul

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Paul Goes to Prison, Part 8: Never Piss Off the Alpha Apr 04, 2022

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In the penultimate episode of Paul Goes to Prison, Paul describes his final week in the Bug Ward. He reflects on the friendships he made, the lessons learned, and the necessity of forgiveness. Paul also describes a frightening altercation between he and one of his closest companions on day 99 of 100 days in prison. On the extended episode Paul talks about New Year’s Eve in prison, and the inmate who wanted more than just a friendship. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/64673693/

Coming Out vs Being Outed (Revisited) Mar 28, 2022

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In light of Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” bill, Matthew and Paul revisit a previous episode in which they discuss the pivotal difference between coming out and being outed by someone else. While this portion of the controversial bill has since been removed (in which teacher’s would have been required to out gay students to their parents) Matthew and Paul felt it was important to discuss the emotional trauma such an action could have had on queer students. On the extended episode, Matthew describes his own experience of being outed while on an international trip to New Zealand. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/64358153 Pre-order Paul’s LGBTQ children’s book here: https://paulcastlestudio.com/products/the-pengrooms-childrens-book

Paul Goes to Prison, Part 7: Naked and Afraid Mar 21, 2022

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In Part 7 of Paul’s true prison saga, Paul describes what life was like in solitary confinement. From his interactions with other inmates in the solitary wing, to meeting with the prison psychiatrist, Paul explains how a decision was made about his placement in the general population. Would he return to his friends in the Bug Ward, or be forced to face the violent criminals of Juliet? To see the infamous “baby doll” garment Paul wore in solitary, join the His and His family on Patreon: Patreon.com/hisandhis

Dispatches From Social Media: Love Always Wins Mar 14, 2022

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Matthew and Paul revisit a few of their favorite posts from social media. Matthew reflects on his first date with Paul and how their creative bond laid the foundation for their entire relationship. Paul opens up about witnessing online hate speech and suggests we stop “scrolling on” and pause to spread a little Love instead of Hate. On the extended episode Paul surprises Matthew with his favorite social media post so far this year. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/63770348

Life Update: Dads, Daddies, and The Duggars Mar 07, 2022

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Matthew and Paul are speaking off the cuff and from the heart in this special “life update” episode of His and His. Matthew discusses the challenges and surprising relationship benefits of being temporarily disabled with an injured back, while Paul opens up about having his Dad in town to celebrate his brother’s birthday just 6 weeks after his tragic death. As their conversations continues, Matthew describes his feelings about returning to the stage to perform his violin this Spring, while Paul confesses that he experiences stage fright every time Matthew performs—even though he’s usually just sitting in the audience! Finally, Matthew shares a letter from a fellow cult survivor and explains how it feels to know his story has reached—and possibly helped—other survivors of religious trauma. Listen to the full 40-minute conversation here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/63472012

Paul Goes to Prison, Part 6: Wicked Witch of the Ward Feb 28, 2022

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Paul explains the difficult decision to plead guilty to the crime for which he was arrested, and how instead of being released from prison he quickly found himself in solitary confinement. Paul describes the series of events which led to that unexpected outcome, and how one correctional officer (“the true villain of my story”) set out to destroy him. On the extended episode, Paul describes the history of his relationship with Officer Curtis and why “she showed no signs of having a human heart”. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/63145587

Paul Goes to Prison, Part 5: Life in The Bug Ward Feb 21, 2022

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Paul describes how it felt to earn the trust of the two prison Alphas, Seven and The Colonel, and how his role in the Bug Ward began to change. Then Paul explains how his best friend, Spud, helped him rediscover a passion for art, and how his custom illustrations were traded for items on the prison Canteen. Finally, Paul reflects on the arrival of two gay men who’s very presence shone a new and uncomfortable light on his sexuality, plus Paul reveals his prison nickname. On the extended episode Paul recounts three sexual encounters he had during his 100 days in prison. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/62839574

Do I Sound Gay? (Revisited) Feb 14, 2022

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What does it mean to “sound gay”? Matthew and Paul discuss the first time they heard a gay voice, and how they reacted to it. Matthew describes being drawn to outwardly gay personalities from a young age, while Paul reveals how being a child actor put an uncomfortable spotlight on his feminine voice. On Part 2, Matthew describes dating both masculine and feminine-sounding men, and Paul recounts a time he was rejected by a guy for sounding “too gay”. Listen to today's extended episode plus over 100 other extended episodes here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/62532787

Paul Goes to Prison, Part 4: Shanks and Showers Jan 31, 2022

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Paul describes his first encounter with The Colonel, a powerful inmate who plotted an attack on him in the shower. Paul instructs Matthew on how to make a traditional prison weapon (called a shank) and explains how a game of Trivial Pursuit may have saved his skin. Meanwhile, Paul reveals his decision to plead guilty or not guilty. Support His and HIs and get extended and bonus episodes here: Patreon.com/hisandhis

Paul Goes to Prison, Part 3: Canteen, Candy, and The Colonel Jan 24, 2022

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In Part 3 of his true story, Paul describes a typical day in a maximum security prison. Meanwhile, Paul recalls the struggle of deciding whether to plead guilty and be freed; or plead innocent and remain a prisoner until his case was heard. Finally, Paul discusses his introductions to the two “Alphas” on the cell block and their unique roles among the general population. On the extended episode, Paul educates Matthew on “prison candy” and the unexpected ways in which a miserable situation can actually be…fun! Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/61483198

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